"in love" after a few emails

[Fishingguy]

It's been my experience that with most of the RW women I've been in contact with after 4 or 5 emails or letters they are madly in love. I'm still trying to get to know them.

Granted there is already a known concept of long term relationship or marriage goal but....

If I went on one date and had a week's worth of phone calls, emails and texts and a girl tells me she is already picking out our kid's name - I'm changing my phone number.

Is this a trick or a test?
Is this a cultural thing?
Or am I just too charming and don't know it? 

[Fishingguy]

one fantastic woman has professed this to me already  and she hasn't even seen my picture. You have to wonder if it is genuine or not. (before we talked on the phone and I spoke with her mom she professed this) She's still an awesome catch but still...

[Muzh]

 
 
 

[Fishingguy]

so I have a little too much time till my 2 o'clock. 

[GQBlues]

 
 
 

LOL.

I'm not sure about Lt. Worf, but Jan Luc Picard was recently married..but if they can talk to you, Fishingguy...they'd likely tell you to try another solar system and start over.

 

[Daveman]

It's been my experience that with most of the RW women I've been in contact with after 4 or 5 emails or letters they are madly in love. I'm still trying to get to know them.

How would you react if a woman in the USA had this behavior after a few emails?

[Hammer2722]

one fantastic woman has professed this to me already  and she hasn't even seen my picture. You have to wonder if it is genuine or not. (before we talked on the phone and I spoke with her mom she professed this) She's still an awesome catch but still...

This should pretty much tell you all you need to know....

[Fishingguy]

seriously this doesn't happen to you guys?

in all my correspondence - back in the days of letter writing and even now through emails every single one of them goes this direction after a few emails.

I've actually met a few of RW who write this way and had relationships through the years.

My question was a real question - is this part of the game? culture?

[mendeleyev]

My question was a real question - is this part of the game? culture?

Unfortunately the agency game, yes.

My question was a real question - is this part of the game? culture?

No, and a normal RW/UW would think a guy nuts for falling for it.


It is not normal. You are writing to the wrong ladies. Be patient, my friend. If you are patient and make sure that you are the type of guy that a good lady would want to date, then good things will come eventually no matter when she lives in the world. The key is to be the kind of man that a lady wants to choose.

[Muzh]

seriously this doesn't happen to you guys?

in all my correspondence - back in the days of letter writing and even now through emails every single one of them goes this direction after a few emails.

I've actually met a few of RW who write this way and had relationships through the years.

My question was a real question - is this part of the game? culture?

Here's the deal.
 
If you give better letter than she gives good head, then.
 
If not, then it never happened.
 
Here OR there.

[Fishingguy]

I usually defer to Mendeleyev's wisdom but I have created a few good relationships (meet, hang out, vacation) with women who started out quick like that. But it does give one cause for pause...

and  the collective wisdom in here has taught me a lesson or two...

now the ones who tell me they love me and their boss has allowed them to come visit me...I stop reading right there.  hahaha.  I'm dense but that NOT that dense. 

[Daveman]

seriously this doesn't happen to you guys?
...

Sure it did.  Although I am a time and time again proven Epic Stud Muffin (ESM), I just couldn't take them seriously post declarations of love after only a few emails.  Not that they were not serious, or that they were merely lonely, desperate, or living in a fantasy world - nothing like that -- of course they all loved me... 


FSUW will not *love* a man (even an ESM) any more rapidly than any woman anywhere else.  However, once she's interested, or decides she *likes* you, she will expect some evidence of solid decisions which move relations forward in whatever ways are obvious at the time. 


The question is still valid - how would you respond to a woman in the USA exhibiting such behavior? Seriously...

[ML]

Go read 'Pursuing FSUW 101' in the Starting Out' section.

It tells you to start screening out the women as the sequential messages unfold.

So now you know another screen.

