All Good Things Come to an End

[ScottinCrimea]

...RWs are fairly predictable, they'll forgive you at the end of the day for all your transgressions. 

This is one of the many wonderful things about a RW.  But bear in mind, though forgiven, it's not forgotten.

[I/O]

Surely they will be minor.

I can only hope I have the self dicipline (I usually have) to put brain in gear before mouth. Again JB, your comments about RW "Talking" have rung true from very early on. 

BTW my request/suggestion for further info, was a general one, not specifically MIL related.  The big bonus for us newer ones of these forums is the opportunity to pick the brains of you guys who have been at it for a while.

I/O

[jb]

I/O,

I truly loved my MIL, she was a great personality. No one grieved more than I did when she passed.  She was one of the most honest and helpful persons I ever met, and I think she really learned to love me.   But she and her daughter, (my wife), could fight like cats and dogs when they crossed swords.  You didn't want to get between them.  I've heard Russians only fight where there is passion, believe me,,, there is usually passion between momma and daughter.  My comment is not specific to your MIL2B, just an observation I've been through.

Thought I'd pass on the warning.

[I/O]

Thought I'd pass on the warning.

Consider me warned....!!!!!

I/O

[jb]

...RWs are fairly predictable, they'll forgive you at the end of the day for all your transgressions.

This is one of the many wonderful things about a RW.  But bear in mind, though forgiven, it's not forgotten.

How very true. We are talking about the Elephant Memory women here... Nothing is forgotten, and all will be brought up in future arguments to suit their needs.  Heaven help you poor suckers if you get really afoul an RW, she will beat you up with your own misdeeds until you are bloody and speechless.

[I/O]

RW..............similar to a computer.  Your smallest mistakes are stored in the long term memory for convenient later retrieval. 

I/O

[groovlstk]

IO,

Glad to see you're still posting. So many guys seem to drop off the radar once their fiancee arrives. When I was in the K1 process a year ago there were several other members with similar timelines as me and every one of them (e.g., remember Latinswede?) fell off the face of the earth. I'd like to think they're simply too busy to post but I suspect many saw things turn bad quickly and disappeared. I'm glad to see things are going well for you so far, seems like you've got a winner (or winners) on hand.

[Vaughn]

Forgive and forget? I concur, they forgive, but never forget. Why just this evening I was reminded of a minor transgression from 2003....I had long forgotten about it, but alas,
the little lady will not have me live in blissful ignorance....

Congratulations, I/O! FWIW, I am now just discovering this thread, which began in early
August. That tells me something. I'm constantly distracted by reality up here. My own
bachelorhood days are years gone away. Was out back hacking tall grass and weeds with a hew, a tool I've never owned until lately. Got filthy dirty as well, so much that in the name of tidiness I was refused admittance through the sliding glass door at the rear of our home - was made to undress (at least from the waist down) before I could come inside. Humiliating it was, so I lightened the moment by humming loudly David Rose's The Stripper theme as the clay-caked dungarees peeled slowly off. She was howling with glee behind the glass. I've forgiven her, but that's one I'll never forget....

The things we do for love.

My best wishes to your new family, Mat.

Vaughn

[I/O]

I don't intend dropping off the radar here completely regardless of future directions within my home. There is too much benefit in bleeding you guys brains for information....!!! Up until now I consider I have had enough experience to paddle my own boat to an extent, but now is new territory for me. Nevertheless, it is already clear that other things of course take priority at times.  The next few days being an example as I will be away for a few days at conference and we are taking the opportunity to extend that break by the weekend and show a couple of Russians some new scenery.

BTW my rules that they stayed out of the kitchen for 2 days didn't last..................I went home for lunch today. Lunch? :hairraising: Three friggen course meal I think. Suspect I might have had the order of the boot from the kitchen. Like I am sad about that.....yeah right...!!!

I/O

[Jazzyclassy]

I/O

my congratulations enjoy your family now

say hey from me to your future wife

[Gator]

I/O,

You are really enjoying your women.  You may be King of your house; however, the kitchen is another republic.  Be careful or you will need a visa to enter it, unless you are a guest worker to clean the dishes.

Vaughn,

Funny story. You made light of what could have grown into a conflict.  Next time use a scythe and you will complete the task in less time (and feel like a 1920s Ukrainian wheat farmer).

[deccie]

I/O,

I truly loved my MIL, she was a great personality. No one grieved more than I did when she passed.  She was one of the most honest and helpful persons I ever met, and I think she really learned to love me.   But she and her daughter, (my wife), could fight like cats and dogs when they crossed swords.  You didn't want to get between them.  I've heard Russians only fight where there is passion, believe me,,, there is usually passion between momma and daughter.  My comment is not specific to your MIL2B, just an observation I've been through.

Thought I'd pass on the warning.

OMG! That certainly matches what I have seen.
Congratulations I/O on getting your new family together.

[jb]

This actually may turn out to be one of the more valuable threads on the board,,, if we can just keep T/G from hijacking it to discuss age gaps.

<warning served>

[KenC]

I/O,
Sit back and enjoy your two ladies from Russia.  There is always a cooking compitition going on between my MIL and Lena when she is visiting.  The winner?  Me and my FIL!   If you are up to driving them both crazy, cook something for them!  Enjoy them both, as I do when we get our visits.
KenC

[Kuna]

I/O,

Three course meal for lunch???  I can feel a trip up the range coming...

