These Dudes Need Our Help

[Obtuso]

 Hello, I was surfing the net to find pay-per-letter sites so I can do my VK profile hunt (I try to find vk profiles of the ladies in these sites).

I already found some woman that are already married, have a boyfriend, one posted severall photos on Instagram groping a guy saying something that can be translated as: "I ate him" (who wants a woman like that?).

Anyway I found one pay-per-letter site that has a blog were man can post.
After reading a few posts I think that is fair to say that are severall men in this sites that are very naive. Please let me give you some excerpts of their blog posts or profiles:


 Men fall in love with photographs and lack the financial resources:

"I have found the lady of my life. My soul mate. I am off the market. I hope she just understands I do not have the credits to chat or message her right now. I love her a lot and I have found my self in estate of happiness when I chat, message, or just looking at her pictures. She says we can see each other in June 2014.
I just hope its true.

Alena please keep in touch with me even though I do not have credits to message you back. It breaks my heart when I see your online but don't receive a message from you. I can buy credits when I have extra money, but I do have bills to pay also. I love you Alena. "

"I'm not ignoring you and I'm not playing games. I'm as serious as you are, if not more. I ran out of credits. As soon as I get more, I'll be sending you more letters."

"That I like you, I fall in love, just looking at your profile and feeling the electricity from the screen of my computer with your profile page on it, that I will be a perfect husband and will spoil you not only with my willing for satisfaction body!

"I think about you and I miss you so much and you know who you are, every night when alone I think of you being here with me by my side relaxing with me. you make feel happier everytime we see eachother through the chatroom.

I want to be apart of your life and I want you to be apart of mines as well, we connect so many levels spritiually, emotionally, physically and I love it all."

"I AM IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP WITH A LOVELY WOMAN ON THIS SITE AND TRULY DO LOVE HER! I SEEK NO ONE FURTHER IN MY LIFE AS I HAVE HER LOVE AND WE HAVE PLANS FOR OUR FUTURE! I COME TO THIS SITE NOW TO KEEP CONTACT WITH HER ONLY! AS MUCH AS I AM FLATTERED TO RECEIVE LETTERS AND CHAT REQUESTS I SIMPLY WILL NOT ANSWER THESE AS I LOVE ONLY HER WITH ALL MY HEART AND SOUL! BEST WISHES FOR YOUR FUTURE! I ASKED THIS WOMAN TO BE MY BRIDE AND SHE SAID YES SO IF YOU ARE NOT THE ONE TO WHOM I PROPOSED THAN PLEASE DON'T INVITE ME TO CHAT AS I WILL BE LOYAL TO MY FIANCE AND WILL NOT RESPOND! YOUR LETTERS WILL BE DELETED UNREAD!"


Social Misfits:

"The one question I often ponder is if a women can love a man how is still a virgin. Most men by my age 32 have had many girlfriends / lovers but I myself have not. In today's world women have become the preditor's sex mad beasts only looking to fill there needs for lustful sex. Maybe I'm a little odd but I truly believe women should be more less in need of sex and more in need of finding an honest truthful kind and devoted man such as myself."


Now This guy is NAIVE:

"I guess that the first thing that I want to do is to say thank you to all of you beautiful women that have sent me letters! I especially loved the erotic ones that you wrote to me!!! (you know who you are)so keep them coming and do not worry about being rude in any way!"

Perhaps he likes the entertaining of the erotic letters. 


About to be scammed:

"As I am writing this we are busily making plans for her to come to my beautiful Costa Rica where we plan to be married on my beach. Hopefully we can arrange to have her family there too as this would make it very special for both of us."


I don't know how to classify these dude's profile:

"...Disease and Drug Free, High Sex Drive. She Must Be Financially Independent And Stable Enough To Come To The US, NYC To Meet, But Only If She's Ready For Me To Seriously Be In Her Life..."


I have to be honest some of the blog posts made me laugh. 


You can find the full posts here: http://find-bride.com/blogs/

[Maxx2]

Man you are seeing problems where there is none. ALL of this is 100% above board and everyone is sincere and well adjusted.

[GQBlues]

Do they show the pictures of the men who are writing these drivels? If so, does their physical attributes have any correlation to their ramblings? Would they be the type who won't have problem dating beautiful/younger women in the US?

