Blondie thoughts about everything....

[Daveman]

In this venture you will find more unworthy men than worthy men. Accept that fact.  Thus, do not stop looking.  Keep trying.   The leading salesmen are usually those who make the most sales calls.   The oil companies with the most oil discoveries are those who drill the most holes.  The leading hitters in baseball usually strike out (fail miserably) more than they hit home runs (succeed).

So list yourself on Elena's Models but be yourself, not a bimbo that Elena suggests with bikini photos.  The type of man who you would like is probably reading the words in the profiles more than gawking at bikini photos.


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Well stated.  Success in generally hiding behind that/those failure(s), in any context.  

Of course "tastes" vary, and the main photo is the trigger to get a man to open your profile in the first place but I also read every word of a woman's profile. Some had very little such as "we shall discover all in correspondence" to whom I rarely wrote.  That came across to me as either a shallow mind or sheer laziness which was a huge turnoff for me.  Even if her English skills weren't all that great, surely she could have put the effort into at least translating a few paragraphs.  

Some men have stated the opposite opinion, that words in a profile are of zero value and suggest not reading anything there at all, and just go by the photos.  To each his own.  IMO, the looks/photos attract but it's the mind/personality which captivates - and generally those whom you can "captivate", even briefly in a profile, stand a better chance of being similar and potentially more compatible.

[Sia]

ok
well
I will repeat my personal topic there on EM com
"Attempt to meet someone especial on the Internet is similar to a lottery.Never know it will luck for you or not.We are all need one and the same things:Love, respect, understanding, a comfortable joint life and overall aims and hobbies. It is the simple recipe of happiness and a harmonious life. Ourselves are guilty that all we complicate and we do not wish to become easier a little. Struggle for the superiority of own egoism it becomes frequent the reason of disintegration of relations. I want to ask who will be read my message. Stop for a minute, look round itself, cease to think of problems, they will be always (there will be no money or the neighbour in the house will awake you in the weekend mornings with the infinite repair) simply accept it as cheerful adventures, look at itself, tell to itself "hey Friend ,perfect weather today,smile pls!", make to the pleasant woman, you present a compliment of the old Lady which will meet in the street. Look at the world eyes of the child. Cease to be at war with the world and the world will present you all about what you only dream. I wish all to find that that so long escapes you.

(I write and for myself by the way too)"

and was this also about personality

"Personality   True love it when you accept the person such what it is, when you allow it to be oneself and respect all good and bad lines in character. It when you do not count up LOVE how many have been given and received instead of feelings of forces of nerves and emotions. It when you simply love love without demanding anything in exchange. The love is a pardon, the love is butterflies in a stomach, the love when the torn sock does not cause irritation only a smile. Love it when you presume to be to yourself the child and when you are the successful adult man can put out the tongue at the serious woman in the lift))))

love else when you sing about yourself a cheerful silly song during time walk on a night city.... And happiness when someone nearby for the sake of which you are ready to give the life...."

[Misha]

I can only say that the child comes into this world innocent.

I agree, which is why I stated that I do not know of any child born vain with an exaggerated sense of self  Thus, one could say that we are all born modest 

I believe in a Supreme Being, the supreme law that pays for all and sundry. It is very difficult ... and for a long time

What do these supreme laws entail for you?

[Sia]

Do you think this is an interesting topic for discussion in such a topic for inter dresses cosmetics and shoes with high heels? 

Well, I can not deny the man's request to explain his point of view. I will real Schaherazade(personage from Arabian fairytale).
I believe that the universe is a huge information field in which there is no end and no beginning, there is no good or bad. Assessment of people have come up with once upon a time, for your own peace of mind. in fact, all that is indifferent, our thoughts and our own attitude to the situation or to something that gets some shade (plus or minus) has resulted in a life experience (for example if we have a child burned his finger with hot milk, we are always wary will treat all mugs with milk in the future, unknowingly, to avoid repetition of child cases, for example, or hurt us in childhood, the boy with red hair and in the future we will be intuitive to hang labels on all the red-haired people say they are harmful and can hurt us). If people accept the truth of the fact that there is no duality, all have a common origin with no good or bad, and will understand the simple law-what goes around, comes around, will become easier and more comfortable to live. We build our reality our thoughts are translated into action and materialize.To same thing in a relationship, if you open the good, love, you have no gain or doubts, you can drag in their reality that man. That is to say YOu can materialize your own reality.Many many time ago proved that even the stones have their own frequency vibrations at the molecular level, they also have the energy. Energy is in the water, plants, animals, and us-in the people .. We will contact, we are all variations of something higher ... but we have not given this to know.I think its cool  and it was found would be a couple of latter-day gods who would apply all this knowledge is not in the mind-can be real real Apocalypsis)))) oh it's frightening

[Muzh]

Юлия

You forgot about trust and loyalty. Especially trust which is hard to come by in a long distance relationship.

