The Red Flags of a GCG

[Maxx2]

These are the Red Flags of a GCG. Although some maybe false positives with your lady they are still Red Flags for others in that they need to take a closer look. Also some Red Flags of these are for GCG wives and not just potential wives.

She is in a rush to get you to the altar especially if it is in the FSU.

She is in a hurry to get her immigration documents filed as soon as possible.

You enter the room and she quickly shuts down windows on her PC.

Her RW friends for some reason do not like you and show it.

She gets drunk on peva everynight right before bedtime.

She does not ask when you are going to come visit her again.

She seems irritated when you call her at times not previously agreed upon.

She will not discuss her past with you or sparingly so.

She does not introduce you to her best friend or certain members of her family.

Her agency "friends" are always making themselves useful to you two for no visable compensation.

You hear her say the word "document" all the time when she speaks Russian on the phone with her "friends".

She doesn't turn and look back when you are leaving on a train or in line at a airport terminal.

Her mother looks like she feels sorry for you.

She keeps photos of her previous marriage in a safe place or wears the wedding ring given to her by ex-husband.

She asks you to keep yourself secret from others in Russia.

She fails to tell you how she spends the money you send her.

She will not discuss having children with you and is very, very careful with birth control.

She keeps her previous husband's last name to supposedly match her child’s.

When you take photos of her in a group setting everyone looks at the camera but she looks away wearing a plastic smile.

The agency translator(s) send encouraging e-mails telling of her love for you while you are uncertain.

She suggest meeting someplace that is not her home city.

She is vauge about exactly what she does at her job.

Some of her stories about her past don’t add up.

She tells you something important about herself after you have made a commitment such as travel to meet her, engagement, filing the immigration petition or entering your country.

She appeals to your White Night nature to protect her and rescue her from her conditions.

She makes no effort to do long term projects with you such as start a family business or teach you Russian.

She abuses you by pushing you, snatching something rudely away, pinching you, blocking a door by standing in front of it, destroying your property etc.

She has an obsession about keeping her youthful looks, has had a string of younger men in her life but doesn’t seem to mind your being significantly older than her.

She was the one that made first contact with you.

She has an Russian girlfriend in America with an American husband who was not the man who originally sponsered her. The husband seems shady or wipped.

She has Russian/American friends that you have not met and she keeps it that way.

She is not religious but wants to know where the Orthodox church is right away and meet the people there.

Her superstitious practises that go beyond the usual and enter black magic realm. Does she keep your hair clippings?

Right before she emmigrants she has an emergency requiring you to send a large amount of money to her.

She wants you to get her a new car, laptop computer and clothes in one big shopping rush. A hurry to get everything that is her’s that she could possible take with her.


Maxx

[BillyB]

Her mother looks like she feels sorry for you.
Maxx

Her mother could give you verbal warnings but guys will ignore them anyway especially after getting bootie. Too many guys full of emotions and high hopes will be blind to any red flags. They will go to the FSU ready for love and romance but instead be taken to expensive restaurants, pay for outrageous taxi fares from the girl's friends, and taken on a shopping spree thinking love has no price. If you come to your senses and dare question her actions, she questions your love putting you on the defensive. Finding love doesn't have to be this dangerous and painful if you simply use your big head.

[Turboguy]

Billy, I think sometimes the red flags are flying fast and high and sometimes they are much more subtle and harder to catch.   We can look at the mistakes in Maxx's story and see red flags, but if you were a newbie, they would not be that obvious until it was too late.  Too many of the guys out there looking for an FSU women spend too much time reading Agency hype and too little reading RWD

[Kevin]

I'm not sure what a GCG is. But these are Red Flag for any relationship. 

Most often men will allow for culture and language difference in a new relationship. But a gut feeling is something you can always trust. Don't allow for the excuse of "she doesn't understand" or "cultural difference" override what your gut and instinct are telling you.

Treat the women the same as you would want to be treated. Otherwise she not the one for you.

[Turboguy]

Good post.  I think it mostly boils down to if something seems wrong, it probably is.

[RussianGal]

..it mostly boils down to if something seems wrong, it probably is.

Ditto.

[Maxx2]

Yes true but then the guys rationalize it away saying to themselves they are being too suspicious, not loyal to their lady, over reactive, misunderstanding of the language or culture and so on.

Maxx

[Daknack]

Sticky please

[TexasBoar]

Sticky please

Definitely.   

It would be good if someone with the requisite unfortunate experience also covered the appropriate defensive strategies to take, as well. 

~Boar

[prince_alfie]

Maxx has good words of wisdom. As a newbie, I'm definitely on the lookout.