Matchmaking service

[solomon]

Once you get the money, then you get the power, once you get the power, then you get the women.

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Now you are sounding more and more like TigerPaws.
[/quote]It was a joke. I'm not Tony Montana.

[solomon]

A quote referenced here:

http://www.livejournal.com/users/fighterjock_311/2003/10/05/

The title of the blog: Memoirs of a Pompous Ass!

You and jb are taking some of the things I saw too seriously.

[BC]

solomon,

If time was gasoline you would be asking for a car that will get about 300 mpg.

Quite unrealistic or?

In your circumstances I would wait until you can invest the time necessary..  Time to find her, time to spend with her and time to help with her adjustment.  Can you afford 3 or more months away from your practice?

[color="navy"][size="3"]I think if I took this approach I would never have time. It is kind of like making time to exercise or have children. My practice will only become busier as it has already. [/size][/color][/quote]

[NDOC]

Ok, I'll jump in to Solomon's defense if no one else will. 

Being another small town, mountain states guy looking for a RW, I understand where he's coming from.  The whole metrosexual thing missed the rocky mountains so telling us from cowboy country that we are too insensitive or too uncivilized to find a decent girl doesn't really do anthing for us.  We may be old-school, but we're 100% male.  If you want someone who you can share your feelings and knitting habits with, be my guest.  But out here in horse country, if you get a chance to date the prom queen, you date the prom queen and not because she has some inner beauty.

Some of you guys live in cities with a million or more people and you still can't find the person you're looking for so don't imply we are pathetic because we're looking at RWs as opposed to cutting the least offensive cow from the local herd.  Cheap airfare, internet cameras, chatrooms, and instant messages means we no longer have to choose from the local heffers.  If we can't find someone we like in a 1,000,000 pop. FSU city, then we have other issues.  If you're from a 50,000 pop. city, having a half million women to date is like being a kid in a candy store.

I've lived in enough rat-infested big cities to appreciate the charm of smaller towns and a lot of others feel the same way.  There's a reason people are moving to the suburbs and beyond...the quality of life. 

Solomon, be your own guide and you'll do just fine.  You know what you want, what you like, be true to yourself, and don't let anyone else tell you differently. 

[andrewfi]

Solomon ~ You said 'em. I could not imagine saying them seriously, or in jest. Because you said them, seriously or in jest and I could not, I can only infer that either seriously or in jest, they carry weight for you that they do not for me. IE, at some level, you mean what you say/write; knowing that means that my replies to your posts are meant in all seriousness.

[RacerX]

I'll tell you Soloman - having read over the past two pages it seems that there's more manure elsewhere than in a million Billings!  Just ignore the condescension and you'll be fine.

If ever there was a guy who would benefit from a matchmaker's service it's you.  Your locale, money (I assume) and profession are ideal for such help.  Listen to Marc and Todd, as far as I can tell they are the only ones with something other than an opinion [for example: experience!].

I know a really great one [RW in Atlanta] who performs such a service, so if you're interested send me a PM.

[jb]

NDOC and RacerX,

No one is trashing Solomon, so there's no need to rush to the man's defense.

We are only pointing out the need for him to either change locations or  break away from his busy law practice if he wants to find a  bride. 

Racer wrote:  

I know a really great one [RW in Atlanta] who performs such a service, so if you're interested send me a PM.

Even a matchmaker in Atlanta would need to spend time with Solomon and  family to get to know the background which she would need to find a  match.  I wonder if she comes to Billings, or he goes to Atlanta.

[andrewfi]

I guess her personal experience of the women in Russia that she might recommend is pretty good too?:?

[jb]

I guess her personal experience of the women in Russia that she might recommend is pretty good too?

Oh, absolutely, Andrew~!   I'm sure she's known them all since childhood.

[andrewfi]

jb ~ surely not so long, but I am sure, that she would have known them since puberty? That's reasonable, yes?

[jb]

Yes, very reasonable, and I'm sure they are all virgins to boot.

[Leslie]

Solomon,

You have to find a wife for yourself.

This enterprise requires time.

It will probably take you 3 or 4 trips to find a woman you like, then 3 or 4 more to be sure she is the one for you.  That is 12 to 16 weeks in FSU over the next 2 years.

If you can't find that time THEN GIVE UP NOW.

It really is as simple as that.  No excuses.  No viable shortcuts.  Either you make the commitment to find and marry an FSU woman the number 1 priority in your life or you are very likely going to fail.....

Employ a good associate.  Accept that your turnover will dip down for 2-3 years.  You can be rich and lonely or poorer and happier:)

JB is right on your location.  Don't date city girls.  You should be looking in Siberia or Moldova or rural western Ukraine.  The hard part starts after she arrives.  Settling down in Billings will be hard enough for a country girl.  It will be impossible otherwise.

