Inside a Russian woman's psyche

[Faux Pas]

Inside a Russian woman's psyche

With the new information I would venture another guess. With the 14 year old just leaving to live with Pops. The timing for the mother new found "little blessing" dovetails right in to her empty nest syndrome. This happens to many women and men also when the last child is no longer present

[CanadaMan]

Inside a Russian woman's psyche

With the new information I would venture another guess. With the 14 year old just leaving to live with Pops. The timing for the mother new found "little blessing" dovetails right in to her empty nest syndrome. This happens to many women and men also when the last child is no longer present

The timing isn't quite what you have written.

The additional information I gave was that, her daughter was living with her along with her son, up until last year.
At that time her daughter was 16 and her son was 2.

So when the boy arrived, the girl was 14 and still lived with the mom for the next two years.
At that time, mom had no plans to have her daughter move to her ex's place.

The move to her ex's last year came about because of a second divorce by her ex.

So to summarize, at the time when the 10 day fling occurred, the mom was living with her daughter and had no way of knowing she wouldn't still be living with her 3 years later.

[Slumba]

PUA/Game view would be

1. Women would rather have 1 week of alpha male than 10 years of beta male.  If she enjoyed the fling, he is maybe an alpha; then everytime she looks at the kid she will be happy, not sad. It is like a reminder of a time of joy and bliss.

2. "Baby rabies" as the saying goes - she knew full well she might get pregnant and that is why she had the fling. Hindbrain/lizard-brain/instinct, call it what you will.

3. Timing of daughter leaving and new kid arriving - pay attention to it.

4. "The Hamster is strong with this one" - sometimes women act without thinking of long term effects, then they rationalize their behavior later.  Each person has a "rationalization hamster" built in that gives reasons for doing something after the fact.  Like when you are playing pool, you make an amazing shot because you actually flubbed the shot you were trying to make, then you say "yeah I meant to do that".

5. Maybe she likes raising kids? Some women do not have the view that children are some kind of burden in their lives.

[ghost of moon goddess]

CanadaMan,

Despite the fine-tuned information bringing a new factor into play, it is still the same "tilted playground" that her decision was played made upon, with everything flowing downhill towards the psyche of a "cut-out-to-be-a-mother" kind of woman.
IMHO!

[CanadaMan]

Despite the fine-tuned information bringing a new factor into play, it is still the same "tilted playground" that her decision was played made upon, with everything flowing downhill towards the psyche of a "cut-out-to-be-a-mother" kind of woman.
IMHO!

Yes, very likely.

[CanadaMan]

3. Timing of daughter leaving and new kid arriving - pay attention to it.

  I don't buy this one.
 The timing was off by a good two years, and no foreknowledge on her part that her daughter would be leaving. That one just happened out of the blue.

5. Maybe she likes raising kids? Some women do not have the view that children are some kind of burden in their lives.

 I should clarify what I meant in my OP.

I would go so far as to say that most women do not have the view that children are some kind of burden in their lives.

However, given the choice, almost all women would rather raise their children together with a husband than alone.
In addition, the workload would be considerably less when shared with a partner.

[rambler]

There are lots of women raising children alone. On the BBC news tonight there was a piece on "there is a man desert" ... in a part of Liverpool which is a tough seaport town that was a busy port but not anymore, 65% of the families are single parent homes.  It has one of the highest unemployment rates in the country. The men just have to move to find work, the women can't or don't.  Several of my wife's single school friends have babies. At least one has not told the father.  I know of several cases where the Russian father has two families on the go, sometimes one knows about the other but not vice versa.  The father sees a child of his and the mother does not know he sees his son. Many of the girls I met in the FSU came from broken homes, maybe 80-90% of them. Not a promising psyche for a good marriage.

[ghost of moon goddess]

I guess if we wanted to tie this thread together with another on a similar theme, a good candidate would be the one that went something like:

Who does a RW value most in her life?
Her children, her parents, her pets, other, .......... her husband. 

I would venture to guess that "pets" will be placed lower than "husband" on the value ladder of an average RW. Not sure about "other" though 

[Misha]

I would venture to guess that "pets" will be placed lower than "husband" on the value ladder of an average RW. Not sure about "other" though 

A good reason not to settle for average 

[Fishingguy]

Canadaman...

can you introduce me to this "extremely intelligent woman, with a graduate degree" woman?

I do understand her. I wish I had kids when I was younger so now they could be fishing with me.

Sometimes in life it's not all about money, job or security..sometimes you just want that legacy of you..or more of it..

I'm not kidding either

[ML]

Sometimes in life it's not all about money, job or security..sometimes you just want that legacy of you..or more of it..

Well, we have a lot of folks producing legacies . . . without money or jobs.

Guess who is paying for these legacies.

[Fishingguy]

well yes..be responsible for the child. I mean how are you enjoy fatherhood or motherhood if you can't provide for them?

Well, we have a lot of folks producing legacies . . . without money or jobs.

Guess who is paying for these legacies.

[ML]

well yes..be responsible for the child. I mean how are you enjoy fatherhood or motherhood if you can't provide for them?

I was just commenting on your post which said:

"Sometimes in life it's not all about money, job or security .. sometimes you just want that legacy of you .. or more of it."