A service that provides advice?

[xiphoid]

In the past I had heard of women that provided advice, for a fee, concerning relationships & dating FSU women. Can anyone here refer me to anyone? I have a situation.

[BillyB]

Can anyone here refer me to anyone? I have a situation.

I can refer you to everybody. Just post your situation here and consider it as good as fixed!

[JayH]

In the past I had heard of women that provided advice, for a fee, concerning relationships & dating FSU women. Can anyone here refer me to anyone? I have a situation.

What area?  City?

Much as open forum can be painful at times--BillyB has actually said something right above. I am certain that you would get plenty of "advice" !!

[alex330]

I am sure there are quite a few RW that would be willing to do that. They may deal out harsher advice and be more blunt about it than the guys on here though

[xiphoid]

Thank you guys but it no longer matters. She does not believe I am serious enough. Short of showing up unannounced... What I need now are the names of some good dating sites.

[msmobyone]

Thank you guys but it no longer matters. She does not believe I am serious enough. Short of showing up unannounced... What I need now are the names of some good dating sites.

Dear xiphoid,

put simply, that can be '' you keep saying you will come, but don't'' or her expectations of demonstrations of seriousness  do not match yours..

That might help

[xiphoid]

I agree. We met a year ago in Moscow. Its complicated and difficult to explain here. I made mistakes. I would go back if I thought it would make a difference.

[Anotherkiwi]

I agree. We met a year ago in Moscow. Its complicated and difficult to explain here. I made mistakes. I would go back if I thought it would make a difference.

Don't.  Once an FSUW drops you, you're toast.  Don't waste your time trying to get back into her good books - you won't.  She will already have moved on, so you need to do the same.

[BC]

Don't.  Once an FSUW drops you, you're toast.  Don't waste your time trying to get back into her good books - you won't.  She will already have moved on, so you need to do the same.

Yepper... at least my little experience it's either all in or nuthin..

xhipoid,

if it ain't working at home, looking elsewhere rarely works out.

Just IMHO

[BillyB]

A week ago you came here asking for a person you could hire for advice. If you knew you were on life support with this lady and you really wanted to keep her, you should have had the courage to get any advice from us, even if some of it were criticisms. There's nothing to be ashamed about when using all possible means to save a relationship with the woman you love.

We met a year ago in Moscow. I made mistakes.

Mistakes or you just weren't that interested in her? This time around, date as many ladies as you can at home and over there and you'll have a better chance at finding one that interests you enough to want to come back for more...more often. If you do things the right way, you will find a woman that will make you forget this one.

[xiphoid]

1. It was a complicated situation and would be difficult to explain here. 2. I do not lack courage but rather I doubted anyone would want to hear my personal problems in this forum.

[BC]

There's nothing to be ashamed about when using all possible means to save a relationship with the woman you love.

Sure, XI should not be ashamed... but I highly doubt trying to 'save' a relationship ever works out well.. a relationship either works or it does not.  XI did just fine IMHO and is moving on.  One might consider 'save mode' many years after trading rings but before it even really begins?... naaa..

[ML]

Don't.  Once an FSUW drops you, you're toast.  Don't waste your time trying to get back into her good books - you won't.  She will already have moved on, so you need to do the same.

And not only would you be toast with her . . . she should be toast with you.

Don't kiss a$$ for any woman (or man) . . . except as a parting gift (for yourself) if it really is exceptional.

[2tallbill]

Don't.  Once an FSUW drops you, you're toast.  Don't waste your time trying to get back into her good books - you won't.  She will already have moved on, so you need to do the same.

And not only would you be toast with her . . . she should be toast with you.

but I highly doubt trying to 'save' a relationship ever works out well.. a relationship either works or it does not.  XI did just fine IMHO and is moving on. 

+1

I recommend that men don't recycle girls. Conversely, don't allow yourself to be recycled
either. You want a first place girl and not to settle for second place girl and you want to
be the first place candidate for the girl. Who wants an f###ing tepid girl?

Men (I've done it too) make this mistake all the time just because the girl is so damn
hot. They pursue a girl who is lukewarm towards them but hasn't rejected them
outright so they think that the girl will see the light. Stop! This isn't Hollywood.
Kick her cute little @ss to the curb! 

The second thing men do is to look at all the time, emotions and energy they spent getting
to the place that they are at now and drag their feet pulling the plug, even though they
know they are done. You've gotta pull the plug, give yourself a pep talk and move on. I
know it's really, really hard but the sooner you do the sooner you will find your future
soulmate.

Find a different hot girl who wants you, not one that may (she won't) settle for you.

Most men have limited time and resources to spend on this endeavor. Don't waste
time pursuing so-so girls or girls with less than enthusiastic interest in you.

I've made a thousand mistakes and spent nine years searching before I found Angel
Eyes. I pursued girls from Pay per view sites, I've chased girls who were too young.
I didn't pull the plug when I knew that it was over. I went to the FSU without a backup
plan and had to make one up on the fly.

