How to handle this one?

[Trenchcoat]

Well it's good to see this site back up & running as I've had a pressing question on my mind for a while now and was wondering forum members thoughts on it.

Basically I'm not really keen on women wearing jeans, shorts, trousers. I really just want the woman to just wear either skirts or dresses, preferably short. Now going for profiles where the girl is wearing skirts/dresses of course makes sense. However often the girl has a mixture often with cover profile in a dress then others often in jeans. This makes it a pain for me as I am not sure how much/likely she is to wear jeans. For me a woman wearing jeans, shorts or trousers is not a turn on for me, quite the opposite. To me jeans, shorts & trousers are mens clothing and even if tight fitting on the female form it doesn't do it for me nearly as much as a short dress/skirt. So what do I do? Do I contact the girl and make my preference clear or do I state in my profile my preference? Do both?

I just wonder how the girl will take this. Is it better to bring this up at the beginning and pass over the girls that find this objectionable or who pass on me as a result? All thoughts most appreciated

[wallm]

Marry a muslim woman.

Try countries like Iraq, Syria, Yemen, Sudan, Somalia, etc. They will cover from head to toe. That should take care of all eventualities for your dress code. smh.

[Boethius]

Are you trolling?


If you are serious, which would leave me a little shocked, I would say, change your attitude.  With this attitude, you will never have a long term successful relationship.

[BillyB]

So what do I do? Do I contact the girl and make my preference clear or do I state in my profile my preference? Do both?

I just wonder how the girl will take this. Is it better to bring this up at the beginning and pass over the girls that find this objectionable or who pass on me as a result? All thoughts most appreciated

If a girl wearing jeans is a deal breaker, you should make yourself clear early on. You will be eliminating most women as wife material since almost all of them have a pair of jeans. Also remember the ole saying "Beggars can't be choosers."

[pitbull]

Well it's good to see this site back up & running as I've had a pressing question on my mind for a while now and was wondering forum members thoughts on it.

Basically I'm not really keen on women wearing jeans, shorts, trousers. I really just want the woman to just wear either skirts or dresses, preferably short. Now going for profiles where the girl is wearing skirts/dresses of course makes sense. However often the girl has a mixture often with cover profile in a dress then others often in jeans. This makes it a pain for me as I am not sure how much/likely she is to wear jeans. For me a woman wearing jeans, shorts or trousers is not a turn on for me, quite the opposite. To me jeans, shorts & trousers are mens clothing and even if tight fitting on the female form it doesn't do it for me nearly as much as a short dress/skirt. So what do I do? Do I contact the girl and make my preference clear or do I state in my profile my preference? Do both?

I just wonder how the girl will take this. Is it better to bring this up at the beginning and pass over the girls that find this objectionable or who pass on me as a result? All thoughts most appreciated

Just buy a high end blow up doll and dress her the way you like every day. Bonuses:
1. Do not need to talk to her so your lack of social skills doesn't show.
2. Does not ask for your money
3. Will not leave you for another man.

Diagnosis: FSU just doesn't produce the kind of women you want.

[Jumper]

Whoa TC, sure you arnt pulling our leg a bit ?

I do hope so,but if not hope you mean it's a more general preference,
 not some deal breaker.

1. Most adult women ,certainly prefer to decide themselves  how to dress given situation and mood. Sure a husbands preferences might factor in,but not every day, every minute 24/7.

2. If this is just prefering to date someone who is a sharp ,quite overly feminine,  sexy dresser, no you're unlikely to tell a dang thing from a profile, you'll just have to do it the old fashioned way and keep communicatiing,trading everyday type photos, skype/viber,to see how they just naturally prefer to dress.
You can ask as well of course.

3. Any woman's style may change over the years and situations or cultures they are in, so you might want to work on being ok with that lol

4. This is more a question:
Why is it that important to you to be super attracted (seemingly sexual since you mentioned other clothing don't do it for you except short skirts)
My wife is quite attractive, in general  and in  just about anything she decides to wear  to me, but it's not like I'd need her to wear something that "does it" for me 24/7.  There's quite a bit more to our relationship than that.

So it's a question to you why that one thing ,out if all the complexities of human interaction in a loving relationship, is so paramount?


By the way,  my wife doesn't dress over the top sexy like many RW.Never did there,certainly doesn't here. Her priorities are much more focused on our little one,as they should be.

She dresses far more subtle, and certainly more often in jeans than not. Seldom wears makeup.
I'm perfectly fine with that,and in fact prefer it to a "slave to fashion" , have to do all makeup to a T, to just go to the gas station types.That's a real pain frankly.

