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Re: Odessa in Feb
« Reply #50 on: March 03, 2018, 07:54:52 PM »
  That is my name and it's not in pen.



She tattoo'd your name on her hand?




[/size] I also put a surprise on the hand (don't worry guys it's Moissanite, not a $10K rock, but she loves it anyway). 




Awhile back the forum had a discussion about giving imitation diamonds in a first ring.  Some people though it to be a gamble if it upsets the lady. Some guys said they wouldn't disclose what the rock is if they were to give it to a woman. I thought that's wrong since the ladies would show all their friends assuming it was the real deal. It's good you told her what the rock was made of and she's happy with it.
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Re: Odessa in Feb
« Reply #51 on: March 04, 2018, 07:40:02 AM »

Time will tell.  I'm trying my best to go back to Odessa in April -- and we tentatively have a trip booked to Germany in May with my parents during which time they will meet her.  So I'm going to file the I-129F soon.  I still have to get together some of the documents, but most of it's complete.  I'm going to get as much face time with her in the meantime and we will work on things as we go! 

I look at things from a baseline of 50/50 on a marriage anyway.  What are the odds?  Not good, but then again they are never good.  Maybe something different here will help.  Hopefully ya'll wish us luck I know we'll need it.

I'm going to offer you some sage advice and I'll expect you're going to ignore it. Doesn't matter to me if you do anyway but maybe you'll consider it. Get the face time in before you file the 129. In a couple more trips you'll see her with a better understanding. Trust me. She maybe the woman for you or she may not but you don't have to rush into this like your ass is on fire.  You are not saving her from anything and time is on your side. Yeah the immigration laws suck but they are not there for you.

Nine months and 2 more trips minimum could insure a successful relationship or could help you avoid a complete catastrophe. Marriage is a hell of a lot easier to get into than it is to get out of.

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Re: Odessa in Feb
« Reply #52 on: March 04, 2018, 09:20:36 AM »
[/size]  I also put a surprise on the hand (don't worry guys it's Moissanite, not a $10K rock, but she loves it anyway).  It will make for good visa picture!  So she's impulsive and unabashed and is just exactly who she is.  Which I love. If that means dealing with the some ups and downs, for me that's good.

Part of my last post was tiny and I can't revise it so I'll type it again. Awhile back the forum had a discussion about giving imitation diamonds in a first ring.  Some people though it to be a gamble if it upsets the lady. Some guys said they wouldn't disclose what the rock is if they were to give it to a woman. I thought that's wrong since the ladies would show all their friends assuming it was the real deal. It's good you told her what the rock was made of and she's happy with it. Don't know if she knows it but Moissanite is also more expensive than many real gems.
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Re: Odessa in Feb
« Reply #53 on: March 20, 2018, 07:04:25 PM »

I'm going to offer you some sage advice and I'll expect you're going to ignore it. Doesn't matter to me if you do anyway but maybe you'll consider it. Get the face time in before you file the 129. In a couple more trips you'll see her with a better understanding. Trust me. She maybe the woman for you or she may not but you don't have to rush into this like your ass is on fire.  You are not saving her from anything and time is on your side. Yeah the immigration laws suck but they are not there for you.

Nine months and 2 more trips minimum could insure a successful relationship or could help you avoid a complete catastrophe. Marriage is a hell of a lot easier to get into than it is to get out of.

Hey I get what you are saying.  I did file the 129 today, but I will be meeting her at least 2 more times before she even goes to her interview.  I'll be there 4/6-4/14 and will be doing a week in Europe together 5/19-5/25.  Those trips are booked and paid for. 

If I can I'll go in July as well for maybe 2 weeks. 

This will all be probably before even the I-129 gets through the doors.  My thought is I can always bail out very easily before we even get to the Kiev part.  I mean if she can't get along with my family in May (my mom/dad daughter will be with) then that's a really bad sign. 

I totally agree with you about marriage -- been there done that-- if it wasn't for the visa law, I would probably not even be thinking marriage. 

At this point, even with the I-129 filing -- aside from a little expense, there's not much risk until she's actually got a K-1 and is flying here.  I mean she's invested right now, but that sort of investment we can get over in a few months.  But after the K-1 and before she comes here -- that to me the real moment of truth. 

I can fly anywhere and meet anyone, no big deal.  I'm not moving there, i'll be coming home in a week or two.  But for her to pack her stuff in a bag and fly 10,000 KM knowing she will probably not be home for a year, 2 years or more. 

I would not let that happen unless it was very right and I saw a real future. I mean the marriage part is just a formality.  Packing her life up and leaving everything she knows is a more serious commitment and statement about her love than some wedding vows -- at least to me. 


She tattoo'd your name on her hand?

Yes, not a fan usually of tattoos, and she only has one other one.  This one gets a pass.


 

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