Duke with serious Questions

[dukemaxwell]

Hey Gator,

Let it roll brother.
Hey what part of Florida. I have a place down in Placida Fl. westcoast about hour and half below tampa. I love it down there

[dukemaxwell]

Hey Gator,

RW appear to have good genes. I'm looking to have 2-3 kids and would like to pass my genes to someone who is built right. Almost all american girls are over weight and out of shape. RW look strong and healthy. What are your thoughts?

[Gator]

Duke,

I live in Tampa.  My RW wife thinks it is a "lovely village."

Before considering your questions, you must do some homework to educate yourself.  Read the following.  This will take only an hour or so.

http://www.russianwomendiscussion.com/index.php?pid=2

http://www.russianwomendiscussion.com/index.php?pid=45

http://www.goodwife.com/survey/xcultural_p01.html



Also, read No. 8-12 of this outdated resource:

http://www.russianwomendiscussion.com/index.php?pid=21

[dukemaxwell]

Hey Gator,

Wow Tampa....might be coming down middle of Nov. for a week, down to Placida
My sister lives in Tampa. She teaches the blind and deaf, her husband teaches newly blind and deaf adults.

Ok thanks I'll read up.

small village? she's from big city? Ha ha

[Gator]

Hey Gator,

RW appear to have good genes. I'm looking to have 2-3 kids and would like to pass my genes to someone who is built right. Almost all american girls are over weight and out of shape. RW look strong and healthy. What are your thoughts?

Have you done your homework?

Assuming you are trying, I will answer this one quickly.

Your question makes you seem shallow, as if you want is a breeder cow, a slender one at that.  I do hope that you seek to marry someone with whom you connect in mind and spirit as well as body.  But we discussed that in Stephen’s thread.

Your question has two parts:  body types and number of children.

Regarding body types, RW have all types although the RW shown by marriage agencies tend to be slender because that’s what the agency’s customers want.   On average, RW are definitely thinner than AW.  Why?  Four reasons.

-  Some of it is due to genetics.  You will see a lot of tall, slender “stick girls” as teenagers and in their 20s.  I actually prefer a little meat on the bones but not to the point where the booty is twice the size of the hood. 

-  Some of it is due to diet.  Because of culture and economics, RW do not eat a lot.  Fast food is not widespread.  And they consume a lot of salads and soups rather than fat meat and fried foods.  Too much mayo and sour cream, however.  And every RW has a sweet tooth for chocolate, ice cream (Russia makes the world’s best ice cream), and cake.

-  Some of it is exercise.  RW walk a lot as few until recently owned an automobile.  I glad I was in shape for my first visit as we walked a few miles per day just going somewhere.

-  Some of it is culture.  RW care very much how they look.  If heavy, they don’t tell themselves “I look good.”  No, they go to the sports club and work out.


However, something happens because babushkas seem short and stocky.  And if you were to go to a beach frequented by middle class Russians, you will see a lot of cellulite.  Middle class RW drive cars and eat meat.

[Gator]

Regarding number of children, you will be going against Russian culture.  RW mentality is to have 1-2 children.  As an indicator of this fact, the population of Russia is in a decline.

If you decide to write some RW, you will need to lead with this goal so as to not waste your time.  I also suggest that you focus on RW living in smaller cities.  Big city women tend to be more career-oriented.  My Moscow wife has two children and this is rare among her peers.

[Vaughn]

I'm still waiting for Duke to pose some serious questions....

[Blues Fairy]

RW appear to have good genes. I'm looking to have 2-3 kids and would like to pass my genes to someone who is built right. Almost all american girls are over weight and out of shape. RW look strong and healthy.

Don't forget to check the teeth of your future horse bride.  Very important.

[dukemaxwell]

Hey Vaughn,
Gator said I should start a thread titled Duke with serious questions. so i did. I think my questions are serious ........your 59, married for a few years! ha ha You need come hang out with me and hear for yourself what I've been telling Stephen

Blues that's a good point.......I like nice teeth on a girl. Gator do RW have nice teeth cause that's a big turn off. yellow and rotten......Hey Blue what's your teeth look like?

Blue why is it ok to find a rich man with status and I can't find a good breeding mate without hearing some crap about it? Double standard.

