Can I do anything for you? What do you need?

[Kevin]

Folks
 Every week I get at least 2-5 emails from men who ask me if a lady is scamming them because the lady has ask for money, gifts, English lesson, Help with bills, ect. 
 
The first thing I always ask is for a copy of the previous letters written to the lady.
 
What I have notice is when you ask a lady  "how can I help" and "what do you need"  they are going to respond to these questions with answers.  And they are not too shy about it sometimes.
 
My advice is not to ask a lady these types of question until you have meet her face to face. Unless you are willing to provide for her everything that she needs. Typically a lady in Ukraine will need much because of economics of this country.
 
If you ask a lady "what do you need" and she responds with English lesson then she is thinking of your relationship. If she responds with Money, bills, new clothes, computer ect. Then she is thinking of her future or family.
 
So the next time you ask a lady what she needs and she replies $500.00 for outstanding bills. Don't email me that she is a scammer. Or I will respond back that she is only answering your question and the best response to her would be. "I meant what do you need to help develop our relationship".
 
Too often relationship are destroyed because of misunderstanding in letters. It is best to consider everything that you write will be taken as face value and acted on.
 
As always I hope this helps.

Thanks
Kevin Hayes
http://www.khersongirls.com
380 505 492889 cell

[BC]

How many times (not RW related) have I been asked the same question..

Still don't have a million bucks..

[jb]

<chuckle>  SOP in my biz, if the boss asks that question: request a raise.  It rarely works, but you have to try...

[KenC]

Kevin,

I think that AM are mostly responsible for creating "scammers" out of RW.  Some AM cannot help but to throw money at the perceived RW problems.  I have seen many a man here and on other forums that think it is SOP to put their new "gf" (that they sometimes have not even met) on a monthly allowance.  It doesn't take a girl a long time become conditioned to such things.  When my now wife and I were in  very serious relationship, I never sent her money.  I didn't even think of it and neither did she.

KenC

[Kevin]

KenC

 I fully agree. I am guilty of doing it myself when I first started out. There are a few laptops still being used in Russia that belong to me at one time. 

Kevin hayes
Agency Owner.

[KenC]

Kevin,

At least you take responsibility for your actions.  I have seen guys throw money and gifts at RW only to later yell "scam" when the relationship doesn't work out.  I guess I wasn't programed too well by forums like this because I only treated Lena like I would any woman I was dating.

KenC

[Rvrwind]

Couldn't agree more!! I have said it time & time again that we created the monsters & it is we who must slay them. That goes for scam agencies as well. I'm so tired of hearing how guys continuely get 'scammed' when 90% of the time it is their own laziness or stupidity that allows them to get scammed.

I got scammed once, for $50.00 (Canadian I might add) and thats it. I didn't have to get kicked in the teeth twice before figuring out when you walk in front of a speeding car your gonna get clobbered.

Common sense, taking some good advice and following it, And Google works wonders. The ones that kill me the most is the guys who get scammed by an agency but still use the agency knowing full well they got scammed and then whine to me later, DUH!!!

Guys like that want sympathy, I tell them to look between sh!t & syhpillus in the dictionary, don't  waste my time.

RVR

Canadian Cowboy

[Marc Dayton]

Guys like that want sympathy, I tell them to look between sh!t & syhpillus in the dictionary, don't  waste my time.

RVR


I am glad RVR that you like something I say?

 

[anono]

we have some great agency owners here.... this is so true:

My advice is not to ask a lady these types of question until you have meet her face to face. Unless you are willing to provide for her everything that she needs. Typically a lady in Ukraine will need much because of economics of this country

 

i said in another post, "it is all about money"!

most of these guys, kevin, do not fully comprehend just how different it is, not only with the enocomy but the culture and what women expect from men.

marriage is appropriately defined as "spoilage" here.

[al-c]

It pretty much goes without saying that I would never ask a RW such an open ended question like "What do you need?'.  If I want to know what it will take to further our relationship, I will ask specificially that.  But if you ask the open ended question, that brings up one of my favorite sayings:  "Be careful what you ask for because you might get it."

If a woman asks for money, I don't yell SCAM and stop writing to her.  I just explan, as diplomatically as I can, that it is not proper to ask a man for money under such circumstances.  If she keeps on writing and drops the money part, that's great.  But if she goes away, at least I tried to keep things where they should be instead of just condemning her for one mistake.