How much more successful might a FSW be in the west?

[Lily]

This thread must be about me   not sure I saw it before. I have immigrated to Canada by myself, in order to improve my personal life, and my thoughts were that probably I will never get my career back. I was wrong though.

My resume consists of positions within legal teams of large multinational companies, each of them is presented in the Western metropolitan areas, including Toronto. It was certainly not easy to locate a job for months. One day I have received a call from the general counsel of the company that I have left to come to Canada, who told me that they have opened a new role that corresponded to what I was doing back in Moscow, and asked if I was interested. The rest is history, and I was the only person under consideration for the job. Due to their local corporate ladder, my specialty has made me into an executive position, making me on par with the boss of my former Moscow boss. To be successful, it was not even necessary to get a lawyer's license.  Then I moved into the similar role within a major bank. Clearly, I cannot complain about my career success in Canada.

When I am thinking back of my female colleagues in the Moscow offices, I guess that many of them could be equally successful in the West. Good resumes, fluent languages, eagerness to learn and to re-qualify, what else is missing?

[BillyB]

Congratulations on your success Lily! I always knew you to be a quality person on the internet and it's apparent you are a quality person in real life since people recognize your talent and work ethic to offer you high level jobs.

[Lily]

Thanks for your kind words Billy! Hope you and wife are well, and she will soon join an army of the Eastern European professionals in the U.S. 

[ML]

Lily, thanks for reporting good news regarding yourself.

I am not sure if FSUW in general would be more successful in the West as compared to FSU.
They certainly have potential to earn more money, but that is not the only criteria for success and a happy life.

Since I live in a University community and my wife is involved in academics, we have come to know several FSUW who are in the academic area.

As examples:  2 of the gals are PhDs in their mid to late 30s earning around $150,000 per year, one teaches in business and the other is a researcher in health sciences..
Another has refused to get additional education in USA and, as a result, is earning around $8,000 per year teaching one course each semester as temporary instructor

My wife will have her PhD in a year or so, but math professors are not well paid, so she can only expect around $75,000 tops at a major university and may even have to settle for $45,000 or so at a small college with a heavy workload.  And, she may not even be able to get a full time job because she will be facing age discrimination due to being aged 50+.

She could have stayed in Ukraine and led a more peaceful, less stressful life than she has here pursuing advanced degrees.  And had her pick of better looking, younger men . . . and having her family nearby.

[msmob]

Thank you, Lily, for your story.

I know lots of FSU folk who fair better and 'fly' (successful) in the west, eventually. It can be v.hard to reclimb a ladder.

My wife asked my ex-wife, yesterday,  if she would ever move back to Russia...

Now, ex-wifey has a lower class UK degree and her own biz..

The answer...'no way'..

[2tallbill]

So what do you guys reckon the likelihood is that many of these women taken out off their predicament during their young adult years could do better for themselves than if they stayed in their rut inf the FSU?

Let's cut to the essence of your question/thread and purpose of being
on this forum.

Pulling a desperate woman out of poverty and destitution into your bed
providing her with food, comfort and opportunity leaves a very real
possibility and likelihood of her leaving when better options present
themselves.

A desperate woman will do ANYTHING especially if she has children to
get herself and her family out of poverty, destitution or danger. Including
but not limited to spending time in your bed.

So avoid desperate women at all costs!!

Your insecurities compound your fears that a woman, especially a pretty
one will pretend to love you and leave you for something better is absolutely
possible especially with your attituded of finding some poor waif and
bringing her to a better life.

STOP THAT!

Find a girl that you find pretty who likes you and then win her heart.
That is the solution, that has always been the solution. You want to
skip steps and you can't. You must interact with women, on the phone,
on skype, sms and face to face to communicate with them. That's what
you must do to win the heart of a good girl.

Otherwise you will find a girl who has bad motives and you will be
in EXACTLY the situation that you fear the most.

You have a decision to make. Continue with your bad idea of avoiding
Skype and the phone finding yourself a girl who doesn't actually love
you and is with you temporarily for something else. OR Do what every
single member of this forum except yourself says to do.

Find a good girl and win her heart.

You decide

[2tallbill]

This thread must be about me  

Congratulations Lilia! You were destined for success, I am so
glad you are finding it in your adopted Country!