visa for new wife and her two sons?

[Ade]

Are you saying she had a sudden epiphany?
Where did you see that? We've been communicating
A lot over the last 2 and a half years. Your
..view is murky.

As far as murky views go, I think I'm a lot more objective about your situation than you are, at least as far as events have been described on this forum for the past 10 years or so.


It's fairly obvious to most that you're heading down this road no matter what so, good luck with that. I'll will be happy if I never have to say, "I told you so" but I somehow doubt you're that lucky.

[jone]

PG -

I have an unclear picture here, too.  But I know from past experience that it is impossible to relive the past.  Even with the best of intentions, a woman will always remember the reasons for not having it work the first time.  Men go backwards.  It is not in the make-up of a woman to go backwards unless she has no where else to go.

I rejoice in your love.  But I have had many opportunities to hook up with old GFs.  Never did because I knew that some day the things that drove us apart originally would resurface and sink us. 

Having said my piece, good luck.  And my wishes of good luck are very heartfelt.

[Gator]

This post is done in the spirit of asking the difficult questions, and hopefully is not construed as "piling on."

She knows I'd be a good dajka for her sons...

Important yet not enough "glue" for a lasting relationship.  There must be more.  She must feel happy.  Feeling grateful is good but no guarantee of happiness.   

Ask yourself, is she happy, truly happy, or just grateful. 

Few situations are more absurd than watching a grown man do everything possible trying to make a woman happy.  She is responsible for her own happiness.  It is a litmus test.  Immerse a woman in your life and see if she is blue (happy) or red (unhappy).  You did that for three months, and she left.  That says "red."   

[BillyB]

I think she's very sweet, spiritual, emotional, and a good match for me. She knows I'd be a good dajka for her sons...

You left out one important ingredient to make a successful marriage with a woman with kids. Are you a good match for her? Earlier this thread I've read that you loved her before she got married. In the 9 years you've known each other, it seems she chose to look elsewhere for a man. Now there's war and she and kids are in danger. If you want to save their lives, I commend you but don't take advantage of this situation for selfish reasons. Ask yourself if she'd be your wife right now if there wasn't a war going on in Ukraine.

[Wayne]

The (2) K-2's are listed on the same form as the K-1.
 
You must have been together in person within the last two years. You need proof of that.
 
You need to write a detailed letter explaining your relationship history.
 
You need to earn enough money to support a family of 4.
 
I don't know what the US Embasy in Kyiv requires now, but in the past they required the non-custodial parent to appear in person at the embassy and give permission for the child to emmigrate. If the parent has died, you need the death certificate.
 
 

[Photo Guy]

Thx. Yeah. Knew most of that. Wasn't sure if
K2 required an additional k2 form/petition.

[Muzh]

Are you saying she had a sudden epiphany?
Where did you see that? We've been communicating
A lot over the last 2 and a half years. Your
..view is murky.

LMAO


If anyone has murky views, that would be you.


Seating here on the bleachers I'd say you are 100% infatuated.


IOW, you are not seeing things properly.


I also agree with Ade there is a possibility she is using you to get her family, including her hubby, out of that mess.


Put everything you own in a trust if you have to marry this lady.

[Wayne]

After they come to USA,you get married, and then apply for green cards, you will need to fill out one form for each person and pay something like $3000-4000 in fees. There are also all the medical tests that go with the application and that expense. They will go for biometrics, with more fees. Then to the local USCIS office again for an interview. Adjustment of status takes about 4 or 5 months.
 
You can probably find a place where the kids can get there shots for free, but you will pay something like $500-$1500 for your future wife's shots. Also, you can figure on dental work.

[Photo Guy]

I've known her way before the war. Who can you trust? Strangers telling me who to trust or to not trust is absurd.

[Photo Guy]

You left out one important ingredient to make a successful marriage with a woman with kids. Are you a good match for her? Earlier this thread I've read that you loved her before she got married. In the 9 years you've known each other, it seems she chose to look elsewhere for a man. Now there's war and she and kids are in danger. If you want to save their lives, I commend you but don't take advantage of this situation for selfish reasons. Ask yourself if she'd be your wife right now if there wasn't a war going on in Ukraine.

some facts:
we started to communicate a lot again, about two years BEFORE the war. Yeah, when she was 29 she made the decision to take care of her Papa when he said come home or else. She felt obligated to take care of him. ...I'm sick of defending our relationship. Yeah, I do think she would get back together with me. Yes.

[AC]

some facts:
we started to communicate a lot again, about two years BEFORE the war. Yeah, when she was 29 she made the decision to take care of her Papa when he said come home or else. She felt obligated to take care of him. ...I'm sick of defending our relationship. Yeah, I do think she would get back together with me. Yes.

Photoguy, the only persons whose decision matters in this relationship is your own and the ladies.  I wish you the best of luck.  I also don't think it's a good idea for you to keep discussing anything here.

[BillyB]

...I'm sick of defending our relationship.

Many years ago you got criticized for this relationship. There's not many people who's endured a beating as bad as the one you received. Some of us actually care and wish your lady fought for the relationship more than she's shown. Most people desire to be loved. I sincerely hope you get some when you're married to her.

Photoguy, the only persons whose decision matters in this relationship is your own and the ladies.

Photoguy is in a polygamous relationship?