When can she work?

[Muckraker]

Some relevant information contained within this recent Interoffice Memo on the subject of EAD issuance. 

Regards,

Muck

[RESQU]

I will be gone from that company within the next 6 months. But I do have an idea. The company that I am headed for, a start up, would have an number of jobs that any RW might be able to do. I don't think it is up to me what it is she wishes to do. As I said before if she wants to go to med school then I will make that happen. If she wants nursing then I will make that happen. I don't know why any man would place a limit on what it was his lady could or should do. She has her dream and it is up to me to figure out how to make that dream come true.

It's not what we want it is what she wants. Did you dictate to your wife what it was that she should do? Why would we?

Peevee

[RESQU]

Sorry, double post.


PeeWee, your exactly correct.  We should not discourage or stand in the way of anything they want.  However, I think it's a matter of compatibility prior to a relationship.  For example, I want children and its my main focus.  It is also one of the reasons I do the job I do now ... to spend quality time with my family.  I met several doctors in Russia, and if they wanted to be a MD in the States I rule d them out as a potential partner for me, because I know that the years of residency and internship just would not work well for a new family.  I also met a woman who had dreams of being an astronaut, again she was ruled out for the same reasons.  My GF wants a good career but her main focus is time for family more than career.  So that is why I suggested the RN route to her.  Next would be a teacher.  Of course if she has no interest in these careers then I will assist her in finding something she does like and offers the goals she wants. 

[PeeWee]

PeeWee,

I guess I must have misunderstood your use of 'my company'.. vs something like 'where I work'.

My wife is interested in working, maybe even in my business but we discussed this and mutually decided to hold off a bit until our toddler starts school.  The 'full time' motherhood concept was a part of her adjustment.  She initially felt a tad bit guilty that she was not contributing financially to our household (as she was accustomed to back home). Some convincing discourse was needed to show her true worth as a mother, also in financial terms.. 

With a smile she agreed, then told me she wanted her 'salary' 

I told her 'ok', but not to forget that she lives in a very high rent district..   

I had thought about teaching her how to run my little import/export business. With more attention than I give to it I think it would grow. I keep thinking that it might be a waste for her to abandon her years of doctor training and skill and since she had mentioned nursing I do know that is where her heart is.

Your wife has a full time job. I think that mothers today are too quick to deliver and then return to work anyway. The United States cost of living, or the cost of keeping up with the neighbors, now seems to require two incomes. Me, wife, her son, my son, college, vacation, clothes, food, and that is a huge daily investment.

I wonder if some of these lads stop to think how very expensive it is to take a foreign wife and her childern. Seattle is one of the most expensive cities in the country to live in. I had said before that I have an above average income and I still worry that I may not be able to afford this. 

Peevee

[PeeWee]

Sorry, double post.


PeeWee, your exactly correct.  We should not discourage or stand in the way of anything they want.  However, I think it's a matter of compatibility prior to a relationship.  For example, I want children and its my main focus.  It is also one of the reasons I do the job I do now ... to spend quality time with my family.  I met several doctors in Russia, and if they wanted to be a MD in the States I rule d them out as a potential partner for me, because I know that the years of residency and internship just would not work well for a new family.  I also met a woman who had dreams of being an astronaut, again she was ruled out for the same reasons.  My GF wants a good career but her main focus is time for family more than career.  So that is why I suggested the RN route to her.  Next would be a teacher.  Of course if she has no interest in these careers then I will assist her in finding something she does like and offers the goals she wants. 

yeah, let them have their rein. I too met an RW who has a secret desire to become an astronaut. I did not rule her out but rather told her that if it was her desire then I would help her find her dream. As a partner and a friend that is one of
my jobs. We may not be successful but I do not discount anyone's idea.

Did you watch The Apprentice last season? I am thinking of the Russian lady. Ala. Came to the US, settled in Las Vegas, started a beauty salon, then another, then another, and is now a millionaire. Her dream, her ambition, her smarts, blended with the American opportunity and she realized her dream.

