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Re: Should a people's/person's mindset be important in your search?
« Reply #75 on: November 07, 2018, 03:48:04 PM »
gratitude kind sir
freakin "A" she is NICE!
sweetest, kindest person I ever met in my entire life!
the only thing she wants is for the people around her to be happy
so she can be happy!
she gives me everything a man could possibly want a woman to give him, and then some...
and I DEMAND a lot...


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вы думаете, что любой из этих людей, даже российских, подозревает, что я русский?

вот как я могу создать американскую личность
Я могу взять напрокат

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Re: Should a people's/person's mindset be important in your search?
« Reply #76 on: November 07, 2018, 03:58:28 PM »
Krimster

You wife is pretty and may be incredibly tolerant - if the real Krim is anything like his board 'persona' ;) ...





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Re: Should a people's/person's mindset be important in your search?
« Reply #77 on: November 07, 2018, 04:07:54 PM »
" if the real Krim is anything like his board 'persona'"

what do you think?
that I'm just "messing" with you guys? or is this the REAL me?  I don't know, do you?

ya know, I'll tell you a story!
Once when I was very young I went on a date with a blind girl, yes it WAS a blind date
we were sitting on the ground having a picnic when suddenly she reaches over and grabs me in a tight grip
and then she softly moans, "that is the biggest willy I have ever felt"
to which I replied, "you're pulling my leg"

ahahahahahahaha

вы думаете, что любой из этих людей, даже российских, подозревает, что я русский?

вот как я могу создать американскую личность
Я могу взять напрокат

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« Reply #78 on: November 07, 2018, 11:53:16 PM »
Krimmster, she is very nice.

+1

My wife is a blend of conservative and creative. She is pretty

I've seen photos, your wife is far too pretty for your looks. If she weren't an artist
I would ask if she was blind.  :D
You did well!

Nice to see you popping in.

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Re: Should a people's/person's mindset be important in your search?
« Reply #79 on: November 08, 2018, 10:28:36 AM »
+1

I've seen photos, your wife is far too pretty for your looks. If she weren't an artist
I would ask if she was blind.  :D
You did well!

Nice to see you popping in.


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Re: Should a people's/person's mindset be important in your search?
« Reply #80 on: November 08, 2018, 01:08:23 PM »
at this point you have totally domesticated the wild Ukrainian beast
and she is eating out of the palm of your hand
they are programmed to be this way
you just have to understand the nature of their programming
and use it...

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Yes but how often do you have to do this? How long does the effect last. If it's a frequent event it could get very expensive.

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Re: Should a people's/person's mindset be important in your search?
« Reply #81 on: November 08, 2018, 07:08:46 PM »
Been thinking more about a FSW mindset that I am looking for. I'm going to take her being stubborn, rigid & uncompromising as a given seeing that they all seem built that way, lol.

Beyond the given usual it becomes a little more difficult since as Jumper tells me it could be a girl with a mindset not on my list that I hit it off with. So it may be easier to state first what I tend not to like:

Women that:
Shout, ill tempered in the extreme, argue too much, highly strung, too quiet, too introverted, dopey, uncouth.

Possibly some other stuff but as a brief guess. I'm thinking girls who too social - have to always be with someone or who talk constantly are not likely to fit in that well with me either.

I generally like girls who are:

Soft, girly, caring, can talk but not dominate a conversation, likes similar interests to me, has some sort of special talent or interest (probably not performing arts/opera though). Fairly down to earth but not too boring.Easy to be around. Likes fairly simple things. Likes to dress nice. Wants children/family focused.

I also don't mind a girl who is a bit intellectual but not over the top in a too geeky way.

I guess I can give a fair bit I  terms of her mindset so long as their is chemistry and it doesn't conflict with my minset too much. I have a quite easy going mindset but if people irritate me by talking way too much or act without common sense it grates on me - so probably none of that. I can accept people do occasionally make mistakes so I'm not obsessive about people never doing anything wrong. Girls who are too dominating and try and tell me what to do/dictate to me that is definately a no go.

