how young is too young?

[dbneeley]

In every part of human relations I can think of, there are always exceptions. Large age gap relationship are no different.

There are always a few of these marriages that are extremely happy ones, although they are relatively few in number. Most, of course, are train wrecks from the earliest stages.

The problem is that many men who seek a much younger mate believe that *they* will be among the exceptions. Of course, in most cases they are deluding themselves.

I think it is likely that the odds are somewhat better if one or both of the people involved were themselves children or grandchildren of a large age gap marriage.

In my case, my wife is eleven and a half years younger than I am--and even that much difference concerned me when we met. At that time, I was 51 and my wife was 40.

In my experience, it is a rare person not yet at least in their latter twenties who has much of a clue who they will be when they grow up. It seems true that the relatively more difficult life in the FSU may cause a bit earlier maturation--but the changes here in the last twenty years have lessened this factor considerably, I believe.

David

[JR]

I just scanned (fast ) the stuff between Ed and Jack.  I like both guys, both have more info in their respective theaters than I ... but, hey, I might have something helpful to say on the age old question, "How young is too young"

Who is asking and why is part of the problem, and solution - if there actually is a problem in the first place.

Are you a man that is TRYING to feel younger; TRYING to enjoy that which time has rightly passed on by?  I will be honest and say that I was such a guy.  I was BLOWN AWAY that dating women 20 years younger was possible (actually, after 13 years of a "so so" marriage I should was amazed to see dating sexually active women existed.  Such things make men feel alive and full of energy.  That is the way it is.  It is intoxicating, and can make an otherwise balanced / mature  man go completely bat s$it. 

How young is too young?  When the benefits of being with a physically attractive young women does not exceed the pain caused by a lack of interest, intelligence, or commonality in conversation and company.  Although most men think with their eyes, the "newness" of physical beauty does not last long in almost every case.  There is some truth behind the saying that when you see a beautiful women, there exists a man that has already grown bored with her beauty. 

What I saying, in a slightly different way, is beauty is only skin deep.  And age is only a number.  I wish we could blame the online dating sites for making it more of an issue than it is ... but, that would be a gross oversimplification.

stop making sense....you're killing the dream))

[JR]

My view is that if I marry a lady from my home town then there's a 50%+ chance we'll be walking in opposite directions before too long (my record on that front is impeccable), so I might as well marry a young un and enjoy myself in the process ..... the end result is likely to be the same. 

now ain't dat da troooff )))

[2tallbill]

Hi all,
i have a question. i have been on a dating site and i have a big age gap of women who show interest in me from age of 20-46, i am 45. i want to know how young should i consider? i do not want to get involved with some 20 year old hottie and find she is just looking for a green card to the states. but i also do not want to miss a 20 year old hottie who might be serious. see my quandary?
thanks

Take your age, then subtract 10 years. Stick to that unless you are heart throb handsome, rich and/or famous.