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MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« on: November 11, 2020, 08:57:48 PM »
So this is a thought that has been on my mind of recent over whether people are genuinely more happier marrying one partner (the traditional convention) or just living their life dating many in mostly long term relationships?

Children being potentially present in either of course with perhaps even the long term relationship route with both partners hanging around till the kids hit 16 or soon thereafter. I guess many long term relationships offer more variety of closeness to different partners where I think marriage has the risk of gets stake and stayed, some of course preferring stability over the excitement of stuff changing and new pastures and experiences to explore. And yet society perhaps still doesn't have much in terms of established conventions for a lifestyle of people having many long term relationships. Still It is difficult to find people in society extolling the idea of having long term relationships, perhaps many as an ambition over marriage. It probably still tends to be the case that long term relationships are something people fall into rather than plan that much though I suspect that many varied long term relationships may hold a rich lifestyle for many people.

One development of the long term relationship route could of be the idea of dating other women while the other half accepting the long term relationship is in a holding pattern without getting upset over the issue but instead perhaps having short term relationships alongside themselves.
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Re: MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #1 on: November 11, 2020, 11:04:51 PM »


Wherever you're at, it's the place to be. When single I was happy dating many women and if nothing led to marriage, I'd be happy dating many women for the rest of my life. Now I'm in a marriage, I'm happy here.
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Re: MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #2 on: November 11, 2020, 11:58:28 PM »
Trench,

Your thoughts might carry more weight if you had worn the t- shirt.

This is just another example of why you need to stop theorising on here and (when possible) engage in some sort of interaction with ladies who could put you straight.

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Re: MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #3 on: November 12, 2020, 01:23:47 AM »
To the OP.

In the western, and indeed much of the developed or developing world, the two mainstream religions are Christian and Muslim. Both of these promote marriage as being the primary family structure for the safety and security of upbringing children.

I well understand those noble ideals are often bent or twisted to suit a particular cause or desire but by and large they are constant.

Until that changes, I don't think the date (read, mess around with) many idea will gain much traction as a sustainable longer term approach.

As a single man both before and after my first marriage, there were many, but only one at a time. Somehow, I could never get comfortable with the idea of seeing more than one woman at a time.

Generally speaking I approached international dating the same way but that's not for everyone nor can everyone afford that approach....

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Re: MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #4 on: November 12, 2020, 07:29:05 AM »
Trench,

Your thoughts might carry more weight if you had worn the t- shirt.

This is just another example of why you need to stop theorising on here and (when possible) engage in some sort of interaction with ladies who could put you straight.

Mobe when you were younger you dated western women but when you you were older you dated FSW. I think that tells us all we need to know about how the dating world  had changed in the west and how it became a lot more harder in the west over time. So by the time it came to my age it was already very hard unless the guy had a lot going for him or unless he was just willing to accept anything which is rarely a good idea.
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Re: MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #5 on: November 12, 2020, 12:58:47 PM »
Mobe when you were younger you dated western women but when you you were older you dated FSW. I think that tells us all we need to know about how the dating world  had changed in the west and how it became a lot more harder in the west over time. So by the time it came to my age it was already very hard unless the guy had a lot going for him or unless he was just willing to accept anything which is rarely a good idea.

Trenchcoat,

FSUW are interested in Marriage and a family. If you want a f#ck buddy then
date locally. You will have to tell extensive lies to get FSUW to date you when
you aren't interested in marrying them. OR you will have to hire sex professionals
to have sex with you. This forum isn't the best place to ask advice about that.

There is no way for you to go to the FSU and have LTR's without the intention
of marriage and forget talking about kids. You said earlier that you are interested
in young FSUW because you want to have kids. Unless told otherwise, I will assume
you got that idea out of your head. Paupers shouldn't have kids if they can help it.
FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Just kiss the girl, don't ask her first. Tolerate NO excuses!

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MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #6 on: November 12, 2020, 01:17:57 PM »
engage in some sort of interaction with ladies who could put you straight.

He wants to skip vital and key steps or he wants to order off the menu without
paying for the meal.

He wants a hot, young FSUW to have sex with and I can empathize with that,
who wouldn't want to bang a young hottie? BUT, he doesn't want to marry
them or commit to them.

What he doesn't realize is that Older Russian men don't want to marry either.
So he is putting himself in the exact same position as 100% of the over 30
single Russian men. He wants a sugar baby, but he doesn't have any kopecks,
so now he wants to be a f#ck buddy.

100% of the hot woman over 30 years old can find a Russian man to lay on
their couch and f#ck them. Trench wants that job. The competition is far too
good for him to have a chance.

OR he can tell them lies and claim he is looking for a long term relationship
and marriage and get tossed out when they realize he isn't genuine. Either
way I don't think he will find much support here.

« Last Edit: November 12, 2020, 01:21:12 PM by 2tallbill »
FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Just kiss the girl, don't ask her first. Tolerate NO excuses!

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Re: MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #7 on: November 12, 2020, 02:02:03 PM »

What he doesn't realize is that Older Russian men don't want to marry either.
So he is putting himself in the exact same position as 100% of the over 30
single Russian men. He wants a sugar baby, but he doesn't have any kopecks,
so now he wants to be a f#ck buddy.

