Rings

[Christopher]

Well I started off with an ambiguos subject to grab peoples attention.  I have some questions about FSU women and their wearing of rings.  What hand does a married woman wear her wedding ring on?  I notice a lot of pictures of FSU woman wearing a ring on both hands when they are divorced.  Is it normal for a divorced woman to wear her wedding ring still on the proper finger after she is divorced?  If she as an American woman I would stear clear but what I am wondering if there is a cultural reason for this?  Is this a taboo topic to bring up with them?  Any of the wifes out there willing to shed some advice on the subject?

[catzenmouse]

In Russia the wedding ring is worn on the ring finger of the right hand. I know some people here who follow the American tradition of wearing it on the left hand. We chose to follow the Russian tradition and wear them on our right hands.

 Don't know about the other stuff. Sounds like individual choice to me.

Ken

[BC]

We wear our wedding bands right.  ???

[PeeWee]

Well I started off with an ambiguos subject to grab peoples attention.  I have some questions about FSU women and their wearing of rings.  What hand does a married woman wear her wedding ring on?  I notice a lot of pictures of FSU woman wearing a ring on both hands when they are divorced.  Is it normal for a divorced woman to wear her wedding ring still on the proper finger after she is divorced?  If she as an American woman I would stear clear but what I am wondering if there is a cultural reason for this?  Is this a taboo topic to bring up with them?  Any of the wifes out there willing to shed some advice on the subject?

Christopher, women are women. Any excuse to add yet another sparking ornament to their body is in order. Remember, women are attention whores. The more things they can figure out in order to attract attentiont themselves they will figure it out. I woud venture to say that more women have tats than men do. Always wearing earings. Many rings including rings on their toes. Make up, hair color...the list goes on.

The second think that I was thinking was that many divorced and single women do not want it known that this is their status in life. They will wear the ring to either ward off an unwanted advace from a male, or female, or to not have to suffer the shame of not having a man.

Peewee

[Charles]

My wife busted me a month ago because I was wearing my ring in the Russian fashion.   Since we live in America, she wants to make sure we tell Americans our status, and not create confusion.  Our priest at the Russian Orthodox Church wears his rings in the American fashion, but changes when he goes to Russia.

[PeeWee]

My wife busted me a month ago because I was wearing my ring in the Russian fashion.   Since we live in America, she wants to make sure we tell Americans our status, and not create confusion.  Our priest at the Russian Orthodox Church wears his rings in the American fashion, but changes when he goes to Russia.

I agree with your wife. If you were an American living in Tokyo would you continue to drive on the right because that is what they do in America? No, you would drive on the left because that is what they do in Tokyo and that is where you are living at the moment. Listen to your wife.

Peewee

[catzenmouse]

 Quite the analogy there. One could kill you compared to the other which is how a couple makes a choice as to which custom they honor with where they wear their rings.

 We like to wear our rings on the right hand so I guess if we drive internationally we'll both get killed.

 Yeah, okay...

[viking]

Pee Wee

I would think that what works for Ken, well, works for Ken (and his bride).
If you go to the South Pacific would you wear your ring in your nose?
If you wife came from the dicky dicky tribe in some remote country and it was customary to wear the ring in your, (you get the picture?), I think I know what your answer would be. No way Jose!
Does all this really make a difference? They are happy.
Greg

[Jet]

We chose to follow the Russian tradition and wear them on our right hands.

Us too, I liked the idea.

[Jumper]

christopher-
In the FSU the wedding band is worn on the right hand.
also engagement rings are not a tradition (but will likely become one)

anything on the left is simply adornment?

If its agency photos , you would hope they wernt taking shots of married women,,LOL  but yea a ring on the right seems odd in that circumstance.

My wife and I, wear the rings on the right hand.
we were married in Ukraine, in a traditional way,
and it just seems right..
my wife is fairly traditional in those type of things,
and yes her family as well.To officially ask for her hand in marriage from them ,
was a very big deal.... doing certain very traditional things during the ceremony was important as well.. things of this nature.

 

[PeeWee]

christopher-
In the FSU the wedding band is worn on the right hand.
also engagement rings are not a tradition (but will likely become one)

anything on the left is simply adornment?

If its agency photos , you would hope they wernt taking shots of married women,,LOL  but yea a ring on the right seems odd in that circumstance.

My wife and I, wear the rings on the right hand.
we were married in Ukraine, in a traditional way,
and it just seems right..
my wife is fairly traditional in those type of things,
and yes her family as well.To officially ask for her hand in marriage from them ,
was a very big deal.... doing certain very traditional things during the ceremony was important as well.. things of this nature.

