Bad luck

[jmana]

So Alina and her daughter arrive Wednesday morning, and already I'm beginning to have a run of bad luck.  First I find out that Obama is going to be at the airport Wednesday morning too, and the last time he was here they had shut down the roads to the airport.  Then I find out today it's supposed to snow Wednesday, great...  And I have this lower back/hip issue that flares up every few months that makes me walk like an old man for a few days, and yup, you guessed it, that decided to flare up today.  I just hope this isn't a sign of continued bad luck with her missing a flight, or major weather delays.  One good thing is I have all the house cleaning done that I wanted to before they come

[JayH]

Hey jman-- the most important part of your luck is the fact she is actually on the way!!Anything else is a minor detail now !! Good luck !!

[Shadow]

Do not be offended if Alina feels your cleaning was inadequate. If it happens, treat it as a good sign.

[Gator]

Do not be offended if Alina feels your cleaning was inadequate. If it happens, treat it as a good sign.

Agree.  Whatever you do with regard to cleaning will not meet the standards of 90% of RW.  So don't ask her anything about your cleaning.   


BTW, if you had not attempted to clean, you would forever be branded a pig.  

When she does decide to do some cleaning, you will need to explain the household chemicals as the labels differ from Russian brands. 

[jmana]

Do not be offended if Alina feels your cleaning was inadequate. If it happens, treat it as a good sign.

Well, I've learned a lot about cleaning since I was married before.  And I know what you mean, my last wife was like that.  I would spend hours cleaning, bleaching the floors and toilets, doing all the laundry, etc... and she'd come home and ask why I didn't wipe all the dust off the shelves    Of course my last wife would iron my underwear too, not because she wanted them to be wrinkle free, but because she was convinced there were parasites in them that needed to be killed    Yeah, she was different. 

[TheTraveler]

when my dhrw arrived in the usa at jfk airport, i had already arrived there several hours in advance (flew in from the midwest) and was waiting there to help -- which turned out to be a *very good* thing.

her arriving delta flight from moscow arrived very late.  that combined with the long delay through immigration caused her to miss the connecting flight to our city.

but because i anticipated 'bad luck' and was there to help, i was able to work with the airline to get us onto another flight from laguardia, which we actually barely made via taxi.

are you planning to be there to help her through any 'bad luck'?

[jmana]

when my dhrw arrived in the usa at jfk airport, i had already arrived there several hours in advance (flew in from the midwest) and was waiting there to help -- which turned out to be a *very good* thing.

her arriving delta flight from moscow arrived very late.  that combined with the long delay through immigration caused her to miss the connecting flight to our city.

but because i anticipated 'bad luck' and was there to help, i was able to work with the airline to get us onto another flight from laguardia, which we actually barely made via taxi.

are you planning to be there to help her through any 'bad luck'?

She is arriving in NY in about an hour and not flying out of NY until tomorrow morning, so she has plenty of time in case there are any delays.  I sent her a phone to the hotel she'll be staying at tonight that has international calling so she can call her parents to let them know she made it safe, and so she can let me know how everything went. 

[tfcrew]

  First I find out that Obama is going to be at the airport Wednesday morning too..
.. it's supposed to snow Wednesday, great...   
... I have this lower back/hip issue  or major weather delays.
 One good thing is I have all the house cleaning done that I wanted to before they come.

Obama can wait.
Have the shop put on the snow tires.
Aleve should help the back.
There's always some house work to do.
Now go get 'em

[I/O]

Don't expect sympathy from your new squeeze.

[Gator]

are you planning to be there to help her through any 'bad luck'?

This issue was discussed at length in an earlier 8-page thread, with all options evaluated.  Originally jmana planned on driving 10 hours to JFK, meet Alina and her child,  and then turn around and drive the 10 hours to his home.   Upon further review, he cancelled that plan, and he and Alina chose  the present plan of her staying at a JFK hotel and catching a morning flight. 

http://www.russianwomendiscussion.com/index.php?topic=16864.0

[IAmZon]

I miss this place!  It seems I always learned much here ...

when my dhrw arrived in the usa at jfk airport, i had already arrived there several hours in advance (flew in from the midwest) and was waiting there to help -- which turned out to be a *very good* thing.  her arriving delta flight from moscow arrived very late.  that combined with the long delay through immigration caused her to miss the connecting flight to our city. but because i anticipated 'bad luck' and was there to help, i was able to work with the airline to get us onto another flight from laguardia, which we actually barely made via taxi. are you planning to be there to help her through any 'bad luck'?

Here is an example of a "winner" a man that plans and takes action and guards his woman and all her concerns (ideally before the problems arise).  This is the kind of behavior that is rare among men and women in America.   Check and double check.  Measure three times before you cut.  Be as good as you are able and deliberate too. 

GREAT LESSONS

[TheTraveler]

I sent her a phone to the hotel she'll be staying at tonight...

your cell phone is meeting her?

omg.  chivalry is dead.

[JayH]

your cell phone is meeting her?

omg.  chivalry is dead.

If you read earlier thread- you will see that forum advice was to fly up and be there to fly back with her.Even now--I do not understand why he is not doing  that.

[calmissile]

your cell phone is meeting her?

omg.  chivalry is dead.

I had to laugh when I read your comment.   

After Larissa for the past month raced to the passenger door and opened it herself, I once had an opportunity to get there first and open the door for her.

While driving, she mentioned that most Ukraine men always opened the door for their ladies!

Oh shit!!! I would need stilts to get to the door before her!

It's great that she has a sense of humor.  Now she waits for me to open the door for her.  How would I have known if it were not for our little humorous exchange.

I think this is all part of true love that allows people to overlook minor things and focus on what is realy important in a lasting relationship.

[Gator]

your cell phone is meeting her?

 

This morning hopefully all will be forgotten as the marching band greets Alina and her daughter at the local airport.

[jmana]

This morning hopefully all will be forgotten as the marching band greets Alina and her daughter at the local airport.

It was odd, there was no sign that there was a president arriving at the airport today, in fact it was kinda dead in there.  And YES, she somehow managed to make it here without me going and holding her hand through the airport like an infant

[southernX]

jmana

keep us posted on how things progress for you both ,

i think you are about to have a steep learning curve
its not about treating them like a child , its more romance & chivalry , showing them care and action , making your wife and child a priority ,


second time around ? good luck ,

SX

[lordtiberius]

Yeah man, good luck.

[mendeleyev]

I think this is all part of true love that allows people to overlook minor things and focus on what is realy important in a lasting relationship.

If you think that treating her like a lady is minor there will be rough roads ahead in the relationship. It is those little things like courtesy and respect that carry you through some of the bad storms. Without them to hold things together, your house of cards will come tumbling down.