Is our future fiancee or wife to be faithful???

[vwrw]

George,
Answer yourself only very sincerely – each time when you call your g/f do you it because of you very want to hear her? Or sometimes you call her without a huge desire but still call her just because you appointed conversation before. I have one friend (she has being lived in Florida by now for 5 years and very love her husband) she could not answer her (then future) husband sometimes only because she was very tired and was not able to think in English well. Did she understand her man was worry about her? Yes, she did. But she preferred him to worry than herself to complain him about her life. Is she strange? Maybe, but her husband love her and is happy with her maxsimalizm (I am not sure I wrote the word right way- she likes to make things well or does not make at all.)       

[Zhena]

George,
Answer yourself only very sincerely – each time when you call your g/f do you it because of you very want to hear her? Or sometimes you call her without a huge desire but still call her just because you appointed conversation before. I have one friend (she has being lived in Florida by now for 5 years and very love her husband) she could not answer her (then future) husband sometimes only because she was very tired and was not able to think in English well. Did she understand her man was worry about her? Yes, she did. But she preferred him to worry than herself to complain him about her life. Is she strange? Maybe, but her husband love her and is happy with her maxsimalizm (I am not sure I wrote the word right way- she likes to make things well or does not make at all.)       

Its not so strange-I did the same sometimes...

[wiz]

Did she understand her man was worry about her? Yes, she did. But she preferred him to worry than herself to complain him about her life. Is she strange?

That is rubbish. you do not behave like that except when you want to make your man or woman jealous and of course women are the champions on this game. Any other explanation does not apply.

Even if you are exhausted and you know is your man or woman on the phone you make an effort to speak in any language and they will understand and leave you to sleep.

[Zhena]

you do not behave like that except when you want to make your man or woman jealous

Not true. I think its a laziness.

[Sohkay]

Too lazy to speak to the person you love?

Hmmmm...very interesting.

[Gator]

The next time he calls and she feels okay, she should explain her past behavior.  Then she and her partner should agree as to what is best.  Today with SMS she could say I am tired - please call tomorrow not tonight.

And if she is tired all the time and he is a live wire - big problems.

I called my ex-fiancee 2-4 times per week (average of 3) over three years.  She answered 99% of the time (having two young kids keeps you at home).  When tired or ill, she still answered, did the formalities quickly, asked if anything was important, and asked if it could wait to another day because she was tired.  And with two kids she would be very tired at times.  When very ill and sleeping, she did not answer. But I was not jealous.

Jealousy.  That is a very complicated emotion, with psychology books written about the subject.  No comment.

[Zhena]

Too lazy to speak to the person you love?

Hmmmm...very interesting.

I ll explain ;)Yes,I love the person. But you cant be excited everyday and every time. You cant imagine how much effort takes a phone conversation...I always preferred a messenger. By phone you cant hear clearly often and a conversation becomes to be a torture. After a hard working day thats not a fun. So usually after short phone talking I asked to come online and continue there...

[Zhena]

I always prefer to trust muself and expect for trust. If you cant trust-you will have to think is your relationships right... ::)I am not a jelaousy person and dont like a jelaousy from my mans side-luckily,he is wise enough and knows me well

[Zmejka]

I think there's clearly the difference between not answering the phone at all and answering but not talking for a long time (if you're tired etc). First case rises some suspicions especially when the time of call was discussed before hand - and in the second case it's more understandable.

[Turboguy]

I would have to agree.  If you have set a time to call, not answering would be rude.  If you were just in the habit of calling often sometime then it would not be rude.   I would probably rather my gal answer and say, I am really tired tonight than not but if her work circumstanses were such that I knew she might be sleeping then of course I would not want her to answer. 

Everyone has thier own make up of body chemistry and energy levels.  I think both parites need to be understanding of the other how ever that works out for the couple.

[Voyageur]

I'll chime in with my past experiences here - from my first, failed K1 - relationship - UW  to my present RW wife  .  Both women spoke English at about the same level when they were living in their country.

For the first relationship, we normally called once a week, at a pre-arranged time. Near the end of our relationship, she missed several calls without too much remorse, with a variety of excuses  .  It was a big red flag.

With my wife, it was totally different. we sent each other SMS several times each day and emails. Telephone calls were less frequent but still always made and answered.

[Stirlitz]

Igor,

Checking out your customer's merchandise to make sure it's satisfactory for their arrival? Your wife will kill you!

LOL… She will.