Privet from a lonely Russian girl living in the US.

[JohnDearGreen]

I am in TX. I haven't met any Russians here. (except for the Russian store)

Hello Vasilisa,

What city in TX?  If you are in Dallas, you might try the over-30 singles group at Lovers Lane Methodist Church.   Years ago, when I went there, there were several hundred singles there each week.   


Just do an internet search on "singles" and your city name and you might find many activities.

[Vasilisa]

Thank you very much for the interesting ideas, guys, I have never thought of a Church as of the place where you go to meet people and make friends, for me it has always been the place for praying only. It's high time to change something.

[Maxx2]

When a guy marries a Russian woman or any woman his family should be put second and far enough second that they know it. Sorry Vasilisa to hear that you got treated that way.


The questions I asked you were a bit of my humor. I hate using emoticons ( ) and refuse to use them.

[Ade]

Vasilisa,

it happens quite often that people meet and marry with rose tinted glasses. We know a woman who also ignored the red flags and is now in a marriage she has problems getting out of. She can't just leave him and stay in the country, not yet anyway, and finding another serious man while she's already married is not exactly easy.

As others have said though, be patient, and learn from your previous mistake. It's better to be single than make the same mistakes again and live in a loveless marriage.

[Sailor291]

I dont think you ever said if you live in the Dallas area or not, probably not a good idea to broadcast where you live.  However, if you are in the Dallas area, St Seraphims Orthodox Cathedral on Throckmorton is a well established Russian church that we attend frequently.  Alot of nice people there.  Other than that, there are not a lot of hangouts for Russians in DFW area at least  none that my wife and daughter go to, but she does meet Russians/Ukrainians shopping, at concerts, etc.  I do wish you good luck tho.  The Meyerson Symphony center in Dallas has alot of people from the FSU that attend also. 

[Muzh]

When a guy marries a Russian woman or any woman his family should be put second and far enough second that they know it. Sorry Vasilisa to hear that you got treated that way.

I will disagree with you. When I marry I feel the family expands, not contract. When I married my wife I told my mother I was marrying a woman from Ukraine. I didn't ask her. Her reaction was of surprise and happiness. My wife and my mother were very close. My wife cried her eyes out when my mother died three weeks ago.
 
Now, let's be clear here. I never asked my mother for approval of anything. What I did was to discuss things I was doing and SOMETIMES ask for her advice. It was up to me to take her advice. Most of the time I did because she was a very smart woman. But in all my adult years (starting at 17) my mother never told me what I had to do. She did encouraged me on my ventures.
 
Now I'm trying to pass this to my children that family always comes first. If any of them marries, their spouses become part of the family and the family is there in times of need.

[Maxx2]

I will disagree with you. When I marry I feel the family expands, not contract.
 
Now I'm trying to pass this to my children that family always comes first. If any of them marries, their spouses become part of the family and the family is there in times of need.

I was referring to situations like Vasilia's where the new wife is resented and the husband is put into a position of proving his loyalty to his family over his devotion to his wife.

[Kineo]

From her post, I gathered Vasilisa's husband needed his mother's approval, which interfered in their marital relations.   That's a different dynamic than being close to one's family.

Well stated. A very big difference!
 
 
 

[Kineo]

I will disagree with you. When I marry I feel the family expands, not contract. When I married my wife I told my mother I was marrying a woman from Ukraine. I didn't ask her. Her reaction was of surprise and happiness. My wife and my mother were very close. My wife cried her eyes out when my mother died three weeks ago.
 
Now, let's be clear here. I never asked my mother for approval of anything. What I did was to discuss things I was doing and SOMETIMES ask for her advice. It was up to me to take her advice. Most of the time I did because she was a very smart woman. But in all my adult years (starting at 17) my mother never told me what I had to do. She did encouraged me on my ventures.
 
Now I'm trying to pass this to my children that family always comes first. If any of them marries, their spouses become part of the family and the family is there in times of need.

A very healthy family dynamic to live by Muzh. But, I do see what Maxx2 is saying.

[Jumper]

It may sound crazy and funny like a comedy episode to you but that's exactly the way it was.

Welcome to RWD,
and it does sound crazy as your first(or any) Christmas here.
 
I can't imagine a scenereo ,or  situation, where that would be acceptable or normal.Very odd behaviour.
 
