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It's her first time
« on: March 28, 2019, 07:24:02 AM »
SC came back from Thailand when I told her I was finally divorced and we could make a plan - at last..

I NEVER expected to have to wait over five years and SC had 'acquaintances' who suggested I might just be stringing her along ..(I guess they met one of our married members who can't keep away from dating sites to help newbies ? )


SC has never been married and does not want to be married in Russia !


So, where to tie the knot and what is required in 2019?

Cyprus - it is an EU nation and the marriage docs are in ENGLISH (and Greek)

1/ Visit ZAKS and get a 'no impediment to be married doc'   - *I* thought that would take days - but it was 800 Roubles and a 2 hour wait



2/ I need to get such a doc if I marry as an Irishman or Swear an Affidavit in a Cyprus Court if a Brit


3/ SC's no impediment' docs MUST be translated by the Cypriot govt translator

4/ Pay 130 Euros for a licence and present Passports and Birth Certs



For SC finding a dress ( that I will not see )  is the priority



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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #1 on: March 28, 2019, 08:04:00 AM »
Why doesn't she want to be married in Russia?

Will you reside together in Cyprus after marriage? 

It will be her first and only marriage.  Spend the money and make it special and romantic ceremony and celebration.   Invite her family.   

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.... SC had 'acquaintances' who suggested I might just be stringing her along ..(I guess they met one of our married members who can't keep away from dating sites to help newbies ? )

Don't believe in a conspiracy.  Her friends said such because you did string her along.  RW hold to such guidelines as do American women.

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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #2 on: March 28, 2019, 08:17:16 AM »
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Why would you post SO stupid?

1/ I made it clear to SC - it was in my dating profile that, I was separated - and I filled her in on my commitment to my step-son - until he had finished full-time education and got permanent residency

2/ Did either of us know V would 'disappear', refuse to sign a financial separation agreement and then delay the divorce at all stages ?

It is better to ask questions - rather than be a silly BillyB

We shall delight in proving certain folk wrong..


She doesn't want to be married in Russia as it is a pure civil ceremony and they will not marry ( bless)  me - a divorcee - in a Church

I am already CY resident - so YES - she will live in CY

What family of hers should we invite ?   Can you explain how to raise folks from the dead  ..We are in our 6/7 th decades, respectively - only one parent able to make it between us ..

Do you want an invite ? ;)












 
« Last Edit: March 28, 2019, 11:14:47 AM by msmob »

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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #3 on: March 28, 2019, 10:40:11 AM »
For SC finding a dress ( that I will not see )  is the priority

Congratulations   :clapping:

SC is a women who has her priorities in order!
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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #4 on: March 28, 2019, 10:48:54 AM »
She doesn't want to be married in Russia as it is a pure civil ceremony and they will not marry ( bless)  me - a divorcee - in a Church

Congratulations.

The Russian Orthodox Church does allow divorcees to marry in the Church.  The ceremony is a little different, but not significantly.  One does have to be Christian to marry in the Orthodox Church, though not necessarily Orthodox.

ETA - There is a wave of nationalism, though.  Marrying a foreigner in a Church there may not be such a great idea. :-\

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« Last Edit: March 28, 2019, 10:52:02 AM by Boethius »
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It's her first time
« Reply #5 on: March 28, 2019, 11:09:07 AM »
For SC finding a dress ( that I will not see )  is the priority

Congratulations

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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #6 on: March 28, 2019, 11:37:32 AM »
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Why would you post SO stupid?

I was writing from her friends' perspective. 

Perception is stronger than reality, especially to women.  I imagine your future bride had no understanding how divorces can be prolonged in the West.  She only had your word, which I am sure she wants to believe with all of her heart.  I have learned that RW (especially their friends)  have a "skeptic" alarm that functions 24-7.  And SC's explanation of divorce law would likely not convince them.   

Let's start over.  Your word to SC is now proven pravda.  Congratulations to you and best wishes to SC.


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What family of hers should we invite ?   

Other than you, she will have no one with whom to celebrate the great day.  You instead will have your thousand cousins in attendance (if you are indeed Irish and drink Jameson whiskey). 
 
 
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Do you want an invite ? ;)


Sure.  I am old enough to be father of the bride, so I can march down the aisle and give her away at the ceremony.   ;D

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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #7 on: March 28, 2019, 12:22:47 PM »
For SC finding a dress ( that I will not see )  is the priority

How are you going to marry her if you can not see the wedding dress? Will she be invisible?
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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #8 on: March 28, 2019, 12:35:35 PM »
Ok..cannot see...until the day ? ;)

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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #9 on: March 29, 2019, 09:18:56 AM »
Congrats!

Get married in Thailand. It is quite common, I have a relative who did that. It sounds like your fiance won't say no to going back to Thailand.

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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #10 on: March 29, 2019, 10:55:34 AM »
I did suggest 'doing it' in Thailand .. but she wants to 'do the deed' in an EU nation ... probably wiser and it is warming up....


Ooops ...just checked the UK is warmer than Cyprus

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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #11 on: March 29, 2019, 11:32:03 AM »

How are you going to marry her if you can not see the wedding dress? Will she be invisible?


They are getting married El Natural, the dress if for the festivities after  ;D

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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #12 on: March 29, 2019, 01:05:43 PM »
For SC finding a dress ( that I will not see )  is the priority


How are you going to marry her if you can not see the wedding dress? Will she be invisible?


Ok..cannot see...until the day ? ;)

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« Last Edit: March 29, 2019, 01:09:22 PM by BdHvA »
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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #13 on: March 29, 2019, 02:18:15 PM »
Hmm, good to see my typos are bringing light--heartedness to this topic


All of a sudden rings and wedding dresses become important ..


I guess SC will never wear more clothes than on the big day ... she talking a veil and long dress ?!!

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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #14 on: March 30, 2019, 09:38:14 AM »
So, it appears I can see wedding dresses and give an opinion ... but madam will decide ..



This will be the first of many

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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #15 on: March 30, 2019, 10:14:37 AM »
She looks beautiful moby. That dress looks great on her.

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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #16 on: March 30, 2019, 10:32:25 AM »
She looks beautiful moby. That dress looks great on her.



Thanks, Boethius


I must confess that I was scared about if SC would be 'extreme' - but se surprised me with the traditional look

But..

I do not know what will be the final dress )

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It's her first time
« Reply #17 on: March 30, 2019, 10:44:25 AM »
So, it appears I can see wedding dresses and give an opinion ... but madam will decide ..

This will be the first of many

She has an electric smile

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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #18 on: March 30, 2019, 10:47:07 AM »
Thanks, Boethius


I must confess that I was scared about if SC would be 'extreme'

I don't see anything  wrong with . . .
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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #19 on: March 30, 2019, 11:35:42 AM »
I will suggest these options, ML....

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Re: It's her first time - option #2
« Reply #20 on: March 31, 2019, 09:21:10 AM »


@ML ...  SC says she liked all your options ! ;)


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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #21 on: March 31, 2019, 11:12:05 AM »
Beautiful!
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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #22 on: March 31, 2019, 11:16:32 AM »
Option # 3


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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #23 on: April 01, 2019, 07:34:03 AM »
Day 3

Option 4





and 5 - akin to a Swan ? ..




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Re: It's her first time
« Reply #24 on: April 01, 2019, 08:31:57 AM »
So far I like option 2 the best.
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