How do, is it because they can get lots of sex locally, skint or just undesirable?

I kind of forgot about the marriage thing FSW have lol. I guess I probably wrote it off as another thing the MOB industry perpetuates but the reality perhaps not quite being there.

Marriage as a UK guy isn't perfect as it can come with issues down the line. FSU men tend to have better long term protection in marriage. It's not something I am against and FSW tend to be brought up more with a better attitude to it and what it entails.

I guess my question probably suited a western situation more.
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Re: MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #8 on: November 13, 2020, 09:19:16 AM »
There is no 'MOB' industry to speak of, now, in the FSU

I was Trench's age when I began my experience with FSU folk..

Trench, while you generalise and complain about UK women, you will never 'get it'....

Most guys who are confident in the FSU are your opposition here in the UK

They understand what women want.

The secret is to ensure you never lose sight of what appealed to them about you..

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Re: MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #9 on: November 13, 2020, 04:13:14 PM »
How do [so?], is it because they can get lots of sex locally, skint or just undesirable?
Probably have the situation well in hand.
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Re: MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #10 on: November 13, 2020, 05:11:11 PM »
There is no 'MOB' industry to speak of, now, in the FSU

How has the situation changed from what it was previously?

Computer now as apposed to out of a catalogue. I can visualize you back in the day Mobers pouring over a catalogue and filling out your exacting requirements, then patiently waiting for your MOB to be posted to you ;D
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Re: MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #11 on: November 13, 2020, 07:31:41 PM »
GFC period was the big turning point.

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Re: MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #12 on: November 13, 2020, 09:00:36 PM »
GFC period was the big turning point.
I still get a trickle of notifications from visajourney regarding Ukrainian brides.
Does anyone else subscribe to them?

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Re: MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #13 on: November 14, 2020, 12:29:52 AM »
How has the situation changed from what it was previously?



Match.com, EM, AFA and some pay per correspondence sites you might know were around.

There were many agencies and I expect they had catalogues but I NEVER used an agency, tracing the lady directly.


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Re: MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #14 on: November 14, 2020, 10:21:43 AM »
GFC period was the big turning point.

I did a small amount of FSU dating online sites just before the financial crash. As soon as the financial crash happened a lot of talk on here in general dried up. Many western men became more concerned over being able to provide for themselves others became too skint.

I never visited a FSW during that period I only video chatted with one then ended up doing other stuff for a while that took me away from all of this. Should have really hung around as I had youth a bit more on my side back then, lol.
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Re: MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #15 on: November 14, 2020, 11:54:56 AM »
Many western men became more concerned over being able to provide for themselves others became too skint.
Perhaps so.

The worldwide economic leveling, or perception of leveling, removed much of the Wests attraction.

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Re: MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #16 on: November 14, 2020, 12:48:23 PM »
Trench,

You may STILL think the FSU is a poor place where you can rescue a poor lady..

The day before yesterday, SC was on the beach with friends and they were laughing and joking when heads peered over from the Restaurant above and a local 'Oligarch' invited her to join him for lunch with his bizniz colleagues..

Despite his persistence, she declined.



She recognised him as a chap who managed to extract millions for deposits for a high rise development in Sochi, earlier in the decade.Then his firm hit ' financial difficulties' and he bought an island off Cambodia.

Amazing he has the front to  show his face in Sochi..



Perhaps you can sell up your empire in Wales and make a killing by investing in his project in Moscow?


http://www.forbes.ru/biznes/403193-u-menya-ukrali-aktivov-na-45-mlrd-biznesmen-sergey-polonskiy-o-sudah-druzyah-i-vragah










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Re: MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #17 on: November 15, 2020, 02:16:43 PM »
Mods,

feel free to move the above two posts if you think it will ruin the flow of Trenches thread..

I was sl. irked at this oligarch 'oik' chatting up my wife after the initial 'no', but SC is well able to handle such unwanted attention..







This vid of of is Alexandr Lebedev (who owns the Independent and London Evening Standard and 49% of Novaya Gazeta with Gorby .. the RU newspaper that apologised for MH17 to the Dutch .)

Polonsky seems to have annoyed him, too ! ;)

Polonsky is married to Olga Deripasko who is seven years younger than SC ( SC is 3 years older than my fat boy 'love rival' Polonsky)

Boethius .. are you up on gos'?   Is Olga any relation to Oleg Deripasko ?

For sure, Sergey Polonsky thinks he can marry one and date many ;)

SC wanted to know if I was 'jalous'..  I responded that it should be a compliment to us both, if younger, rich guys are trying to hit on her ...

Now, Trench .. THAT is the attitude you need ;)


 

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MARRY ONE versus DATE MANY
« Reply #18 on: November 15, 2020, 02:26:24 PM »
Match.com, EM, AFA and some pay per correspondence sites you might know were around.

There were many agencies and I expect they had catalogues but I NEVER used an agency, tracing the lady directly.

Correct me if I am wrong, but didn't an excellent girl find you on Lucky Lovers
some many moons ago?

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FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Just kiss the girl, don't ask her first. Tolerate NO excuses!

 

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