[Turboguy]

Hey Vaughn,

Blues that's a good point.......I like nice teeth on a girl. Gator do RW have nice teeth cause that's a big turn off. yellow and rotten

You might want to do RW a favor and search in other parts of the world.   Nice figures yes, but if you ever marry one most guys spend a small fortune on dental work.  I got a little luckier than most guys on that front.

[dukemaxwell]

Hey Gator,
I have done my homework you sent me. And I really like your comments. Thanks! So you think RW may get just as heavy as AW living in the us? That would really suck. I might have to go Asian then. I think they stay small no matter what.
Not to offend anyone but most the time I see pics of older guys trying to marry RW. Is that because your sick of AW.....or can't get an AW.....or are attracted to RW.....etc?

Oh wow bad teeth? Damn thanks for the heads up........I'm gonna def check teeth right of the bat. I'll put that as a must have. Nice grill! Damn that's scary.

[Turboguy]

Good plan Duke,  even WalMart sells the little round mirrors with a handle for checking teeth and you can probably even get a dental pick like the dentists use to check so that is on your must pack list for your first trip. 

Yes, most asian women seem to stay slim for life.   I have seen a few exceptions and most seem to have good teeth as well.   I am sure there is a forum somewhere for men interested in meeting Asian women.  If you have any trouble finding one I think a lot of people here would spend hours doing a search for a good forum for you if you promise to go there rather than here.

[Lily]

I wouldn't say that wanting good genes in a mate is shallow, if this is not the only requirement but just one of several. This is an instinctive voice, after all, that should not be underestimated. Women tend to chose by their instincts, and I think that in a man, women subconsciously want good genes, even if they don't plan any (more) children. These are instincts, nothing more!

Good teeth, as well as good hair, definitely belong to the package that talks directly to potential mate's instincts, bypassing his or her resasonable part. No wonder people pay attention to teeth.

One question to Duke: what makes you believe that you have good genes? how do you know?

[Turboguy]

One question to Duke: what makes you believe that you have good genes? how do you know?

It is obvious he has good genes Lily.   He is perfect in every way and has already told us that.

[Gator]

Duke,

Glad to know you did your homework.

Did it prompt some questions?

How can you spot RW with bad teeth?  Easy, they don't smile in their photos.    

Actually, I am teasing you because most RW do not smile in photos - carefree smiling is not basic to Russian culture.

I do not know the reason yet many RW have problematic teeth.  Perhaps the enamel is thinner.  So you might have to spend a few $K on your wife's teeth.  Some RW have great teeth.  Have them mail you dental impressions to confirm. 

The material I suggested you read covers many important points.  One is the need to have ample cash reserves.  Did you understand why?  Just as important is to have ample time available.  First, to make the journey again and again.  Second, to give her the attention she will need the first year or two of adjustment.

Having a child adds some complications.  Did you read this thread about RW attitudes towards raising children?  Just make sure that you are ready for this.

 http://www.russianwomendiscussion.com/index.php?topic=10487.0

[dukemaxwell]

Hey Gator,

OK I will check out the new material you gave me. That was funny what you said.......bad teeth....they don't smile in photos. HA HA

Thanks Lily for the comments. By the way you do have a nice smile!

Are my genes good? Depends on what your looking for I guess, I'm 34 5'9" 165. Bald, smart, blue eyes to die for and strong teeth. 1st cavity at 33. LOL not does that matter. If you want a football player then my genes won't work for you........a jockey, I'm too big......good looking,well my son is cute.......drug free.......my grand parents are and were over 86-88.

So Lily what do you think?

Turbo you look like you have bad genes......maybe hit that bottle too much.....smoke cigars.......etc

[Turboguy]

The genes are fine Duke,  No cigars and don't drink much.   What you see is what chasing RW for too long does to you.  It makes a really hard life that makes you look like you are in your 60's even if you are 40.

[dukemaxwell]

Hey Turbo,

Oh that's good to hear. I'm glad you don't smoke or drink. I thought chasing the young ladies, keep you young. Look at Hugh Hefner. LOL

Do you think RW like old American guys because they will kick the bucket soon.............or they like a leather face, old spice smell and no sex? just wondering

How old are you and how old is the Mrs? Is this your first marriage? AW? RW?

[Ludmila]

Hey, Duke, don't go! Please, stay here and opine. It seems, you have somewhat shrugged off your arrogant image.