[Dewed]

I'd say pretty sly way to spamvertise the site... but it isn't

[Maxx2]

Do they show the pictures of the men who are writing these drivels? If so, does their physical attributes have any correlation to their ramblings? Would they be the type who won't have problem dating beautiful/younger women in the US?

Sure do! Look at this one.








CAN LOVE GROW WITH A WOMEN IF YOU'VE STILL A VIRGIN ?
[12 Dec 2013]




Many thing's I tend to think about the older I become. The one question I often ponder is if a women can love a man how is still a virgin. Most men by my age 32 have had many girlfriends / lovers but I myself have not. In today's world women have become the preditor's sex mad beasts only looking to fill there needs for lustful sex. Maybe I'm a little odd but I truly believe women should be more less in need of sex and more in need of finding an honest truthful kind and devoted man such as myself. Someone how's not perfect not a mr fitness freak not vine or full of himself. True I don't have the looks or the money to make women want me but I've got something money or looks can't buy Feeling's. No i'm not a softy loser i'm a realistic modern man looking for a soul mate. To bad all my life women never see me or want me but i live and pray. That someday someone will hold me kiss me and look into my eyes and tell me without a shadow of a doubt that they love me.

[GQBlues]

Great! Then likely the answer lies within...

Like this one-

...True I don't have the looks or the money to make women want me but I've got something money or looks can't buy Feeling's. No i'm not a softy loser i'm a realistic modern man looking for a soul mate. To bad all my life women never see me or want me but i live and pray. That someday someone will hold me kiss me and look into my eyes and tell me without a shadow of a doubt that they love me.

So off he goes to the MOB biz since no one else have feelings like he apparently does.

[Obtuso]

I'd say pretty sly way to spamvertise the site... but it isn't

Hello, I'm not advertising a pay per letter scam site 

I just think that these men need help, but at the same
time it's funny to read what they posted. 

Look at this poor men, he is in love with a picture:

http://find-bride.com/blogs/view/all/1242
http://find-bride.com/search/man_profile/all/94409

He says in his profile that he uses the site to and I quote:

I AM IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP WITH A LOVELY WOMAN
ON THIS SITE(...)
I COME TO THIS SITE NOW TO KEEP CONTACT WITH HER ONLY!
AS MUCH AS I AM FLATTERED TO RECEIVE LETTERS AND CHAT
REQUESTS I SIMPLY WILL NOT ANSWER THESE AS I LOVE ONLY
HER WITH ALL MY HEART AND SOUL!"

This guy is living a fantasy...an expensive one!

I wonder if this is a good representation of the men in this sites?
Apparently it is, I also read a few articles on other forum about men
who spend thousands of dollars in Pay-per-letter sites, go to Odessa
and never meet the woman they were writing to.

I have a question:

If someone is using a reputable site like Elenas Models wouldn't be a
good idea to state in the profile that one is not a dreamy keyboard
romeo that thinks that is possible to be in a relationship with a woman
only via email?

I think that my first post was epic and legendary 

[Maxx2]

Great! Then likely the answer lies within...

Like this one-




Quote from: Mr. Anonymous on Today at 04:11:40 PM...True I don't have the looks or the money to make women want me but I've got something money or looks can't buy Feeling's. No i'm not a softy loser i'm a realistic modern man looking for a soul mate. To bad all my life women never see me or want me but i live and pray. That someday someone will hold me kiss me and look into my eyes and tell me without a shadow of a doubt that they love me.
So off he goes to the MOB biz since no one else have feelings like he apparently does.

He stole all my lines.

[Daveman]

sheesh... almost painful to read.  The best help would probably be a good ass-whuppin'.

...

I think that my first post was epic and legendary 

Welcome to the asylum, Mr. Legendary...   

[Maxx2]

I think that my first post was epic and legendary 

You did well grasshopper.

[Maxx2]

Look at this poor men, he is in love with a picture:

http://find-bride.com/blogs/view/all/1242
http://find-bride.com/search/man_profile/all/94409

The guy is unbalanced to the extreme,

My loving Nadezhda I want you to know I do all in my power to make you happy! I love you with every ounce of my being and cannot live without you!!! I ask that you be patient with me my love and understand that at times there are circumstances I just cannot control! I will always do my best to be with you in chat my love and do desire to speak with you each and every night! We have shared so much love between us and my love for you is endless! Please baby don't give up on us!!! I always will love you and nothing will ever change this! Honey please from the bottom of my heart I beg you to be patient and know that I am only your man and desire no other in my life but you! I have not been so loved by any woman like I am loved by you! Nadezhda I am the happiest man alive and owe this all to your sweet love! My grey skies are now bright azure blue because of you and I desire to keep this love between us alive and have you as my wife! Nadezhda my sweetest angel my world revolves around you and hope you know you are my best lady and I love you dearly! Don't listen or give into the negativity!!! Nothing has changed between us and we are still in love and will be together soon! Please tell me you still desire my love and want to be in my life!!!! I need you, I want you, I desire you, and I LOVE YOU!!!!

