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« Reply #625 on: December 26, 2005, 10:51:10 AM »
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Well, one things for sure: even KenC will agree that 63 years is pushing the envelope! :cool:

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« Reply #626 on: March 16, 2006, 08:17:34 PM »
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OK, I'll bite, and not be offended by either answer:  Do we look good together or look like daughter/father?  Photo attached.

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Yes, and Yes.

Kevin, go look at my friend Wasson65 and his Lili.  He is 37, she is 22.  <GRIN>

Natasha is 16 years younger than I am. 


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« Reply #627 on: March 18, 2006, 09:13:30 PM »
Since David has seen fit to spill the beans, I'll subject myself and my situation to the judgement of others.

Now, to be fair, her mother likes me, and was looking at the two of us sitting together in her kitchen, and says "Ahh, good.  Same face!" and points at us two.

The age difference (I'm 37, she's 22) worried me a little at first.  But she has been through so much with her previous boyfriend, I came to be comfortable with the idea that she was, in certain areas, wise beyond her years.

Music - I like new stuff as well as old, we bought cd's together while I was there, so we can rock out in the car to the same tunes.

Movies - We discussed this, she likes the chick-flick stuff with Julia Roberts, and I enjoy her stuff as well.   And we watched Police Academy 2 while I was there (overdubbed in Russian), and we both bust out laughing at the same things, giggling together.

Dinner and dancing - She orders for me, we figure out how big a meal I want beforehand, and we're fine!  And McDonalds is the same the world over...  What she did cook for me was good hearty food, and I loved eating it.  As far as the dancing, we've only gone once, but compared to most of the Russian guys, I must be John Freaking Travolta.  We've also talked about learning ballroom dancing.

Other hobbies: She likes shooting pool, and I've got a pool table.  I like sailing, and she likes boats.  She's gone rock-climbing, I wouldn't mind hiking around a bit at all.

She has a three year old son, we play matchbox cars together, and I carry him around on my shoulders.

One things for sure, we make each other smile alot - even my ex-wife says I look really happy with Lily! 8-) 



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« Reply #628 on: March 18, 2006, 09:31:49 PM »
Nope, too much age difference.  It won't work.  :puke:

Just kidding.  You too look great together.   There are mature 22 year olds and immature 50 year olds.  Since he is not here I will say just look at Anono if you don't believe the part about immature 50 year olds.  I am kidding about that too.  You two will be fine.  If you are happy and enjoy being together that is what is important.  That is not a big age difference.

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« Reply #629 on: March 21, 2006, 09:58:43 AM »
Wasson, you have a real beauty there. I would say you do look much older but as a couple you look very happy together. You do not look like a bad match at all, I see a nice couple. This thing of age is all in the mind. You are as young or old as you feel.

The one thing that rings true is that you are not likely to see such large age differences among American couples. Maybe 8 - 10 years at the most.

If a young RW is willing to marry an older AM and it is true love, I think we need to accept it. Not every relationship is a scam.

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« Reply #630 on: November 01, 2020, 10:41:30 PM »
I've resurrected another thread.

What is a large age difference when you look for your future
wife in the FSU. In my opinion it depends on how good you
look, how fit you are and your social skills.

If you are Decent looking, fit, have good social skills, have
a good income and live in a desirable area then you can take
your age and subtract ten years at most. If you seek more
then you need to have substantially better social skills, looks,
and other things.

If you try to push the envelope then you are going to still find
women who will reply to you but you will also find more women
who have dubious goals.

Above all you want a good girl and women with dubious goals
aren't part of what you seek.

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Re: Large age difference
« Reply #631 on: November 02, 2020, 10:03:48 AM »
As I have stated before here . . . I had to go with large age difference for the sex aspects.

Most women my age (both when I started looking and, of course, now) have zero interest in sex . . . and many say even the thought of sex they find disgusting.

As to the problems with large age difference . . . I encountered zero in my search and have experienced zero with my now Ukrainian wife.  We are coming up on 6 years of marriage and have lived together full time for about 9 and half years.

We even exchange laughs and smiles when watching TV shows etc., when someone mentions problems with 'older' men, etc.  She comments on this now and then.

Interesting also, that because of my over production of oil, I have fewer wrinkles around the eyes than she does.

She also asks me infrequently if other men my age are having sex.  I tell her that I think only a few of them.  She then comments how lucky I am.  But then I tell her it is she who is lucky.  She smiles and agrees.

Now how will this play out as the years advance ?  Who knows.  My Mother (whom people think I take after and look more like than my Father) is still alive going on 98 in November.

So might I actually live longer than my wife ?  Probably not as her Grandmother also lived into her mid 90s, even in the harsh conditions in Ukraine of WWII, Communism, working in fields her entire life, etc.

Have we had problems in our marriage?  Yes indeed.  But none were related to age difference.

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Re: Large age difference
« Reply #632 on: November 02, 2020, 10:04:31 AM »
I have seen large age gaps work successfully. It seems to depend on the couple involved and their commitment to making it work.
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Re: Large age difference
« Reply #633 on: November 02, 2020, 10:13:09 AM »
Depends on the guy , what he has to offer . I plan going to the gym , just like I have been for the past 9 years .

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« Reply #634 on: November 02, 2020, 12:25:11 PM »
The OP was 25 years older than his wife. She never wanted kids until one
day she decided that she did.

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« Reply #635 on: November 09, 2020, 01:19:46 PM »
Understanding the Teen Brain
The University of Rochester Medical Center
It doesnít matter how smart teens are or how well they scored on the SAT
or ACT. Good judgment isnít something they can excel in, at least not yet.

The rational part of a teenís brain isnít fully developed and wonít be until
age 25 or so.

