Why so Many 17 to 23 Year Olds

[Bruno]

Nice post Bruno
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Scott, you posted after I wrote the above.   People do tend to measure success by the end result.   Someone gets a divorce then the marriage was a failure...

Hmmm... same here... seem that the post rate is high... but you post seem to reach what i mean...

In your case, you are not yet a failure... VWRW seem to be a special lady... not a easy one... you may know success or failure but only time will show it... and if failure happen, it can be your own mistake... it is not really the topic but your have choice a difficult lady.... you can be rewarded thousand time or suffer thousand time... nobody know what will be the result in the long term... but in almost any case of bad ending, it is due to imcompatibility who was existing in the begin... of course, love make us blind and it don't help us...

Scott give the example of a two year relationship... two year, let say 12 hours day together is a lot of tme when compare to meeting/dating who have only some hours in the year... same in the case of our US friend, a K1 is 3 month... now, i speak for myself... but 3 month is short for know somebody...

Relationship are like building a tower... dating/meeting are the base... time allow to build more level... if the base is bad; it is not possible to build a high building... but if the base is good, each level need to be good too.... one bad level don't allow us to build a new level up...

PS: Sorry guys... it is very difficult to explain what i mean in English... again some language problem... i can speak/write englisg but i don't master it enough for a good speaking in English... Remember my difficulty when you date a RW... for strong intimate discussion, she will have the same problem that i have now...

[Turboguy]

Yes Bruno, I understood what you meant and I think your comments showed a lot of wisdom and truth.   

Perhaps I have chosen a difficult woman but I am not so sure I agree with that.   I could see every reason for us to have a great difficulty adjusting to life with each other.   We have an age difference, a culture difference and when VWRW was in the USA before she had the normal problems adjusting to life here that many go through.  If we do have a lot of difficulties adapting to life together or with her adapting to life here then I am ready for that and will give her all the support and encouragement that I can.  To be honest I think we will have a little less difficulty with the adjustments than some do.   We will get to find out before long and what ever difficulties we face we are both determined to work through them and build a happy life together.

[Simoni]

Now, about the seeking time... what is the problem with 10 or more years ? The final goal is not to be married at any condition but find the right partner for share the rest of our life... Better use the time needed for find these right partner that hurry... go to much fast and a potential divorce will maybe wait you in the future...

Excellent post, Bruno...truly good advice. 

There are many different roads to success in this life.

Personally, I took my time, as did our fellow RWD posters like Groove and Gator who were cautious and made multiple trips in finding the right girl.  I'm glad I am in that group.

I won't counter attack by questioning one trip wonders.  But, I will say that multiple trips and being careful in selecting a life partner should also not be criticized.

[Son of Clyde]

I have been trying to figure out why a 10 year search is a negative thing. The idea is to find the right person. If you have to meet 30 women in the process it is better to be sure. It is my understanding Turbo met VWRW along with other ladies and something about her clicked. They have spent much time together. They are going into the relationship with eyes wide open. I see nothing negative about their choice. Their future may not be an easy one but they both know this. You will have detractors and you will have those who believe it is the choice of the couple and no one else.