Beyond that I think I am pretty open to different mindsets. I think it generally comes out when meeting a girl fairly quickly early on. There's been a couple of girls I have been too at odds with mindset wise early on and I find the more they are at odds with me tell shorter the meet lasts.

The girl I met first in Lviv for example who wanted to smoke and tried to strong arm me into getting her some and what was going to happen was at odds with my mindset. I've come across girls in the past who are too bossy in a dictatorial sort of way and it's not gone down well with me. So I think this is the broad stroakes of the sort of girl I would/wouldn't get on well with mind wise.
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Re: Should a people's/person's mindset be important in your search?
« Reply #82 on: November 08, 2018, 08:10:32 PM »
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I wonder if I got with someone like this they might view me as not work orientated enough/not doing enough work, even if I did a standard week & a bit of other stuff. I get the impression they would be push, push to get in all the hours/money feasible and that for me could be a pain. Any thoughts?     

Trench, you might want to gain some familiarity with the Big 5 traits in psychology.

One of those traits is known as Conscientiousness.  This is a measure of self-discipline, work ethic, orderliness, dutifullness, etc.  People with high conscientiousness also have a high disgust sensitivity. (Although having a higher IQ lowers your disgust sensitivity.)

A person with high conscientiousness will want everything neat and in order, and will want everyone to do their duty, and will be a workaholic.  A person with high conscientiousness will not be able to handle working part-time hours.  They will go crazy.  They will find some sort of work to do, or work multiple jobs.

It is a recipe for disaster to have two people who are unevenly matched on Conscientiousness.  One person's disgust sensitivity may be slightly higher, and they will go nuts over you not taking the trash out right away.  If they have a higher work ethic, they will be furious about you being lazy if you are not working as hard as them.

If you are low in Conscientiousness, it won't bother you if you live like a slob, and your credit isn't very good, or if you are living on welfare benefits, or if you just work part-time enough to keep your head above water.  A girl who is low in Conscientiousness is NOT going to put much effort into looking good.

Think about how you live your life, and this is the kind of girl you should go after.

The second most important predictor of long term life success is trait Conscientiousness.  If someone is willing to work hard, and keeps their bills and finances in order, and obeys rules, etc., they usually do well in life.

The number one most important predictor of long term life success is IQ.  There is a well known correlation between grammar and English skills and IQ.  For example, people who don't know the difference between your, you're, or yore are not people who have IQ's.  They tend to be dimwitted people who are not going to have the best opportunities for long term life success.  Research has also found that higher IQ is a criteria women use to sexually select men.

Now if someone didn't know the difference between your and you're, and they didn't have enough motivation to work more than a part-time job, you would hope they would have enough brains to realize that the ONLY way any hot, FSU gal would want anything to do with them was to use them as a mule to get citizenship or to use them for whatever money they could get.

Normal high conscientious girls who care about how they look are not interested in a low IQ, low conscientiousness slob of a guy, regardless of the passport he carries.

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Re: Should a people's/person's mindset be important in your search?
« Reply #83 on: November 08, 2018, 11:15:29 PM »
Trench, you might want to gain some familiarity with the Big 5 traits in psychology.

One of those traits is known as Conscientiousness.  This is a measure of self-discipline, work ethic, orderliness, dutifullness, etc.  People with high conscientiousness also have a high disgust sensitivity. (Although having a higher IQ lowers your disgust sensitivity.)

A person with high conscientiousness will want everything neat and in order, and will want everyone to do their duty, and will be a workaholic.  A person with high conscientiousness will not be able to handle working part-time hours.  They will go crazy.  They will find some sort of work to do, or work multiple jobs.

It is a recipe for disaster to have two people who are unevenly matched on Conscientiousness.  One person's disgust sensitivity may be slightly higher, and they will go nuts over you not taking the trash out right away.  If they have a higher work ethic, they will be furious about you being lazy if you are not working as hard as them.