In fact, recent research has found that adult and teen brains work differently.
Adults think with the prefrontal cortex, the brainís rational part. This is the
part of the brain that responds to situations with good judgment and an
awareness of long-term consequences. Teens process information with
the amygdala. This is the emotional part.

Read the entire article here
http://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content.aspx?ContentTypeID=1&ContentID=3051



Is 25 the new cut-off point for adulthood?
http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-24173194


Why is 18 the age of adulthood if the brain can take 30 years to mature?
http://bigthink.com/mind-brain/adult-brain

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Re: Age difference
« Reply #636 on: November 09, 2020, 06:15:33 PM »
Good judgment isnít something they can excel in, at least not yet.

The rational part of a teenís brain isnít fully developed and wonít be until
age 25 or so.

In fact, recent research has found that adult and teen brains work differently.
Adults think with the prefrontal cortex, the brainís rational part. This is the
part of the brain that responds to situations with good judgment and an
awareness of long-term consequences. Teens process information with
the amygdala. This is the emotional part.

Why is 18 the age of adulthood if the brain can take 30 years to mature? [/b][/size]


This backs up Winston's comment about political leanings of his children over time.
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Re: Large age difference
« Reply #637 on: November 09, 2020, 09:29:11 PM »
It simply depends on the comlatability of the two individuals.

I would cringe if my kids had found love with a guy old enough to have fathered them, but I count as friends a couple with a 33 years age gap. They have kids aged 12 and 7 and he nearly died of a brain haemorrhage.

His wife cared for him and she is now the bread winner as he lost his biz...He was a qualified balloon pilot and could fly fee paying clients.

Are they an exception?..Possibly, so..But I see great love and a happy family.

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« Reply #638 on: November 10, 2020, 09:55:12 AM »
This backs up Winston's comment about political leanings of his children over time.

ďAny man under 30 who is not a liberal has no heart, and any man over thirty who is not a conservative has no brains.Ē

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« Reply #639 on: November 10, 2020, 09:57:30 AM »
I had always sought comlatability because if I didn't have it I feared
haemorrhage could occur.

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Re: Age difference
« Reply #640 on: November 10, 2020, 11:50:46 AM »
ďAny man under 30 who is not a liberal has no heart, and any man over thirty who is not a conservative has no brains.Ē

― Winston S. Churchill


http://winstonchurchill.org/resources/quotes/quotes-falsely-attributed/

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« Last Edit: November 10, 2020, 12:10:30 PM by Boethius »
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« Reply #641 on: November 10, 2020, 04:38:47 PM »


http://winstonchurchill.org/resources/quotes/quotes-falsely-attributed/

Google was used to retrieve the above (known to me) website.


I have been wrong before, looks like I am once again. I found a website
that attributed it to him but the internet is wrong just as often as I am.

http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/7441607-any-man-under-30-who-is-not-a-liberal-has

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Re: Large age difference
« Reply #642 on: November 10, 2020, 07:57:22 PM »
I recall this thread - spent some time reading through it when I first joined way back when...

Scanning now and still shaking my head....🙄

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« Reply #643 on: November 11, 2020, 12:29:16 PM »
I recall this thread - spent some time reading through it when I first joined way back when...

Scanning now and still shaking my head....🙄

We've somehow turned into the all politics all the time forum
so I thought I would turn over a few stones and reintroduced
some old threads to see if anyone wanted to get back to the
FSU discussion.

FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.

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Re: Large age difference
« Reply #644 on: November 11, 2020, 01:22:58 PM »
Whatever happened to TG?  Think he held the age diff record 'round here.

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Re: Large age difference
« Reply #645 on: November 11, 2020, 03:31:22 PM »
I posted this in another thread, but really, it belongs here.  For those of you who think a large age gap is acceptable, here is an opportunity to read what RW are saying behind your back.  The poll at the top of the page indicates the acceptable age difference.  There were 23 respondents and only 1 thought 16+ years was ok.

However, the comments are far more interesting!  If you do not read Russian, use one of the free translators on the web.  Be forewarned that the comments are pretty vicious.  These RW do not pull any punches when it comes to a man writing to an RW half his age.  Yet, this is real.

For those of you who are married to much younger women, I'm not posting this to be disrespectful.  I will guess you, or more likely your wives, have heard it all before.  I don't imagine you need to read this, it will not make your day.

http://www.antidate.org/forum/viewtopic.php?t=243


I used to visit anitdate often, but I donít have access to this link. Can anyone else see it?

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« Reply #646 on: November 11, 2020, 03:42:39 PM »

I used to visit anitdate often, but I donít have access to this link. Can anyone else see it?

They had a big broom wreck, stopped paying their bills and they
nagged the wrong person too much and now they are gone. 



« Last Edit: November 11, 2020, 04:06:49 PM by 2tallbill »
FSUW are not for entry level daters
FSUW don't do vague
FSUW like a man of action. Be a man of action 
If you find a promising girl, get your butt on a plane.
There are a hundred ways to be successful and a thousand ways to f#ck it up
Kiss the girl, don't ask her first.

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Re: Large age difference
« Reply #647 on: November 11, 2020, 04:32:44 PM »
Whatever happened to TG?  Think he held the age diff record 'round here.
I haven't heard from Ray for a few years, but ironically, last I heard, he and Irina were still together (but that's a while back)....

Ray was "The Defender" of the faith.

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« Reply #648 on: November 11, 2020, 04:35:48 PM »
turn over a few stones and reintroduced
some old threads to see if anyone wanted to get back to the
FSU discussion.
Times were.....

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Re: Large age difference
« Reply #649 on: November 11, 2020, 04:44:21 PM »
They had a big broom wreck, stopped paying their bills and they
nagged the wrong person too much and now they are gone. 



There's still a few of them flying around

 

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