I think he has the possibility of being suicidal.

[GQBlues]

The guy is unbalanced to the extreme,

I think he has the possibility of being suicidal.

We'll maxx the truth of the matter is had you been reading some of the recent tales our current membership had been sharing, I won't be surprised some of them are the guys from the site we're discussing right now.

 

[Gator]

A lame site attracts lame people.  rather than pick on the lame, let us try to help them.   If any Find-Bride.com guys are reading this thread, I have some news - you are being fleeced!  Spending you hard earned money (or in some cases it seems your monthly unemployment) to chase fantasies.

"Alena please keep in touch with me even though I do not have credits to message you back..... I can buy credits when I have extra money, but I do have bills to pay also."

"I have met someone on here. She has written me a few letters. She thinks I am ignoring her and playing games. I hope she reads the blog posts. Don't worry beautiful? I'm not ignoring you and I'm not playing games. I'm as serious as you are, if not more. I ran out of credits. As soon as I get more, I'll be sending you more letters."

How much is a flucking credit!  And these guys think they have the money to marry and take care of a FSUW!

Why do silly men spend money on fantasies.  Could it be they are titillated by the photos, the words of love for the lonely, the words of lust for the horn dogs as done here on 12 Dec 2013 under the blog entry 5 Perfectly Good Reasons To Sleep With Him On The First Date (obviously stolen from Cosmopolitan):                 :

Today I want to talk about special topic. I know that all we are not
small kids, who topic of sex is open for us- and it is also a way to
 enjoy life.

1. It Might Be Your Only Chance
 When I was in college, I had a crazy fire burning in my loins for a
 guy that I worked with on my college newspaper. I just had to
 experience some sort of physical intimacy with him, consequences
 (heartbreak, post-coital awkwardness, etc.) be damned. When the
 opportunity presented itself — in the form of me getting a little
 tipsy and pushing him up against a brick wall in order to kiss him — I
 seized it. I knew full well that my brazen behavior could cost me any
 further opportunities with him, but I also knew those opportunities
 were hardly guaranteed. This one time was. So. Worth. It. But I had to
 be OK with it maybe not being worth it in the first place.

2. To Weed Out The Sexists
 Some say that a guy won’t take a woman “seriously” if she gives up the
 cookies on the first date. Guess what? I don’t take guys like this
 seriously because they are gross, sexist hypocrites who will
 eventually reveal themselves as such whether you sleep with them on
 the first date or the 50th — better to find out early, right? Time is
 a-wastin’!

3. To Get Laid, Duh
 Guess what? Women like to have sex too. And sometimes, shocker, we
 don’t spend hours and hours obsessing over
 OMG-what-might-happen-if-we-do-it — sometimes we’re … how do I put
 this … what’s the word? Oh yeah. Horny.

4. Test Your Sexual Chemistry
 And by that I really mean “find out if you’re compatible in bed.” You
 can spark all you want with someone, but, when push comes to shove, if
 they can’t get you aroused, you’re in trouble. I really don’t see the
 point in delaying that inevitable discovery. Do archaeologists spot,
 like, a dinosaur bone and then say, “You know, I don’t think we should
 dig it up and identify whether it’s a triceratops or a stegosaurus for
 another three weeks”? No. They don’t. Don’t try and find flaws with
 this argument. It’s completely irrefutable.

5. Once Is Enough
 I have this theory that when men have little boy babies, they sneak
 into their rooms at night while mom is sleeping and whisper in their
 tiny, impressionable ears, “When a woman has sex with you, she will
 always want to come back for more.” Movies like “Fatal Attraction”
only reinforce this stereotype that once a woman meets a penis she has
 to make it her best friend. Seriously, sometimes we’re totally fine
 and cool with only having sex with someone once. Therefore,
 fornicating on the first date is just efficient day planner
 management.