If you are low in Conscientiousness, it won't bother you if you live like a slob, and your credit isn't very good, or if you are living on welfare benefits, or if you just work part-time enough to keep your head above water.  A girl who is low in Conscientiousness is NOT going to put much effort into looking good.

Think about how you live your life, and this is the kind of girl you should go after.

The second most important predictor of long term life success is trait Conscientiousness.  If someone is willing to work hard, and keeps their bills and finances in order, and obeys rules, etc., they usually do well in life.

The number one most important predictor of long term life success is IQ.  There is a well known correlation between grammar and English skills and IQ.  For example, people who don't know the difference between your, you're, or yore are not people who have IQ's.  They tend to be dimwitted people who are not going to have the best opportunities for long term life success.  Research has also found that higher IQ is a criteria women use to sexually select men.

Now if someone didn't know the difference between your and you're, and they didn't have enough motivation to work more than a part-time job, you would hope they would have enough brains to realize that the ONLY way any hot, FSU gal would want anything to do with them was to use them as a mule to get citizenship or to use them for whatever money they could get.

Normal high conscientious girls who care about how they look are not interested in a low IQ, low conscientiousness slob of a guy, regardless of the passport he carries.

Well looked at the big five traits Bee Farmer and what they entail. Looks like for most of them I wouldn't be extreme in any of them. Most likely I would score low in Extrovertism. In Conscientiousness I'm guessing I would score around a 3 - 4 out of 5. Remember I work doing building work on my house in addition to my part time job which has now inadvertently become a full time job ;)

I see what you mean though, some of the girls I have met (briefly) speed dating in the UK well I think some of them would be more nearer a 5 for conscientiousness. I got the impression they didn't think I hit the mark in terms of the efforts I make. They probably think that for most guys I'm guessing that's why they are there & single. I definitely think you are right though - a workaholic girl is not for me so an 'at work' culture such as Belarus is probably less likely to yield the sort of girl I need. Even in Ukraine I would have to watch to avoid these girls. I need someone more moderate, not a complete slob but not a workaholic either. I'm not an uptight sort of person who is obsessed with 'doing the job' at all times, I prefer to work independently even flying solo free from the formal work place. I'm quite an organised guy, I allow a little mess for a while but if it gets too much or goes on a while I take time out to organise it all so it can be got at more efficiently. A previous employer noted that I was good at organisation :) I'm also always punctual for dates, work, meetings etc. Also quite self disciplined probably a 4 out of 5 on that and quite hardworking but only when I see a decent reason to be so - need the reward at the end of it all ;)

So I think I need a girl who is just a bit lower than me on thd conscientiousness scale say between a 2 and a 3. I would probably get cheesed of if she didn't want to do anything, any cooking or whatever but if she was too conscientiousness  (a 5) and started to view me as inferior like I was not good enough for her anymore that would annoy me also I think. I'm kind of into people making an effort and those that make none to little irk me but I find people that are too career minded wanting to be 'at work' all the time freakish. I think a bit of down time here & there to enjoy oneself us a good thing :)

Am I right in thinking it's not a good idea usually to be with someone who is at the other end of thd scale on the 4 of the big 5?

I think also there is a lot on IQ in what you say, what about 'natural ability' at something? I tend to think everyone had a natural ability at something though many people don't know what it is or aren't tapping into it, there doing the wring job, etc. For those that I though I'm guessing they tend to end up more successful as a result perhaps even if their IQ is not real high.

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« Reply #84 on: November 09, 2018, 12:05:04 AM »
Trying to decide who should marry  Trenchcoat --  Beekeeper or PeterWarrick9 .
All = social misfit !! ;D
SLAVA UKRAYINI  ! HEROYAM SLAVA!!!!
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Re: Should a people's/person's mindset be important in your search?
« Reply #85 on: November 09, 2018, 07:01:06 AM »
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Most likely I would score low in Extrovertism.

Extrovertism?  Extroversion.  Remember that IQ thing I mentioned?

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In Conscientiousness I'm guessing I would score around a 3 - 4 out of 5. Remember I work doing building work on my house in addition to my part time job which has now inadvertently become a full time job

I'm guessing you overrate yourself.

