Why Are The Russian Girls Looking For A Husband Abroad? - 2007 news article

[FSUrookie]

Ukraine Marriage Agency - Why Are The Russian Girls Looking For A Husband Abroad?
By Oxana Boichenko (July 2007 - from ezinearticles.com)

A Yahoo search for a "Ukraine marriage agency" yields over 1,250,000 results. For a country, which has been locked away to the rest of the world for years and has gained its independence 16 years ago, such results seem to be overwhelming. Why has this business flourished in the FSU countries within the last few years? Are women of these countries on a prowl for a rich husband? Are they raking around for an unforgettable short-term romance? Or are they seeking something more profound like true love relationships and someone to make them happy?

Lucky for me, when these questions began swarming in my head, a good girlfriend of mine, who has lived in Italy for a number of years, was in town to visit her family. So, instead of digging through piles of statistics and wracking my brain to get the information so interesting for me, I contacted her and loaded her brain with all the questions.

Before I move on, let me make myself clear: by no means does this article include motives and wants of every Ukrainian woman, who submits her profile to a marriage agency. Moreover I will be the one to inspire the foreigners: try be be as cautious as possible if you decided to apply to a marriage agency. In the past, some Russian ladies from the FSU countries have provided more than enough negative publicity (read my article below on scams in Lugansk city, Ukraine), but don't let that discourage you and miss out on a chance to gift someone the pleasure of communication and a possibility to find love. With that in mind, I proceed…

When I began questioning the motives of Russian women who take a chance on marriage agencies, my first discovery was quite disturbing. One of the main explanations for the FSU women to like foreigners is that men from their native countries... aren't good enough. "Many people talk about how awful it is (for a FSU Russian girl) to live abroad and tell you horror stories. Why not admit that the reason is in those men at home, who, in my opinion, don't know what a family is?" - said Natasha commenting on the article in one of the leading Russian papers, which blamed marriages to the foreigners. "Unfortunately, the 'Russian' men have got a long way to go to keep up with the men from abroad." Some bridal agencies will give you the same information. An American journalist, who took a "Romance tour to find a Russian bride" trip to Ukraine as a part of his investigation for a story, says in his on-line journal that the instructor on the tour explained to him: Ukrainian and Russian men "drink, philander, alternately beat and neglect women."

Obviously, not every FSU man treats women this way. Nevertheless, a general conception that most Russian brides/Ukrainian women share of the men in their home countries comes down to a few common words: irresponsible, hard-hearted, too demanding and not willing to provide for their children, let alone their mother. Throughout history Russian women have been famous for the way they treated their family. They are loving, devoted and caring, and, coming to a marriage agency they dream to find someone like themselves to create a strong happy family.

The other thing noticed by Natasha during her three-year-long marriage to a foreigner: To tell you the truth, marrying him I didn't think about living in Italy... But for Italians the family is very-very important and they put a great emphasis on the family values. That meant a lot to me. Foreigners in general seem to be more serious about family and children, unlike the men at home."

In line with a lack of quality of the FSU men, there is also a lack of quantity. Statistics show that during 2002 the ratio men-women was 46 % to 54%, and hasn't changed much since. Given that a large part of these 46% are people who can't be counted on for love, care and support, it leaves the ladies of Russia and Ukraine very little to chose from. Of course the solution to the problem is broading your horizons.

"All the good ones have been snatched away long ago, your chances to find someone in this country after you turn 25 are next to nil," Natasha mused over a cup of coffee (she married her Italian sweetheart at the age of 29). "It seems the guys (in Ukraine) disappear when they turn 30."

On the top of all said, the appreciation of their own femininity sets the FSU women apart from American or European ladies. A lot of men can see that the FSU women are different. And this is not only about their outer beauty that is so well-known. These ladies like to look pretty, it is not unusual for them to wear a dress and pumps on a regular basis, they care about their body and like to be attractive. Bottom line, they want to be feminine, not feminist.

The FSU women cherish being a "weak gender", which for them means taking care of their family in the first place, as well as being cared for and appreciated. Promises of that seem to be given in abundance by Americans and Europeans, many of whom share an opinion that it has been too long since Western women have shown any aspiration to cherish the softer side of the "weaker gender". In comparison with a constant rush of the women at home to make careers and get equal with men, the feminine side of the FSU ladies is at definite advantage to the men from abroad. Even some FSU men notice that the foreigners are attracted by "their" women because they "remain women, not some emancipated feminists, like in the West".