 Ultimately, only you can decide for yourself if sleeping with a guy on
 a first date is a good idea for you and what you want from him after
 the sex is over. Oh, and don’t be stupid. Use a condom. STDs and
 accidental pregnancies take the fun out of brunch the next morning.
 Enjoy life and creat happyness...
 Diana

[Maxx2]

And these guys think they have the money to marry and take care of a FSUW!

I was on the phone telling this story a friend last night. He said the same thing as you did Gator. I stopped him up short when I said "Don't you know RW bring in an extra income and actually are a net cash flow benefit. Once you have a Russian wife you have even more money to spend" 

[GQBlues]

So going back to the original statement 'These Dudes Need our Help'...

Good luck with that. Reading the silly drivels so far only tells me, again just like what we can see here time and again, the only reality they're prepared to recognize and entertain are those that fit their fantasies. The focus gets narrower with every 'dear' and every 'I kiss you lover Boy'. It doesn't matter if they were coming from Yuri or Sergei either. You tell them otherwise - you just get peg as the bad guy. Best you pat them on the back just like the rest in the peanut gallery do.

So when all is said and done, it's their life, money, time and yes, even *reality*.

[Daveman]

The guy is unbalanced to the extreme,




I think he has the possibility of being suicidal.

This guy sounds like some of the visa scam letters I received..

[Slumba]

I agree it can be hilarious to read some of this stuff.

However, it is not just MOBers who do such things, it is just guys in general who haven't figured out women (or some subset of women) yet.

For instance, take the case of this NZ guy, searching for an American girl he met

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11167145

The mystery girl was found, and predictably, she wanted nothing to do with him, which is why she blew him off with "find me" in the first case...

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11169158

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11192295

""I just wanted to tell you that I'm flattered, but not interested in any relationship or whatever," she said in her reply.

"It was a memorable night and I'd just like to leave it at that."

Mr McKee said he accepted her decision and just wanted to reconnect and stay in touch, adding: "I don't think I'll hear from her again".

[Maxx2]

I agree it can be hilarious to read some of this stuff.

However, it is not just MOBers who do such things, it is just guys in general who haven't figured out women (or some subset of women) yet.

For instance, take the case of this NZ guy, searching for an American girl he met

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11167145

The mystery girl was found, and predictably, she wanted nothing to do with him, which is why she blew him off with "find me" in the first case...

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11169158

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11192295

""I just wanted to tell you that I'm flattered, but not interested in any relationship or whatever," she said in her reply.

"It was a memorable night and I'd just like to leave it at that."

Mr McKee said he accepted her decision and just wanted to reconnect and stay in touch, adding: "I don't think I'll hear from her again".

I think this fellow seen Sleepless in Seattle too much. At least he didn't try to arrange a rendezvous at the top of the Empire State Building    I mean he did show some dignity….

[GQBlues]

The moral in that story is:

1. There's nothing significant whatsoever to do in New Zealand. Even their newspaper will willingly waste time and material on a very silly story like that.

2. Women of the world beware: Kiwis will happily tote the fine line of internet stalking just to find something to do with themselves.

3. There's really nothing in New Zealand. Seriously.

[Anotherkiwi]

I agree it can be hilarious to read some of this stuff.

However, it is not just MOBers who do such things, it is just guys in general who haven't figured out women (or some subset of women) yet.

For instance, take the case of this NZ guy, searching for an American girl he met

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11167145

The mystery girl was found, and predictably, she wanted nothing to do with him, which is why she blew him off with "find me" in the first case...

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11169158

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11192295

""I just wanted to tell you that I'm flattered, but not interested in any relationship or whatever," she said in her reply.

"It was a memorable night and I'd just like to leave it at that."

Mr McKee said he accepted her decision and just wanted to reconnect and stay in touch, adding: "I don't think I'll hear from her again".

There's a hell of a difference between this guy and your "average MOBer."
 
Firstly, he actually met her, and spent a night with her, even if he wasn't thinking clearly enough to get her full name and contact details.
 
Secondly, she told/asked him to "find her."  Knowing the power of the internet, he set up a Facebook page, eventually got interviewed by the Herald - and found her!
 
Thirdly, he eventually was able to contact her, found out that she wasn't particularly interested in renewing their friendship, and basically left it at that.
 
