Email Etiquette, Models, and other musings..

[Teddy KGB]

After being on a site for a while, I am starting to get a few letters from people who do not fit my 'criteria'. Example: They have kids, or fall (far) outside my specified age range. How does one handle such letter? I am not terribly fond of ignoring emails, forum posts, or other forms of communication. I know that most, if not all, of the emails are introductory or form letters, but.. the girl still probably spent a minute to look at my profile (not to actually read it, apparently), and a mouse click to send off the letter. Advice?

I have heard from a few people on here to absolutely avoid models (and another line of work, but I forgot that one). I wonder.. why do you say that? I have dated a few models here in the US, and they have not been murderous psychopaths.. Mind you, they are a little tougher to handle, but sometimes well worth the effort, if you know the right method to communicate with them. (reminds me of the joke: What do you tell a girl who has two black eyes? Nothing, she's already been told twice) I am kidding of course, but everyone has a way they can be 'reached' some people respond to touch (gentle touch when you talk to them), others respond aurally, and others are more visual, etc. Anyone have any particular experiences that they can share regarding models?

I'm sure I'll have more to add to this as time goes on.

[Shadow]

Actually I was just giving an honest reply as to why they did not fit my criteria and wished them good luck in their search.

[SANDRO43]

but.. the girl still probably spent a minute to look at my profile (not to actually read it, apparently), and a mouse click to send off the letter.

I don't bother to reply to letters from women who don't fit my major criteria, which include explicitly: NO dependant children !

Particularly if answering involves spending money with the agency .

I doubt these correspondents may even give a cursory look at the profiles of the WM they write to. What probably happens is that, on joining, they are asked what kind of WM fits THEIR criteria, and the agency sends out an introductory letter to all automatically. Or maybe not even that, since there's money to be made in corresponding through them .

[evaljean]

If it is free, a polite "No thank you, and good luck in your search", worked well for me.

If it costs money, just ignore it.  No need to feed the meter unnecessarily.

Eric

[BillyB]

After being on a site for a while, I am starting to get a few letters from people who do not fit my 'criteria'. Example: They have kids, or fall (far) outside my specified age range. How does one handle such letter?

Don't write back. She's probably communicating with other men to find one that's compatible with her anyway and you writing back saying "Thanks, but no thanks" is not going to brighten her day and most likely is wasting her time. You'll find when most RW find out they're not compatible with you, they'll drop you like a hot potato without uttering a word. It's not insulting, it's normal.

[Gator]

TeddyKGB,

You have good advice regarding answering unsolicited emails.

With regard to models, I can perhaps add something because I was engaged briefly to a RW who was a former model. 

The first step is to make sure she is a genuine model.  My ex-fiancée worked 14 years as a fashion model mostly in Germany and Austria and a few assignments in Moscow.  She walked the runway for many years and closed her career with photo shoots. In contrast, I would imagine that many RW will say they are models when in fact they are model wannabes or had a few jobs posing for nude photographs or they are prostitutes who now say they are “models” because they are too old to say they are “students”.

Every woman is different, so what I am about to say is perhaps not applicable to the next RW model.

On the positive side:  my ex-fiancee was very captivating, a wildcat in bed, a true thoroughbred, and she flowed with panache.   Strangers in Thailand would see us together and ask me if she were a model.  There was more to this woman than being a model as she worked as a circus performer (gymnast) in her teenage years, tried out for the Olympic team, and did radio commercials (sexy voice even to Russians).  She was fairly honest, as there were situations where she could scam money from me but she did not. 

On the negative side:  My ex-fiancee was pampered all of her life.  She was 40 and did not know how to ride the Moscow metro (she rode limos when in Moscow) and got hit in the thighs by the slamming gates.  Men had always chased her and placed her on a throne, yet it seems they grew weary of her ways (married three times), so she expected men to fall at her feet.  She was aloof.

Why did we part?  I was trying to mold her into a contemporary idea of what I wanted for a wife, and it was not happening.  We were plagued by misunderstandings because she spoke little English, and each time she assumed the worse rather than being optimistic and giving me the benefit of the doubt.   After spending a year together, I still had not captured her heart.   As a RW member of RWD wrote, "Gator, I doubt if you would have ever been happy with such a woman."

I have a much better woman now and am happy!!!!