Is this a bad sign?

[phantom]

I got a second letter from a girl at a reputable dating agency, in the second letter from this girl to me, she mentions that " To tell the truth, I have thought about moving to another country.  My friends live in the usa and they like to live there." 
Could this be her motive?  Getting out of her country?  Then she says: " Besides, I think if you really love, then place dosn't matter.  So, I could go anywhere for my love and it will not be very difficult for me to leave my country." 
So, should I move on, or is this the norm, never got a letter like this. 

[Lily]

Yes it is a bad sign. And you are a candidate for her immigration vehicle.

The second quote supports this idea. Right, a place does not matter as soon as it is not the FSU. 

[Mir]

It depends how this was said.
If you had asked her the question: 'What do you think about moving to another country,ie USA?' then this will be a perfectly acceptable answer.
As what she has said is not a big deal. She knows you live in US, so what else can she say?
In such relationships it is assumed from the start that if it is a success the girl will leave FSU and move to the WMs country, so if she says:'I have thought about moving to another country/US, I think there is no chance of that'
I am sure no one will develop a relationship with her.
One has to be rational when questioning their motives.

[Rvrwind]

It is not totally a bad sign but if you want to test it, that is simple.
Tell her you are considering moving to & retiring in Russia. If she freaks out, you know she is more interested in getting out of the country than she is in being with you. If she doesn't have a problem with it then I would say her second statement

Then she says: " Besides, I think if you really love, then place dosn't matter.  So, I could go anywhere for my love and it will not be very difficult for me to leave my country."

would be more factual & you should continue.
Thats the test I put to all of them when I was dating & the only one who gave the right answer I married & to prove my point I moved to Russia & she is still with me so love does conquer all!!

[phantom]

Hey, that's what I'll do, I'll test her by saying that.  Thanks for all the replies to this one.

[BC]

It is not totally a bad sign but if you want to test it, that is simple.
Tell her you are considering moving to & retiring in Russia. If she freaks out, you know she is more interested in getting out of the country than she is in being with you.

Be careful of 'promises' though...

[Mir]

Rich

If a man from the West who has a good job tells a girl with whom he has exchanged a few emails that he is considering moving to Russia then the girl has every reason to freak out and assume that the man is either an absolute nutter or just trying to be clever (testing her)

[phantom]

Maybe I'll just play it out, see what happens.  Another part of the letter she said " She could study english, and have recall in (2-3) months, for better communication with me."
But all in all, that wanting to leave her country, is what got my attention, I'm new at this, so it got me wondering.  So, I'll just see where it goes from here.

[Rvrwind]

If a man from the West who has a good job tells a girl with whom he has exchanged a few emails that he is considering moving to Russia then the girl has every reason to freak out and assume that the man is either an absolute nutter or just trying to be clever (testing her)

I reckon that settes it...I'm a complete nutter!!!

[Wayne B]

I got a second letter from a girl at a reputable dating agency, in the second letter from this girl to me, she mentions that " To tell the truth, I have thought about moving to another country.  My friends live in the usa and they like to live there." 
Could this be her motive?  Getting out of her country?  Then she says: " Besides, I think if you really love, then place dosn't matter.  So, I could go anywhere for my love and it will not be very difficult for me to leave my country." 
So, should I move on, or is this the norm, never got a letter like this. 

     phantom, I would think that if a woman has decided if the 'right' man comes along.....she has thought about leaving her country to be with him so that they can start their new family together....I would think this to be a positive......and not to just be a way for her to 'exit' her country

[William3rd]

Too early to tell. She is speaking candidly, which is a good sign. If the relationship moves forward "normally," you two will correspond for a while, revealing your thoughts and feelings about everything. Later, you will decide to go meet her, and you two will discuss your upcoming visit. Or- you will decide not to meet and move on.

If there are sudden deaths or major illnesses of family members needing immediate cash from you, she suddenly gets a visa opportunity through a "friend" at the consulate, or she needs money to pay for the internet, then you can run away quickly.

[Simoni]

Tell her you are considering moving to & retiring in Russia.

Dangerous move.  She may want to hold you to it, and you'll be stuck in Russia    LOL

BTW-- Marina still wants us to move to the FSU....  Many girls do love their lifestyle there.

Richard:  How's your countdown to freedom coming?

[ScottinCrimea]

I think there's a big difference between her waying she's WILLING to live in another country and WANTING it. My read is that she expressed a willingness, which shouldn't be a red flag necessarily.

[phantom]

Okay, as I understand this is not a bad sign, I will continue our correspondence.  She does seem really nice and we have a few things in common, so I'll see how it goes with her and see if we decide to meet.

[Rvrwind]

 

Richard:  How's your countdown to freedom coming?

Don't know if I would call it that, just from one frying pan to another, LOL.

[DKMM]

Its not a bad sign at all.  If she was trying to jump ship and use you as a mule, she probably would approach it differently than this.  I read her comments as just letting you know she isn't wasting your time and is willing to move where you are.  I heard the exact same lines from my girl, although that was in response to me asking about it.

I told my girl I was applying to a big 4 firm in Moscow and she did not like it.  But rather than freaking out, she carefully explained to me why i would not enjoy living in Russia as much as the US and its not the best place to raise a family.  I could question her motives in any number of ways, but if you leave the paranoia out of it, she just wants to live somewhere better than she does now.  Nothing wrong with that, it can happen in much the same way with a long distance relationship in the USA.