Personally, I like the second avatar you posted. The last picture you posted goes along the same lines. To me, that is you. If you want to be successful you have to "advertise" the real you. The "problem" that I see is that you will have a difficult time weeding out the candidates that compliment the real you.

As you saw from Misha's comments you'd have a tough time getting a guy like Misha to look at you seriously. Please understand that this is by no means a swipe a you, Misha. I think you are cool. The point is that if Юлия would put pictures that would show a more modest person instead of the "volcano" she is, she'd be attracting the "wrong" kind of suitors. By wrong, I mean they would not compliment each other.

So I would suggest to you to advertise that part of you, the volcano. Regarding your biochemical reactions (I'm a biochemist) finding true love, well that's part of it. As a matter of fact, it is very important AFTER your souls meet.

Many here have stated and I believe is part of their "10 commandments" not to fall in love with a picture. Well, the reason I zeroed on my wife after looking at thousands of profiles were her eyes. You may look at her and find they may be just an ordinary pair of eyes. To me, they were the door to her soul. Remember, I only wrote to one woman, my wife.

[Sia]

Trust- painful theme for me. I dont wont to comment it pls.For their faith, I paid off all the pain and I had a year to heal and to smile in spite of everything, and re-learn to trust. I know the value of trust and loyalty

[Misha]

If you want to be successful you have to "advertise" the real you. The "problem" that I see is that you will have a difficult time weeding out the candidates that compliment the real you.

Good point. A woman may post a photo thinking it represents A, but many men will take it to mean B.

As you saw from Misha's comments you'd have a tough time getting a guy like Misha to look at you seriously. Please understand that this is by no means a swipe a you, Misha. I think you are cool.

Thanks. No insult taken, and you are correct.

[Daveman]

Good point. A woman may post a photo thinking it represents A, but many men will take it to mean B.

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heh, that's certainly true.  Simplicity is also an endearing trait in the complexity of life and relations.. I would have written to her because of something she wrote in another thread.. something like (obviously paraphrasing) - "I love to walk barefoot through puddles after rain"... which indicates to me a deep appreciation of the simple pleasures in life as well as a "little girl" side who loves to play. 

[Sia]

Exactly! You understood correctly. Therefore, someone will read in my post of the true me because it has the wisdom and deep thinking, and someone will make a wrong conclusion based on my personal experience ... and experience at all different

[Misha]

"I love to walk barefoot through puddles after rain"... which indicates to me a deep appreciation of the simple pleasures in life as well as a "little girl" side who loves to play. 

Whereas I would read it as someone trying too hard to come across as playful and romantic 

[Sia]

despite the fact that popcorn in reasonable quantities useful for the functioning of the intestines and I would not recommend eating it too much. There is a high likelihood of volvulus due aerogenesis .Complex cellulose ....

About my Em profile
Question removed .. I removed profile.So as there is no ground for the discussion to my mind is temporarily suspended.

[Shostakovich]

You know, I'm thinking a lot lately on the secret of success. Shostakovich again will laugh at me and say that all the anguish of love is just a drug addiction from the endorphins and dopamine which rises in the brain at the time of love. Do not argue, biochemical processes play an important role in behavioral reactions of course.But I'm not ready to believe that our whole life is just the set of conditional and unconditional reflexes .Im not  a Pavlov's dog, I am alive! And in me is not only 50 kg of body weight with the hair-nails-skin, but also 20 grams of the soul ... Love is not only a chemical reaction, where one protein people find common amino acid exchange ends with other proteins women .... it's a mystery, a mystery .... and you can argue endlessly about what to change in yourself as a magnet to attract the right partner. Happiness can find you at the gas station when you're waiting for their turn to fill the tank, and sometimes it passes close but your eyes closed.Sekond decide everything .... the fate of the events are sometimes changed during the sweep of a butterfly's wing

Ya-ya 21 grams, where does it go?  A mystery!  A mystery!  21 is weight of soul for 50KG girl?  Do I get a bigger soul as 90KG man?

True, true -- the mind's momentum.  And Pavlov's doggie fetches the ball when thrown - and what a happy dog when fetching!  Master says good doggie!  Just like RWD men salvinate at bikini girl with good ass!  So important for happiness!  We do what we've done but what sparks the first motion?  Yes, very mysterious.  No laughing matter!  Or maybe only laughing matter!  A mystery!