The good news is that there is a hat for every head, in most any country, but you might want to be sure that yours is  really at least a semblance of *round* for most any type hat to be able to fit.
 

[JayH]

Just buy a high end blow up doll and dress her the way you like every day.


Diagnosis: FSU just doesn't produce the kind of women you want.

Maybe the price of a blow up doll would be cheaper in a "poor" country  --that is other than England !

[msmob]

Are you trolling?

Rhetorical question ?

Funnily enough, SC will rarely wear trousers and jeans get cut into shorts ...   One of my fav photos of her is when she tried on a blouse / trousers - I was in the UK - and her friend took a photo...   SC didn't think she looked good in trousers.....

Must find that photo....

[Trenchcoat]

Marry a muslim woman.

Try countries like Iraq, Syria, Yemen, Sudan, Somalia, etc. They will cover from head to toe. That should take care of all eventualities for your dress code. smh.

I mentioned short dresses Wall Why is there a short Burka that finishes at their bum?

[Trenchcoat]

Are you trolling?


If you are serious, which would leave me a little shocked, I would say, change your attitude.  With this attitude, you will never have a long term successful relationship.

Of course I'm serious, a short dress or skirt is far more practical for the woman than jeans. With short dresses & skirts its just a case of quick lift up of the bottom of the dress or skirt to get the girl's bum out, with jeans its not as easy and I don't think they look particularly fetching either. I'm not sure why this would affect me having a long term successful relationship

[Trenchcoat]

Rhetorical question ?

Funnily enough, SC will rarely wear trousers and jeans get cut into shorts ...   One of my fav photos of her is when she tried on a blouse / trousers - I was in the UK - and her friend took a photo...   SC didn't think she looked good in trousers.....

Must find that photo....

Ah, that's me Mobe, good move

[kynrazor]

Just buy a high end blow up doll and dress her the way you like every day. Bonuses:
1. Do not need to talk to her so your lack of social skills doesn't show.
2. Does not ask for your money
3. Will not leave you for another man.

Diagnosis: FSU just doesn't produce the kind of women you want.

So blunt.

[BdHvA]

So stupid Kynazor would be a better reply. But I suspect Trenchcoat is being a troll.

[Mappy]

A lot of the stuff Trenchcoat posts in here is just an embarrassment; I just hope readers don't conclude that the UK is full of such idiocy and ignorance.

[kynrazor]

Still, you gotta admit comrade Trench has had some serious experience under his belt. I have only had 1 incomplete trip and Trench has already had 3  . I have really enjoyed reading Trench's adventures in writing full of its own trials, tribulations and criticisms  and hope his story doesn't end there.

[BdHvA]

I think some are missing the goal.

1 trip, 3 trips, 10 trips, if you fail to grasp the reality on the ground and find an honest partner; you have wasted allot of time and spent more than just change.

[wallm]

I mentioned short dresses Wall Why is there a short Burka that finishes at their bum?

Why would a woman meet your guidelines to dress in a specific way? Sure you have your preferences. That is fine. But you can't dismiss a woman who likes to wear jeans because you don't like it. Silly. I stay away from hammering you unlike others. But I just wonder what is it that you offer these women that a local guy or another foreigner can't offer. There is competition for you. Don't limit the pool of women you may have a chance with by having these idiotic requirements.

[Wayne]

I was involved with a western Ukrainian woman who refused to wear jeans or shorts. She mostly wore dresses. She was very much a woman and had a very sexy voice. She played piano and sang. She was 34 years old at the time, divorced with a 10 year old daughter. She had a lot of red dresses. Reminds me of the song.

So anything is possible!

[Trenchcoat]

I think some are missing the goal.

1 trip, 3 trips, 10 trips, if you fail to grasp the reality on the ground and find an honest partner; you have wasted allot of time and spent more than just change.

This is very true, though it could be said you gain experience which if you take on board the lessons learnt cab be invaluable. Apart from the randomness of it all where even a weak candidate may come up trumps I do think some have a better chance than others. I may not be one of those who stands a better chance hence why to increase my chances I think I need to spend a longer period put there which U hope to do next year. I don't really want another failed attempt even though I have enjoyed my time out there. I don't really want another odd story of strange happenings but instead I would like to generally find the one. People may think the questions I ask here are silly but it's all to aid me find a girl I would be closer in alignment to. Knowledge gained on this forum outside of FSU visits can be very useful I think in building up knowledge on FSU dating before you go.