 

[catzenmouse]

JB is right on your location.  Don't date city girls.  You should be looking in Siberia or Moldova or rural western Ukraine.  The hard part starts after she arrives.  Settling down in Billings will be hard enough for a country girl.  It will be impossible otherwise. 

A Siberian city girl won't take kindly to the country either. Believe me I know about this one! :D:D

Make sure they know about your living situation up front with any girl you talk to. If they balk at it don't waste any more time and move on.

Happy Hunting!

Ken

[solomon]

Ok, I'll jump in to Solomon's defense if no one else will. 

Being another small town, mountain states guy looking for a RW, I understand where he's coming from.  The whole metrosexual thing missed the rocky mountains so telling us from cowboy country that we are too insensitive or too uncivilized to find a decent girl doesn't really do anthing for us.  We may be old-school, but we're 100% male.  If you want someone who you can share your feelings and knitting habits with, be my guest.  But out here in horse country, if you get a chance to date the prom queen, you date the prom queen and not because she has some inner beauty.

Some of you guys live in cities with a million or more people and you still can't find the person you're looking for so don't imply we are pathetic because we're looking at RWs as opposed to cutting the least offensive cow from the local herd.  Cheap airfare, internet cameras, chatrooms, and instant messages means we no longer have to choose from the local heffers.  If we can't find someone we like in a 1,000,000 pop. FSU city, then we have other issues.  If you're from a 50,000 pop. city, having a half million women to date is like being a kid in a candy store.

I've lived in enough rat-infested big cities to appreciate the charm of smaller towns and a lot of others feel the same way.  There's a reason people are moving to the suburbs and beyond...the quality of life. 

Solomon, be your own guide and you'll do just fine.  You know what you want, what you like, be true to yourself, and don't let anyone else tell you differently. 

Thank you.

[solomon]

In your circumstances I would wait until you can invest the time necessary..  Time to find her, time to spend with her and time to help with her adjustment.  Can you afford 3 or more months away from your practice?

I think if I took this approach I would never have time. It is kind of like making time to exercise or have children. My practice will only become busier as it has already. [/quote][/quote]Sounds like a rather extreme analogy.

[solomon]

Solomon ~ You said 'em. I could not imagine saying them seriously, or in jest. Because you said them, seriously or in jest and I could not, I can only infer that either seriously or in jest, they carry weight for you that they do not for me. IE, at some level, you mean what you say/write; knowing that means that my replies to your posts are meant in all seriousness.

Sarcasm, cynicism.

[solomon]

Don't date city girls.  You should be looking in Siberia or Moldova or rural western Ukraine.  The hard part starts after she arrives.  Settling down in Billings will be hard enough for a country girl.  It will be impossible otherwise.

 

I agree about the location. I am a slow learner but I think I have figured that out. Even girls that live in larger cities but are from small ones seem to be problematic. Also, the ones from the smaller towns seem to have more traditional values and less of a likelihood of being a goldigger.

[BC]

In your circumstances I would wait until you can invest the time necessary..  Time to find her, time to spend with her and time to help with her adjustment.  Can you afford 3 or more months away from your practice?

I think if I took this approach I would never have time. It is kind of like making time to exercise or have children. My practice will only become busier as it has already. [/quote][/quote]Sounds like a rather extreme analogy. [/quote]
Solomon,

Sure a bit extreme but happy you noted it.  I needed no time at all to search but we did spend a good bit of time together before marriage and a LOT of time after her arrival and getting settled in.

It's very tough initially to divide your time and attention between business and (new) private life..  Plan for the worst and be happy if it works out for you the way think it will. 

Don't underestimate the 'overhead' involved.  Putting a relationship together is one thing, keeping it intact especially with a RW is another.

 

[Timmy K.]