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I definitely think you are right though - a workaholic girl is not for me so an 'at work' culture such as Belarus is probably less likely to yield the sort of girl I need.

You just don't get it.  These are individual traits, not cultural traits.  You can find orderly, workaholic girls surrounded by lazy bums, and you can find lazy bums surrounded by workaholics.

The kind of girl that matches with you is a lazy bum, fat slob, welfare case.  (Look on the bright side - a girl low in conscientiousness is too lazy to be a scammer, although she will be happy letting you pay for everything.)

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So I think I need a girl who is just a bit lower than me on thd conscientiousness scale say between a 2 and a 3.

No, you want a girl who matches you as close as possible.  But you may be correct on the 2, but probably closer to 1.  (It's actually scored as a percentile.)

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Am I right in thinking it's not a good idea usually to be with someone who is at the other end of thd scale on the 4 of the big 5?

It depends.  Introversion and Extroversion can match well.  Opposites attract.  The Introvert can ground the Extrovert, and the Extroverted social butterfly can bring an Introvert out of their shell.

Women naturally are higher in Neuroticism (Emotional Stability) than men.  That's just biological.  Women tend to look at things like the mother-infant dyad, which makes her worry about things more.

Women are naturally higher in agreeableness, so it is natural that both people don't match.  If both are low in agreeableness, you are going to have problems.

It helps if both are similar in Openness to Experience.  If one is open and one is not, one person wants to go out and do things and experience things, and the other wants to be a homebody and never leave the safety of the house.  (That may save you money if she doesn't want to go out to eat, or go to a museum, or travel, etc.)

The thing you are overlooking is that a woman who is low in Conscientiousness is not going to care about looking good.  She will not care if she gets fat and slobby.  She is going to be perfectly happy living on welfare or letting you pay for everything.  She is not going to be interested in getting a job.  She is not going to put much effort into taking care of the kids or taking care of you.  She will be perfectly happy wasting her life away watching tv and eating junk food.

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I think also there is a lot on IQ in what you say, what about 'natural ability' at something? I tend to think everyone had a natural ability at something though many people don't know what it is or aren't tapping into it, there doing the wring job, etc.  For those that I though I'm guessing they tend to end up more successful as a result perhaps even if their IQ is not real high.

These are known as talents.  There are tons of talented starving artists and musicians.  Talent is not IQ.  Only a very small portion of talented people achieve much success.


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« Reply #86 on: November 09, 2018, 07:03:51 AM »
Trying to decide who should marry  Trenchcoat --  Beekeeper or PeterWarrick9 .
All = social misfit !! ;D

There is no greater social misfit than someone who is divorced.

It is ironic that someone divorced claims that unmarried people are social misfits.

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« Reply #87 on: November 09, 2018, 07:17:19 AM »
"There is no greater social misfit than someone who is divorced."

according to the media, there is NO greater misfit than an INCEL who takes out his frustrations on others
you case is a good illustration of this
do you own many firearms?




"It is ironic that someone divorced claims that unmarried people are social misfits."

not AT ALL what he said, he mentioned YOU SPECIFICALLY BY NAME
I wouldn't call you a misfit, I think nitwit sounds closer to the truth and it rhymes



"Remember that IQ thing I mentioned?"

seems to me, YOU are the one who should TRY to remember
he responded correctly, you misinterpreted his straightforward easy to understand response

once again, your comments demonstrate a complete lack of the basic fundamental knowledge acquired by being an adult MAN
you don't get this knowledge from the Christian "Self Help" section of Amazon where you get ALL your information from
you get it from experience
however,you have ZERO experience at being an adult man
none at all!!!!

and YOUR COMMENTS HERE CLEARLY SHOW THIS!!!!

