What has been the stress level for assimilation??

[ML]

My wife speaks English so good she doesn't have a sexy RW accent.

Strange thing (I think); I can never hear my Gal's accent when she talks with me . . . but I can hear it when she talks with other people.

Anyone else notice such a phenomena?

[GQBlues]

Strange thing (I think); I can never hear my Gal's accent when she talks with me . . . but I can hear it when she talks with other people.

Anyone else notice such a phenomena?

Not for me. I actually dislike my wife's accent. It's annoying.
 
For business development, her company offerred her golf lessons and accent reduction schooling fully paid for with the intent of boosting and moving her up further in the corporate ladder.
 
Other than that, she's fully assimilated and I couldn't be happier. So much so that she's got outfits to match her two most favorite pairs of shoes - UGG boots. LOL. Those Aussies know comfort rise above all.

[lordtiberius]

My wife speaks English so good she doesn't have a sexy RW accent.

Excluding your wife's temperament and your temperament as well, what factors do you attribute to your success?  thank you.

[SANDRO43]

My wife speaks English so good...

It appears more and more frequently in US usage that the adjective (qualifier for nouns) good has also acquired the status of adverb (modifier of verbs) .

E.g.:
- "How are you?"
- "I'm good."

[Anotherkiwi]

It appears more and more frequently in US usage that the adjective (qualifier for nouns) good has also acquired the status of adverb (modifier of verbs) .

E.g.:
- "How are you?"
- "I'm good."

Not just in the USA, sad to say.  Tenses also take a thrashing in this part of the world - the number of people who can't tell the difference between present and past tenses, for example, is truly depressing. 

[BillyB]

Excluding your wife's temperament and your temperament as well, what factors do you attribute to your success?  thank you.

My wife, living in Libya, went to a school with students who are children of people who work at the embassies of varioius nations. English was the primary language and because my wife lived in more than one country and dealt with people of other cultures, I'd have to say that she would be at less risk for culture shock.


I take care of her needs fianacially and emotionally. If a man brings a woman to his country, she may not go into culture shock but if she isn't fed, clothed, locked up at home, and brought into a bad financial situation, she may get depressed. If a man isn't tolerant of the time or pace it takes for his wife to learn and adapt to the culture and there are language barriers, it can add stress to their relationship. If a woman has stress and takes it out on her man and it increases his stress levels, he may return favor. Not good,. If I see my wife struggling on something that puts her in a bad mood, I don't take it personally and help her figure things out. The good thing is she understands the moments she wasn't kind to me when it's no fault of mine, apologizes and gives me more loving in the end.

[Gator]

It appears more and more frequently in US usage that the adjective (qualifier for nouns) good has also acquired the status of adverb (modifier of verbs) .

E.g.:
- "How are you?"
- "I'm good."

 
 
Play golf sometime.  Players typically make too large of a swing, trying to hit the ball a mile, and in so doing many lose their balance and strike the ball off-center and off the intended line of flight.  The ball may go a long way albeit in an errant direction, coming to rest in perhaps the water.  The golfer utters, "Damn, and I hit it good."   
 
Not only did he not strike the ball well, it did not come close to resembling a good shot.  In baseball we say he "got good wood on it."  However, in baseball it is merely a foul and the batter is still batting.  In golf you are lying two instead of one, and still far from the green.   Maybe I should say "fur" because golfers will exclaim, "My ball went further."   Maybe it did in his sense of measurement. 

[lordtiberius]

My wife, living in Libya, went to a school with students who are children of people who work at the embassies of varioius nations. English was the primary language and because my wife lived in more than one country and dealt with people of other cultures, I'd have to say that she would be at less risk for culture shock.


I take care of her needs fianacially and emotionally. If a man brings a woman to his country, she may not go into culture shock but if she isn't fed, clothed, locked up at home, and brought into a bad financial situation, she may get depressed. If a man isn't tolerant of the time or pace it takes for his wife to learn and adapt to the culture and there are language barriers, it can add stress to their relationship. If a woman has stress and takes it out on her man and it increases his stress levels, he may return favor. Not good,. If I see my wife struggling on something that puts her in a bad mood, I don't take it personally and help her figure things out. The good thing is she understands the moments she wasn't kind to me when it's no fault of mine, apologizes and gives me more loving in the end.

Good point

[Welder]

Strange thing (I think); I can never hear my Gal's accent when she talks with me . . . but I can hear it when she talks with other people.

Anyone else notice such a phenomena?

I noticed the same but then I hear her say certain words such as cookie to our kids.    Try that one in times of need

[ML]

I noticed the same but then I hear her say certain words such as cookie to our kids.    Try that one in times of need

You are right;  I just asked my Gal to say 'cookie.'  I really liked her pronunciation!!

[SANDRO43]

Play golf sometime.

I tried a LONG time ago, on a 9-hole course at a hilly club on Lake Maggiore (prompted by my reading P.G. Wodehouse's novels), but my then fiancée was not amused , so I decided to quit :

The green and I, snowy Alps in the background

Players typically make too large of a swing, trying to hit the ball a mile, and in so doing many lose their balance and strike the ball off-center and off the intended line of flight.

Those are called hook and slice shots, if memory serves correctly . From a purely ergonomic point of view, I think golf is is the most asymmetrically absurd sport there is .

[Chicagoguy]

Beautiful setting for golf but really now, who is that guy in the picture

[SANDRO43]

Beautiful setting for golf but really now, who is that guy in the picture

As the caption implies, myself some 45+ years ago .

[Boethius]

You were quite the debonair hottie, Sandro.

[Anotherkiwi]

As the caption implies, myself some 45+ years ago .

I didn't know they had colour photography back then! 

[calmissile]

I didn't know they had colour photography back then! 

Of course.  We already had color Viewmasters by then.     

[SANDRO43]

We already had color Viewmasters by then.     

Not only colour, but 3D too !