Secret of success?  Why think about that?  What is success - that you get what you want?  And why do you want what you want?  Get good sweetheart, fetching like dog: to show to friends so then they will like me or because then I'll feel good about myself if someone feels good about me?  A mystery!

[Gator]

About my Em profile
Question removed .. I removed profile.

Why?

A good fisherman selects a desirable bait, drops it at a place that should have fish, and keeps it in the water in front of the fish.  If the fish do not bite, he may change baits, etc., yet he does not stop.

[Sia]

probably because I'm not a fisherman, and probably because I do not like fish.
I am woman action, I go by instinct, if I understand it's stupid, I refuse. I like risk and adventure but within reasonable limits. I will often fill the machine)))) and go to the library as a Posse

[Sia]

Ya-ya 21 grams, where does it go?  A mystery!  A mystery!  21 is weight of soul for 50KG girl?  Do I get a bigger soul as 90KG man?

True, true -- the mind's momentum.  And Pavlov's doggie fetches the ball when thrown - and what a happy dog when fetching!  Master says good doggie!  Just like RWD men salvinate at bikini girl with good ass!  So important for happiness!  We do what we've done but what sparks the first motion?  Yes, very mysterious.  No laughing matter!  Or maybe only laughing matter!  A mystery!

Secret of success?  Why think about that?  What is success - that you get what you want?  And why do you want what you want?  Get good sweetheart, fetching like dog: to show to friends so then they will like me or because then I'll feel good about myself if someone feels good about me?  A mystery!

 Do not chase quantity. It is not always proportional to quality. You know it.

I know what I want ... for you it will sound banalno.A for me, no. I know that I can perfectly live in loneliness and isolation. I know that I can live without the usual comfortable things.I know what is to lose loved ones. I know that everything passes and this too will pass. There is only HERE and NOW. And it is here and now I want to share with the man who would become my partner in everything and be happy with such a volcano as I was meek and gentle. I want to tell all I know, I want to give him everything that I have, I want to show him everything that I dream to see myself, I just want to live next to someone like Im.So clearer?

[Shostakovich]

Hard crowd here.

[Sia]

S.....I dont care....U know me a little bit....Im not afraid. I respect different opinions but  I do not like to arrange a free booth of my life and my thoughts. If someone that does not like something, please come to the forefront of a general, but only if there is a reasoned response that I might agree. Do not worry, I'm all right 

[Shostakovich]

Good.  Ya, nice to get to know you a little.  And I do think we come at this pairing business from a different angle, though interestingly, with similar intuitions and interests.  Yes,  and all is well.  Really, I'm rooting for you.  I'm certain there is much that is good and golden in a fine pairing, it is what keeps me going.  But when I look through the lens of experience, knowledge and understanding much seems to me to be as silly as that old American TV show:

[youtube=425,350]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Uf95INZmWI[/youtube]

[Gator]

But when I look through the lens of experience, knowledge and understanding much seems to me to be as silly as that old American TV show:

[youtube=425,350]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Uf95INZmWI[/youtube]

Black comedy given that Rodney was busy murdering as many as 50-130 women around the time he was selected as the "best bachelor." 

How about those fashion styles.  Hideous.  Brooks Brothers to their credit  never sold anything like that and just waited for men to regain their sense of taste.

[Shostakovich]

Black comedy given that Rodney was busy murdering as many as 50-130 women around the time he was selected as the "best bachelor." 

How about those fashion styles.  Hideous.  Brooks Brothers to their credit  never sold anything like that and just waited for men to regain their sense of taste.

Precisely.  And such a charming fellow it seemed, despite the leisure suit.   

[JohnDearGreen]

Dear Friends pls recommend to a dating site exclusively for me. What do I need to focus or how best to establish itself. I read today tips from creator site Elenas Model, I realized that I had never met the perfect man if I stick to her advises.Im another other and be a stupid sexual chica bonita somehow not very pleasant for me. So what do I do? Or conversely, do not do? 

What not to do:  Listen to advice from AM on AM web site.   If a site works well for AM, it is not necessarily going to work well for RW.   

What to do:  Listen to advice from RW on RW forums.

Recommend a dating site for you:  I have no answers for you.  However, I will post a ladies search strategy from a RW forum below.  I am not saying all the women on the forum agreed with her.


