Dating a woman that doesn't speak English?!?!

[Blues Fairy]

At the same time I agree that the 22 year old English speaking woman may be a red flag. 

Oh, and by all means avoid beautiful women, and especially if they are intelligent, too. Huge red flag. 

[Tanner]

Oh, and by all means avoid beautiful women, and especially if they are intelligent, too. Huge red flag. 

  Ugly uneducated women... got it!  LOL 

[jdk1963]

My wife understands me perfectly and me her but there are times when I have no earthly idea what she is talking about.

I believe that is true of any woman regardless of her English skills!

[Tanner]

I believe that is true of any woman regardless of her English skills!

 HAHAHA!  I smell what you're stepping in JDK!

[jdk1963]

 HAHAHA!  I smell what you're stepping in JDK!

There goes my date with Lily!

[GoodOlBoy]

Some people may not be to concerned with how quickly she can advance her career or even if she works.

When a man is courting one of these beautiful FSUW, YOU BETTER be concerned with her wants and desires before and after she arrives here in the GoodOl' USA.

NOT JUST YOURS!

My wife wanted to work. She doesn't have to.

The fact that it was important for Marina to try and work at a GOOD job here in the GoodOl' USA, quickly became my #1 priority to help her realize her dream.

 

I know one woman who arrived knowing only how to say I am hungry and I need the toilet,.......

That is a pathetic story. 


GOB

[Taz]

In reality the key is to have a common language that you can communicate in. It doesn't really matter what it is at first. Obviously at some point she (and you) should be able to speak the language of the country you both plan to live in. Since I speak more than English, I have had many options to connect with RW/UW that didn't speak English. I have used Spanish, German and Russian to communicate with women there.

Of the woman I've dated over the last 7 years, none of them had any significant English ability if any at all. My ex-wife only started learning English shortly before coming here. Our communication was totally in Russian. This has been the case for the last 6 RW/UW I've dated. This has allowed me to communicate very well with friends and family too. I like to get to know her immediate sphere of people.

It is essential that you learn to communicate regardless of what manner, method or language you use. A lot of communication is non-verbal. This is useful if you aren't communicating solely by telephone. Skype is very useful for me to read her body language in addition to her words. Communicating solely through a translator or online machine translators or programs can all be a challenge of varying degrees. While it likely isn't going to be easy, I'd highly recommend learning some Russian.

If you only concentrate on the woman that speak English, you will miss a lot of good woman. All the other lazy Americans/Brits/Aussies/etc. will be hitting on those same women too. I made a conscious decision a long time ago to not focus solely on English speaking women. If they spoke another language in addition to either Russian or Ukrainian, it was fairly likely that they could learn English if even not a guarantee. My ex spoke no English but did speak Polish fluently in addition to Russian. She learned English very quickly with my assistance. So well in fact that soon she will graduate from an American University with a difficult degree with almost an A average. I do know that I was instrumental in helping her. She often jokes it should be my "A" but to her credit she did take all the tests herself even if I did help a wee bit with projects and homework. 

If you've never learned a foreign language as an adult, you'll never be able to appreciate what these women will have to go through to learn English. I couldn't in good conscience expect my woman to do something that I myself would not be willing to do. With the exception of Spanish and English, all the other languages I learned over the age of 18 so I fully understand the commitment and sacrifice they will have to put in to learn English. I have also done volunteer tutoring of immigrants in an ESL program locally. This deepened my understanding even more.

[Turboguy]

When a man is courting one of these beautiful FSUW, YOU BETTER be concerned with her wants and desires before and after she arrives here in the GoodOl' USA.

NOT JUST YOURS!

My wife wanted to work. She doesn't have to.

The fact that it was important for Marina to try and work at a GOOD job here in the GoodOl' USA, quickly became my #1 priority to help her realize her dream.

 That is a pathetic story. 

GOB

I am curious why you see that as a pathetic story.   She arrived here with no English, went to ESL classes, learned some on her own.  After she was here a few years she had about the best English I have encountered from any RW except my wife.  She then went to school to be a dental assistant and the last I heard was making 20 bucks an hour.  She coped with it quite well.  He son does well and doesn't even have an accent.  Basically she had a nice life here even though she didn't know English when she arrived.

As far as the first part of your post I will agree that a career is important to some.  For others the second income is important.  In those cases she needs to work hard on her English, go back to school possibly and work hard to get what she wants.   It does take total support from her husband.   There are however some women who don't want a career and whose husbands are happy with that.

[Daveman]

... There are however some women who don't want a career and whose husbands are happy with that.

True enough.. I absolutely do not care one way or the other. If my future Mrs Village Idiot want a career, I'll be happy to help her achieve any of her goals. If she prefers to be a homemaker, more power to her (but in this case the criteria does include the original qualification of flatheadedness to hold the beer and a big cleavage for the remote control).

Really, I don't see how these kinds of preferences make any difference as long as the two who are living together are BOTH okay with the arrangement.  And, be open to situations and desires possibly changing over time. 

[JR]

Ok so she doesn't speak English and it's the only language you know. SO WHAT?!?!?!

It actually makes having a meaningful relationship easier.

For you she is only an a slab of meat to have sex with.

For her you are a bank.

It doesn't get much easier than that

[Turboguy]

Funny Jolly   

Language and sex are not the only ways to communicate. 

I dated a few women in the distant past who would have been much better companions if they didn't speak a word of English.