A newbie looking for his Russian soulmate - any advice?

[bleda6]

Hi all.

My name is Bleda, an engineer and a newbie looking for his Russian soulmate and hopefully future wife..
Read through some of the posts and 10 commandments. Apprecite all the quality effort here..

I need help of the experienced members to suggest me a few online dating sites?
(There are hundreds of them on the web and I am really confused)
I have seen a few people recomending Elena's Models... any other decent/honest sites for me to begin with?

Thanks in advance..  Wish me luck:)

Bleda..

[Kuna]

You don't need hundreds of sites... dozens of women...  or any secret formula.

Keep it simple... and keep it real.  Starting with EM's is as good a place as any to start, but don't start writing (IMHO) unless you're ready (or close to ready) to visit.

The single most important thing you will do on this pursuit is to get on a plane - most men dreaming of a RW never even do that!

There is LOTS of good advice here and many good men to be trusted.  Be careful though,  this whole new world of dating is filled with pitfalls.  Be careful who you believe, online and in person.

Welcome to RWD by the way...  lucky you found this place early as it will be a valuable resource for you throughout your search.

Kuna

[GregfromGa]

Kuna hit on some very valid points. One of the main ones being dont start writing to ladies unless you are ready willing and able to get on a plane within the next few months to visit them. Where are you from?

[Faux Pas]

bleda

Welcome to RWD. You've already gotten some good advice. I would add, if you are serious in your pursuit and are ready to meet some serious women, sign up on Elena's Models and start sending EOIs to the ladies that interest you. This should be the only website you need and it covers the entire FSU and mostly with serious women. Yes there are others but quite honestly, the more you add the more confusing it can become. Start at EM and if you don't find what you are looking for there, then move on to another.

Good luck

[Aloe]

Is your real name Bleda? If not, i'd look for a new nickname

[Daveman]

Welcome to the board.

Which site(s) or agencies you use would also depend on how you want to go about it.  If you are looking to narrow down to one woman, perhaps two to visit, then EM is a great place to go.  If you are  looking to meet several then EM is not so great because the ones who will pique your interest will be scattered everywhere and become a problem of logistics on a visit. In the case of the latter, then a larger agency where you can travel to the city and peruse their catalog in person makes the most sense (to me anyway) - such as Cindy agency in Dnepr.  There's little to no letter writing this way so you meet first and develop communication later. 

If you go with the Visit One method, you may get lucky and meet your one on the first trip (some have done exactly this) or you could write a ton of letters to a lady, go visit her, and have everything crumble into dust within minutes of meeting. 

The main difference is with the Visit One (VO) you narrow down prior to a visit and take the risk of not hitting it off in person, with the Visit Many or Meet Many, you find face to face chemistry first then communicate more deeply.

So first, figure out what you're comfortable with.  Match the agency/website to the method you wish to use, which will be based on your personality and comfort zone.  There can be huge debates over which method is inherently better with the true answer, IMO, being neither one.  It's based on which is best for you and what you are most comfortable with.

[Shadow]

Welcome Bleda.

As Aloe mentioned you should know that telling your name will  sound offensive to Russians who have no idea it is a name.

Kuna has mentioned the most important point. While figuring out who and where to make contact, first have a good look in hte mirror and be sure you wanr to do this.

You need to be strong, financially secure (does not mean rich necessarily) and be able to put plenty of time and effort in.

Further more you need to be realistic, pragmatic and thick-skinned, and like to discover new things.

Are you ready ? Good luck.

[Kuna]

May I add one more piece of advice???  Be sure to enjoy the adventure and don't be too afraid to have some fun!   

OK OK...  one more piece of advice... You CANNOT be scammed if you don't start spending money on things (and people) you wouldn't normally spend on.

Oh...  OK, If you insist...  one more thing to consider. Think about picking a place to visit that you are interested in so you don't end up too obsessed with the ladies.  If you become obsessed,  you'll be lucky to find what you are really looking for.

[I/O]

It can't be explained how valuable a week kicking around the streets of almost any Russian city can be in being equiped to sift out the BS contained in online profiles and or information sites.

[Seeker]

It can't be explained how valuable a week kicking around the streets of almost any Russian city can be in being equiped to sift out the BS contained in online profiles and or information sites.

I agree.  And I prefer kicking around the streets.  The rest of it is just opinion.  Profiles, info-sites, agencies, forums, are all just opinions of other people.  Until you do it yourself, you have no idea what to expect. 

[bleda6]

Thanks for all the replies..

To be honest I have no idea what "bleda" means in Russian... It is my nickname by the way..

Can someone explain..

Bleda.

[Ranetka]

Thanks for all the replies..

To be honest I have no idea what "bleda" means in Russian... It is my nickname by the way..

Can someone explain..

Bleda.

Sounds too similar to Russian swear word for whore.

