Would you make it explicit or is it understood?

[Whynot]

Hey Guys and Gals!

As i mentioned in my May trip report i met a lovely lass who i've been keeping in touch with - almost on a daily basis. 

The next step is to meet again somewhere outside of Russia for a holiday together.  I am currently researching destinations.  Based on our emails and skype sessions she is very excited about this prospect. 

As i mentioned in my trip report - things did start to hot up on a physical level (kissing etc) and there is a lot of sexual tension (on both sides i think) but we have not slept together.

My question to all of you who've been down this road (or similar paths) before is - would you:

1)  Confirm with her that she is ok staying in the same hotel room with me OR

2) Assume that it is ok, play it cool on arrival (with no assumptions) and make sure there is a sofa if needed!

Over to my esteemed RWDers for your thoughts!

WN?

[Wraith]

We all know what assuming does!

Personally, I would ask her. It will gauge her comfort level with you and go from there.

[Doll]

Ask her

[tfcrew]

Usually..
They have rooms with double accomodations [twin beds]   mention this.
It will probably be the best arrangement anyway.

[OlgaH]

Whynot,

I agree with Doll, I think you should confirm with her.

[Sculpto]

I agree also and if you play it right the process of confirmation could end up being very pleasant and enhance the delightful anticipation.  Innuendo and subtle suggestion are the keywords.. but who knows.. you could have a lion on your hands. 

[Ade]

Yes, ask her if she wants a double, twin or separate rooms. In all honesty, from your description I would be a little concerned if she wanted to opt for separate rooms.

[Whynot]

Well y'all -

Cue drum roll..........i've just clarified expectations and i can put that little niggling concern to bed - in a double one that is!

Thanks for the advice everyone!

WN?

[Daveman]

Well, IMO, if she showed the interest you suggested in your trip report, and she planning to go on a trip with you, the question of what will occur on the trip together has already been settled.  Not saying that she's plotting to jump you, but she'd probably think you are a little strange if you didn't take it to that level within a few days.  

What I mean here, is that it's not your first meeting, you are planning a second *trip* together. She knows the situation.  I wouldn't even suggest two rooms (unless YOU have some doubts and may want an easy getaway from HER).  

You can ask her if you wish, but I'll differ a little here in that I don't really think it is necessary to have some big conversation. I'd say just get the room with two double beds, and let nature take its course.  If you plan and take care of everything, she *should* be quite happy about it.  If she demands her own room, I'd be a little concerned.

First meeting, absolutely two rooms... but at this point, I personally don't think it's really an issue at all.  


ooops, a little late on the draw.. but figured I've already writting it so I'll post it.. Good luck WN

[kievstar]

I would have to agree with SJ - Tell her she can have one bed, two beds, or separate rooms, which does she prefer.  If she hesitates, than one bed it is.

[JR]

Uh, Dave n Kiev...he said it's taken care of LOL Hehehe, couldn't resist!

But yes I am with everyone else, just do what you assume is best and let her deal with it when she gets there. No need to tell her a thing!

[aventino68]

I did a holiday with girly in Bangkok at a health spa and did two beds. If she's into you and the chemistry is there you both end up naked and it doesn't matter how many or what sort of beds there are anyway.