IDI BRIDGE of Kharkov

[Maxx]

Hello.

I have a guy I am dealing with on his divorce with his Ukrainian wife. He is going to Kharkov in Mid-December. He was looking for a translator with some legal understand of the law. He is going need this translator for his trial (he's the petitioner) to quietly translate during the trial and keep up on the legal manuvers of his Ukrainian attorney and translate these to him. From him:

My attorney does speak english but she will not be able to translate everything to me as she will have to present evidence to the court. I need an someone to translate for me that would have some knowledge of the Ukrainian legal system/divorce process so that I can understand what is going on at all times. My attorney has said that the hearings should not last more than 2 hours. I will be meeting my attorney at the court at 08:30 to go through the evidence with her so it may be preferable to start at that time so I would need someone to translate for at least 4 hours. If you are available or you have somone that could help me with this I will pay the appropiate fee for your services. If you are unable to help then thank you for taking the time to read my mail.

He did not ask me to post this as I am doing this on my own. Anyway he has contacted a man named Sergey of IDI BRIDGE who is offering his services. Does anyone know anything about this man? I would sure appreciate any information.  

Thank you,

Maxx

 

 

[Jack]

Maxx, Sergey is as honest as they come. I do not know of any person in Kharkov who is more honest and reliable. I have trusted this man, worked with this man for over five years.

[Maxx]

Thank you Jack

"James" needs a good Ukrainian man to watch his back in court. He is from Ireland.

Maxx

 

[Bruno]

I have a guy I am dealing with on his divorce with his Ukrainian wife. He is going to Kharkov in Mid-December.

Maxx, why he is going in Ukraine for the divorce ? Is it not possible to make the divorce in Ireland ?

 

[Maxx]

He got married there. Then tried for an anullment but it looks like that won't happen. So a divorce is most likely to happen. I urge him to try for the anullment anyway but it is his choice. Actually his Ukrainian lawyers changed this for certain reasons that are not clear to me.

The reason not to do a divorce in Ireland is because a divorce would take longer there and it would cost more. Also it is unlikely she would get any settlement in Ukraine as he has some pretty damning evidence on her. Perhaps Ireland is a "no-fault" divorce country and Ukraine considers who's at fault? I don't know this. He just wants to get this over with and move on with his life and avoid all the false DV charges that go along with 'crash and burns' in Western Countries. He's doing a masterful job on that last part. 

 

Maxx

[Bruno]

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• If these conditions are met, either party to a marriage may apply to court for a Decree of Divorce. If it is satisfied that the grounds are met, the court will grant the Decree of Divorce dissolving the marriage. When it grants the Decree of Divorce, the court may also make orders in relation to custody of children and access to them, the payment of maintenance and lump sums, the transfer of property, the extinguishment of succession rights, pension rights etc.

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The life appart periode is very long and ask a Separation agrement :

http://oasis.gov.ie/relationships/separation_divorce/separation_agreement.html

of a judicial separation

http://oasis.gov.ie/relationships/separation_divorce/judicial_separation.html

Ask you friend to visit http://oasis.gov.ie/relationships/separation_divorce/ ... a lot of information about divorce in Ireland...

[Maxx]

Thanks Bruno. It looks like it will be a done deal in about 10 days. In The East they don't drag these things out like they do in the West. My first divorce took almost 2 years (was I a frazzle when it was over!) The second took 8 months. My ex-RW wife used to get rid of ex husbands like in one month. Then marry the next guy immediately after.

Maxx

 

[Maxx]

12/6/05

Hello James

Wow! It happened! Your mother and you must have a deeper understanding as to the volatility of your situation. You did extremely well. I also noticed, unless you didn't say, that Hans knew it best to leave before the police arrived. Your Mum handled herself also very well and proved that she is vital to your protection. Well done! I am proud of you both!

Yesterday proved to be good for you. It appears you have made a good case to the police. That they should know in the future what is really going on with Yuliya. It should give you some extra protection. However you still need to continue covering yourself.

Is it possible with your house to partition it into a his'/her's dwelling? With separate entrances and so on? What I am concerned with is that Yuliya and her scamming friends will cook up a scheme to frame you with phony evidence such as a tore-off-the-hinges door with a man sized foot print in it and some self inflicted wounds. They may see getting you as a challenge. Or they may be scared off. But how can you be sure?

You should get the police report on the incident from last night. Then get copies (copies) of your case that you presented at your parent's house to the police. You should put these in a very secure and hidden place in your home. You might need to use them in a hurry again. But you must not let Yuliya find them.