if I was your father, and I happily AM NOT
when you got out of high school, I would've put you in the Marine Corps
they would've made a man out of you, it did to my cousins
I chose the Army
you should've done something similar

but dude......
you seriously have NO IDEA of all the fun you COULD BE HAVING
instead of the misery you're living in now
but I doubt you'll ever "wake up"

take whatever garbage you have deep down in the darkness of your mind
and use it to forge any verbal barb against me you want
I am impervious to them
"I fear no evil"

The path of the righteous man is beset on all sides by the inequities of the selfish and the tyranny of evil men.
Blessed is he who, in the name of charity and good will, shepherds the weak through the valley of the darkness.
For he is truly his brother's keeper and the finder of lost children.
And I will strike down upon thee with great vengeance and furious anger those who attempt to poison and destroy my brothers.
And you will know I am the Lord when I lay my vengeance upon you.

one day soon, your time's gonna be up MFer
and when it is...
I want your last memory
to be of this post...


BTW "Mr can't get no action in Ukraine"

this is how I used to roll
how did I meet this 19 yr old college student from Kyiv?
I just walked right up to her and started talking to her
she moved in with me in my apartment in Kyiv a week later
SHE was my first girlfriend in Ukraine

THIS is how ya do it, guys!
and WHY ya do it
you think a 40 yr old guy could tap that in the USA?
but it was "a piece of cake" getting girls like this in Ukraine....




« Last Edit: November 09, 2018, 12:44:32 PM by krimster2 »
вы думаете, что любой из этих людей, даже российских, подозревает, что я русский?

вот как я могу создать американскую личность
Я могу взять напрокат

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« Reply #88 on: November 09, 2018, 01:32:31 PM »
I note Bee-farmer's "guess who I'm quoting?" style hasn't improved..

Think I'll give his posts a miss - as if he's too lazy to bother, I'll be too lazy to read ;)


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« Reply #89 on: November 09, 2018, 02:20:00 PM »
Beefarmer, I don't have to do a job and I don't have to take it upon myself to do building work in my free time either. I also don't have to think about what I wish to do in the future. I also didn't have to visit the FSU several times. If I did none of those and sat on the dole quite content then that would be a 1 for conscientiousness.

As it is the fact that I have an everyday job I have geld down for over a decade would I image give me a 2, same for any other person who has held an everyday job long term.

I work in my free time, I don't have too, no one is forcing me. Many people take the weekend of to enjoy, spend time with family etc. So for working in my free time I would give myself a 3 and so would anyone else who does likewise.

Thinking about my future and working out what to do, planning it out, making efforts to go to the FSU not just be a keyboard romeo and spend good money doing it. Looking to self improve. Well I'm guessing that could justify a 4 or somewhere towards it, same for other guys that do this. Some guys don't bother spending time thinking and planning about their future they just go out and enjoy life in the moment.

What are 5's then? Well not me, I don't consider myself one nor think I will ever be one. I don't wish to be a 5 on Conscientiousness. I consider them over the top, work obsessed nut jobs who have lost sight of why they are working hard if they ever knew in the first place. They literally cram every waking moment on working, deprive themselves of necessary sleep to be healthy and most importantly are usually difficult to be around and bear. They are true work freaks and are often scary people worth avoiding or just plain sado's. They even lose out on benefitting from the fruits of their labour as they are at work all the time. They see work culture as life which is just peculiar.

When I state Belarus as an 'at work culture' I don't necessarily mean they are all 5's but even for those that are less the 'at work' regime I think has had an affect on their psyche it's bound to over a prolonged period of time, a bit like the Chinese also who are renown for being very studious hard workers. I think over a period of time people come some what how society moulds them whether deliberately or not and of course people vary within that societal mould.

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« Reply #90 on: November 09, 2018, 11:37:11 PM »
What a load of excuses and wordy bollox 'theory', Trenchie !

You are only kidding yourself

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« Reply #91 on: November 14, 2018, 07:21:32 PM »
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according to the media, there is NO greater misfit than an INCEL who takes out his frustrations on others
you case is a good illustration of this
do you own many firearms?

And you believe everything the media tells you?  Mark Twain said someone who doesn't read a newspaper is uninformed, and someone who does read it is misinformed.

