Dragonkid's Theories of Life

[BillyB]

Unconditional love doesn't mean you wouldn't leave someone if they treated you bad.  Leaving that person doesn't mean you stop loving them either.

Unconditional love means loving without conditions. People are changing the definition though. The amount of love I give to a woman depends on the conditions of how well she treats me.

[msmobyone]

No offence, but you describing love as just sexual gratification on one side, and looking after a dog is what i gathered about you  It is fine, but for a lot of people, we want a lot more than that.

My views on marriage is unconditional love, rather just rent, in other words date, i wouldn't do pay for sex ever. Even sex is something i let go of, it is more pleasuring the other person, that is my pleasure from sex. For me i want to feel the warmth of another woman, best sex i ever had was actually being in love with a girl, and her loving me back. A lot of guys sacrifice that for arm candy, they will feel the physical pleasure, the admiration from others, but not the warmth.

DK entertains / 'insults' - again

The more he writes, the more I wonder at the folly of his viewpoints - let alone the fact that they aren't consistent...

'Starting out' - as opposed to experienced ..indeed this IS where his posts belong ...just wish he'd do a lot more listening than advising about stuff.

I just hope most readers seeking advice in this endeavour do not take him seriously.


Its is time to stop excusing his howlers on the basis of 'youth' ... I have a daughter his age - the comparison in maturity is somewhat shocking.

[Boethius]

I could've written almost the exact same post, but for the last sentence. So where's the lack of maturity?

[dragonkid]

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Regarding maturity, yes i fell in the trap of just going for the prettiest girl after my ex, rather than actually picking up the phone and talking to the women. After that i didn't go for the person who liked me the most, or the prettiest girl, but the one who made me laugh the most, and who i would enjoy talking to. Hopefully , unlike a certain someone who is a prime example of being used up after he took a financial hit, and now is bitter, i will avoid all of their mistakes.

[Boethius]

'Starting out' - as opposed to experienced ..indeed this IS where his posts belong ...just wish he'd do a lot more listening than advising about stuff.

This thread was split off from another thread.  I don't think it is in the wrong place.

[Jumper]

My views on marriage is unconditional love, rather just rent, in other words date, i wouldn't do pay for sex ever. Even sex is something i let go of, it is more pleasuring the other person, that is my pleasure from sex. For me i want to feel the warmth of another woman, best sex i ever had was actually being in love with a girl, and her loving me back. A lot of guys sacrifice that for arm candy, they will feel the physical pleasure, the admiration from others, but not the warmth.

 If you feel women don't have the same concerns, then you are dating fairly young or immature women.
 
What strikes me here is you seem a tad overly concerned about that aspect of a *possible* relationship in some unknown future.

You seem to be trying to find yourself thru musings here, and that's fine, but why you'll get conflicting views and advice.
 
 If you are looking for generalities of any given  culture,
then few of the bad aspects you dwell on are some cultural norm.
 By very nature, if its perceived generally as a bad  trait,
it would be unlikely to become a normal thing for a majority of a populace?
  If you chase high end Moscow elite, or women who exclusively date
(or wish to date) new Russians or wealthy foreigners , of course you'll see more of this trait.Perhaps even in the MOB arena.. but that wouldn't make it a cultural norm.
Can Russiasn women or western women be materialistic and it become a big part of whom they marry?
 Sure! but in either culture , while well known, its not the cultural norm, or who you'd meet on average.

The average RW , dates or marries  the average RM
, so it's much todo about nothing.
You're young, decent income and stability, yet have more concerns than I've ever had! lol I'm older and stability isn't my forte nor would i likely enjoy it. Women interested in me for the wrong reasons just isn't some big concern, never has been.
There's a Russian expression-
There's hat for every head.

If you live there, you'll have undue attention from the perception your wealthier than the average Yuri, but as you've found out , you'll also have attention just from being different, language and culture, its a natural phenomenon.
Aussie guys here stateside, kill it socially with the ladies regardless if they are a businessman , walmart stock boy  or construction worker.
  You can certainly sort out with a little time who's into you, for who you are.
 
 

[Noch1]

Based on DR's direction, a little all over the place.
He won't find what he's looking for anywhere yet.
He changes fairly quickly, which is normal when young.
But that means the perfect girl today, will not suit him within a short time.
Maybe immature but when young thats not unusual and with time likely change.
Makes him giving advice funny, really to who an 18 year old

Go date, live, learn have fun, grow up a little and it will come in time.
Likely with much better results.