[Gator]

Bleda,

The phonetic spelling is: blyad.  So 'bleda' is close depending how you pronounce your nickname. 

You seek a soulmate, and the soulmate to a blyad would be of questionable character.

Polite Russians substitute 'blini' for blyad.   So change your nickname to blini, or better yet pancake.   

[Ranetka]

Bleda,

The phonetic spelling is: blyad.  So 'bleda' is close depending how you pronounce your nickname. 

You seek a soulmate, and the soulmate to a blyad would be of questionable character.

Polite Russians substitute 'blini' for blyad.   So change your nickname to blini, or better yet pancake.   

Gator,

It's blin, not blini. Blini can only refer to food.

[Ranetka]

On the other hand it is amuzing to watch how the same very members used to protect someone's right to be called Ass***** are now advising about the nickname with just a slight fonetical similarity...

[Gator]

On the other hand it is amuzing to watch how the same very members used to protect someone's right to be called Ass***** are now advising about the nickname with just a slight fonetical similarity...

Speaking of inconsistencies, how can a RW use English profanity yet balk at Russian profanity?   

RW have told me that American swear words are shorter and less powerful.  I found that odd at first, considering that no English word is as versatile as fu*k.  From the little that I know, Russian profanity is more colorful.

Supposedly Russian curse words were considered so bad that they were never in print until the 1990s according to: 

http://yedda.com/questions/Swear_Words_Russian_languages_2735314035198/

That would help explain the greater intensity of Russian profanity to RW.  My theory:  RW know the Russian words in the real context of personal recollections of ugly talk, and understandably find them offensive.  RW's exposure to American swear words is in films in the context of entertainment. 

Nevertheless, I am told that young AW use profanity in their relaxed speech far more freely than RW, excepting the bottom crawlers of the FSU society.

[Gator]

Ranetka,

I wrote this earlier then trashed it. 

The word 'blyad' illustrates the complexity of the Russian language.  Blyad has more meaning than just whore.  I read that it is one of the five mat roots of Russian profanity, and it has versatile use as explained in this webpage just below the video:

http://www.waytorussia.net/WhatIsRussia/Russian/SwearWords.html

BTW, the babushka in the video is supposedly demonstrating how to curse.

Bleda, in your quest for a soulmate, just don't take on a second part to your nickname that sounds like:   golubaya     

[Misha]

Speaking of inconsistencies, how can a RW use English profanity yet balk at Russian profanity?   

RW have told me that American swear words are shorter and less powerful.

I am not sure about the shorter part. The most powerful Russian swear words tend to be quite short.

However, IMHO swear words in one's native language always seem more "powerful" as they still carry more shock value for the speaker.

[Ranetka]

Ranetka,

I wrote this earlier then trashed it. 

The word 'blyad' illustrates the complexity of the Russian language.  Blyad has more meaning than just whore.  I read that it is one of the five mat roots of Russian profanity, and it has versatile use as explained in this webpage just below the video:

http://www.waytorussia.net/WhatIsRussia/Russian/SwearWords.html

BTW, the babushka in the video is supposedly demonstrating how to curse.

Bleda, in your quest for a soulmate, just don't take on a second part to your nickname that sounds like:   golubaya     

You are absolutely right on both your suggestions Gator.

English profanities never felt that strong to me because I heard them in films etc so I used to not take them so seriously. (I know better now but can still swear when I should not)
"Blyad" has more meaning than just "whore".

[Daveman]

Gives a whole new outlook on Blad the Impaler!

(ducking out quickly)

[Aloe]

Thanks for all the replies..

To be honest I have no idea what "bleda" means in Russian... It is my nickname by the way..

Can someone explain..

Bleda.

just change ur nickname   bad associations. If you see a person named assool or jirk, do you have any associations?

I also feel that english swearing is like baby talk compared to russian swearing, dunno why. Not sensitive to it at all

[Boethius]

I also feel that english swearing is like baby talk compared to russian swearing, dunno why. Not sensitive to it at all.

Because you're not a native speaker.

[Daveman]

just change ur nickname   bad associations. If you see a person named assool or jirk, do you have any associations?

I also feel that english swearing is like baby talk compared to russian swearing, dunno why. Not sensitive to it at all

Yep, there's nothing inherently bad or good about phonetic combinations other than our own mental image associations with them. "Snuffalodaflingamus" really isn't conceptually different from "bledawantsaporkin"  but the stored conceptual images will vary (though perhaps only slightly, depending on whether one's ever been laid by a Snuffalodaflingamus).

Take the Russian word for "how"... that one used to crack me up because I just couldn't stifle the mental image associated with the sound.  and it sounds like "poopok" is on the wrong wrong side!

So in essence, if certain words or phrases are offensive to some it is only because their own brains are beating (or cracking) them up!

[SFandEE]

Is there a reason why your soulmate needs to be Russian?