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Money, money, money money
« on: August 25, 2019, 11:11:46 PM »
Good evening gentlemen.  I've noticed in the past couple of years a dramatic spike in women you meet on dating sites and while you're planning a trip to the woman's country for a real meeting, the woman suddenly springs on you a large cash request or a request for an expensive gift.  Then when I say no, I get blocked on whatever platform I am using to communicate with her.  I've also dated in other countries and it seems pretty standard across the board now a days.  Then there are others which are more subtle and while you're communicating with them, they will complain about their financial troubles and basically bring up their troubles quite often.  all this is prior to the first meeting.  I travel 2 or 3 times per year so these requests for cash are popping up like at the 4th week of communicating.  Where are we headed as a society?  I'm willing to work hard for my future wife, for my future family and be the main breadwinner, since I have two degrees, good work, etc.  But these requests are just plain theft and thuggery in my opinion. 

On another note, Ive been communicating with a single mother from somewhere in the urals for about two months.  Shes a hairdresser and her son is about 10 years old.  suddenly she sends me a message that she's in Dubai on vacation.  I find it a bit questionable that she can make enough money to afford such a trip.  I mean I can understand Sochi or Odessa but Dubai is a rather expensive city.  I asked her if the was there with her son and she said no.  She claims she was there alone.  Any thoughts? 

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Re: Money, money, money money
« Reply #1 on: August 25, 2019, 11:24:53 PM »
I've noticed in the past couple of years a dramatic spike in women you meet on dating sites and while you're planning a trip to the woman's country for a real meeting, the woman suddenly springs on you a large cash request or a request for an expensive gift. 


You may be looking for love in all the wrong places if that's the only girls that you seem to attract. Or you may be turning them off so they figure to hit you up for some cash before saying "Goodbye". If a girl thought of you as a man of value, she wouldn't insult you by requesting money or gifts because she knows it could scare off her dream man.


On another note, Ive been communicating with a single mother from somewhere in the urals for about two months.  Shes a hairdresser and her son is about 10 years old.  suddenly she sends me a message that she's in Dubai on vacation.  I find it a bit questionable that she can make enough money to afford such a trip.  I mean I can understand Sochi or Odessa but Dubai is a rather expensive city.  I asked her if the was there with her son and she said no.  She claims she was there alone.  Any thoughts? 


You're not in a relationship with the girl so if she's meeting a man in Dubai on his invitation, you should not worry about it. The man may have communicated with the woman for a month while you spent two months communicating with her but he quickly determined she is a winner and better lock her up before some other guy comes along.
There are people that will pass info about you and your family. Do not share info about yourself or share photos as they can search for you on the internet and distribute what they found since they are allowed to participate here.

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Re: Money, money, money money
« Reply #2 on: August 26, 2019, 12:45:13 AM »
You may be looking for love in all the wrong places if that's the only girls that you seem to attract. Or you may be turning them off so they figure to hit you up for some cash before saying "Goodbye". If a girl thought of you as a man of value, she wouldn't insult you by requesting money or gifts because she knows it could scare off her dream man.

You're not in a relationship with the girl so if she's meeting a man in Dubai on his invitation, you should not worry about it. The man may have communicated with the woman for a month while you spent two months communicating with her but he quickly determined she is a winner and better lock her up before some other guy comes along.

not necessarily.  I mentioned Ive also dated in other parts of the world such as latin America.  I think the money issue is more prevalent in other parts of the world such as latin America, but nonetheless I don't think its because I cant offer anything else of value and I have noticed a spike in requests. 

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« Reply #3 on: August 26, 2019, 07:21:29 AM »
Any thoughts?

First thought is you are doing something wrong to get repeated results
like this.

I don't know anything about your strategies or tactics, goals, etc.
So I am giving this advice generically so that newbies could glean
from it as well. Don't take anything personally because I don't know
enough about how and what you are doing so I am going to explain
several different things that could be the cause.

Six common mistakes

1. Large age differential search parameters. 
What is your age and what are the ages of these women? These
are the type of results one would expect when pushing the age
difference too far.

An example: A 50 year old writes one hundred 25 year old hotties.
95 of the hotties reject him or never reply. The 95 rejections were
from the good girls and the 5 who answer his emails have dubious
motives and/or character.

2. The same can be found with huge differences in looks. 5 foot tall fat
man with 5 teeth contacts only 6 foot tall runway models so very few
respond, those that do have questionable motives.

3. Failure to reject. A guy keeps communicating a girl who has displayed a
few caution flags or doesn't seem to have the same interest intensity. Usually
the girl is hot. You want a girl who is at least as interested in you as you are
in her AND you want a girl who doesn't have any yellow flags or character
concerns.

4. Failure to clear the board. You initiated contact with 25 girls and the ones
who responded positively have all seemed nice, but none of them stand out.
You want a standout. You want a number one girl. You are spinning your
wheels wasting your time and their time, you need to clear the board
and start over.

5. Failure to dump everyone else when you have a clear winner. Once you've
determined that Sally is the best girl then you kick Betty, Brenda and Bernette
to the curb. Otherwise Sally doesn't think you have the same interest intensity
and you get the boot. Women can sense things. They need to sense that you
are really into them.

6. Repeating the same mistakes/failure to review. I started over too many
times to count, but I would review what I did and how I did it. What could
I have done better each step of the way. I didn't want to make the same
mistake again.


