New question, sexual in nature.

[Misha]

I am bewildered by his selection of the name Fabio.  

I assumed it was because he believed that he looked like the model Fabio who was popular a few years back  :noidea:

[Misha]

One satisfying sexual experience since being single. While married I had 6 years of mind-blowing sex that appears to have scarred me.

I don't think you ever told us why you divorced such a woman  :evil:

Once you're used to having Filet Mignon every night it's tough to go back to hamburger.

If you go hungry for long enough, eventually even hamburger will start tasting pretty good 

So, other than mind-blowing sex, is there anything else that you look for in a woman?!?

[fabiodriven]

Or, as groov pointed out, you can write more clearly.  No one here is a mind reader.  So, cut out the passive-aggressive crap.

I'm sorry if you feel I'm being passive-aggressive, but I'm not being passive-aggressive. If I read a question that I didn't understand I just wouldn't reply. Nobody is making you respond to this thread (I think). If I re-phrase the question so it's better for you to understand then the other people who already understood it will be confused.

There have been some answers that I have really learned a lot from and others I don't like at all. If I don't like them, I just ignore them. I don't ask them to change anything. If there's a song on the radio you don't like, do you change the channel or complain to the radio?

[fabiodriven]

I don't think you ever told us why you divorced such a woman  :evil:

Who says I divorced her?

Everybody calls me Fabio and has for about 15 years. I was a very ugly teenager and my friend's uncle gave me that name. It was in ironic. Ugly kid named Fabio, get it? I have since "blossomed" into a halfway decent looking young man. I'm no "Fabio", so to speak, but I do well.

[Misha]

Who says I divorced her?

Ah, understood. In that case, it will certainly be difficult for you until you get over your ex. Looking to the FSU won't help IMHO.

[Boethius]

I'm sorry if you feel I'm being passive-aggressive, but I'm not being passive-aggressive. If I read a question that I didn't understand I just wouldn't reply. Nobody is making you respond to this thread (I think). If I re-phrase the question so it's better for you to understand then the other people who already understood it will be confused.

There have been some answers that I have really learned a lot from and others I don't like at all. If I don't like them, I just ignore them. I don't ask them to change anything. If there's a song on the radio you don't like, do you change the channel or complain to the radio?

People are trying to help you, and you are responding smugly.  

Knock it off.

[fabiodriven]

Ah, understood. In that case, it will certainly be difficult for you until you get over your ex. Looking to the FSU won't help IMHO.

I understand.

[BC]

I understand.

Do a little 'research work' into FSU porn.. 

Over the years on RW related fora, the only aspect that seems to stick out a bit is that some FSUW may be a bit more 'quiet' than expected.  This may be related to long term living in close living quarters with parents etc..

If you like 'screamers' in bed you may not luck out.

YMMV (a lot)

[I/O]

this hole process

Lord forgive me...!!! 

[tim 360]

One satisfying sexual experience since being single. While married I had 6 years of mind-blowing sex that appears to have scarred me. Once you're used to having Filet Mignon every night it's tough to go back to hamburger.

Fabio,  have you considered getting back together with your former wife?  She might be one in a million, like irreplaceable--6 years of mind-blowing sex is pretty good in my book.  You were a fool to let her go.  She is going to be difficult to replace.  So what if you have to grovel and crawl, I think for you it will be worth it.  How many more hamburgers can you take when you know just where the Filet Mignon is? 

[Jack]

Lord forgive me...!!! 

damn!   and I just knew wiz would be the first to notice.   

[fabiodriven]

Fabio,  have you considered getting back together with your former wife?  She might be one in a million, like irreplaceable--6 years of mind-blowing sex is pretty good in my book.  You were a fool to let her go.  She is going to be difficult to replace.  So what if you have to grovel and crawl, I think for you it will be worth it.  How many more hamburgers can you take when you know just where the Filet Mignon is? 

I would love to man. It wasn't my choice to end it and she doesn't want to get back together.

[facetrock]

   The fact that you would love to get back together with your ex is the biggest reason you cant find someone that satisfys you. Going to Russia with your ex on your mind will confuse you to no end. You could also end up making a bad decison because your still not over your divorce or thinking clearly. Date locally and for fun. Bang a few here and there. Your not ready for Russia or a long term relationship yet.

[I/O]

Your not ready for Russia or a long term relationship yet.

I still think, snowflakes chance in hell. 

[Gator]

Fabio,

Your divorce is affecting your relationships with women.  Is it also affecting your job?  How is your sleep?  Appetite?  Have you lost interest in past hobbies?   Do you see friends as much as you did in the past?

Divorce is not easy, yet the reality is that your marriage did not work.  Whatever caused your marriage to dissolve is probably not corrected, and quite possibly never will be.   How long has it been since your breakup?  Official divorce decree?  If over a year for the first and six months for the latter, I suggest that you make one visit to a therapist, listen to what he/she has to say, and go from there.

For sure, you are not ready to make a trip to the FSU other than for an adventure.  If your goal would be to:

1.  To find a replacement for your ex-wife, or

2.  To prove to ex-wife that you can find a beautiful woman, or

3.  To make your ex-wife jealous,

you need to see that therapist. 

