Hello from Ukraine!

[marypoppins]

Hi there! My name is Maria. I am 21. I am a student. Browsing through the Internet, I came across this site. Having fun through some topics, I found this forum very interesting. So, I have signed up. It will be my pleasure if I can be helpful. Perhaps, the question I am going to ask you has been answered many times before, so I apologize in advance. I am curious to learn, at what age do western men usually consider their 'first' marriage? Thank you.

[ML]

Can be anywhere from age 18 on up.
It is my understanding that the age of first marriage for both men and women has been going up in USA and is probably in late 20s now.

[SANDRO43]

Hello Maria, and

I am curious to learn, at what age do western men usually consider their 'first' marriage?

Hard to reply with any definite age figure . Many other considerations apply to deciding to marry/live together, the most important being having a job/jobs that could support the couple adequately .

In my country high unemployment among young people has raised the average marrying age considerably, also aided by the fact that Italian mammas tend to spoil their male offspring .

[tfcrew]

 
 

              marypoppins

  first marriage 

Hopefully we are not saying that there will no doubt ..absolutely ..automatically be a second

[drsecu]

Hi there! My name is Maria. I am 21. I am a student. Browsing through the Internet, I came across this site. Having fun through some topics, I found this forum very interesting. So, I have signed up. It will be my pleasure if I can be helpful. Perhaps, the question I am going to ask you has been answered many times before, so I apologize in advance. I am curious to learn, at what age do western men usually consider their 'first' marriage? Thank you.

In the USA a lot of couples meet in college (started dating at 18-21yrs old) end up getting married at 24-27yr old.  For most others starting a career and get established first it is typically a bit longer.  There is a big trend upward because our health insurance system makes it cheaper to be single in many cases.

[marypoppins]

Thank you for giving your answers and very warm welcome. 

[JayH]

Welcome Maria,     

You pose an interesting question.
A couple of points -- amongst educated people the marriage age tends to get pushed back as education and then getting established in a career takes precedence over personal life.
Even then-- in my world ( Australia) the majority  prefer to live with each other and often only marry when children are involved.Girls are often over 30 before they consider children
In the eyes of the law here there is little difference in being formally married and in a long term relationship.
Now -- I realise that is a little different to how FSU girls look at it !!
What would be interesting to the forum to hear is your own views ,expectations and preferences,desires ambitions etc.

What area do you live?

[2tallbill]

Thank you for giving your answers and very warm welcome. 

Welcome to the forum

[Bounder]

Hi there! My name is Maria. I am 21. I am a student. Browsing through the Internet, I came across this site. Having fun through some topics, I found this forum very interesting. So, I have signed up. It will be my pleasure if I can be helpful. Perhaps, the question I am going to ask you has been answered many times before, so I apologize in advance. I am curious to learn, at what age do western men usually consider their 'first' marriage? Thank you.

Welcome to you Maria!  Thanks for signing up and joining the conversations here.  I come from Canada, but from a very specific, traditional community, where people get married young.  So I have been thinking about marriage since, at least 18 years of age.  However, I moved away and I didn't get married until the age of 34.

We're divorced now and I'm no longer looking for my first marriage.

[BillyB]

Welcome to the forum Maria. What do you think about the men and women that are from different countries and want to marry each other? Is this path in life something you would consider?

[marypoppins]

To JayH:

I live in Kyiv

To BillyB:

I applaud the couples who, despite all the challenges that international marriages present, have overcome all the obstacles they faced and who are now proof that people can marry, successfully, across any barriers (provided that the union of a man and woman sharing the same core values is based on mutual love).

Of course I would consider that path. Why not?

[Trenchcoat]

To JayH:

I live in Kyiv

To BillyB:

I applaud the couples who, despite all the challenges that international marriages present, have overcome all the obstacles they faced and who are now proof that people can marry, successfully, across any barriers (provided that the union of a man and woman sharing the same core values is based on mutual love).

Of course I would consider that path. Why not?

Hi Maria, & Welcome

In the UK many women now put marriage and children way back and career first. I would say many women consider marriage around late twenties and children from this point to early to mid thirties. The influence exerted by the societal and education system here in the UK on women (& men also) is quite telling. Many women will unfortunately lack much interest in relationships and instead focus a lot of time on studies. Of course this is not true of all women but has tended to be the trend since the 1970s & 80s growing ever more evident as time passes. Naturally, this has pushed many more people to living alone and now roughly 50 percent (half) the population of the UK is now single. This is starkly different from several decades ago. Not all of these will be young singles though, some will be divorced, some will be widowed, etc.

So it pleases me to see someone young as yourself seriously interested in finding someone through looking internationally The societal trends here and in many western countries towards the woman putting career first is rarely a happy picture.

Indeed, many Western Men would see you as being very young to be looking for marriage on the international dating scene and while it is possible may be dubious of your intent or think you are just out for a bit of fun. I myself several weeks back now turned down a girl on an online dating site who messaged me who was just 21 like yourself but to my late thirties seemed just a stretch too far for me to be comfortable thinking about being in a serious relationship with. Some men may be happy to fool around and some where there is a big age gap might consider it but for me it makes me feel a little uneasy. To me while fooling around seems a fun idea for a short while its not really what I'm after, I want a serious relationship and spending time fooling around could mean I'm missing out on a serious relationship girl. Can I ask what sort of age group are you looking at? Feel free to be honest, going for older is fine if that is what you don't mind.

Anyway I'm currently got a thing going with a girl in her mid twenties, nothing solid as yet but signs so far are good and I am hopeful. Mid twenties was a push for me but she seems right so I'm not going to put it as a barrier.

The obstacles you mention are important I think though, I have not yet got into international dating far enough to really come into contact with these but if I do I'm sure I will and with present girl it looks like these might possibly be on the horizon, lol. In fact this is probably quite timely and in need of a thread in itself. 

[marypoppins]

To Trenchcoat:

I would feel comfortable dating men within the age range of 20-30

[ML]

I would feel comfortable dating men within the age range of 20-30

So good sex is not important to you ?

[msmob]

So good sex is not important to you ?

 

[Trenchcoat]

To Trenchcoat:

I would feel comfortable dating men within the age range of 20-30

How so?

[Maxx2]

Hi there! My name is Maria. I am 21. I am a student. Browsing through the Internet, I came across this site. Having fun through some topics, I found this forum very interesting. So, I have signed up. It will be my pleasure if I can be helpful. Perhaps, the question I am going to ask you has been answered many times before, so I apologize in advance. I am curious to learn, at what age do western men usually consider their 'first' marriage? Thank you.

I got married at 19, but that was in ancient times. Back in those days it was natural for most people to be married by 25 or so, including men. Nowadays the age of marriage is up in the mid thirties, if at all. Back in times past it was almost unheard of a single adult to live alone in a house. It was always married couples. Nowadays in Minnesota/Wisconsin where I came from more than half of all households have a single adult living in them. Since then I've have moved to Georgia. No, not the State of Georgia, but the Republic of Georgia. Over south and east of you. Here it is more like America of the 1950s and 60s. Multigenerational families live together. Women usually marry by 25 and men by 30 or so.


Welcome to the forum!