[Fishingguy]

well like I said,

"If I went on one date and had a week's worth of phone calls, emails and texts and a girl tells me she is already picking out our kid's name - I'm changing my phone number. "

"normal" American dating takes several months till the L word is ever remoted uttered. Teens do it after two weekends and a few heavy make out sessions.

I've dated RW/UW where they started out that way but after meeting them and really liking them, they do seem like normal gals. I haven't gone over and met many women but the one's I have met they all had this similar pattern of laying on the passion a little thick early. Mind you they were not ditzy but smart down to earth people when I met them.  Having gone through that I don't automatically think "psycho" when I encounter this but all the 30 plus odd years of American programming does make me feel a little awkward.

[mendeleyev]

I'm dense

No, you are not. You are asking questions and learning.

The dense are the ones who keep on believing the fantasies without taking advice.

[Faux Pas]

Is this a trick or a test?

No

Is this a cultural thing?

No

Or am I just too charming and don't know it? 

No

A solid to remember, nobody falls in love after a week of emails. There are some serious ulterior motives going on, if you are even communicating with a woman is debatable.

You probably are a charming guy but, if you were that charming, your dance card would be so full at home, you would have no time to spread any of it in the FSU

[LAman]

Well, if you send me $1000 $5000....I could love you too!!!!
 
Some guys are lucky........... just have girls falling at their feet!!!

[Shadow]

I usually defer to Mendeleyev's wisdom but I have created a few good relationships (meet, hang out, vacation) with women who started out quick like that. But it does give one cause for pause...

and  the collective wisdom in here has taught me a lesson or two...

now the ones who tell me they love me and their boss has allowed them to come visit me...I stop reading right there.  hahaha.  I'm dense but that NOT that dense. 

Unsure how dense you are, but ask yourself how 'good' the relationships were if nothing more than a vacation came from it.

[Fishingguy]

well I only meant I would consider it a real relationship where you have real feelings and are open to something longer, spend time with each other, give time and energy to it and of course vacation together. Vacationing and meeting the parents, friends are almost on par in my book. If you're vacationing with her you are living with her in a sense for a time and when you are on vacation you are not single and looking at the bars and tourists places. 

There are those relationships where you communicate and meet for 2 days and you are "in love". That's not quite there yet.

Unsure how dense you are, but ask yourself how 'good' the relationships were if nothing more than a vacation came from it.

[die_cast]

Or am I just too charming and don't know it? 

This one.
After reading just 4 or 5 your messages here I'm already madly in love with you. 

[CanadaMan]

one fantastic woman has professed this to me already  and she hasn't even seen my picture. You have to wonder if it is genuine or not. (before we talked on the phone and I spoke with her mom she professed this) She's still an awesome catch but still...

This should pretty much tell you all you need to know....

Hang on a second. Pictures aren't always necessary.
Maybe FishingGuy has been extremely descriptive about his body parts.
Maybe that's what has 'hooked' this woman?
Maybe she's fallen in love with his prose.   

[steveboy]

It's been my experience that with most of the RW women I've been in contact with after 4 or 5 emails or letters they are madly in love. I'm still trying to get to know them.

Granted there is already a known concept of long term relationship or marriage goal but....

If I went on one date and had a week's worth of phone calls, emails and texts and a girl tells me she is already picking out our kid's name - I'm changing my phone number.

Is this a trick or a test?
Is this a cultural thing?
Or am I just too charming and don't know it? 

No! your just contacting young 20 something girls 25 years your junior who look like they have walked of the cat walk. Asking for trouble. Of course unless your handsome like myself and can deal with these women

[Muzh]

[Fishingguy]

25 years my junior would be like 10. I don't even look at anyone under 23.

No! your just contacting young 20 something girls 25 years your junior who look like they have walked of the cat walk. Asking for trouble. Of course unless your handsome like myself and can deal with these women

[tfcrew]

seriously this doesn't happen to you guys?

 Happens everywhere all the time.
 Hard to elaborate but there is 'in love with love itself'.
 It's all a crapshoot. Just don't set yourself up for a fall.

Cheers
Karl