Filters, sorting, sifting and distilling

[ML]

Big Bill, as you know, I did the WMVM method on several trips to FSU where I was  going anyway for business meetings.  I was always there for a month or more at a time.  Business in mornings; women in afternoon and evenings.

I usually used 5 or more dating websites that were either free or monthly cost for unlimited usage.  The lists are in my topic in the Starting Out section here.
http://www.russianwomendiscussion.com/index.php?topic=14615.0

I started with massive contact on the websites with several hundred women, maybe even close to a thousand for each visit, all living in the one large city (or nearby) that I was traveling to.

I didn't even look at pictures, instead using the search engine on each site to filter those that were within my target age range, met the minimum height and maximum weight category, had some English ability, had at least first college degree, were non-smokers and not heavy drinkers, and had from zero to two children.

Then I simply followed the procedures laid out in my posting referenced above which narrowed the women down to 20-30.

Only when I was down to deciding who to fit into the various days did I look at pictures and what they had written in their profiles.  This got me down to the 12 to 18 that I would meet.

On each trip, I had first dates (full afternoon and evening, not just for tea) with 12 to 18 women.  In some cases where there was absolutely no chemistry, the first date only lasted through the meal, and I was usually able to arrange a second, or third date on short notice with a previously met woman.

During the email exchanges and first dates (and later dates), you just filter out the women whom you don't click with for dozens of reasons.

Some really fine women out there in FSU.

If I were like most of the guys here, I would have married probably a dozen or more of them after the time I spent with them on the trips.

That I didn't was probably because I didn't really feel the 'wife vacancy' and 'lack of children' that many guys feel.  I had already had a long and successful marriage that produced (now adult) children.

My 'search' produced hundreds of very pleasant memories of the times I spent with over a hundred good quality FSU women.  Only a tiny few horror moments.

[2tallbill]

Led me to believe it might be some kind of vodka......

Hey TFC what sort of sifting and sorting did you do? What made you write to one
girl and not another? what would cause you to dump a girl on the spot? I know
it's been a zillion years but I'll bet you remember.

[zooble]

If it's dating sites then it's pretty linear if you ask me

My bet is that most people will filter by these core aspects to thin out the search results:
Has a photo ( as opposed to profiles without photos )
Age ( to weed out those too young or too old)
Country ( to filter Ukraine, Russia and any other acceptable FSU country)
Wants to have children or not ( to match their own desires )
Presently has children ( willing to put up with baggage or not )
Ethnicity interested in (e.g. if you are non-white and she only wants white )

Other important aspects include:
Religion ( 1 less thing to argue over but chances are she will be Orthodox if anything )
Weight ( make sure she's not fat )
Height
Last active ( typically not more than 1 month )
Smoker
English skills

After that then you simply 'heart/wish list' girls that look hot enough for your standards. Then write to those. Keep writing/conversing until they fizzle out or you meet. After you meet determine if she is 'the one', need more time together or as most people (everyone not just fsu searchers) seem to feel ... 'good enough'  Other option is back to square one.

If you've exhausted the search results then you are probably expanding the results such as increasing age by a year or 2 etc

-  One wanted to move to Europe plus she was becoming more and more interested in women (she was fun, however, and delivered her promise to show me a good time in Kiev).

That sounds kinky, is there a trip report? 

[Jumper]

I have said this before but it seems no one has ever picked up on it. I reversed this meeting and greeting system. I just put up my picture and my profile on several sites so I assume that most who wrote me first were already at least a little interested in me. No scammers. And I took the time to at least reply to all. Not hundreds I assure you 

Overall I wasn't that serious about searching,been around the block and world a few times , there are single people anywhere. I feel if you
are open , active, semi outgoing, and personable you are going to meet people all the time. Traveling anywhere generally enhances that of course, whether traveling to the grocery store or the other side of the world.

I threw up a profile on several websites both locally and internationally
(and some reputable ,and not so reputable)

I did not initiate any letters , I replied to those contacting me.
Sure I had basic  criteria in whom I would reply to , but I generally replied to all and just saw where it lead. I already knew most would not be compatible, legitimate, or we simply would not have  any spark between us, and that's just in long distance contacts. In person that ratio is similar so its a long shot and should be treated mentally as such.

 I felt that sooner or later one would stand out, that I just had to visit
and would act quickly about visiting once I felt that way.
If no one stood out,or contacted me,  that was perfectly ok as well.

I think that's a fine method if you are confident in life and relationships,
and don't have any timeline or preset ideas.If using it simply as a means of expanding your local dating or meeting people thru regular life.

It's a poor method if you have any kind of timeline , concerns for meeting someone in any foreseeable future, or relying on it as a sole source to fill a relationship aspect in your life.

If you have made a concious decision  to meet a foreign woman , then my advise would be to write /contact as many as you can locally and abroad. I'd advise concentrating locally at first if possible, as even casually dating someone already in your country from that culture will help you learn if its something you should pursue.