 

I happened to think that I do not nor have I ever worn jewelry including a watch. Just not my style. When I was married my wife did not want me to wear a wedding ring. Perhaps she was hoping that some lady would notice me and take me off of her hands? Got me. Since I don't wear jewelry I suspect that even if I did marry a RW, or any woman for that matter, that I would hold to my tradition of wearing no jewelry (ring). Man, I had not thought about that for years.

Peewee

[Jumper]

peewee-
i dont wear jewelry either,not even a watch.

My wife wouldnt care ,if i did not wear mine,
 obviuosly on the right hand it doesnt answer any "is he single? " thoughts by other women anyway ? lol
but as a strange side note: she often wants to buy me  a nicer one..
i wont let her,,  and she wonders why i dont want one. (mine is a plain band )

 i also never used to care either way ...if it was on or off..
depended on if i was working, or if we were going out to dinner for example.

However it  has *become* special to me though!
as corny as it sounds,,,
because of not only what it represents,
but the fact we bought it on one of our trips together and it reminds me of some great moments and memories..
it sounds absurd ,but it feels all  *wrong* if i dont wear it now, like i forgot one shoe or something.. it would definantly bother me if it was not there.

maybe i just watched "Lord of the Rings" one to many times!
 

[jb]

Back when I was a workin' stiff, I hardly ever wore my ring or watch on the job.  I wore it in the office, but never in the field.  If you work around high voltage, you learn that gold is a very good conductor and an accidental contact will just ruin your whole day.

My wife understood this was a safety issue and never said a word about it, but going out in the evening or on weekends, she always made sure I was "Properly Dressed".

[PeeWee]

Back when I was a workin' stiff, I hardly ever wore my ring or watch on the job.  I wore it in the office, but never in the field.  If you work around high voltage, you learn that gold is a very good conductor and an accidental contact will just ruin your whole day.

My wife understood this was a safety issue and never said a word about it, but going out in the evening or on weekends, she always made sure I was "Properly Dressed".

When I was a lad, jb, I spent 6 years in the Air Force. I recall that in one of our first days of training one of the instructors told us that we had to either remove our rings or duct tape them to our fingers. I will never forget his graphic decription, "One day I jumped from the cockpit (jet fighter). My entire body was going down but my wedding ring caught on the edge of the of the canopy." He didn't finish his story. That impressed me. During my next 6 years in the Air Force then 10 years with the airline I maybe wore a ring once. That was on my wedding day to my beautiful, yet arrogant, wife. I still have the ring. In a box but I know precisely where it is.

When I wrote my first novel and had finished it an author friend of mine sent me a nice looking, showy, diamond ring and an expensive pen set (and a box of Cubanas). The ring was probably zercon. I thanked her and asked her why. "When  you do your book signings you will want to wear the ring and use those pens. They will draw attention to you. People will notice it and remember you by it." (There you see...the master telling the student about how to draw attention to ones self.) I did wear the ring then, but for show...and all of the time I had the thought in my head that I should duct tape that ring to my finger. I alos have a friend who is a hypnotist, night club variety. He says the same about his huge diamond ring. It is so large on his finger yet it does the job of drawing to him the attention that he needs from those folks whom he is soon to turn into fools.

Peewee 

[BC]

Having welded my metal band watch to my wrist working near the battery of my car I can relate..

Yeah I learned my lesson and now take proper precautions when working near and around machinery..

[Dar]

Usually it's right hand. But want to tell more abt rings and how its wearing women in Russia/Ukraine. Especially if women follows fashion she can wear a lot of rings,they can look like engaged or wedding, u never guess which one is. Sometimes they even dont wear rings(not every day). It's not bcs they dont appreciate "the meaning" of those rings. My fiance was surprised when I tolld him abt this aspect of culture. Mans do it as well here.

[Michelangelo]

Correct--the ring is worn on the right hand in Eastern Europe. So when I go to Ukraine, I move the ring on my right ring finger to the left.

Several Air Force friends of mine in Europe have been tamed by their wifes  who take action to get the foreign girls off them--they are told to wear wedding rings on BOTH hands :-)

[RedHairedGirl]

I think it doesn't matter how do you prefer to wear your rings. You can wear them  as you feel comfortable. And it is not necessary to follow the tradition of the country where you live.
Just think about this fact, I saw a lot of people from India in their national saris and people from Arabic countries with their national clothes on them (that looks kind of strange to me). They live in the USA, but they don't follow the American fashion style. They wear the clothes as they are comfortable with.
  As for me I wear my ring by Russian tradition and think that nothing is wrong with it.
   Red Haired Girl