[Turboguy]

I agree that it would be helpful to know the timeline, how long it has been since the breakup and divorce?   Usually the first 6 months are the worst but it can often take a few years to get over someone enough to really move on.  It is usually also worse to be the one who was left and not the one doing the leaving.  It can leave you with insecurity and doubts about your self worth.

I think there are two schools of thought.  One is to wait until you are over the person so your mind can be clear and you don't make a mistake of grabbing hold of someone on the rebound to fill the lonliness.  The other is finding a really special person who is even better than the one you had can make you forget that person ever existed.

I do think in Fabio's case talking to someone such as Gator suggested might help. 

[ML]

Just curious here, but why are some assuming that the OP needs any sort of help in getting over the ex?  He has only mentioned (as I recall) not finding as good a sex partner as she was.  But that in itself does mean to me that he needs counseling and should not move on with other ladies.

Really good sex partners for mind blowing sex are very hard to find.  So nothing surprising to me that he hasn't found a second such partner.  I think they would be something like a 1 in 20 chance to find, or maybe even greater odds.

I think the idea of waiting some long period of time after a divorce to start looking again is an over rated concept.  Waiting to get married again, yes; but not to start dating.  What about the cowboy wisdom?

[Turboguy]

Well, I am sure there are some who think that anyone who is interested in RW would need a shrink but in rereading his first post and thinking about it I agree with you.  He doesn't need one.   Since the problem is that he can't find another women with mind blowing sex he evidently has been single long enough to be over her. 

If he thinks mind blowing sex is the only criteria for a good relationship he may but I assume he does not and that is just a part of the package he is looking for. 

[Faux Pas]

Just curious here, but why are some assuming that the OP needs any sort of help in getting over the ex?  He has only mentioned (as I recall) not finding as good a sex partner as she was.  But that in itself does mean to me that he needs counseling and should not move on with other ladies.

Really good sex partners for mind blowing sex are very hard to find.  So nothing surprising to me that he hasn't found a second such partner.  I think they would be something like a 1 in 20 chance to find, or maybe even greater odds.

I think the idea of waiting some long period of time after a divorce to start looking again is an over rated concept.  Waiting to get married again, yes; but not to start dating.  What about the cowboy wisdom?

Theres different schools of thought on that too. One of them and the one to which I subscribe is any woman is certainly capable of mind-blowing sex. Of course "mind-blowing" is subjective and different definition for different people. But, if the man or the woman is good enough and has patience enough they'll share and teach to the partner what constitutes mind-blowing sex for them. If they are worthy enough the partner very likely responds.

OTOH, if a woman performs some mind blowing sex one has to wonder how she became so prolific. Does he really want to know the answer to that question?   I always preferred to be the teacher and let the other guys wonder

[vwrw]

I cannot understand why you guys seem to think that women’s performance is the major factor in determining whether you would have unsatisfactory, satisfactory or mind-blowing sex. Have it never happened in your life that with the same woman you occasionally had sex that could be characterized as mind-blowing sex, on other occasion it was satisfactory, and sometimes the sex with the woman was unsatisfactory?

[Misha]

Have it never happened in your life that with the same woman you occasionally had sex that could be characterized as mind-blowing sex, on other occasion it was satisfactory, and sometimes the sex with the woman was unsatisfactory?

Yes, and I am pretty certain that women could likely say the same thing about their long-term partners  :evil:

[ML]

But, if the man or the woman is good enough and has patience enough they'll share and teach to the partner what constitutes mind-blowing sex for them. If they are worthy enough the partner very likely responds.

I strongly disagree.  Some women (and men) will never be good at sex, no matter who is the partner.  Mostly it is because they are not that interested.

[ML]

I cannot understand why you guys seem to think that women’s performance is major factor in determining whether you would have unsatisfactory, satisfactory or mind-blowing sex. Have it never happened in your life that with the same woman you occasionally had sex that could be characterized as mind-blowing sex, on other occasion it was satisfactory, and sometimes the sex with the woman was unsatisfactory?

Yes, with a woman who is capable of mind blowing sex, there will be times in which she and her partner will not experience it.

However, the reverse is not true.  With a woman who performs unsatisfactory at sex (regardless of who her partner is) she will not move up to mind blowing sex.  Same can be said for the man of course.

And, as  I said before, the woman or man will likely never improve, basically because  they are simply not that interested  in sex.

[Shadow]

I strongly disagree.  Some women (and men) will never be good at sex, no matter who is the partner.  Mostly it is because they are not that interested.

Not interested in sex or in the partner ? 

[Turboguy]

Personally I think sex to a degree is a matter of the mind and when you have strong feelings for someone the sex will be great.  If you are not into someone then it may not be.

Everyone has their own ideas about what good, bad and mind blowing sex is.  To me, bad sex might be when a woman just lays there staring off to the side at the walls counting the flowers on the wallpaper and looking like she may go to sleep.  When two people love each other I don't think that happens.