Blondie thoughts about everything....

[Gator]

Dear Friends pls recommend to a dating site exclusively for me. What do I need to focus or how best to establish itself.

In this venture you will find more unworthy men than worthy men. Accept that fact.  Thus, do not stop looking.  Keep trying.   The leading salesmen are usually those who make the most sales calls.   The oil companies with the most oil discoveries are those who drill the most holes.  The leading hitters in baseball usually strike out (fail miserably) more than they hit home runs (succeed).

So list yourself on Elena's Models but be yourself, not a bimbo that Elena suggests with bikini photos.  The type of man who you would like is probably reading the words in the profiles more than gawking at bikini photos.


Try everything.  As Muzh says, try a social site.   Attend events where desirable men also go (when unattached I went to yoga classes where women outnumbered men 7::1).  Is there a wine tasting club or cigar club in your city?   And date Russian men.   Socialize - meet friends of friends.

Most important - make the search enjoyable and fun.    

[Sia]

hello Миша!
I just can not flirtatious or invitingly to pose for fotosession.She advised to make usual, natural photos of attractive poses with sexy clothes, to show dignity, it is advantageous to emphasize body,In personal appeal she offers to write an essay on why I drop dead and the most attractive and in general I do not is premenstrual syndrome, and problems in life and in the world in general I do noy worry.In general I must stand forever hateful positive girl with a pasted smile on my face constantly smiling and praise. Perhaps this is correct if I was on the level of consciousness five y o baby girl.Also, she advises to lure men with sweet stories of what I am smart sexy funny interesting fun upbeat easy-going, love sports, golf (even if I never held a stick in my hand I do not know who is Tiger Woods) and so on.))) In Overall I must create a better image of women on the planet that all the men rushed to get my hand and my heart after the first reading profile .. I wondered .... or on any item I did not go through ... I can not lie, flirt, too, it is advantageous to lower strap t-shirt (example) for amateur photo has not learned to do and talk about the fact that I have a degree in space engineering and in general I have an ideal environment ideal as a language is not rotated. Want of sincerity and truth in all things, which is, so there is no glamor)))

[Misha]

hello Миша!
I just can not flirtatious or invitingly to pose for fotosession.She advised to make usual, natural photos of attractive poses with sexy clothes, to show dignity, it is advantageous to emphasize body

Привет Сия!

I agree, too much is not good. However, most men are visual creatures. Each man will look at a photo seeking specific traits. I have to confess, I always found women who were too thin a turn-off. Other men prefer this type. It was a factor in the choices I made, and I would try to gauge this no matter what a woman was wearing. Also, a nice smile usually made a big difference: a woman with a smile usually comes across as nice and more approachable...

Also, she advises to lure men with sweet stories of what I am smart sexy funny interesting fun upbeat easy-going, love sports, golf (even if I never held a stick in my hand I do not know who is Tiger Woods) and so on.)))

The important thing, IMHO, is to show a positive, upbeat personality. If talking about space engineering makes you happy, then you should talk about that. The type of person that drives me away are and were those who were always down, depressed, morose, complaining about something...

[Shostakovich]

Hello Sia,

First off, you are going to succeed.  Impatience is probably your worst enemy.  Consider also that many who are married (probably more who will admit it) wish to be single again and the other way around.  In the US the avg. divorce rate is 50% and up around 70% on the coasts.  Many stay together for fear of being alone, for the kids or because of religion: i.e., not be cause their relationship is so great.  And so, tally it up and I think you'll likely agree with me that maybe only 10% of pairings are really good.  A woman with a great education and career like you does not need a relationship to prosper so you can afford to set your sites higher, but in such circumstances you will not doubt find that it is lonely at the top.  Don't buy into the populist tripe that a woman without a man is no woman at all.  Better to be single than badly paired.  Many seek validation through relationship, I don't think that is you but, personally, I think its the worst reason to couple up.  In any event, a big question is why do this at all - what void is there that drives this.  Better to fill it yourself than rely upon someone else to do it for you.  In the old days, people had to pair to survive.  In these days many don't have to pair and the don't get the push from religion either, and thus they circle in the existentialist vortex trying to figure it all out, one that you get grey hairs with and eventually  , understanding that much of this pairing business is a fool's game.

As for the dating sites, it is all in the numbers.  You've done the right thing by rejecting Elena's advice.  I do not think it is the average man you want and so no sense trying to comport yourself to appeal to one.  I've run that gauntlet on Match.com and such.  In fact I have a profile up now, but haven't written any letters, optimistically; maybe 1-2% of those profiles are really interesting.  But sometimes a person comes out of the woodwork and writes me.  There are also the high-end dating sites, mostly this is for wealthy men to meet gold diggers, but again, it's the exception that I think you'd be interested in.