I have a shotgun, a rifle, and a 4 wheel drive, cause a country boy can survive, but I'm not an incel.

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"It is ironic that someone divorced claims that unmarried people are social misfits."

not AT ALL what he said, he mentioned YOU SPECIFICALLY BY NAME
I wouldn't call you a misfit, I think nitwit sounds closer to the truth and it rhymes

He mentioned Trench and myself, all unmarried as social misfits.  Yet he himself is divorced - which is a conviction of being unable to properly socialize.

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"Remember that IQ thing I mentioned?"

seems to me, YOU are the one who should TRY to remember
he responded correctly, you misinterpreted his straightforward easy to understand response

It went over your head.  I was pointing out that he had just displayed a lack of brains.

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once again, your comments demonstrate a complete lack of the basic fundamental knowledge acquired by being an adult MAN
you don't get this knowledge from the Christian "Self Help" section of Amazon where you get ALL your information from
you get it from experience
however,you have ZERO experience at being an adult man
none at all!!!!

Krimster, your inferiority complex is hilarious.  You cast aspersions which have no grounding in reality at myself, or pitbull, or anyone who you disagree with.

Learning the Parable of 2 Wolves might do you some good.
Two Wolves - A Cherokee Parable

An old Cherokee chief was teaching his grandson about life...

"A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy.
"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.

"One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, self-doubt, and ego.

"The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.

"This same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather,
"Which wolf will win?"

The old chief simply replied,
"The one you feed."

Krimster, one only needs to look at what comes out of you, to see what is inside you.  Try feeding the other wolf.

Most women learn to look at how a man treats the people around them, waiters and waitresses, or even people who can offer them nothing, because that is how the man will treat the lady (and children) in the future.
Based upon how you treat other forum members, I genuinely feel sympathy for your wife and children.

Whenever you want to have a "man" contest, I have a simple challenge for you.
Go volunteer at a shelter for abused women and children.  Get to know women and girls who are absolutely terrified of men, because of what has happened to them.  Find ones that are terrified to be touched. 
Become friends with them.  Show them that they are valuable and precious.  Show them that a guy can be kind to them and care about them without abusing them.  Get them to trust you.  Get them to willingly give you a hug.
It will take years.  One wrong misstep, and you will ruin your chances forever.
Money won't help you at all.
There is only one way.  You must have extreme integrity and character, and you must be a true friend.  You have to be a real man.

I've gotten to know a few ladies like that.  I've walked the walk. 
Come back when you have made a real difference in the life of even one woman like that.

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I note Bee-farmer's "guess who I'm quoting?" style hasn't improved..

Think I'll give his posts a miss - as if he's too lazy to bother, I'll be too lazy to read

Thanks, msmob.  I don't consider that a loss at all.


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Re: Should a people's/person's mindset be important in your search?
« Reply #92 on: November 14, 2018, 11:06:43 PM »
How does one point a member on ignore?

I can see how to make BeeFarmer my buddy or send him a PM ;)





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Re: Should a people's/person's mindset be important in your search?
« Reply #93 on: November 15, 2018, 06:37:21 AM »
Go to your profile.  Click on summary.  On the left hand side of the screen, you will see "modify profile".  Click on it.  You will see a choice marked "Buddies/Ignore List".    Put your mouse over it, and you will see two choices - Edit Buddies List and Edit Ignore List.  Go to "Edit Ignore List" and type in the name of the user you wish to ignore.