Didn't happen to have solyanka did you???  Blinni???  Agroshka???

OK... time for dinner...

Kuna

[I/O]

KenC: Yeah that just staggers them.  They just can't quite come to grips with being in a house with a self sufficient man. They are still a bit lost right now.  But it did start to come together a little during the trip this week.  (Been away 4 days at the coast further north and just home now)

The new camper trailer has been hailed a success, however I did run slightly out of patience for the first time the other evening when I walked back into the trailer and it looked much like a bush fencing contractors camp,(Not exactly the standard I like to maintain) with two Russian women sitting painting their nails.

They saw a little of the other side of me for the first time and shall we say....they kinda snapped to attention and I think everything in the fridge was cooked within an hour amongst many other domestic duties being brought well and truly up to scratch.

However you guys will laugh about this one.  We were on a  walking trail and of course the little guy is not fast.  Some locals walked up behind us and I commented to them "Go on past you'll be faster the us".  Of course the "Us" was the only thing picked up with my speed of speech and apparently it sounded something like "Oh go on past, they Russian".  You can imagine where the next 10 minutes of conversation went from there. I did manage to extricate myself with most of my bodily components intact. BUT.......It again emphasises what I have been preaching for two or three years. Much easier for you freshman if you find a lady who is comfortable with English.  Mine goes fairly well now, but that is precisely an example that can cause all sorts of offence and hassles.  Food for thought.

I/O   

[vwrw]

From Vaughn:… they forgive, but never forget.

vwrw:I am quick to forget my man’s transgressions  That is why I write them in a list.  As result I have two list “Honey-do!” and “honey-did”
All the best to you, I/O and to your new family.
      

[I/O]

As result I have two list “Honey-do!” and “honey-did”

Won't take long to write ....."Honey you're done."....!!

I/O

[deccie]

I/O, I am curious. Have you dealt with explaining the local wildlife much? I imagine, given your location, that Red Backs would be rather common for example.
or are you leaving that to the first time a local encounter happens?

[I/O]

I/O, I am curious. Have you dealt with explaining the local wildlife much? I imagine, given your location, that Red Backs would be rather common for example.
or are you leaving that to the first time a local encounter happens?

Sure have...!!!  You mean to tell me there is something else that Russian women will ask about? :hairraising: Gawd it goes on and on and on.................and.  They are interested in some of the most curious little aspects of wildlife that we simply take for granted everyday.

Yep they ALL have seen and fully understand the Redback thing. (For the USA guys the redback is something similar to that nasty little black spider you have at least in AZ if not other places. I am thinking it is called black widow, but I kinda doubt that to be correct)

Here's a laugh....I will post a picture at some stage......a 3 1/2 Y/O (Who was sleeping in the car whilst travelling) woken up to see his first kangaroo. OMG... Picture this.....a Russian kid running flat out up a hillside (In it's underpants) chasing the ever more distant kangaroo as it fled the scene.

I/O 

[deccie]

That was quite funny. Thanks for the mental picture!

It's not something we will have to deal with right now since I am doing the ex-pat lifestyle for a while to come but when we go back to Aus I hope we will be living in Queensland
, and on the coast and I am just dreading explaining about Box Jellyfish and seeing that very first estuarine crocodile sign.

Catch-and-release fishing will be something I also have to explain.

It took hours and endless repetitions to explain what we do with carp in Australia!

[I/O]

It took hours and endless repetitions to explain what we do with carp in Australia!

That would be "European" Carp?.....I assume. Ya know there is actually justice in the world.

BTW another Russian connected to this board (Not my finace' or MIL2B) fired a few questions at me regarding the "Stingers and Box Jelly Fish". I think she is convinced that falling out of a boat near Queensland is instant death.

Sharks seem to be the big question mark when we go swimming.  "I/O, There is shark here"? The frequency of the spotter plane (Once explained) flying back and forth overhead seemed to bring some comfort....some. And............whether on not a local black person is capable of eating you.

Last night was spent until the wee small hours this morning discussing final details for the wedding.  I will grant her this, she is quick to make a decision and she WILL stick with it. No mamby pamby BS. "Da I like that....finished...next thing"..!!!

I/O

[2tallbill]

I live in the San Francisco bay area well known for GWS (Great White Sharks)
yet I have not yet been bitten by one. I have buddies who spear fish in the kelp
beds in the Monterey Bay because the GWS don't go in there.

[deccie]

That would be "European" Carp?.....I assume. Ya know there is actually justice in the world.

Yes, that would be European Carp. Trying to explain that we don't consider that fish to be edibile just gets looks of disbelief.

BTW another Russian connected to this board (Not my finace' or MIL2B) fired a few questions at me regarding the "Stingers and Box Jelly Fish". I think she is convinced that falling out of a boat near Queensland is instant death.

Ditto.

And............whether on not a local black person is capable of eating you.

I get that one too!

Last night was spent until the wee small hours this morning discussing final details for the wedding.  I will grant her this, she is quick to make a decision and she WILL stick with it. No mamby pamby BS. "Da I like that....finished...next thing"..!!!

Good to see things are progressing well!

[Jumper]

Big Congrats I/O !!
sorry i had missed this great thread..