What do women want?

[Eduard]

This doesn't just apply to Russian women, rather any women from any country. Generally a woman wants to be with a man she can look up to, a man she can respect. She wants him to be wiser, smarter, stronger (not just physically), handier and yes, generally women want their men to earn more money than they do. This last point can be somewhat controversial in today's modern society where women in many cases are earning great money. Yet they still subconsciously are not going to be satisfied if they make more money than their husband, such is a woman's nature. Here is a little quote from a Russian woman's profile:

Кого я хочу найти:
в первую очередь - умного. хочу, чтобы мужчина был "выше" меня по всем параметрам.
What kind of man would I like to find:
Most importantly he must be very smart, I want my man to be "higher" than me by all measures/parameters.

Although on average Russian women are not as spoiled and demanding as American women do not be diluding yourself thinking that a Russian woman would be happy living in a trailer on $25K a year.
Before you decide to start searching for a Russian woman make sure that you have sufficient income to support a family and a decent place to bring her to. This doesn't have to be your own house. Even if you are renting, make sure it's a nice apartment where she would feel happy to be.

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[Shostakovich]

The first thing to understand here is that male does not equate with the masculine nor does the female equate with the feminine.  In most it is mixed, with a man, on average, possessing 70% masculine traits, 15% feminine traits and 15% child like traits.  On the extreme there are males who are quite feminine, though I suppose that normally goes over into homosexuality.  The important thing to understand is not what women want as this is far too convoluted and mixed up.  The thing to understand is how feminine the women is that has attracted your notice and then to identify the traits that she possesses, whether they are feminine or masculine.


Carl Jung has a lot to say about all this.  The great thing about people like Carl is that they say in a sentence what others can not say in an entire book.  Masculine understanding becomes confused about the operation of the feminine because it projects itself into the feminine pole.  But the feminine does not work the same was as the masculine.  Old Carl says that men generally get all a-flutter concerning the feminine because they do not understand the Yin, the void -- the need to be filled.


Answer the question of "what women want" in this way and much becomes clear: the blackness seeking resolution in the light as a general model with much practical implications across the board.  The feminine as filled by penises, babies, ideas, money, experiences - the list goes on.  The identity is always shifting - practially expressed in women's fashion.  But this fills out only half the story as the external Yin of the feminine is balanced off by an internal Yang, or fullness, which in fact hooks the internal Yin of the male to the effect of securing protection and fulfillment on the external side.  This alludes to the Taoist symbol, alas, made into a cliche in modern times.


But the question of 'the weaker sex' can be examined from many points of view.  Many consider the active power of men to constitute the primary strength but what is this strength put in service of.  It is the feminine power to constellate the masculine into activity and all through a glance or the batting of eyelids.  It is the reason that, in the East, the rim and spokes of the wheel are considered to be masculine, but the center is considered to be feminine.

[Bee Farmer]

I thought what women wanted to get, was to get their own way...


What attributes do women want when looking for someone online?

[Muzh]

This doesn't just apply to Russian women, rather any women from any country. Generally a woman wants to be with a man she can look up to, a man she can respect. She wants him to be wiser, smarter, stronger (not just physically), handier and yes, generally women want their men to earn more money than they do. This last point can be somewhat controversial in today's modern society where women in many cases are earning great money. Yet they still subconsciously are not going to be satisfied if they make more money than their husband, such is a woman's nature. Here is a little quote from a Russian woman's profile:

Кого я хочу найти:
в первую очередь - умного. хочу, чтобы мужчина был "выше" меня по всем параметрам.
What kind of man would I like to find:
Most importantly he must be very smart, I want my man to be "higher" than me by all measures/parameters.

Although on average Russian women are not as spoiled and demanding as American women do not be diluding yourself thinking that a Russian woman would be happy living in a trailer on $25K a year.
Before you decide to start searching for a Russian woman make sure that you have sufficient income to support a family and a decent place to bring her to. This doesn't have to be your own house. Even if you are renting, make sure it's a nice apartment where she would feel happy to be.

Yea, yea, yea

As of last week my wife is making about $30K/year more than I do and in about a year or so, when I retire the gap will increase.

The first thing she asked me when she got her first check was for the color of the Porsche Boxter I want. 

If any of you end up with a woman who feels appalled she makes more money than you...,



Wait a minute. This has nothing to do with how a woman feels.

