Russian Speaking Women's Forums-What Do They Say?

[Muzh]

But why are you talking only about one type of relationships, the one between older men and younger girls? Yes, it exists, but it's not the only one, there are a great number of marriages between equal (in age or life accomplishments) partners. And not everyone thinks of a marriage in business terms, or am I too old-fashioned here?
 

LOL
 
First, I'm not the only one talking about this one kind of relationship. However, in these forums the vast majority of guys are considerably older than their spouses. If it should matter any, my wife and my ex-wife are the same age. I think what made the difference in our success was their zodiac sign.
 
Second, I'm a firm believer marriage should be among equal partners.
 
Third, I don't think of marriage as a business deal. Unfortunately, I was just doing our taxes and it seems our government would think otherwise. 
 
Finally, no. I don't think you are old fashioned.

 

Referring to your situation I just wanted to show that not every woman in a RW-WM relationships is for the money, some are for the men.

Oh I bet my wife agrees with you 100%. And since I tend to agree with my wife in many many things....

[Willowtree]

there are a great number of marriages between equal (in age or life accomplishments) partners. And not everyone thinks of a marriage in business terms, or am I too old-fashioned here?

May I.

- Those "equal in age" are not necessarily equally "grown up"/on par. And the younger both are, the more discrepancy can be seen. (Save for cases when life ordeals can make one grow up almost instantly, irrespective of their gender).

-  In my opinion, there no such thing as equality in life accomplishments, as the notion itself is extremely subjective. E.g. for many (but not all) women having a child is a great accomplishment, and their lady peers who have/had none are seen by them as unaccomplished.
Whereas for many (but not all) guys, same would be a very positive life fact to go with the parthership - but if you ask them to list their perceived life accomplishments, it would hardly be on the list.

-  Re "business" nature of marriage. I have just formulated it the following way.  Love is not a deal (rather a health condition - somewhat like a flu - it can strike out of the blue, and is uncontrollable).
But marriage, in a way, is. Even when it is not about money.

IMHO

[jone]

May I.

- Those "equal in age" are not necessarily equally "grown up"/on par. And the younger both are, the more discrepancy can be seen. (Save for cases when life ordeals can make one grow up almost instantly, irrespective of their gender).

-  In my opinion, there no such thing as equality in life accomplishments, as the notion itself is extremely subjective. E.g. for many (but not all) women having a child is a great accomplishment, and their lady peers who have/had none are seen by them as unaccomplished.
Whereas for many (but not all) guys, same would be a very positive life fact to go with the parthership - but if you ask them to list their perceived life accomplishments, it would hardly be on the list.

-  Re "business" nature of marriage. I have just formulated it the following way.  Love is not a deal (rather a health condition - somewhat like a flu - it can strike out of the blue, and is uncontrollable).
But marriage, in a way, is. Even when it is not about money.

IMHO

Well Said!

[pokerintherear]

And not everyone thinks of a marriage in business terms, or am I too old-fashioned here?

No your not. You will feel that way in this environment. This is a different place. My estimates are 2-5 Western men per day step off planes in Kiev or Moscow meeting or continuing their relationship with foreign woman. As you can see the 5-10 posters here are a very small fraction of the men participating in these relationships and not a good representation.

[Muzh]

May I.
 

Please, by all means. 

-  In my opinion, there no such thing as equality in life accomplishments, as the notion itself is extremely subjective. E.g. for many (but not all) women having a child is a great accomplishment, and their lady peers who have/had none are seen by them as unaccomplished.
Whereas for many (but not all) guys, same would be a very positive life fact to go with the parthership - but if you ask them to list their perceived life accomplishments, it would hardly be on the list.

If you are referring to having a child, then what a sad truth.
 
I do agree with you that there is no equality life life accomplishments. The prime example is the astronomical rate of divorces.
 

-  Re "business" nature of marriage. I have just formulated it the following way.  Love is not a deal (rather a health condition - somewhat like a flu - it can strike out of the blue, and is uncontrollable).
But marriage, in a way, is. Even when it is not about money.

IMHO

Wait until you are preparing for retirement. 

[Willowtree]

If you are referring to having a child, then what a sad truth.

Yes I was referring to that.

Wait until you are preparing for retirement. 

Why wait. I am preparing now. Just a couple decades yet to go, no time to sit around!