First phone call

[ukguy]

When i make the first phone call are there any questions that a:- i should ask and b:- i shouldn't ask?

Cheers rich

[Bruce]

I think your question about phone calls is answered on another thread - with just about the same title as the one you started.

[ukguy]

This lady ha asked me to call her, so i have tried no less than 4 times this weekend. Each time its either she's too busy or doesn't answer the phone. I think this must mean i've been dumped!!! Pity really she seemed real nice so i guess i should just put it down to experience right?

[Elen]

Each time its either she's too busy

 

Does that mean she picked up a reciver and told you she was busy or it's only "busy line"?

[TheArrow]

This lady ha asked me to call her, so i have tried no less than 4 times this weekend. Each time its either she's too busy or doesn't answer the phone. I think this must mean i've been dumped!!! Pity really she seemed real nice so i guess i should just put it down to experience right?

Does it mean she has the phone autoreply or somebody told you she was busy? My short advice to you - make a sudden call to her without telling her what time you will call - so you can check her knowledge of English.

 

[TheArrow]

When i make the first phone call are there any questions that a:- i should ask and b:- i shouldn't ask?

Cheers rich

What a silly question. Have you ever dated women in general? What did you talk about to them?

[Elen]

Yes unexpected call And better like say at 4AM:D

[Admin]

What a silly question. Have you ever dated women in general? What did you talk about to them?

No, it's not a silly question at all. The person is correctly concerned that he may ask or say something that is culturally insensitive.

Believe it or not, there really are a lot of people who care deeply about how they are 'received' by others. They want to put their best foot forward, and they wish to avoid saying anything that others might find offensive.

Is that really so difficult to believe?

- Dan

[Elen]

Ah! Let tell what you want It does not matter because at first call we can understand only one word among 10:D

[Todd]

I always stick to very safe topics with no abstractions.  For example, ask them what they know about where you live.  Ask them about what their favorite aspects of their town.  Ask them about who their friends are.  etc.

Always avoid questions about sex or in anyway comparing your country to hers.  Also, avoid any physical complement.  Chances are she is a beautfiul woman and both you AND her know it.  I do try to slip in one compliment such as telling her why I wanted to talk to her.  (Hint:  Don't start it with bodacious ta ta's...)

Otherwise, I let the woman guide the conversation and have fun.

Hope this helps

[joigny]

 hello could some body out their give me some advice ive been in contact with this lady in russia for about 10 days now she write s every day  not sure of her i suspect her of a  so called scammer not sure i ve i asked some akward ? but shes answered all my ?. is it normal to write alot  every day ,she seems to be puting alot of effort into her letters. no mention of any money yet i am waiting for it.we arranged to phone me  bad idea or good. i have heard it is very hard in russia to get a visa for the u.k either she very clever or she is the real thing /??      any advice thanks  p

[Bruno]

 hello could some body out their give me some advice ive been in contact with this lady in russia for about 10 days now she write s every day  not sure of her i suspect her of a  so called scammer not sure i ve i asked some akward ? but shes answered all my ?. is it normal to write alot  every day ,she seems to be puting alot of effort into her letters. no mention of any money yet i am waiting for it.we arranged to phone me  bad idea or good. i have heard it is very hard in russia to get a visa for the u.k either she very clever or she is the real thing /??      any advice thanks  p

Don't start a relation thinking you will be scammed... untel there is no red flag, don't worry too much... and about write every day, it is possible... some woman have computer home, some other have internet club near house...

About phone, it is always a good idea... a more real contact...

For UK, other member can better help you that me... UK is a strange country... one foot in Europe, the other outside... they have specifique regulation...