Then if you can secure you house so that you cannot go through certain doors but only from another entrance. Again I do not know if any of this is possible. Anyway do this of course with the lock but also with finish nails or some seal or something else. As example a piece sheet rock paneling and some tape and plaster. Do not let Yuliya know about this. If she makes up some story about you coming through such and such door then just show the police that this is impossible. The plaster has dried and is unbroken. Then press that they charge her with making a false charge against you.

Another thing you can do is get a court order that she cannot remove you possessions from your house. Some of these women get downright crazy during these times. I wrote this story of one such Russian woman.

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Last night I talk well known RW message board member. He is known by at least one fellow here and is married to a RW for the past 2 or 3 years. He tells me that his brother is married to a woman from the FSU. She is considered the terror of the neighborhood. He said she threw a rock through a neighbor's picture window. Then cut down a large tree in the front yard with an electric chainsaw. The tree fell and tore out the power lines and disrupted the power to approximately 1800 of her neighbors. While the divorce was going on she sold all of her husband's furniture, some of which were expensive antiques, for pennies on the dollar. She then ran ALL the electrical appliances, such as the stove, and all the lights day and night to drive up the electric bill that he was required to pay. He was able to have the power shut off as she did come to the court hearing or any of the court hearings. Of course she got contempt citations <shrugs> Her next move was to tear out all the light fixtures and electrical wall outlets. Then filled the cavities with cement. I was told that this was just a partial list. Can any of you relate to RW like this???

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Anyway James it is one battle at a time. Keep covering yourself and please tell your friend Hans and your Mum that they are doing great job for you. I am really proud of you!

Maxx

 

[Michelangelo]

Anyway he has contacted a man named Sergey of IDI BRIDGE who is offering his services. Does anyone know anything about this man?I would sure appreciateany information.

I have known Sergey for two years and visted him in his offices in Kharkov twice.  He is honest and has a heart of gold.  He's the best.

[Maxx]

Thanks Michael. James has contacted him and is going to use his services.

I am working with a few guys right now in the divorce precess, James and Will. Will's situation is in the near meltdown stage. The first letter below is my advice in preparing a quick defense on the fly. The second letter to Will is more about the defense and the need for urgency at these times. The third letter is to James about his situation and his someday making it known to this board. There is a little humor in there as well...

December 7th, 2005

Man Will! things are moving so fast it seems you may not have time for the deluxe defense! You need to get to the lawyers Tomorrow  ASAP .  the one lawyer I got you is from the www.dvmen.org site. Please get to a DV lawyer, a immigration lawyer and a divorce lawyer ASAP. You need to tell them your situation that your marriage is falling apart and you fear she will file false charges on you very soon. I know here in Minnesota it is possible to fill out the divorce papers and file them at the court house the same day. BTW The selling of the wedding ring for cash maybe for a retainer for her divorce lawyer. You must beat her to the punch and be the petitioner. It will make your defense seem much more plausible. Abusive men do not file divorce. They hold on to their women. You need to get to a divorce lawyer and draw up the papers while you wait and if you can take them to the County Court house and file them yourself. Then hire a professional process server and have her processed served. Forget using a Sheriff. They are too lackadaisical. The DV lawyer is someone to consult with. You need all the information you can get. Get proof of your visiting him. This is important. The immigration attorney is another line of defense. Go get the yellow pages and look up immigration attorneys. Find one who has a ad that says they have Russian language interpreters on staff. They will have the most knowledge of any about the DV for a Green card by FSU women. Set up an appointment and tell him your story. Ask him to draft you a briefing on the VAWA laws and how they are used to gain Permanent Residency in the US. If you ever have police call on you or you have to go to a restraining order trial you can use this document as proof that you know what the score is in regard to the real reason why all this is happening to you. The same can be said with your visits to the other lawyers and any affidavits or receipts you gathered from them. These are the documents you will need to show you are a reasonable man who follows the law and consults with attorneys. You do not act rashly as an abusive man would. You follow the law. Do you get the idea? Please talk with your sister about all of this. Some of it may seem like it is overboard but I can tell you from personal experience it is not. When I was at my DV trial it was my testimony of my step by step efforts with my immigration and divorce lawyers to exit my marriage that saved me. The judge said "There appears to be strong evidence that this marriage may not fit INS standards. That is not the issue here but it certainly suggests a motive for creating another issue. That is why this is a close case " Unquote. In other words she would be believed over me unless I presented a good case of her being involved in immigration fraud.  And BTW the prosecutor made a big deal that she knew nothing of the divorce being filed. She stated this several times. In reality she ran from the process server and claimed I never told her we were getting a divorce (NEVER tell them. Let them find out from the process server!) So Will it is important she be process served before she files charges on you. If she tries it afterwards it looks like it is done in retaliation or in response to getting her official evidence of abuse to file her I-360 Spousal abuse petition. Will you got to get on the phone first thing tomorrow morning and try and get afternoon appointments. You might try and figure to delay your wife about her selling your wedding ring for a few days but do so over the phone. You are right you need your sister to be your alibi of protection. Whew!
 