Great advice, huh?  Perhaps it is time to renounce - actually, I think that is where I am headed.  Success as a monk may be the best success of all.

M.   

[Gator]

hello Миша!
I just can not flirtatious or invitingly to pose for fotosession.She advised to make usual, natural photos of attractive poses with sexy clothes, to show dignity, it is advantageous to emphasize body,In personal appeal she offers to write an essay on why I drop dead and the most attractive and in general I do not is premenstrual syndrome, and problems in life and in the world in general I do noy worry.In general I must stand forever hateful positive girl with a pasted smile on my face constantly smiling and praise.

As I suggested, don't follow Elena's Model guidelines.  EM's goal is not to get you married but to sell membership subscriptions to as many men as possible.   The EM guidelines are not you, so why would you want the type of man the guidelines attract.  Be yourself (in few, clear words).  Shostakovich and Mish could write for you an appealing self-description.  I have done it for a few RW with whom I communicated but failed to connect.

EM  is correct about one aspect - very few men would find pessimistic thoughts attractive.  Be optimistic/positive.
 
Based on the few photos you have shown here, you are an attractive woman.  Natural photos will show enough to attract genuine men, but not the men looking for a sex slave.  The latter men want to see your popka, etc.

[SFandEE]

Maybe those who are sharing their experience can post photos from EM that are appropriate for Sia.  I agree about avoiding bikini and lingerie photos, but if you have a nice shape it would be something that a man with good intentions would want to see, perhaps in your favorite dress.  I like to see a smile too, but as has been suggested, best to be yourself.

Good luck.

[Misha]

Maybe those with experience can post photos from EM that are appropriate for Sia.  I agree about avoiding bikini and lingerie photos, but if you have a nice shape it would be something that a man with good intentions would want to see, perhaps in your favorite dress.  I like to see a smile too, but as has been suggested, best to be yourself.

I decided to take a look at the profiles. Of course, I do not have a membership, so I can only look at the main photo. But, honestly, if I were single, these are the women that I would be writing to based on photos that IMHO highlight their beauty, without being vulgar or too posed:

http://www.elenasmodels.com/index.php?ap=4960397
http://www.elenasmodels.com/index.php?ap=4026907
http://www.elenasmodels.com/index.php?ap=4042694
http://www.elenasmodels.com/index.php?ap=7680882
http://www.elenasmodels.com/index.php?ap=5254647

[Sia]

:-)
Misha as well that you and I have different tastes in women. I'm not a lesbian and has never been caught red-handed. But your girls are not make me fire. No wonder they say-tastes differ. But I can say about your preferences:Yes you Do, you like naturalness, humility, peace, integrity, to some extent, passivity and stability of character. You choose to "gray mouse" Wild linx.Cause that you're so comfortable, it certainly is logical and easy that  live on active volcano all the time and do not know when it will explode, the best ever in the same rhythm to sail in a boat on a calm river.  

[Misha]

live on active volcano all the time and do not know when it will explode

Honestly, I wouldn't want a volcano. Most of the time they make a lot of noise and smoke and when they do blow up, they are extremely destructive 

The thing is, different men seek different things. Choose photos that best express your personality and photos that will attract the kind of man who will be into you.

[Sia]

Honestly, I wouldn't want a volcano. Most of the time they make a lot of noise and smoke and when they do blow up, they are extremely destructive  

The thing is, different men seek different things. Choose photos that best express your personality and photos that will attract the kind of man who will be into you.

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[Misha]

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interesting This variant can show the depth of my soul and modest disposition?

It all depends as to how you define modesty 

[Sia]

interesting question.And as yourself defines, modesty and being humble? Likewise, people can argue where the line between erotic art and pornography outright.

[SFandEE]

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interesting This variant can show the depth of my soul and modest disposition?

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[Sia]

Thank you for your compliment. But as they say in Russia, "not born beautiful and be born lucky!"

Paraphrasing, born beautiful, happy, wise, calm, balanced, optimistic, and another that was oil derrick in personal property(  ), a gentle loving heart "

[LAman]

Thank you for your compliment. But as they say in Russia, "not born beautiful and be born lucky!"