This is about men's insecurity she will be very independent from him.

Okay, never mind.

I want a hibiscus red. 

[Misha]

[size=78%]If any of you end up with a woman who feels appalled she makes more money than you...,[/size]

I have a Russian friend who is a dentist and her husband now stays at home. She probably makes several hundred thousand a year more than he does 

[Eduard]

Would you say it's the rule or the exception?

[Misha]

Would you say it's the rule or the exception?

Are there any rules? I heard some stories about another Russian woman that I knew who left her Russian husband in Canada for a fellow she met in the Caribbean. Last I heard, she had gotten divorced and was trying to sponsor her new husband. Clearly, if she succeeded, she would have been making a lot more than him...

[Muzh]

Geez

My mechanic who happens to be my son's godfather and from Ukrainian origins had a really bad year (2010) as it happened to many small businesses and was about to lose everything.

Well, his American wife who made quite a lot more than him would not have anymore of it. The ingrate and self-serving woman took over his bills and kept his business afloat until thing would get better.

Imagine that. A vicious and nasty American woman standing by her man, even when she was raking in the dough.

BTW, anyone close by who owns a German car (Audi, Porsche, MB, BMW, VW) and needs some work, shoot me a PM and I'll set him up for you. Best in the Northeast.

[Daveman]

Geez

My mechanic who happens to be my son's godfather and from Ukrainian origins had a really bad year (2010) as it happened to many small businesses and was about to lose everything.

Well, his American wife who made quite a lot more than him would not have anymore of it. The ingrate and self-serving woman took over his bills and kept his business afloat until thing would get better.

Imagine that. A vicious and nasty American woman standing by her man, even when she was raking in the dough.

I'm imagining that... hmmmm... yep... seems like a normal, healthy family support system to me... 


The question becomes though.. what if she didn't have money?  Would she 'stand by her man' in that case when the chips were really down for the family?  There are those who would pull together, those who would jump ship, and probably those falling somewhere in between. 

[Faux Pas]

Geez

My mechanic who happens to be my son's godfather and from Ukrainian origins had a really bad year (2010) as it happened to many small businesses and was about to lose everything.

Well, his American wife who made quite a lot more than him would not have anymore of it. The ingrate and self-serving woman took over his bills and kept his business afloat until thing would get better.

Imagine that. A vicious and nasty American woman standing by her man, even when she was raking in the dough.

BTW, anyone close by who owns a German car (Audi, Porsche, MB, BMW, VW) and needs some work, shoot me a PM and I'll set him up for you. Best in the Northeast.

I am appalled  She must have FSU ancestry? Otherwise why would a Ukrainian man marry a fat feminist, left handed lesbian, gold digging alcoholic drug abusing bloodsucker?

[I/O]

I am appalled  She must have FSU ancestry? Otherwise why would a Ukrainian man marry a fat feminist, left handed lesbian, gold digging alcoholic drug abusing bloodsucker?

Discrimination....!!!!! All the lefthanders will now be spending their retirement savings on counseling.

[Faux Pas]

Discrimination....!!!!! All the lefthanders will now be spending their retirement savings on counseling.

Until of course a left-handed gene has been isolated 

[I/O]

Until of course a left-handed gene has been isolated 

And shot..........but only in America of course.

[GQBlues]

I am appalled  She must have FSU ancestry? Otherwise why would a Ukrainian man marry a fat feminist, left handed lesbian, gold digging alcoholic drug abusing bloodsucker?

...and with 4 kids from 2 different men?
 
They must've met and spoke on Skype for a couple of weeks and 'fell-in-love'!

[Eduard]

Are there any rules?

OK, I'll rephrase for you: what's more common?

[Muzh]

I'm imagining that... hmmmm... yep... seems like a normal, healthy family support system to me... 


The question becomes though.. what if she didn't have money?  Would she 'stand by her man' in that case when the chips were really down for the family?  There are those who would pull together, those who would jump ship, and probably those falling somewhere in between.

Dave, very valid question.

In this case I would bet my money they would have tough it out together. I know both well.

I wish this would be the norm.

[Muzh]

I am appalled  She must have FSU ancestry? Otherwise why would a Ukrainian man marry a fat feminist, left handed lesbian, gold digging alcoholic drug abusing bloodsucker?

Ahem, ambidextrous.