Where has he spent thousands of dollars on meaningless correspondence and chat, and when has he spent weeks of his time wandering around the FSU wondering why his supposed sweetheart is nowhere to be found?
 

...I mean he did show some dignity….

Rather more than some people on this site.

[Anotherkiwi]

The moral in that story is:

1. There's nothing significant whatsoever to do in New Zealand. Even their newspaper will willingly waste time and material on a very silly story like that.

2. Women of the world beware: Kiwis will happily tote the fine line of internet stalking just to find something to do with themselves.

3. There's really nothing in New Zealand. Seriously.

If you had actually read this properly, the action took place in Hong Kong, not New Zealand.  It could quite easily have been someone from the USA or the Philippines who ended up in this situation (and, because there are a lot more of them, I'm sure Americans and Filipinos have done so far more often than anyone from this part of the world).
 
What is it with you and your animosity towards every country in the world other than the one which adopted you?  Seriously?  Of course it's a fluffy story about a fairly clueless guy, but so what?  Nobody got hurt, nobody lost money to a scam, plenty of people get a smile out of it, and life goes on.
 
You haven't been to my country, and you don't have a clue about it, so just move on and let us live in our little cloud of (generally) peaceful bliss.

[fathertime]

I agree it can be hilarious to read some of this stuff.

However, it is not just MOBers who do such things, it is just guys in general who haven't figured out women (or some subset of women) yet.

For instance, take the case of this NZ guy, searching for an American girl he met

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11167145

The mystery girl was found, and predictably, she wanted nothing to do with him, which is why she blew him off with "find me" in the first case...

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11169158

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11192295

""I just wanted to tell you that I'm flattered, but not interested in any relationship or whatever," she said in her reply.

"It was a memorable night and I'd just like to leave it at that."

Mr McKee said he accepted her decision and just wanted to reconnect and stay in touch, adding: "I don't think I'll hear from her again".

Ha!  That was an interesting little story slumba...the guy looked pretty young...I can recall getting signals crossed as  a young guy....I figured out that if a woman isn't returning a phone call it isn't because she is playing hard to get, it is because she isn't very interested...similarly the woman didn't tell him to 'find me' because she was trying to be mysterious...obviously she was blowing him off...he just played that hand all the way to the river and lost, whereas a guy with experience (and options) would have folded the nad way before...  Probably just some nervous kid, that didn't know how to gain her interested in the brief time they were together...


Fathertime!   

[Maxx2]

If you had actually read this properly, the action took place in Hong Kong, not New Zealand.  It could quite easily have been someone from the USA or the Philippines who ended up in this situation (and, because there are a lot more of them, I'm sure Americans and Filipinos have done so far more often than anyone from this part of the world).
 
What is it with you and your animosity towards every country in the world other than the one which adopted you?  Seriously?  Of course it's a fluffy story about a fairly clueless guy, but so what?  Nobody got hurt, nobody lost money to a scam, plenty of people get a smile out of it, and life goes on.
 
You haven't been to my country, and you don't have a clue about it, so just move on and let us live in our little cloud of (generally) peaceful bliss.

Take it easy. He'd say the same about any country. He's just joking around.


It's cool how New Zealand was where Lord of the Rings was filmed. I hope someday I can visit there. I'd like see all those castles.

[Gator]

Kiwi,

You are spoiling the chaps' fun of pulling the wings off flies, mocking the unfortunate, etc.

My cousin, an outdoors woman, lived in NZ for ten years, loved it, and returned to the US to be closer to her parents.

A kiwi I met in Vietnam in the 60s described NZ as the "height of mediocrity."

An older kiwi in my neighborhood said nothing positive or negative other than he missed the All Blacks.

[Patagonie]

I agree it can be hilarious to read some of this stuff.

However, it is not just MOBers who do such things, it is just guys in general who haven't figured out women (or some subset of women) yet.

For instance, take the case of this NZ guy, searching for an American girl he met

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11167145

The mystery girl was found, and predictably, she wanted nothing to do with him, which is why she blew him off with "find me" in the first case...

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11169158

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11192295

""I just wanted to tell you that I'm flattered, but not interested in any relationship or whatever," she said in her reply.

"It was a memorable night and I'd just like to leave it at that."

Mr McKee said he accepted her decision and just wanted to reconnect and stay in touch, adding: "I don't think I'll hear from her again".

For the time and energy spent he would have had plenty of sex....