Peevee

[RESQU]

PeeWee,


thats a good point, yes I saw the show it was great to see her realize her dream.  I agree that as a partner and a friend you should do everything you can to assist them in realizing their dreams.  For you in your situation, a man who can work from anywhere in the country, has no problems relocating, would adjust your schedule 100% is awesome.  But for many people thats not reality.  Thats what it would take to be a spouse of someone seriously pursuing a career as an astronaut.  And if you are not able/willing to do this... when she fails she will see it as your fault and Divorce is what will happen.  So it is very naive of anyone who is not in your situation to consider a RW who has desires to be an astronaut.  SO, the reality is men should ALWAYS consider compatibility in dreams/desires of a potential partner, and yes that means ruling out those women when it becomes apparent.  I know this is a hypothetical situation, its just my opinion that compatibility is even more important in international relationships than domestic ones. 

[RESQU]

As a follow up to my previous post I saw a great post by Andrew in the starting out section about compatibility.  Andrew of course makes the point much better than I do without all the grammatical errors that I do.

[Turboguy]

PeeVee,

My two cents worth are that when an FSU woman moves here often one of her major problems is boredom.  They can't work, they don't have friends, they have to depend on you etc.  They do like to work and feel they are productive but your sideline business could be a real asset while she is waiting for her EAD and waiting for her accredations it would at least give her something to do that would help pass the time.  Just watch,  next thing you know it will be a multi million dollar business and she will be too busy to spend time with you.

[PeeWee]

PeeVee,

My two cents worth are that when an FSU woman moves here often one of her major problems is boredom.  They can't work, they don't have friends, they have to depend on you etc.  They do like to work and feel they are productive but your sideline business could be a real asset while she is waiting for her EAD and waiting for her accredations it would at least give her something to do that would help pass the time.  Just watch,  next thing you know it will be a multi million dollar business and she will be too busy to spend time with you.

I had thought of that. To preoccupy her with driving lessons, ESL classes, and helping me with my little business and with my other business as well. Eventually college and then work. The English skills will be high on the list of accomplishments. I want to avoid boredom. Boredom can develop into depression.

Peevee

[catzenmouse]

I had thought of that. To preoccupy her with driving lessons, ESL classes, and helping me with my little business and with my other business as well. Eventually college and then work. The English skills will be high on the list of accomplishments. I want to avoid boredom. Boredom can develop into depression.

Peevee

PeeVee,

 I'll come and run your business for you. Been looking to get out of this semi-govt job for awhile... 

Ken

[Jet]

Some relevant information contained within this recent Interoffice Memo on the subject of EAD issuance. 

Regards,

Muck

Well Muck,
This is SWELL NEWS!  Unless I've read the memo incorrectly....
Lil applied for her THIRD EAD on June 12, they recieved it exactly 90 days before her current EAD expires on Sept. 13.
She was scheduled for boimetrics on Aug.5 (not quite the "2 weeks after reciept" the memo suggested).
We have 9days until the current one expires.

And now we can't even apply for an interim EAD at the district office?  :seething: Wonderful 
The friggin' hits just keep on coming... It's been 20 months since our K-1 interview, and background checks are still not complete, so we still don't have a greencard, and now there's a pretty good chance she'll lose her job due to the total apathy & incometence that is USCIS. I LOVE this country  :burnedup:

[jb]

Jet,

Doesn't Lil have her Permanent GC yet???

My God ~! I thought you guys wer further along than this.

[catzenmouse]

Damn Jet! I've been pretty pissed about they jerking us around with Sergei's status but that is just plain unbelievable! Can you hire a couple of those Cuban thugs to go have a chat with the local USCIS officials?

Sorry to hear this,
 Ken

[PeeWee]

PeeVee,

 I'll come and run your business for you. Been looking to get out of this semi-govt job for awhile... 

Ken

Are you now living anywhere near NYC?

Peevee

[catzenmouse]

Are you now living anywhere near NYC?

Peevee

PeeVee,

 We live in Virginia. Probably a 7 - 9 hour drive to NYC.

Ken

[Jet]

A spot of happy news,
It was updated today on "case status online" at USCIS, They approved her I-765 on Sept 1st. Her job is safe for another year 

[Vaughn]

That IS good news, Jet. Elvira just made her first
job switch, banking to fashion, at a 50% increase
and the coveted day shift. It's her first real status
change that didn't involve BCIS.

After all the hoops, they oughta issue Lil a Platinum GC.