Anyway, sorry things did not work out,
and wishing you  good luck in the future!

 

[peter8435]

Vasilisa,

welcome to the fourm, and sorry about things not working out. keep your Spirits up! There are many single men like me who are looking for a woman to share their life with. Try not to be in such a hurry, as mentioned above many AM will get spooked if you mention in the first date that you are looking for a husband.
 How do you like Texas?

[xebec]

It sounds like you may be in the Austin or San Antonio area (both have "The Russian Store" Saha's market.) If so, both have Russian meetup groups that are active.
 
http://www.meetup.com/russia-in-san-antonio/
 
http://www.meetup.com/therussians/

[Slumba]

Vasilisa, I suggest showing an interest in sailing, shooting (gun clubs), and skiing (water or regular winter/mountain).

Sailing - tends to be white-collar professionals who are laid back or trying to enjoy life and not just have a career. 

While there are a few nuts in some gun clubs, a lot of gun clubs have responsible, mature men your age or older, some will be ex-military, some will be professionals, but almost all should be, nice and welcoming to a lady who shows a desire to learn more about how to safely shoot a gun.

Skiing - also tends to attract white-collar professionals ; water-skiing is a fun activity to do in the summer, and you can only do it if you have the money to afford a boat - though most can afford a smaller boat, so you are not being too selective.

Best of luck!

[Naren09]

I am in TX too! and I just signed up on this website as I am looking to start my search for a Russian lady. My best friend is Russian (from UFA) and I think Russians and Indians might not be that different when it comes to family values. I am American-Indian (Dot not feather) =)

[BdHvA]

Vasilia, you deserve far better.  I hope you find it.     

Miss V, Everything you write says Gator is correct, while I could apologizes for some idiots behavior there are too many. BdHvA

[newjason]

Peviet Vasilisa.   I am also new here.
Your thread has over 3000 views already  wow. 

[2tallbill]

ДобрО Пожаловать !

[ML]

Peviet Vasilisa.   I am also new here.
Your thread has over 3000 views already  wow. 

I think the counter in this case is a bit (or actually quite a bit) off.
Only two pages, and only 40 some replies and over 3,000 views? 
Doesn't quite calculate.

[Gator]

I think the counter in this case is a bit (or actually quite a bit) off.
Only two pages, and only 40 some replies and over 3,000 views? 
Doesn't quite calculate.

It makes sense if most of the viewers  are lurkers, feeling a little lonely like Vasilisia.  Yet a little too shy to post.

[LAman]

It makes sense if most of the viewers  are lurkers, feeling a little lonely like Vasilisia.  Yet a little too shy to post.

Hmmmm, maybe it is because a lady is the OP and the bulk of  'lurkers' are men..........you think????

[Faux Pas]

I think the counter in this case is a bit (or actually quite a bit) off.
Only two pages, and only 40 some replies and over 3,000 views? 
Doesn't quite calculate.

That's not "unusual" in any sense as the thread could be generating some eyes in google like searches. "lonely russian girl" or just "russian girl" likely brings up tens of thousands a day

[BdHvA]

Thank you very much for the interesting ideas, guys, I have never thought of a Church as of the place where you go to meet people and make friends, for me it has always been the place for praying only. It's high time to change something.

From my limited knowledge churches in Ukraine I would say compared to those that are in North American are very different. Yes they are also part of the fabric of society but each denomination will also have a mini and active social net work. If you attend a local by that I mean Methodist, Baptist or other Protestant church you will find those who will welcome you and bring you into there social circles. Further while you have not said your faith the differences from Protestant to Eastern Orthodox are smaller than perhaps you think.

As for finding a new partner, I would slow down and understand better the dynamics of life where ever you are.

As for the suggestion of finding a relationship in the sailing world. You want some one sailing a Melges 24 or 32 or perhaps a J22 or 109. These classes always are looking for a crew helping to race on a weekend or sometimes a Tuesday or Wednesday evening. These are relatively stable and fun boats. A smaller boat such as a Lightning or Snipe is also fun but more intense for a newbie.

[bryguy1955]

You may consider trying to find someone on the website that I went to and met my soul mate. the name of the website is www.badoo.com You can actually search for people around your area.
If you want to know my story you can read about it at http://sites.google.com/site/privetanna1955