[Trenchcoat]

Why would a woman meet your guidelines to dress in a specific way? Sure you have your preferences. That is fine. But you can't dismiss a woman who likes to wear jeans because you don't like it. Silly. I stay away from hammering you unlike others. But I just wonder what is it that you offer these women that a local guy or another foreigner can't offer. There is competition for you. Don't limit the pool of women you may have a chance with by having these idiotic requirements.

Well I think I will probably have to find a girl that like wearing dresses/skirts and persuade her to do it more so. I could also just buy her dresses/skirts and refuse to buy her jeans

What I have to offer her? Is an interesting one. While I want a girl that seems genuinely into me I think certain girls are after certain things. Some want personality, some money/lifestyle, some a better country in which to live. Maybe some want intelligence or a man that is able with practical tasks, some may want a muscular man, etc. A girl that wants a man with wealth of course comes up often but I just wonder if what a girl wants is sometimes kills of any chance of getting it together. I mean I'm not sure a girl that wants wealth would sit well with me as I would feel she us not really into me as myself.

[BdHvA]

When you get to I assume, Ukraine, find a school and teach English. It will give you a pittance of pay but introduce to a broad segment of the  Ukraine population and introduce you to the culture and mentality of the locals.

[Trenchcoat]

When you get to I assume, Ukraine, find a school and teach English. It will give you a pittance of pay but introduce to a broad segment of the  Ukraine population and introduce you to the culture and mentality of the locals.

It's something I had on my to do list although I am most likely going to Russia. I've done Ukraine three times now and although there are many attractive ladies there as some have pointed out their culture is often though not always one in which foreigners can be seen as easy prey. I Think the dating market there is not an easy one. Some strike it lucky but more often than not you get the wrong type of girl & time & money are wasted. Teaching English on an informal level is not a bad idea and may make you seem less of an outsider/introduce you to women outside the normal foreign dating circuit.

Myself I think I wold be best of looking for girls in their early-mid thirties who are in the last chance saloon so far as finding a man to have family with. Younger girls are fun but not being a guy that is hauling in the big bucks or very socially skilled I am likely to be seen as vulnerable & naieve to them I think.

I think women in their thirties are probably less likely to be prone to issuing demands & playing games. If they want kids and a husband they know time iS running out and haven't got years to play with like girls in their twenties.

[wallm]

Well I think I will probably have to find a girl that like wearing dresses/skirts and persuade her to do it more so. I could also just buy her dresses/skirts and refuse to buy her jeans

What I have to offer her? Is an interesting one. While I want a girl that seems genuinely into me I think certain girls are after certain things. Some want personality, some money/lifestyle, some a better country in which to live. Maybe some want intelligence or a man that is able with practical tasks, some may want a muscular man, etc. A girl that wants a man with wealth of course comes up often but I just wonder if what a girl wants is sometimes kills of any chance of getting it together. I mean I'm not sure a girl that wants wealth would sit well with me as I would feel she us not really into me as myself.

Trench, I was asking what do you have to offer as a man. I am not talking about your wealth here. Every woman wants a man who is well off. She wants to be provided for and not have financial problems in life. More so Ukrainian women. If she says “I only want love and money doesn’t matter” she is lying. What are the qualities in you a woman should be excited about? That is the question. If you limit your pool of prospects because of jeans and stuff, you are on the wrong path.

[Hammer2722]

It's something I had on my to do list although I am most likely going to Russia. I've done Ukraine three times now and although there are many attractive ladies there as some have pointed out their culture is often though not always one in which foreigners can be seen as easy prey. I Think the dating market there is not an easy one. Some strike it lucky but more often than not you get the wrong type of girl & time & money are wasted. Teaching English on an informal level is not a bad idea and may make you seem less of an outsider/introduce you to women outside the normal foreign dating circuit.

Myself I think I wold be best of looking for girls in their early-mid thirties who are in the last chance saloon so far as finding a man to have family with. Younger girls are fun but not being a guy that is hauling in the big bucks or very socially skilled I am likely to be seen as vulnerable & naieve to them I think.

I think women in their thirties are probably less likely to be prone to issuing demands & playing games. If they want kids and a husband they know time iS running out and haven't got years to play with like girls in their twenties.

And you think that you will have any better luck in Russia? You truly are clueless. 

[Boethius]

There is virtually no difference between the cultures in Ukraine and Russia.  So there will be no difference.


You aren't truly looking for a wife, so you are not going to find a woman who will be a good wife.  You are also sex deprived, and therefore think with your penis rather than your brain.  Some FSUW, if she wishes to, is going to figure that out and manipulate you.  You won't know what hit you until it's far too late.