Natasha dreamily remembers her very first visitings Italy: "When I was in Italy I was treated like a princess surrounded with attention, that I missed so much from our men. I think there is so much beauty (in Russia), that our men are simply used to it, it is mundane to them, they forget about simple compliments… Italians value beauty."

After all this, what can I say to the men in search of their destiny? It all depends on what you are searching for. No doubt, there will be some money-hungry vamps, eager to trap you. If you want to find a woman for one night it is not a problem neither in Ukraine or Russia nor anywhere else in the world. But if you are looking for a woman who will respect you, relish her family and be as smart as she is pretty, the chances of you finding that in Ukraine or Russia are greater than at any other place.

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Russian brides - Popular scams on the Internet. Russian Bride - is she truly an angel?
by Oxana Boichenko (2006 - from ezinearticles.com)

If you are thinking of meeting a Russian woman over the Internet - you HAVE to be aware of these most popular scams online:

Here are the most popular cities considered to be the scam capitals of their countries:

Lugansk – the scam capital of Ukraine – 90% of the ladies are scamming foreign men for money, presents, etc; read on to see the most popular scams. Kazan – the scam capital of Russia. Minsk - the scam capital of Belarus

In this article will be explained the most popular scams that Russian women go through and the saddest real stories that I witnesses when American men lost their head and a lot of money when chasing their dream. I came to Lugansk with a purpose to open another matchmaking office there. I think many have heard about the tremendous beauty of hot and sensual Ukrainian girls but only a smaller number of them do really know that exactly in this small Ukrainian town with a poetic name Lugansk every girl is a real supermodel. Frankly speaking, I did not have any version about why is it so, until the time when I introduced with one interesting and of course beautiful woman, who told me that in the time of the Russian Impress Katherine the seconds ruling, she dispatched all the beautiful girls to that remote area. She eliminated all that women of tremendous beauty in unknown city of Lugansk; in order their charm could not darken the beauty of the powerful Empress. In such a way, this small city was full of girls of unbelievable beauty and they were passing this real value from generation to generation. Probably it's just a beautiful legend, but you start unwillingly believing it when you walk in the streets of Lugansk and stare at dazzling smiles of Lugansk beauties.

In one of the hot days, I set down on a bench in the shadow in a cozy and pretty park and lazily was looking at people who were resting there. Through some time my attention was attracted by a group of four chaps - two guys and two girls. One of the women among them was tremendously beautiful! A guy that was sticking with her was pretty much athletic but he was staring at another man in a very unfriendly way. At the mean time, the guy that was gazed by another man admirably looked at that extremely beautiful girl. The second chick as I understood was a translator, because guy that was charmed most all spoke in English. The interpreter seemed nervous and not confident. The beauty was only answering "yes" or "no" and the conversation of two seemed more like a monolog of a foreigner. In some 15-20 minutes the stranger took out of his wallet and passed few green banknotes to the translator. The girls and the athletic guy left a foreigner alone and went in a car that was waiting for them. As I later found out, the foreigner was an American. His name was Steve. He seemed really confused. That's why I decided to approach him and ask if he needs any help. So, we introduced and from that moment I started getting to know a different side of Lugansk. It was another truth - a shocking truth about this city.

He came from USA to meet his virtual woman of dream and gain his long-awaited happiness. His whole family was expecting him home with his beautiful, loving and caring Ukrainian bride. However his fiancee disappeared from his life unexpectedly, just like she entered it. The same thing happened to his friend who came with him to Lugansk for seeing his bride.

So, what was so horrible and what happened to both of them? I told this guys story to the manager of my newly registered Lugansk branch of "Oksanalove" Russian bride dating agency. And I was even more surprised and confused when she told me not a legend and not a history, but a real thing. I won't tell about all the details. I just going tell you about some facts that I found out there. So, Lugansk and other scam cities have several illegal fake agencies that work behind the closed doors. They don't give any of their contact details; they do not provide clients with any trustworthy information, they don't have advertisements. The pictures of their beautiful clients they put in different free internet sites like Absolute agency, etc. Many of their clients are married young women. They are not unfaithful to their husbands and do not look for a partner for creating a family. So, why do they address to the dating agency? The answer is simple and horrifying - is the money. This is it! The work of these beauties is also simple and does not really bother them. They just bring their photos to the agency and that's all. The rest is the task for their agency. They decide on what web-site to put the newly came girls picture, they write letters to her trapped man and so on. Of course man has to pay for all those letters, where "his" woman gets’s percentage for his spending. As a rule they receive lots of letters from the foreign clients and the fiancee (if I can say so) on the wings of love fly to these cities to see their beloved ones. Finally, the couples have a meeting and... Confused fiancee gets a cold look of their Lugansk beauty instead of a sweet kiss. They loyally pay money for personal translator service, driver, apartment found by their baby-girls and stays alone with their dreams. At the meantime, their brides honestly get their "share" for every deal from their translator who works for the agency. Usually, the fake bride gets some percent from the whole sum given by her fiancee. And actually, her salary depends on how much generous her fiance is. Some men spent 10K, others 15K; most generous one (I heard) spent 35 – 45 Thousands!

