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Offline I/O

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Kids, what value do they bring?
« on: June 14, 2010, 02:53:47 PM »
Just curious, what value do kids bring to an international relationship / any relationship?
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #1 on: June 14, 2010, 03:31:29 PM »
Do you mean ones you adopt or ones you make?  ;)
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #2 on: June 14, 2010, 03:59:07 PM »
Quote from: Voyager36 on June 14, 2010, 03:31:29 PM
Do you mean ones you adopt or ones you make?  ;)
Either, it's the product as much as the process however each probably brings unique factors?
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #3 on: June 14, 2010, 04:02:33 PM »
Kids teach you who you really are, and show you who your partner really is.
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #4 on: June 14, 2010, 04:07:29 PM »
My last marriage ended for unusual reasons... we broke up because of the kids (my daughter and her two sons from previous marriages).

Not sure this is much help with your question.  But it is one aspect that does come in to play.  If the kids don't get along, it can end an otherwise good relationship.
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #5 on: June 14, 2010, 04:20:10 PM »
Our kid forced us to really grow up fast and forget any outbursts of infantile behavior we might have manifested before.  ;)  Such an increase in maturity and responsibility has immensely benefited our relationship as well, as a secondary effect. 
Besides, she's such a joy. :)   
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #6 on: June 14, 2010, 05:08:11 PM »
She's adorable, BF!
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #7 on: June 14, 2010, 07:48:27 PM »
To me it's simple. It's more love to give and receive.
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #8 on: June 14, 2010, 11:20:46 PM »
Quote from: Boethius on June 14, 2010, 04:02:33 PM
Kids teach you who you really are, and show you who your partner really is.
Therefore we should have kids before we choose a marriage partner? ;D Imagine the visit many crowd with this one? >:(
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #9 on: June 15, 2010, 01:49:52 AM »
Kids add nothing, they are a source of stress, noise, dirt, they cost a lot of money and none of that will stop for at least 20 years.  :evil:
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #10 on: June 15, 2010, 04:28:49 AM »
Children will enhance a good marriage and ruin a bad one quicker.

Procreation is instinctual though and is a driving force.
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #11 on: June 17, 2010, 03:11:04 PM »
Quote from: Shadow on June 15, 2010, 01:49:52 AM
Kids add nothing, they are a source of stress, noise, dirt, they cost a lot of money and none of that will stop for at least 20 years.  :evil:


He's adorable too, Shadow.

I can't imagine our relationship without kids.  But, our kids are the only thing my husband and I have ever argued about.
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #12 on: June 17, 2010, 03:25:06 PM »
Quote from: Boethius on June 17, 2010, 03:11:04 PM
our kids are the only thing my husband and I have ever argued about.
LOL, kids are about the only thing my wife and I have not argued about.
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #13 on: June 17, 2010, 03:26:49 PM »
Maybe you need more kids.  Between making them and tending to them, you won't have time to argue.
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #14 on: June 17, 2010, 03:32:23 PM »
Quote from: Boethius on June 17, 2010, 03:26:49 PM
you won't have time to argue.
LOL, you really don't know us. :D

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Maybe you need more kids.
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Between making them
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and tending to them,
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #15 on: June 17, 2010, 03:57:52 PM »
Quote from: Boethius on June 17, 2010, 03:26:49 PM
Maybe you need more kids.  Between making them and tending to them, you won't have time to argue.

How much time does it take to make them?  :)
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #16 on: June 17, 2010, 04:58:04 PM »
Quote from: Shadow on June 15, 2010, 01:49:52 AM
Kids add nothing, they are a source of stress, noise, dirt, they cost a lot of money and none of that will stop for at least 20 years.  :evil:


Hah!
But at least they DO give an answer to who's gonna mow the lawn for a few years...  :evil:  put 'em to work!!  ANd if they're bad, you can always use 'em to make Baby Oil, Baby Powder, etc .. then pop out some more!
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #17 on: June 18, 2010, 12:20:32 AM »
Quote from: CanadaMan on June 17, 2010, 03:57:52 PM
How much time does it take to make them?  :)

You certainly seem to be younger than your age. :P
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #18 on: June 19, 2010, 04:57:26 PM »
Quote from: I/O on June 14, 2010, 02:53:47 PM
Just curious, what value do kids bring to an international relationship / any relationship?

Now you've got me thoroughly confused I/O.

By the topic question and the responses you've made in this thread it sounded like you were genuinely looking for informative replies; as someone who didn't have kids of their own.

But from the Sacramento thread I see that you have at least one young kid of your own.
What was the purpose then for the rhetorical topic question?

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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #19 on: June 19, 2010, 05:33:11 PM »
Quote from: CanadaMan on June 19, 2010, 04:57:26 PM
By the topic question and the responses you've made in this thread it sounded like you were genuinely looking for informative replies
Indeed it is designed to gain insights. Some good ones we've seen already. Mine, anyones, they can all be added to and the sum of which may be helpful to anyone including those who already have kids.

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What was the purpose then for the rhetorical topic question?
It's a genuine question which I am not sure many (kids or no kids) really examine and the outcomes (answers if you like) may spur some consideration prior to having kids and for those who have them, perhaps a deeper appreciation or horror depending how you look at it. >:(

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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #20 on: June 19, 2010, 09:04:36 PM »
I think it depends on whether you get a good one or a bad one.  ::)
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #21 on: June 20, 2010, 02:45:08 AM »
Quote from: pitbull on June 19, 2010, 09:04:36 PM
I think it depends on whether you get a good one or a bad one.  ::)
I doubt there are bad kids.  ;)
Btw you have a cute musician there.
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Re: Kids, what value do they bring?
« Reply #22 on: June 21, 2010, 10:21:46 PM »
She is adorable, pitbull.
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