  For what it is worth, I'll tell you about my expierience with match making. I used  one simply because when I first started my search for RW, I was doing it on my own  and realized I definitely needed help. I have a tendency to want to tell people my whole story but it was brought to my attention the other day that I was hijacking the thread so I'll do my best to keep it short here. The agency I used was and is a small one, her motto is BE REALISTIC. and believe me this helps, You have to do a personal check on yourself, your income, your lifestyle, your free time activities, your resources to make more than one trip in a year, and last but not least what kind of a guy can you be for a RW woman. Are you really capable of True Love. This is where I got my best results. BE REALISTIC she tells me. OK-  So I did and I still am. 1- So I revealed my self from the very beginning letting these women know that I am not a wealthy man but I can be a good man for them.2- I gave examples of a middle income life style, real information and photos. 3- I stayed away from professional types in big cities, looking for common working girls like secretaries, nurses, factoriy workers and such. 4- I did not look for models staying in the range of looks from 1 thru 10 at about 5, 6, or 7 maybe 8. and the age range of above 30.This agency lady picked about 40 women for me to consider and I picked about 40 women and about half of our picks were the same. Remember Iwas being completely honest about my self. We sent out my introduction letter to all of them and I got about half back that were interested in me. I narrowed it down to 8 right before I left. This agency lady does have other priorities come to find out the hard way, She was full of hidden surprises that would nickel and dime a person for ever, She had a so called degree in Psycology and played marraige counselor way to much.When my first lady and I broke away from her she tried to raise havoc about this. But I also made some mistakes on my own with this last lady and this is a different story. Now I am still using an agency for assistance in translations. The only difference is this agency was recommended to me by a guy from this forum. I asked this new agency guy if I should use his personal search and he said stay within your means  and we will see what happens since I am on a little bit of a quick time table simply beacause I failed with this last one and did not want to lose the tickets. So far so good. I have 3 to meet and my favorite.

[catzenmouse]

[user=71]Timmy K.[/user] wrote:

 -- BE REALISTIC. and believe me this helps, You have to do a personal check on yourself, your income, your lifestyle, your free time activities, your resources to make more than one trip in a year, and last but not least what kind of a guy can you be for a RW woman. --

That is something that all too often gets tossed aside when guys start seeing all the drop dead beauties and get hooked into the hype surrounding the MOB scene. If you can manage to be and stay realistic in this endeavor you will already be halfway to being successful.

Ken

[Turboguy]

And here I thought the FSU was a place where all your Fantasies come true.  Maybe that was Disney Land. 

I think the hardest part of this is that you can have unrealistic expectations and have them come true at least once in a while.  More often your unrealistic expectations come true as long as you have your wallet out.

[Timmy K.]

FANTASY ISLAND Look boss de plane is coming, de plane is coming >and there are a lot of fat wallets on board. LOL> CAN'T, BUY ME LOVE, everybody tells me so. say you don't want no diamond rings and I'll be satisfied, tell me that you want the knd of things that money just can't buy>>>>

[Marc Dayton]

WOW, I have seen some hard post, but this is to much for me. It is nothing but a one size shoe fits all. He lives were he lives, and he has two choices he can stay bizzy waiting to die or he can get bizzy living! Finding what will make him happy is what this should be about.

 

He is a Lawyer he sees things from a Lawyers point of view. He needs to do what's best for him not what you think is best for him. He lives were he lives if an RW don't like it then the hell with her just say NEXT find one who wants the same things in life he wants not what you want.

 

 

We are who we are, and that's that!!!!

[TigerPaws]

[user=170]Marc Dayton[/user] wrote:

WOW, I have seen some hard post, but this is to much for me. It is nothing but a one size shoe fits all. He lives were he lives, and he has two choices he can stay bizzy waiting to die or he can get bizzy living! Finding what will make him happy is what this should be about.

He is a Lawyer

Well we all have out faults  just because Solomon is a bottom feeding, blood sucking leech dose not mean he can not find happiness.

 he sees things from a Lawyers point of view.

This might be difficult as there are very few deep pockets in the FSU.

He needs to do what's best for him not what you think is best for him. He lives were he lives if an RW don't like it then the hell with her just say NEXT find one who wants the same things in life he wants not what you want.
We are who we are, and that's that!!!!

Ok enough ragging on poor solomon, he can not help being a lawyer or living in a back water city in the middle of cow dung and grass.

Seriously I will agree solomon you need to look towards the smaller towns and villages, in rual Russia or the Ukraine, what I disagree with is the notion that you have to compromise on the looks and intelligence of the lady you are seeking. Yes you might have to compromise on her social sophisication vs a big city girl but I think that might be an acceptable compromise.

 

 

 

[solomon]

[user=170]Marc Dayton[/user] wrote:

WOW, I have seen some hard post, but this is to much for me. It is nothing but a one size shoe fits all. He lives were he lives, and he has two choices he can stay bizzy waiting to die or he can get bizzy living! Finding what will make him happy is what this should be about.

 

He is a Lawyer he sees things from a Lawyers point of view. He needs to do what's best for him not what you think is best for him. He lives were he lives if an RW don't like it then the hell with her just say NEXT find one who wants the same things in life he wants not what you want.

 

 

We are who we are, and that's that!!!!

Thank you Marc. As a lawyer I get thrown under the bus on a daily basis by either other lawyers or clients, so I am not taking any heat personally. Frankly, this discussion is only a 2 or 3 on a scale of 10 for the heat. Nonetheless, I appreciate the remarks.