Is it normal to feel weird after a conversation?

[YoungBuck]

So, this is just a general question for everyone, but during a phone or Skype conversation, I am usually pretty happy and enjoy talking to her, but when I get off the phone I feel weird; like I am divulging all this personal stuff to a person whom I have never met! And even if I did, the thought of just meeting someone over the internet, then phoning, then to be actually planning a trip to meet with the intent of marriage, is simply ludicrous.
I'm pretty reserved in real-life, and never went through the whole blind-date, internet dating period so it feels extra weird for me. Does it mean that I am not ready to be doing something like this, or is it normal to feel this way at the beginning? How did you feel?

Dang, I hate it when my logical mind kicks in.

[Ade]

So, this is just a general question for everyone, but during a phone or Skype conversation, I am usually pretty happy and enjoy talking to her, but when I get off the phone I feel weird; like I am divulging all this personal stuff to a person whom I have never met! And even if I did, the thought of just meeting someone over the internet, then phoning, then to be actually planning a trip to meet with the intent of marriage  is simply ludicrous.

Yes, it is.

[Mila]

Hi there,
I think it is normal thing to feel weird. As many of my clients said the same. To my mind, some people feel weird as this is something knew, something they never did before. More than that, it is always weird to talk over the skype, as personal meeting is absolutely different.
So, don't worry about it so much, you will feel even more weird when you meet with this lady in person. But, I hope only from the beginning. After one or two meetings, all should be fine and you will both feel natural and good

[Lily]

Feeling weird is like feeling what? That you told too much twhich you probably shouldn't? Perhaps it is just your general socializing ability that asks for some improvement.
 
You shoudl not be divulging personal stuff. The conversation should be naturally flowing. If you are on a personal meeting, this is one thing. In a phone talk, you may be able to think some more in order to lead the talk and still stay interesting.
 
On the phone, you may be able to touch on subjects like whether she hears you well, how do you feel her voice, her intonation, her pitch, what are those funny sounds - is it a connection or is it from her? is she an avid phone talker or not, your longest and shortest phone call, same for her,

[CDW]

YB

Just be yourself and do not worry too much!!   To make you feel better, I am a profoundly deaf person and I did very well with Colombian ladies (all hearing) in my previous trips. 

As you are saying that you are pretty reserved in real-life, you need to get out of it, and you need to gain better confidence, and be an 8 inches guy!!!  (Ben Affileck's quote in one of the films - cannot remember the name)

[Muzh]

Feeling weird. Like what? Like stabbing someone? Like giving all your worldly possessions to complete strangers? Like drinking a bottle of Mike's Hard Lemonade?


What kind of weird?


If you are referring of doing something out of the ordinary, then that's pretty ordinary.

[Slumba]

Relax. Breathe.

Yeah the first time on Skype, realizing you are talking to someone on the other side of the world, is pretty amazing.

Just like the first time you went up in an airplane. 

After a while, you realize - they are people, different, but not that much different ...

[mies]

So, this is just a general question for everyone, but during a phone or Skype conversation, I am usually pretty happy and enjoy talking to her, but when I get off the phone I feel weird; like I am divulging all this personal stuff to a person whom I have never met! And even if I did, the thought of just meeting someone over the internet, then phoning, then to be actually planning a trip to meet with the intent of marriage, is simply ludicrous.
I'm pretty reserved in real-life, and never went through the whole blind-date, internet dating period so it feels extra weird for me. Does it mean that I am not ready to be doing something like this, or is it normal to feel this way at the beginning? How did you feel?

Dang, I hate it when my logical mind kicks in.

It solely depends on your personality. There is no rule on when you should feel weird (while talking on Skype), and when you should feel comfortable.

The first time I spoke with my grandma via skype video call, she prepared for this call as if it was a very important official event. It looked like she wrote the speech for it, and dressed better than usually. She said "I remember the time when I was a kid and my parents bought our first radio. It was like a large plate hanging on the wall. Now I am talking to you, you are at the different continent, and I can see you. The technology made a great progress and keeps moving forward. This is the great age we are living in."
I have the recording of her speech saved on my computer.

I think, the skype and distance may add exciting element to the conversation with a stranger, but generally, it's not that different than talking to a stranger you just met in the bar. You may also feel weird because you are talking to a stranger while being at home. It gives the feeling similar as if you were inviting the person to your home, or visiting their home. 

[Jumper]

like lily stated

The conversation should be naturally flowing

and no need to have marriage hanging anywhere in either of your thoughts yet? you havn't met!
it sounds like that part is the pressure, or weirdness?
and that's self inflicted

Carry on with a normal flowing conversation leading to meeting and maybe a relationship (if things work out in person)
THEN, where it leads afterwards , simply leave to that time frame.

Adding any other pressures to an already non standard situation seems like it would make most anyone feel weird or odd about it!

[BillyB]

Does it mean that I am not ready to be doing something like this, or is it normal to feel this way at the beginning? How did you feel?

When I was a young man, I felt uncomfortable, shy, butterflies in my stomach and lacked confidence when talking to ladies. All bad and I didn't get as many positive results with the ladies than I do today.

[GQBlues]

...Adding any other pressures to an already non standard situation seems like it would make most anyone feel weird or odd about it!

Yup, I agree. Be fun and be yourself...Do something you would normally do around your friends....like 'mooning' her for instance. That should make both of you relax a bit.
 
RWs like strong men with sense of humor. 

[viking]

So you never did this before. It's different. It's a new experience. It's an adventure. Enjoy it. Just take it one step at a time. Nothing may happen. Something may happen. Ahhhhhhhh life.

[ML]

When I was a young man, I felt uncomfortable, shy, butterflies in my stomach and lacked confidence when talking to ladies.

Did this happen especially with red heads?
And perhaps, is your name really Charley Brown?

[Gator]

So, this is just a general question for everyone, but during a phone or Skype conversation, I am usually pretty happy and enjoy talking to her, but when I get off the phone I feel weird; like I am divulging all this personal stuff to a person whom I have never met! And even if I did, the thought of just meeting someone over the internet, then phoning, then to be actually planning a trip to meet with the intent of marriage, is simply ludicrous.

The intent is not marriage.  The intent is to spend time together, have fun, learn about each other, and see what develops with the hope (not expectation) that she may be Ms. Right.
 

I'm pretty reserved in real-life, and never went through the whole blind-date, internet dating period so it feels extra weird for me. Does it mean that I am not ready to be doing something like this, or is it normal to feel this way at the beginning? How did you feel?

Dang, I hate it when my logical mind kicks in.

Considering the nature and constraints of these international relationships, two people should determine before meeting that they share similar values, their goals are aligned, etc.  Such is not done when dating locally, so in that regard the conversation may feel weird.   However, I believe if you are with an ideal woman, the conversations will be easy, fun and invigorating, and not weird.  Sometimes there will be confusion because of language and cultural differences; however, confusion and weird are different concepts.

[BlondeSeeker]

but when I get off the phone I feel weird; like I am divulging all this personal stuff to a person whom I have never met! And even if I did, the thought of just meeting someone over the internet, then phoning, then to be actually planning a trip to meet with the intent of marriage, is simply ludicrous.

Who cares if you divulge personal info to someone on the other side of the world? It is not like it is your neighbor that if it doesn't work out you are stuck living next to them. As long as its not stuff like your credit card number... I think you are just asking for a reason to talk yourself out of it... The first step to failing is not trying. Just have however many beers it takes for you to buy the plane ticket and go...

It is that way with all online dating...