You are different. It's clear, you are not burdened by intellect, but that's OK, as long as you are next to a lady who is your intellectual equal. In Russia, we say :" A lot of knowledge brings a lot of sadness".  We have an expression "an idiot wearing pink glasses", too. But that's not what you are looking for, I suppose. It seems, you are looking for a simple lady with no demands whatsoever. Will be hard.

 If you find a lady, irrespective of the country, who looks at life the way you do, your marriage may work.


What do YOU think of AW that you met in your life, besides their dimensions?   Are they fun ( because they are uneducated? ) yes/no, why.
 

Describe your day with your ideal lady, if you care to share.

What can you offer to your mrs. Right, apart from your physical body? Do you see yourself as  a devoted husband, a provider? Or , may be, you are very romantic, and write poems, have read a lot, are an interesting many faceted  person, albeit poor?

You, surely, want to challenge people here. That's OK, as long as you entertain us.

But seriously, would you be able to sacrifice your life for LOVE? Like deprive yourself of everything you have ( you claim you  have modest means).

You know, all this bravada aside, you can conquer a lady who isn't a gold digger by the depth of your soul, devotion and uncompromising love. Do you believe in this, or are  frankly cinical?

Have you thought about this option? I know , if you were like this ( romantic), you would find a lady, who would appreciate this, and would not want more. There are such ladies in Russia. Hard to find, but there are some. Think about it. But you will have to make a lot of compromises.  Please, opine.

[dukemaxwell]

Hey I found this site for thai women but what he says about american women is thoughtful. I'm wondering if you fellows feel the same?

Dear Reader:

Here is our mission statement, why we started this company, why we are so different, so special and so unique.

AT 53 and never married, I was a confirmed bachelor. I thought and felt I probably would never marry. Using american women as my standard, I purposely set the bar so high that I was fairly assured marriage was not going to be in my future. I did this because I watched all my high school and college buddies fail thru numerous marriages and divorces. Everyone of my past friends had been married and divorced at least one time. In my 40's I was so abnormal in the dating world, I used to lie about not ever being married. When I told them I was single and never married, it was the death blow to my dating american women. They would hit the door running. They were convinced there was seriously something wrong with me. A career confirmed bachelor, there is no way they would date me. At that point in my life I should have been married and divorced at least one time. As far as something being wrong with me, I was convinced I was on the right path by remaining single. Why do I have to go down the same path as all my buddies. I could just sit back and watch them make the mistakes. I could just read the book they were writing. I did not have to live the life. It wasn't like I was inexperienced or did not have the opportunity to marry. I had dated hundreds of women in my life. Then at 53 I met my future wife. She was different. She was asian. I knew right from the beginning she was different from anyone I had dated up to that point.

Prior to meeting my wife, from the age of 50 - 53, I had decided to go to mexico to search for my future wife. I wanted to find a really nice mexico woman with family values and who had not been spoiled by american values and materialistic thinking. Most american women I had dated were very self centered, spoiled, lived in a me me me world and had an attitude of what have you done for me lately. It seemed that no matter what I did it was never good enough. I dated more daddy's little princess or wanna be daddy little princess than I had my share. Daddy had done a very good job of spoiling them and now it was my turn.

It was obvious that compared to the men in our society, the women were on a pedestal, and why not. We put them there. We created our future our destiny with american women.

I was taught at an early age to provide, protect, appreciate and respect women. And like a good ole american boy, I did just that. In doing so I tended like so many other american guys to place the women on a pedestal. What made me different from my friends was that I just did not marry them. But there was a large problem with mexico women, they tend to get large, that was the problem, and a larger woman just does not work for me. I like a more slender woman physically. When I met my future wife she was 28 and I was 53. It was not just the outside I was attracted to. I liked her thinking and her values. In her country and culture as far as being put on a pedestal, it was the men not the women.

[Lily]

Are my genes good? Depends on what your looking for I guess, I'm 34 5'9" 165. Bald, smart, blue eyes to die for and strong teeth. 1st cavity at 33. LOL not does that matter. If you want a football player then my genes won't work for you........a jockey, I'm too big......good looking,well my son is cute.......drug free.......my grand parents are and were over 86-88.

So Lily what do you think?

 

OK, from this concise information and from your avatar picture I probably can guess that there are indeed some good genes in that guy.

5'9'' and 165 lbs look okay.

