Qualities to Consider in an FSU Woman

[jone]

Okay, this is not a recipe book ......

But it seems appropriate, after watching this past week unfold, to compile and review an unofficial set of parameters for seeking out an FSU woman.  What qualities do you look for?  What error checking have you completed?

Because I am well known for saying this, I will remind you that the two most important qualities to me are not whether she makes tasty food (a wonderful skill, I can assure you) but whether a woman I would consider has wisdom and kindness.  When the days grow long and you are in the same home year after year together, beauty will fade, children will grow up and move out, but a kind lady who is wise in how she treats her family and her husband will create a love that will endure.

How does one find out if such qualities are an act, or whether this is truly the nature of the woman?  My immediate response is to gauge both her friends and her family.    One should also spend a great deal of time with a woman in multiple settings.

It has also been expressed, as an opinion, that a man should be intimate with a woman prior to marriage.  In some situations Eastern European women simply won't go there.  I have not had this experience, but I have heard from others that have.  In most of the latter situations, things did not work out -- the man had expectations that the woman was unable to comply with.

Ultimately, each relationship is its own entity.  Each has to be evaluated by the participants.  I would be interested to hear what others did to evaluate their future spouse.  And what was the tipping point that you knew that a relationship would work?   

[dogspot]

1. Language - she must, at the very least, be able to communicate in English. If she has the desire to relocate *permanently* to an English speaking country, she must also have the desire to speak the language. Fortunately, I married a woman with excellent English language abilities and this made the transition to life in America much easier.

2. Character - kind, loving, nurturing, patient, honest, generous, outgoing, faithful, trusting, motivated, respectful, frugal...

3. Mentally sound - I've dated a couple women in my life - both American and Russian - that were...well...difficult. Both were beautiful but also challenging. I couldn't imagine myself spending day after day, week after week, year after year with someone is so unpredictable with their highs and lows (bipolar). Patience and a lot of face time were key to verifying that the woman I married is sane.

4. Intelligent - Never had I dated a dumb woman. I wasn't about to start.

5. Interests - At least some of our interests needed to jive. Fortunately, most of them did (except for sports).

6. Attractive - I prefer a woman has a beautiful smile and who smiles often. Looks will fade but her smile will remain (as long as you can keep her happy).

You mentioned the tipping point...I don't know if there was one. We communicated via casual email letters for a year before we decided to meet. After our additional three week meeting, I made three additional trips and spent nearly three months with her, learning more about who she was, and verifying that everything I learned about her in the first year of letters was true.

[jone]

Great Job, Dogspot!

Surely there are more people who can contribute to such a worthy train of thought!

[lonedrake]

What qualities do you look for?

 On my recent trip to Ukraine my wife and I were driving back from Bukovel. We stopped at a roadside vendor and purchased some dried apples,mushrooms and a bag of hazelnuts. The apples were good and I don't eat mushrooms....so I have no idea what those were like. My wife said they were good.

Anyways...I wanted some hazelnuts. Since I was driving I asked my wife to crack me some. She said " With what?"

The quick thinker that I am I said.."Well I heard that a good Ukrainian wife will crack the nuts with her teeth and feed them to her husband"

She burst out laughing and said "Where did you hear this?" So I said " I read it on the internet"

She says "What else did you read on the internet about what a good Ukrainian wife does?'

I said" Ohhh..... I learned a few things about what a good Ukrainian wife does"

"Like what"

" Well....another thing I learned is that when a good Ukrainian wife takes a number two......it smells like flowers and candy"



She could not stop laughing for the next 1/2 hour.



 

[BillyB]

A woman must....

1) Be great in bed

2) A good cook

3) Be a wonderful lover.

4) Be smarter than a box of rocks

5) Value the art of sex

6) Have big boobs

7) Last but not least, love sex


ok, ok, ok. That's not my list of requirements but I'm sure it's someone's list. dogspot's list is great....except he forgot to mention sex!

[Shadow]

1. Crazy enough to move a couple of 1000km's away from her family for an uncertain future with a guy she barely knows.
2. Not smart enough to understand the guy could not do better in his country, but she can.

[ML]

I think there really can't be lists regarding this.

In some (but not all) variables, there can be trade-offs.
i.e. She (he) doesn't have much of that desired characteristic, but has double the amount of another characteristic.

For me, the ones which would not allow trade-offs:

Top of list for me would be intelligence . . . but to what degree.

Sense of humor.

Even personality . . . no peaks or valleys (yes of course there will be some gentle slopes) and never, ever be a drama queen.

Genuinely really likes sex (not just willing because knows the partner wants), and is willing to try anything.  Multi-orgasmic (this can be learned-achieved over time with a good male partner . . . if the woman willing)

Slender body; no larger than size 6 jeans (but no size zero or negative either), breasts no larger than C.

I personally wouldn't start out with a zero English speaking woman, but doesn't have to be fluent at all.  But if the skill doesn't improve fairly rapidly, the relationship would probably falter.  And no, I'm not going to become fluent in her native language because I'm never going to live there permanently.