Paraphrasing, born beautiful, happy, wise, calm, balanced, optimistic, and another that was oil derrick in personal property(  ), a gentle loving heart "

Great Sia, you have your opening line and don't leave out the cute little devil!!!!
From what I do understand about you, sentuality is at your core!!! :evil:
Why change anything and try to attract the wrong man.......as someone said before, be yourself!!!!

[Sia]

Great Sia, you have your opening line and don't leave out the cute little devil!!!!
From what I do understand about you, sentuality is at your core!!! :evil:
Why change anything and try to attract the wrong man.......as someone said before, be yourself!!!!

You know, I'm thinking a lot lately on the secret of success. Shostakovich again will laugh at me and say that all the anguish of love is just a drug addiction from the endorphins and dopamine which rises in the brain at the time of love. Do not argue, biochemical processes play an important role in behavioral reactions of course.But I'm not ready to believe that our whole life is just the set of conditional and unconditional reflexes .Im not  a Pavlov's dog, I am alive! And in me is not only 50 kg of body weight with the hair-nails-skin, but also 20 grams of the soul ... Love is not only a chemical reaction, where one protein people find common amino acid exchange ends with other proteins women .... it's a mystery, a mystery .... and you can argue endlessly about what to change in yourself as a magnet to attract the right partner. Happiness can find you at the gas station when you're waiting for their turn to fill the tank, and sometimes it passes close but your eyes closed.Sekond decide everything .... the fate of the events are sometimes changed during the sweep of a butterfly's wing

[LAman]

You know, I'm thinking a lot lately on the secret of success. Shostakovich again will laugh at me and say that all the anguish of love is just a drug addiction from the endorphins and dopamine which rises in the brain at the time of love. Do not argue, biochemical processes play an important role in behavioral reactions of course.But I'm not ready to believe that our whole life is just the set of conditional and unconditional reflexions.Im not  a Pavlov's dog, I am alive! And in me is not only 50 kg of body weight with the hair-nails-skin, but also 20 grams of the soul ... Love is not only a chemical reaction, where one protein people find common amino acid exchange ends with other proteins women .... it's a mystery, a mystery .... and you can argue endlessly about what to change in yourself as a magnet to attract the right partner. Happiness can find you at the gas station when you're waiting for their turn to fill the tank, and sometimes it passes close but your eyes closed.Sekond decide everything .... the fate of the events are sometimes changed during the sweep of a butterfly's wing

Yes Sia.....happiness can very likely happen when you are NOT looking for it. Life is that way. At times when you try very hard to do/obtain something....things don't work out well. Just going about life doing things you enjoy that bring you happiness should fulfill those 20 grams in your soul!!! About those ~50kg........ very nicely proportioned!!!

[Sia]

Hah))yes Im little Hobbit..

so if Im Frodo

where is my treasure ? my ring?))) or Gendolf aghrrrr? 

[AsH]

Your precccccccccccccccccccccccious

[Sia]

hehe  :evil: what about sweet *** from * AsH??

[AsH]

Yes good she's very sweet

[Misha]

interesting question.And as yourself defines, modesty and being humble?

I tend to see modesty as freedom from vanity and egotism  The opposite of modesty, for me, is boastfulness.

[Sia]

Freedom from vanity and egotism, is the wisdom and confidence but not overconfidence. Modesty is the taming of pride and egotism.We did not born with modesty, it acquired as a result of your personality .... Humility ..... Consolation ... Reducing the importance and superiority in the face of others. Modesty does not always mean spirituality. Therefore, to play verbal ping-pong can be indefinitely

[Misha]

We did not born with modesty, it acquired as a result of your personality ....

I would disagree. I have yet to see any babies born with vanity 

Modesty does not always mean spirituality.

I would disagree again. True modesty is seen by most religions as an essential component of becoming closer to the sacred. Extreme vanity, narcissism, is generally an impediment to true spirituality in most religions 

[Sia]

you want to join with me in the debate? Well let's try to find the truth in the dispute. I can only say that the child comes into this world innocent.After some years it lay imprint parental education, society, various information from TV-street-school-college. Religion also puts its mark on a person's identity. Not everyone manages to keep his natural Self and Mindfulness.What about me- I have not met the ideal of people with small children who could be emulated. Usually in excess of the ideal qualities emerge as a result of life experience and deferred errors. Life teaches the method of trial and error. It's like the analogy: the fool learns from his mistakes, the wise learn from the mistakes of fools. But I was more interested in another moment. I do not believe in God and believe that many religions is the highest echelon of power directed to monitor and manage mass of people.But is something that is not possible to convey in words and protest. I believe in a Supreme Being, the supreme law that pays for all and sundry. It is very difficult ... and for a long time