Strong healthy teeth, 1st cavity at 33 - a definite YES!

Longevity in the family - another YES.

Bald..no idea how this may indicate good genes. Although, who knows.

In order to call yourself 'smart', one really should support this point with some illustration.

'Blue eyes to ie for'. Clear intensive blue eyes color is indeed beautiful, but the fact that you give them a superior rank describing 'to die for' may not be in favor of a fine male character.

Last but not least, your very last line addressed to Turbo is a BIG no-no for any person who considers dealing with you.

[Turboguy]

Hey Turbo,

Oh that's good to hear. I'm glad you don't smoke or drink. I thought chasing the young ladies, keep you young. Look at Hugh Hefner. LOL

Do you think RW like old American guys because they will kick the bucket soon.............or they like a leather face, old spice smell and no sex? just wondering

How old are you and how old is the Mrs? Is this your first marriage? AW? RW?

Well Duke, one of the sayings I can recall a former friend saying a lot is "You are only as young as the woman you feel"   

Why do RW like old farts?  Good question Duke,  Perhaps they have a nurse complex and a dislike for blood and it turns them on to be pushing an old guy around in a wheel chair and wiping drool from his mouth.   Then again perhaps it is that they can give him a cup of hot chocolate, put him to bed at 9 and watch reruns of Sex in the City on Cable TV.

Is it my first marriage.  No, I was married to an AW for a long time.   I met her when she was pretty young so she was too young to know better than to marry me.  Then I spent a long time single and of course couldn't get a date so I headed to Russia and even then had to search for a long time to find a woman who would have me. 

I have a really good suggestion Duke.  There are a lot of discussions here about marrying a woman who doesn't speak English.   I think if you target them and don't use an interpreter or an electronic translater you might be OK.  If they understand you then you will have a very difficult time. 

[Johnny2009]

Everybody here is bashing this guy because they don't agree with his views, whats the point? Is it that his opinions scare some people? Truth hurts so they say!

Bottom line is: Hes good looking and confident, believe it or not young girls will prefer this to splashing lots of money! He adds a different prospective to this forum, and I for one have enjoyed his responses! Everybody on this forum provides a different angle.

Duke, good luck and keep posting!

[remiel6]

Johny, Duke is not being bashed for his opinions, though he deserves to be. He is being attacked for being a jerk. It's as simple as that. You don't walk into a room and announce to a bunch of people you don't know in any way shape or form you are gods unmarried gift to humanity and all us lucky guys in the room should break out our notebooks and take marital advice from the self described hot stud. You don't walk into a room call people derogatory names and then make friends with them. His posts and writing show the maturity level of a fourth grader. Lily I can answer the Gene's question. Buy this guy some Levi's and call it a day. If he's not dumber then the box of pet rocks sitting in my parents basement from when I was a kid then he is such an arrogant ugly human being that to "breed" with him as he suggests would be patently offensive. I welcome him to try going to the Ukraine, but I will be honest the pro daters there are going to chew him up, take his money and eat him for lunch, and to be honest he needs it.
For the record Duke, your not more attractive than Brad Pitt and I don't ever recall an interview with Brad where he walked around saying look at me "I'm the shit." The only one with the high opinion of you is you.
Johny, Duke talks of women like he is buying shoes at the mall. If this is not offensive to you then you and him can go and exchange notes in PM's. Perhaps you can go to Philly and learn from the self described master, who by his own admission is divorced after a failed 7 year marriage. So he in that respect he is no different than most of the other posters here who he has insulted. Note, Duke this post is not to you this is in response to Johny's post asking a question. You are still beneath even having a conversation with. 

[Turboguy]

Johnny,  Duke is a typical Alpha male and I agree they do very well with women.   Personally I think he is just having some fun in his way and we are having some fun in our way.  I am sure he doesn't scare anyone unless their daughter would bring him home then it might.  I don't think his intention is to hurt anyone and I if anything he said would hurt anyone they would have tucked their tail between their legs and run off since the advice here often tends to be a little blunt.

For me, I am off on a business trip and bored after watching reruns of NCIS all night and just killing time that I normally wouldn't waste.  

I don't really think most of us think he is very serious anyway.  Having been someone who often sides with someone who is being given a hard time I appreciate that you have done the same for him.  

Remie, you posted as I write this and I think you worded it far better than I did.