I had a few things going for me.
1. I wasn't going to settle for anyone that wasn't an excellent girl for me.
2. I continued to look at what I did right and wrong and corrected my mistakes.
I didn't keep doing the same thing wrong again and again. I refined my approach
a hundred times and looked critically at every aspect of my search.
3. I was too stubborn/stupid to quit.

Udachi!


Bill

[BillyB]

I highly doubt trying to 'save' a relationship ever works out well.. a relationship either works or it does not. 

Depends on where they were at in their relationship. Not married but they may have been a couple for a year and that is something Xiphoid shouldn't throw away compared to if they dated once and the lady acted up. Xiphoid needs to ask himself why the relationship didn't work out. Where was the failure? The problem may lie with the woman who may be too impatient, too demanding, and too unreasonable or the problem may have been his. If the problem was his, he needed to fix it to save the relationship which is worth a try after being with her for a year. One shouldn't just throw that away so easily. If the relationship isn't salvageable, moving on to another woman isn't going to do him any good if the problem still isn't fixed.

[2tallbill]

What I need now are the names of some good dating sites.

http://www.russianwomendiscussion.com/index.php?topic=14615.0

[xiphoid]

I’m going to get flamed for this but here goes. Last January 16, I posted “A service that provides advice?” I was reluctant to get into detail. The jist of it was that I pulled the plug too soon on a girl after corresponding for 3 months and meeting her in Moscow. Unfortunately it continued to eat at me a year afterwards - that feeling one gets when one has made a blunder in a relationship. So I made contact with her through a personal Russian friend that lives there in Moscow. She accepted my flowers and gifts from my friend but she had many questions and was certainly confused. She and my friend had a long lunch on me and talked. Later my friend told me that my girl was ready for a long term relationship with me and was ready to move to me. My friend told me that I let a good woman go and it will be difficult to convince her. We exchanged email once since then but she no longer believes I am serious about her. I’ve written to and met more women than I can remember over the years but she is one of the very few that stands out in my memory. The other few were also ones I walked away from and later regretted. I threw a good thing away – again. My friend suggested I return and surprise her. I think BillyB was right.

[BillyB]

Sounds like your friend helped you get your foot in the door again but not enough done on your part to show the lady you were serious. FSU women are big about action. Your friend is right visiting your lady will help your cause but there is no guarantee that will work. Couple of things to think about. What is the woman worth to you and can she move past these events or hold them against you forever? And, there are other good women out there so it's not the end of the world if you don't marry this one.

[ML]

Typically a woman (or man) will not go back with a person who dumped them.

And, so I read here, this is particularly true with FSU women. 

I did beat those odds once when I thought I had made a mistake and wanted to give a second try with an FSU gal that I had said goodbye to.

She never threw it up to me in the time we were together the second go-around.

However, I did say goodbye to her a second time; and I would never try to go back to her again and I am sure she would never give it a third try.

[LAman]

Typically a woman (or man) will not go back with a person who dumped them.

And, so I read here, this is particularly true with FSU women. 

 

If you ever knew a lot of FSU gals you would know they go back and forth with boyfriends ALL the time. Even to have kids with them!!!

I know in the states it happens all the time!!!

[Shadow]

It seems you have asked the sam in May 2015, after meeting her in August 2014.
I would not consider a man who thinks about a woman every 9 months as serious either.
My best advice is to find a woman who does not know your past and will not find out until it is too late, and this time be ready to act and do what you need to do to keep her interest.

[xiphoid]

Thanks guys. Shadow I didn't think about her every 9 months - rather I just didn't stop. I really have been trying to move on since then but it's not so easily done. My mistake was not calling her up on Skype 2 or 3 times a week in addition to the e-mails. She certainly was not a knockout but rather she had some real depth and personality that was slow to register in my sometimes dim brain.  There must be a reason for this - she is a good God believing woman. However I think a surprise visit would be a mistake. I am going to set myself a time limit and either ask her outright to meet me in Moscow or move on once and for all.

[Shadow]

Thanks guys. Shadow I didn't think about her every 9 months - rather I just didn't stop. I really have been trying to move on since then but it's not so easily done. My mistake was not calling her up on Skype 2 or 3 times a week in addition to the e-mails. She certainly was not a knockout but rather she had some real depth and personality that was slow to register in my sometimes dim brain.  There must be a reason for this - she is a good God believing woman. However I think a surprise visit would be a mistake. I am going to set myself a time limit and either ask her outright to meet me in Moscow or move on once and for all.

Meet her only if you are ready to get married within 6 months, including getting her a visa.
If not, forget about her.

[Irina-Rina]

In the past I had heard of women that provided advice, for a fee, concerning relationships & dating FSU women. Can anyone here refer me to anyone? I have a situation.

Hi, if you need assistance of a professional AM/RW relationship counselor, I guess I might help. I have been doing this for many years. Whatever bothers you, just let me know. 

[Muzh]

Hi, if you need assistance of a professional AM/RW relationship counselor, I guess I might help. I have been doing this for many years. Whatever bothers you, just let me know. 

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