Решила поделиться со всеми отличной технологией поиска. Мне ее порекомендовали на одном из сайтов, какие-то вещи я наработала уже в процессе поиска. Особенно это пригодиться "новичкам". Много давалось рекомендаций на форуме, но они присутствуют частями в различных темах.
Итак, поехали!
Первое, что вам нужно - составить презентационное письмо, то самое, которое мужчина получит от вас в первый раз и решит насколько вы ему интересны.
Про фото распространяться не буду(мой опыт показал, что в анкете размещать лучше качественные, но без перебора, слишком сильная ретушь заметна...в "домашних тапочках" можно отправлять избранным позже). Хотите - не хотите, а чем лучше фотки, тем больше писем, соответственно у вас выбор больше! И не убедит меня никто, что фотки через веб-камеру на фоне обоев в цветочек вызывают больший интерес. Мужчины любят глазами, как не банально. Хотите, проверьте сами.
Самая распространенная и большая ошибка, когда девушки заполнив анкету думают, что они все сделали    и просто ждут... Вы безусловно получите какие-то отклики, но вероятность того, что вами заинтерсуется именно тот, мужчина, который интересен вам ничтожно мала.
Поэтому, первое - нужно чаще открывать сайт( он-лайн страницы как правило на виду и есть вероятность заинтересовать и притянуть большее число мужчин).
Второе,нужно постоянно обращать на себя внимание (для этого на разных сайтах существую различные конкурсы и мероприятия - участвуйте в них активно!).
Третье,если вы просто будете ждать, когда же вам напишут , никогда не дождетесь. Берите власть в свои руки. Статистика говорит о том, что отвечаемость мужчин на платных для мужчин сайтах -1-2%
Т.е чтобы получить 10 стоящих, интересных вам знакомств, нужно отправить порядка 1000 писем в месяц. Это не много. В неделю 250 . Это должно быть ваше презентационное универсальное письмо. Нет ответов- переделывайте письмо. Работайте над ним, чтобы стало результативным. У вас будет уходить каждый день примерно около часа на рассылку ваших писем и около часа на ответы( зависит от того, как быстро вы переводите и печатаете). Делайте письма-заготовки. Я, например, составляла свои первые ответы из блоков на разные темы. Получались разные письма и лишь на конкретные вопросы нужно отвечать отдельно по каждому письму. Я также создала папки в электронном ящике для мужчин, где хранились их письма и мои ответы, чтобы в итоге ничего не напутать.У меня был заготовлен целый список вопросов, которые я последовательно "вкручивала" в письма и таким образом выясняла все, что для меня было важно и нужно.
За первый месяц вы делаете такую массивную рассылку. Получаете отклики и выбираете 8-10 кандидатов для дальнейшей переписки. Второй месяц число кандидатов уменьшается по разным причинам и остаются 3-5 , которых вы на третий месяц приглашаете на свидание в ваш город. Именно в ваш. Это тест на серьезность намерений мужчины. Приедут только те, кто действительно в вас очень заинтересован. Либо предложат конкретные варианты свидания.
После свидания вы делаете выбор. Если не нашелся ваш мужчина, снова делаете массированную рассылку. Т.е период активного поиска 3-4 месяца.
Учтите, что вам нужно каждый день находить по одному новому сайту, так как количество интересных вам мужчин может не совпадать с необходимым количеством рассылки.
Сайтов множество, смотрите внимательно, какие стоящие, а какие - нет. Я изначально хаотично их находила. Затем по рекомендациям, где больше отдача(т.е.,больше свадеб)... там и нужно "окучивать"  Существуют форумы, на которых не запрещено обмениваться ссылками на сайты знакомств. Форумы можно обнаружить "тематическим способом", например, набираете в поисковике "замуж в норвегию" и просматриваете ресурсы, заодно с людьми пообщаетесь, узнаете много полезного.

Будете работать по такой схеме - ваш поиск не затянется на годы и будет иметь нужный вам результат.

Если переписка затянулась на много месяцев, на год, а у мужчины всегда есть причина невозможности поездки - выбрасывайте его в корзину и ищите дальше.

Отнеситесь к этому не как к развлечению, если действительно хотите стоящего мужчину найти .
Вроде бы ничего не забыла... мой собственный поиск подошел к концу и я понимаю, что была проделана большая работа и результат того стоит!
Надеюсь, вы будете в дальнейшем делиться успехами в этой рубрике.

[Sia]

Thank you very very and VERY much!

The great topic.

[Misha]

Т.е чтобы получить 10 стоящих, интересных вам знакомств, нужно отправить порядка 1000 писем в месяц. Это не много. В неделю 250 .

This applies to the men as well. In order to get 10 quality contenders, you must send 1000 letters per month or 250 per week. This is a good rule to follow for men if you are using a free Russian dating site such as mamba.ru 

[Sia]

no Mamba,,,,its catastrophe

[Misha]

no Mamba,,,,its catastrophe

I met my wife thanks to mamba  However, it does require that you be proactive and send out large numbers of messages and that you be capable of sifting through profiles to find good people. In other words, it requires time and effort.