Then when I say no, I get blocked on whatever platform I am using to communicate with her.  She claims she was there alone.  Any thoughts?

1. You should have dumped and blocked her first. 
2. Good girls don't talk about their financial difficulties with men that
they haven't met. Dump them
3. Dump Dubai girl. This girl should be talking about you getting on a
plane and meeting her and you should be talking about the same.

There should be a steady progression in your conversations with an FSUW .
By the time I've talked to a girl for a month, it's just me and her talking.
I am not talking to a half dozen others because I sort them out way faster
than that.

No girl travels to Dubai because she is reserving her vacation time to meet
with you.

« Last Edit: August 26, 2019, 05:02:45 PM by 2tallbill »
FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.

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Re: Money, money, money money
« Reply #4 on: August 26, 2019, 08:45:31 AM »
Omega, 

2tall and Billy give you excellent advice.  Follow it, and RWD's Ten Commandments. 

http://www.russianwomendiscussion.com/index.php?action=ezportal;sa=page;p=34

So concise, I copy below. 

Never send money to someone you have not met.

Always have a back-up plan

Work to eliminate any agency from your communications.

Always get the lady's home address and home phone number as early as possible.

Verify the ladies you are writing are real.

Do not fall in love with photos!!

Always be yourself. Show the ladies the real you. Be truthful. Use current photos.

Do not rush into this! Take your time and be methodical, not impulsive, about this process.

Treat international dating the same as dating someone from your home country. The biggest difference is the cost (travel, phone. etc). This is an expensive process. Don't believe anyone that tells you otherwise.

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A MAIL-ORDER BRIDE! They do not exist. 

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Re: Money, money, money money
« Reply #5 on: August 26, 2019, 12:37:40 PM »
Good evening gentlemen.  I've noticed in the past couple of years a dramatic spike in women you meet on dating sites and while you're planning a trip to the woman's country for a real meeting, the woman suddenly springs on you a large cash request or a request for an expensive gift.  Then when I say no, I get blocked on whatever platform I am using to communicate with her.  I've also dated in other countries and it seems pretty standard across the board now a days. 

Someone on these boards stated years ago "the women you attract is directly related to the bait you use"

That is so true on many levels

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Re: Money, money, money money
« Reply #6 on: August 26, 2019, 12:42:03 PM »
FP -

Lucky for you, my friend, that you set the hook before she spat out the bait.  No other way you could wind up with such a trophy fish.
Kissing girls is a goodness.  It beats the hell out of card games.  - Robert Heinlein

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Re: Money, money, money money
« Reply #7 on: August 26, 2019, 12:43:49 PM »
FP -

Lucky for you, my friend, that you set the hook before she spat out the bait.  No other way you could wind up with such a trophy fish.

True! It could be said that I scammed her LOL

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Re: Money, money, money money
« Reply #8 on: August 26, 2019, 05:47:56 PM »
  5 foot tall fat man with 5 teeth contacts only 6 foot tall runway models so very few respond, those that do have questionable motives.
>>5 foot tall fat man<<
 

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Re: Money, money, money money
« Reply #9 on: August 26, 2019, 06:35:00 PM »
Johnny Hyde, the talent agent who discovered Marilyn Monroe, was asked one time what it felt like to be with a woman who was obviously so much taller than he was.   His response was:   "Yeah, well look at where my face is!"

« Last Edit: August 26, 2019, 06:36:55 PM by jone »
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Re: Money, money, money money
« Reply #10 on: August 29, 2019, 06:08:20 AM »
Someone on these boards stated years ago "the women you attract is directly related to the bait you use"

That is so true on many levels

Except this isn't fishing ... there's 'attracting' then sharing the same tank with said fish ....
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Re: Money, money, money money
« Reply #11 on: August 29, 2019, 12:32:17 PM »
Except this isn't fishing ... there's 'attracting' then sharing the same tank with said fish ....

You have a firm grasp on the obvious there Mr. baby nads

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Re: Money, money, money money
« Reply #12 on: August 29, 2019, 08:04:59 PM »
I have experienced this myself.
Just ignore them and move on.
If they actually ask for money (not just hinting) report them to the website (include a copy of the message)
Most websites will ban them.
Good women are not cheap
Cheap women are not good
(but they can be a lot of fun)

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Re: Money, money, money money
« Reply #13 on: August 30, 2019, 12:13:36 AM »
'Mr Baby nads'?))

That's Mr Mistake's 'riposte' ? ..

I am certain you have not SEEN my nads..


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Re: Money, money, money money
« Reply #14 on: August 30, 2019, 07:02:48 AM »
'Mr Baby nads'?))

That's Mr Mistake's 'riposte' ? ..

I am certain you have not SEEN my nads..

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Re: Money, money, money money
« Reply #15 on: August 30, 2019, 07:32:06 AM »
As they say in Texas, you're all hat and no cattle. If you ever had a set you sold them for $6.92. You've got no bawls Moobs. None. What you were to have for bawls got exchanged and instead you were just left with all mouth

As they'd say in Belfast..

Yur talkin outta ur arse, wee maun...

I've got two daughters that suggest dem nads were functioning ..

Yet another fail from the aptly named 'Mistake' ..

Do you remember what the thread's about ?
« Last Edit: August 30, 2019, 09:17:16 AM by msmob »
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Re: Money, money, money money
« Reply #16 on: August 30, 2019, 09:10:33 AM »
Gentlemen,

I think a little more decorum is in order here
FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.

 

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