Good luck!
 
Maxx 

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December 7th, 2005
 

Hello Will
 
Yes you have to move even faster to avoid bigger problems. I stress you need to get to the attorneys so that you can tell this to the police or the judge that you visited them at "such and such time". Then get affidavits, attorneys briefs as to the particulars of these types of situations* and receipts that you visited them and were advised of the score*. Please stress the urgency of this to your sister and that you need her to help you make things happen fast. It is a good idea for her to come with you during your attorney visits. She can be a witness if need be.
 
Also it is important that you put this on a priority #1 bases above all else, including your scheduled appointments. Doctors get sick right? Please understand that when you look back at all this you will wish you put it first in regard to your schedule. I delayed my actions on account of business needs. Now it is my regret that I didn't shelve those needs and see the lawyers and draft the papers first.
 
Your wife's comment to you about your marriage (the omelet incident), your comment "A house divided cannot stand" and your now living at your office must tell her or her advising friends that the time of the end is close. Her wanting the scrapping of the wedding rings and getting  the money (for what??) should tell you that she is about to make her move.
 
Will, with only 8 months of marriage your wife faces serious immigration concerns. She will be notified that once the divorce is final she will have only 30 days to leave the country or she will begin "accruing illegal presence". Without CIS (INS) documents she cannot get a job. Her only way out is to claim abuse but she needs documentation of this, official documentation of this. That's when the games begin. That is what I am warning you to prepare your defense.
 
Nobody that hasn't been in these situation can truly understand what is going on. I read a book by Phillip Yancey. He said that the understanding of truth comes at different levels. As example I can say to you that you must MOVE!! and you can say "I understand" but you only partially understand. The reason is you have not been in this type of situation before. Until you have, you cannot understand the urgency of your situation. You can hear your sister saying "Yes we should get such and such done but relax everything will be OK." to assure you and comfort you and then you relax and take a long weekend to settle your nerves. You set up an appointment to see a lawyer in two weeks. In the mean time your wife is selling off all your possesions including the piano. Taking the money to an attorney. Visiting a woman's shelter. Finding some Russian "friends" for witnesses for this $$$. Then when the big problems hit you it is then you fully understand what I meant when I said "MOVE!!"
 
Keep your head down,
 
Maxx

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December 8th, 2005 
 

Hello James
 
Amazing time you are living in. I am glad you are being so careful. I really want to see you get a total victory from all of this. Yuliya needs a good "spanking" so someday you will publish the whole incident with selected photos included. I would like people to see what these women (GCGs) are capable of. A get rather tired of people say "Yes but there is two sides to every story" or "The men are just as bad"... "Blah Blah Blah". You got the evidence to show how devious and lowdown these women can be.
 
We should put together a "Divorcing a FSU wife for Dummies" book  LOL.  
 
Say you could do something with your room to make it seem that you are really there at night. Perhaps a snoring tape.....? I am laughing right now as I type this LOL but I may be on to something with this. Besides it may annoy Yuliya...... LOL 
 
Maxx

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[Maxx]

Well James is there. Sergey has arranged everything. I got this message a few hours ago:

(All Set)To take the beach,car ordered,Vicktoria will translate we will collect her on the way in the morning, butterflies

The "taking of the beach" is my metaphor that I passed on to James. It is in referance to going through a difficult or dangerous situation and pressing forward to victory. I liken going through the divorce process with a woman wanting a Green Card to be similar to invading Normandy in 1944. It is all about preparations, secracy and moving forward quickly on the offence. The better one is prepared and the more this is kept a secret the easier it will be when the action starts. The action starts once she finds out. Then it is like moving up the beach. Expect some surprises. Expect to get stunned once in a while but shake it off. Improvise when needed. Think fast on one's feet. Press forward and take the objective.    

James is going to a trial in an Ukrainian court in a matter of hours. He is the petitioner and he is very prepared. But still there are uncertainties he can not plan for. 

Maxx