Dealing with a RW's ex-boyfriend or ex-husband?

[prince_alfie]

Just wondering. I know that many RW/UW, etc. are divorced or have ex-boyfriends. What advice is needed to deal with ex-boyfriend or ex-husband? I assume the same risk is like dealing with ex-es here in the States but considering that I don't want to be knocked off by polonium-210 in the next few months, I would like some good pointers on this situation.

Also, just want to give a heads up on RW talking about the past in their lives. It's rather rare especially if they had some bad experiences. They seem to be forward looking especially if the future looks brighter to them.

Spasiba, guys.

[viking]

Hmmmm. Flak jacket and a Colt 45? Personal food taster? Sorry, but you did set yourself up on this one.

[William3rd]

WHY would you be dealing with the ex-whatevers at all? How would you be seeing and interacting with them? Overseas?  ??? This is usually a non-issue unless there is a child involved. In the several Russian/Ukrainian relationships that I had, most were divorced and most had children. I never heard anything about the ex husbands other than what I asked. Of the thousands of clients that I dealt with, only a handful had any interaction with ex whatevers (usually over permission letters for children) and only one had any real problem at all.

[viking]

Bill, sent you a pm

[Shadow]

Most Russians can not afford polonium. If your RW is the ex of one who can, chances are you can not afford her.
Take a self-defense course if you are really worried.

[jb]

Alfie,

I don't think you have anything to worry about.

[Gator]

If the woman has a minor child, before she can bring the child to the USA  she must have written permission from the father or sole custody of the child as awarded by a court of law.  If you need permission, let her handle it - no need to get involved other than possibly paying a bribe through her.

[prince_alfie]

If the woman has a minor child, before she can bring the child to the USA  she must have written permission from the father or sole custody of the child as awarded by a court of law.  If you need permission, let her handle it - no need to get involved other than possibly paying a bribe through her.

I presume the bribe would be for?

[Turboguy]

To the father of the child to compensate him for the terrible and heartbreaking loss of the closeness to the child that he never spent a minute with or gave a thought to.

[Gator]

T/G - Funny and often the case. 

Although we tend to classify all divorced Russian men as bad fathers, some fathers  are indeed interested  in the welfare of their child.  That father may wish to meet the future husband before giving permission (without a bribe) to determine if he will be a good step-father, to solicit support in keeping him informed of the child's progress, and to possibly ask for visitation.  Am I dreaming?

[ScottinCrimea]

     I was extremely lucky as my wife's first husband died in an "accident" about 4 years before I met her.  She doesn't like to discuss the past and I don't ply.  Like p_a said, most I know here don't like to talk about the past and particularly bad experiences.
     There aren't the child support laws here that you have in the US and as a result any child support or visitation is pretty much voluntary and for the most part non-existent.  Most of the men are in new relationships and their new wives/gf's don't like them having any contact with their former wives.

[SANDRO43]

I don't want to be knocked off by polonium-210 in the next few months

Is that the reason why you've been using a blank avatar for the past few weeks ? Camouflage ?