Well, this is a sad story about Lugansk beautiful women and their fake dating agencies. I take all the responsibility for the reliability of this information and it's checked by me personally. In two similar agencies that I attended as a fake client I got the whole information about how the agencies of such kind operate and how their brides should work in their team. I told them that I'm married hiding the facts that could make them suspicious and disclose my intension. As I told before, I will not describe all the details. However, it made me even the more striving for realizing my purpose.

Here are proximate % that ladies receive from their man’s spending: Letters – 40% Gifts – 20 – 30% Phone calls, translation services – 30% Persona driver and interpreter when man arrives – 50% Apartment / hotel rent – 20% When searching for a foreign woman on the Internet, watch closely how she plans a meeting with you: does she want to have her own interpreter? – Red flag Does she wan her person driver? – Red flag. Does she want to travel with her own interpreter if meeting takes place in a third country? – Red flag.

Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of girls in Lugansk (or other Russian, Ukrainian cities) who want to find her second half, one she could give all her love, passion, tenderness, faithfulness and beauty.

[SANDRO43]

Natasha dreamily remembers her very first visitings Italy: "When I was in Italy I was treated like a princess surrounded with attention, that I missed so much from our men. I think there is so much beauty (in Russia), that our men are simply used to it, it is mundane to them, they forget about simple compliments… Italians value beauty."

After all this, what can I say to the men in search of their destiny?

Very simple:
- If you're not Italian, forget about it .

[FSUrookie]

Very simple:
- If you're not Italian, forget about it .

Hmmmm.....
I'm Italian-American with relatives in Italy.....
I guess my odds just went up! 

[SANDRO43]

Partially but tangentially relevant.

As you may know, along with Japan we have a population with the world's currently highest life expectancy. Good thing, but also creating a number of collateral problems, one of which is how to care for en elderly parent/relative who finds herself/himself alone, and increasingly less independent in a now half-empty house. 

The "home for the elderly" solution is not appreciated by many, because it means leaving familiar surroundings, neighbours, memories of the past, etc. so the recourse to foreign badanti ("minders") has become increasingly frequent: a person, usually a woman, who will live in the elderly's apartment 24/7, provide company and day-to-day, simple care, do shopping and household chores, etc. They earn about €1,200/month net, and prefer it in cash with no social security benefits (no income tax to pay, either, and they don't plan a lifelong stay here, but rather want to provide support to their distant families for some time, and return to their home countries eventually).

This tendency started with South Americans and Philipinas some 25 years ago, but now involves a lot of Ukrainian women in their 40s-50s, as well. I often see groups of them chatting in a nearby park, when they take a few hours off their duties.

Being willing to lead this sort of life abroad is a significant indicator of economic conditions prevailing at home, IMO.


 

[Cold Warrior]

I believe that Russian mothers are partly to blame for the way men treat. The mothers pamper and spoil the boys too much.

[Shadow]

Sandro look at it this way. As their food and living is paid for, they have a net disposable income of Eur 1200 per month.
This means that even if they use half, on the other half it is still possible to feed two families back home.

[groovlstk]

Just saw this in The Onion

[SANDRO43]

Sandro look at it this way. As their food and living is paid for, they have a net disposable income of Eur 1200 per month. This means that even if they use half, on the other half it is still possible to feed two families back home.

Yes, that's the point I was trying to make, economical motivations resulting from unsatisfactory conditions at home.

When my mother fell terminally ill, I was fortunate to find an Ecuadorian in her early 30s to assist her. She told me she was doing it to support her daughter through university. She returned to Ecuador when her assistance was no longer required, some 3 months later.