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Re: Should a people's/person's mindset be important in your search?
« Reply #94 on: November 15, 2018, 07:56:38 AM »
that’s a GREAT philosophy you’ve expounded upon here BeeFarmer...
IF YOUR’RE 12 YEARS OLD!

those of us who have gone through puberty can have a good laugh at it

what it shows, via your own words
is that you’re socially isolated with no REAL experience with women or life in general

NONE

so you fill the vacuum with self help books from Amazon
and you post the synopsis of what you read here...

that’s WHO YOU ARE

go get some actual experience
THEN tell us of your EXPERIENCES and not what’s trending in the self-help section for Christians on Amazon

basic financial terminology, “Arbitrage”

Arbitrage is the purchase and sale of an asset to profit from an imbalance in the price, exploiting the price difference of the asset in different markets

in your home country dating market or in Ukraine’s dating market
YOU are the asset!!!

guess what pilgrims?
there’s a huge imbalance in the price of a WM in Ukraine!
Word!

the more leverage you have in terms of
income
appearance
interpersonal skills
sexual performance

the more VALUE you have

at the same time that WM enjoy a much higher market value in Ukraine than in the West
UW suffer from the opposite, and have a much lower market value in Ukraine than they would in the West, so there is even much more of a differential for WM in Ukraine because of this

whatever sick, twisted, perverted fantasy your feverish brain could ever concoct
if you go to the Ukrainian market and if you have enough leverage
it doesn’t have to remain a fantasy

or not...
totally up to you



« Last Edit: November 15, 2018, 08:49:49 AM by krimster2 »
вы думаете, что любой из этих людей, даже российских, подозревает, что я русский?

вот как я могу создать американскую личность
Я могу взять напрокат

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Re: Should a people's/person's mindset be important in your search?
« Reply #95 on: November 15, 2018, 10:07:13 AM »
Go to your profile.  Click on summary.  On the left hand side of the screen, you will see "modify profile".  Click on it.  You will see a choice marked "Buddies/Ignore List".    Put your mouse over it, and you will see two choices - Edit Buddies List and Edit Ignore List.  Go to "Edit Ignore List" and type in the name of the user you wish to ignore.


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and that works - sometimes - but mostly not for some reason.

I have one "pothead" on ignore but I still see most of his posts, and it can differ in the same thread even, some post I see and some I don't.
Multitasking means screwing up several things at once.

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Re: Should a people's/person's mindset be important in your search?
« Reply #96 on: November 15, 2018, 10:38:49 AM »
Why put anyone on ignore?

In many threads, I just scan down and mostly ignore posts by persons whose opinions I don't respect or care about.

It is really not that hard to do.

Seems a little weak minded when a person is afraid they might not be able to resist reading something from someone.

And the weakest of all are those who post extended back and forth rebuttals to dimwits.
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Re: Should a people's/person's mindset be important in your search?
« Reply #97 on: November 15, 2018, 12:55:11 PM »
Why put anyone on ignore?

In many threads, I just scan down and mostly ignore posts by persons whose opinions I don't respect or care about.

It is really not that hard to do.

Seems a little weak minded when a person is afraid they might not be able to resist reading something from someone.

And the weakest of all are those who post extended back and forth rebuttals to dimwits.

Because this individual pollutes every thread with his deranged rambling and obvious fantasies and don't contribute at all to anything but bitching.. so ignore I hoped to be a blessing, but not so much.
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Re: Should a people's/person's mindset be important in your search?
« Reply #98 on: November 15, 2018, 01:22:49 PM »
NighWish

my advice to you!!!
don't ever go to prison!!!
because you will be totally somone's "bitch" on the very first day....
вы думаете, что любой из этих людей, даже российских, подозревает, что я русский?

вот как я могу создать американскую личность
Я могу взять напрокат

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Re: Should a people's/person's mindset be ignored ?)
« Reply #99 on: November 15, 2018, 02:19:04 PM »
Sadly,  said Farmer of Bees posts have not disappeared - but It does confirm they're being ignored ;)

Why put anyone on ignore?


Seems a little weak minded when a person is afraid they might not be able to resist reading something from someone.

In the case of this poster - it's just too boring to work out who he's referring to and it's not like I've ever read anything that I learnt from

There are posters with whom I seriously disagree with nearly everything they post - but even they took the time to quote folk, correctly ...

Then there's Krimster.....   he doesn't use the quote function - but at least he livens the room - even if I might agree with him


And the weakest of all are those who post extended back and forth rebuttals to dimwits.

I seriously had to think who you might be referring to .....as the 'dim wit' ;)

 

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