Evaluating Russian Women

[DoubtfulInquiry]

Hello Everyone,

I'm new and only recently decided to 'search' for a 'special' lady in areas formally under the USSR.  Desire to keep out of trouble, if possible.  I need info from those with experience:  How does one go about evaluating the honesty of a Russian woman.  Thanks.

[ScottinCrimea]

Hi and welcome.  the simple answer to this question is that you do it like you would evaluate the honesty of anyone.  You look for consistency in answers, you observe general behavior, you look for statements that obviously conflict with known facts, and where possible you obtain the assurance of those who know her.

Now can go at this from two standpoints:  You can assume that any FSUW is dishonest until proven otherwise, or you can assume that they are honest until proven otherwise.  Both have their risks.  While this venture, like any dating scenario, requires caution, one of the added complications is that there are some cultural and language differences that can give the wrong impression either way.  Many times with my wife I have had reason to question what she has told me until I took the time to clarify and understood that it was just a different way of perceiving or explaiining things, or she just used the wrong English word.

There are many special ladies in the FSU and I wish you well in your search.  Find one and you will be a very happy man.

[KenC]

Hello Everyone,

I'm new and only recently decided to 'search' for a 'special' lady in areas formally under the USSR.  Desire to keep out of trouble, if possible.  I need info from those with experience:  How does one go about evaluating the honesty of a Russian woman.  Thanks.

Welcome to RWD!  Scott gave you a good answer but I would like to add some thoughts too.  Dating a woman from the fsu is much like dating an AW (American woman) except she is on the other side of the world.  Because of the logistics and expense, men tend to try and take shortcuts in the amount of time they actually spend with their future wives.  Nothing can replace face to face time.  Think about the amount of time you spent with local women before you actually knew who the person was.  Why guys can justify circumventing this necessary time together is all tied to the distance and expense factors involved with this process.  So be prepared to spend the time and the money to do it right or this could be the worst idea you ever had!

The bottom line answer to your question is that you have to get your butt on a plane and go there.  No amount of Internet talk can replace the experience of being face to face.  Good luck to you and ask a lot of questions.
KenC

[ScottinCrimea]

One important clarification to KenC's post.  Face to face time does NOT mean in the horizontal position.

[Misha]

One important clarification to KenC's post.  Face to face time does NOT mean in the horizontal position.

LOL. Also, most men make the mistake of falling in love with the illusion. They do not fall in love with the woman, rather they fall in love with the fantasy that they project onto the woman and this is as much the case IMO if you are dating the proverbial girl from next door or a woman from the FSU. Ken and Scott are right in that trust is earned over time and you have to really get to know the person while keeping in mind cultural differences.

[Blues Fairy]

You can assume that any FSUW is dishonest until proven otherwise, or you can assume that they are honest until proven otherwise.

Or, assume that 50% are dishonest until proven otherwise and 50% are honest until proven otherwise.  It won't increase your rate of success but at least you'll have fun comparing the approaches. 

[Kuna]

LOL. Also, most men make the mistake of falling in love with the illusion.

Gabaub is correct here and it's probably the biggest challenge during the searching.  To manage this I wrote a list of all of the things I was seeking and I kept refering back to that list as I received responses to my letters etc.

I also NEVER responded to letters sent to me.  I took time to go throught he sites and choose who met my "criteria" and figured if anyone else wrote to me they didnt fit so I wouldn't write.

I think it's easy to get scammed but the probability is dictated by the man NOT the scammers...  Before you start evaluating women evaluate yourself.  Understand what you want and why.  Some men will naturally take a higher risk approach simply by looking to stretch the boundaries of reality a little (or a lot).  Some will succeed and some will fail.

Understand what you want and why... decide on an approach which is best for your... and stick to it. 

Oh, one final thouht.  the more focused you are on JUST MARRYING the more risk you will face.  There is simply nothing like the emotions and experiences you'll get from your first trip to FSU.  Enjoy that as much as meeting the women and you'll probably be more successful.

Try not to be too wary of every woman you write to... We have television adverts here about terrorism and the catchphrase is "Be alert not alarmed".  The same can be said for this pursuit.

Good luck and welcome to RWD... Feel free to ask questions because this is the best place to be if you're interested in marrying a RW.

Kuna

[jb]

Being able to evaluate a Russian woman infers being able to understand one.

Forget that stuff right now~!   

[BC]

Being able to evaluate a Russian woman infers being able to understand one.

Forget that stuff right now~!   

Yes.. a science for which there is no master.

I really cannot imagine anyone intentionally entertaining thoughts of RW.

I can assure you that it is NOT the 'easier, softer way'.

[I/O]

Being able to evaluate a Russian woman infers being able to understand one.

The guy that said "Women are made for loving, not understanding" was a wise man indeed. No more pointed is the case than with a Russian woman.

As to understanding whether or not she / they are being honest with you, previous posters have given good advice and I would add by saying, forget anything written or told by internet dating sites and or the majority of agencies regarding the nuances of Russian women. The rewards can be many and great for the few, but the majority simply "wither on the vine" in the process. Sifting and then developing a real relationship requires great amounts of time, resources and patience. More so than with a local woman not less.

I/O