spell czech

[Jumper]

I seem to have been used as an example , in a thread i missed ... lol

Turbo said

Maybe we should talk to the USCIS and pass along a suggeston to lower immigration.   Include a spelling be as part of the K-1 process.

Gator  said

Nevertheless, the worst speller in history is AJ, and he ended up with a fabulous woman.  Proving that one strategy is just show up if you have game. 

KenC said

Note to Turbo:  That AJ was successful does not prove that spelling and grammar are not important.  It only means that one person of AJ's caliber can overcome the handicap. 

For the record, I would like to state quite clearly that any Western guy corresponding with a woman from the FSU needs very accurate spelling,or simply be smart enough to use spell check.

 

As Gator mentioned,I prefered a different method...
Not because of my awful spelling,
( i would have used spell check when writing a RW, give me a little credit guys? )
or because of my broken syntax,which is much more of a problem and takes me too
long to go back and correct it.

 Correspondence just isn't my style, it really is/was that simple.
I don't enjoy it. I'd MUCH rather call!
(and yes did, to any RW i was interested in)
   

The reason i made a post about it, is I felt new guys need to realize some RW
simply dont like to  corresponde either.
It's just not *them*, it's not thier style.

(my wife is an example,she just does not enjoy writing,at all,
and in correspondence would come off as quiet,not very responcive to questions,
and  reserved ,basically appear *not interested*
yet, would talk your ear off on the phone and be completely open about everything and very engaging)



While many RW might enjoy building a friendship or familiarity thru writing....

MANY don't have the time ,nor inclination towards that method.

I see guys recommending letter writing campaigns, to weed out many,, down to a selected one, and to get to know the RW they then intend to visit.

It's a proven method,and decent advise!!


but I submit that you are weeding out ,
from only a select group of women with the personality to write at lenght.
The very method itself already weeded out a lot of women.

What i seldom see here,
is anyone stating clearly that by doing that method,
you are eliminating any RW that is simply not intent on writing and corresponding!

and i think you would be surprised at the number of single RW, who would not carry on
a seriuos letter writing campaign,
but who would be seriously interested in a western man if they met him in person and built a relationship face to face, or thru phone conversations.
(which of course most long distance relatoinships turn to eventually anyway)


So while correspondence certainly has it merits..and proven results!


The *just show up if you have game*,
 is not so bad either.

It has some negatives, as you havn't built any familiarity beforehand..

but it has some distinct positives ?

it cuts out a huge part of the dead weight in this industry..
the part of agencies geared towards email profits..
knowing that most men never travel.

it doesn't eliminate people who do not enjoy writing.

it does not build up expectations between people ahead of time.
it eliminates wasted time , the  chemistry is there or it isn't.


and it doesnt mean you can't write a bit ahead of time..
and you should call,if possible.


I am not saying it is a better method?
Just different-

[BillyB]

While many RW might enjoy building a friendship or familiarity thru writing....

MANY don't have the time ,nor inclination towards that method.

but I submit that you are weeding out ,
from only a select group of women with the personality to write at lenght.
The very method itself already weeded out a lot of women.

What i seldom see here,
is anyone stating clearly that by doing that method,
you are eliminating any RW that is simply not intent on writing and corresponding!

and i think you would be surprised at the number of single RW, who would not carry on
a seriuos letter writing campaign,

AJ, I agree that many RW do not have time for a serious writing campaign with every guy but if she loves how you look and write, she will make more of an effort to attract your attention. Some women will even give you their phone number without ever asking. It happened to me. When I wrote to many women, many women stopped writing me within 3 letters and I stopped writing to many women within 3 letters too but with a few women, the intensity of the correspondence grew as we grew more interested in each other. That's what I was looking for because it not only meant I was into them, they were into me. My fiancee and I have traded over 1000 letters combined but she hates writing letters. I did not know that until a few months ago. The bottom line is if a woman is into you, she'll do damn near anything you want to please you. So if a woman hates writing and will write only a few letters to a majority of guys but she's writing you everyday, you could be sure she has the hots for you over the rest of the bunch. Too many guys forgive women who do not give them enough attention. Big mistake as they will most likely hook up with a woman who is probably half interested in them. 

I'm sure there are many men out there that do not like to write letters either. But I'd bet money that if an attractive looking woman sent them a letter, they'd be writing everyday till they catch her. Same same for women catching their man. Do what it takes even though it's not what you like.

[Jumper]

Billy-
 i agree-

and was just pointing out something noone,if  ever, mentions,
that there is another side of this.

Yes many woman , really interested in you,. will write,,
but the condundrum is she has to find that out first?
 so must be at least somewhat dedicated, as you were yourself, to weeding thru plenty of emails untill she decides on someone to concentrate on..

While you might think any guy would write some smokinhotkova that writes him..
Me ? i wouldn't ,and din't.
I might write a note to get her number or see if shes interested in meeting,
but no deep correspondence... i had plenty going on without doing so ,
and would rather just meet people,and there are  RW in the same life situation.

There are women that have plenty on thier plate without needing to spend a lot of time corresponding,they like myself, simply do not choose to interact in that way..
many feel it's a wasted effort as theyve been burned before..

or
they simply have enough options locally, and foriegn, to not want or need to do so.
It really depends on thier situation
and going on a write only campaign,,does eliminate a whole group of women.
 
I admit, so does just going there and meeting people..

both options have thier drawbacks, i just  seldom see the writers amoung us point that out.

i'll easily admit the drawbacks to simply dating..
but me being an example of someone who simple did not write, really at all..

doesn't mean i'm some kind of anomoly..
as was kind of alluded to.

I know more than a few RW who simply choose not to have any kind of long correspondence. Any number of variouos reasons..
but to many RW, this is simply a pipe dream.. and they have busy lives,and precious little spare time.Yes if they had an interesting guy writing them ,theyd make the time.
and it can easily be said that IF they were into you, they would write.

I'm simply pointing out the flaw in that logic is those women would never find out if they were into you enough to do so.

The reasons are as varied as the personalities,,but there are a LOT of women that would not tread that path, as they just would never get to the point of that possibilty..
lack of free time, expense, little of faith in the whole prospect,
 you name it..
but they won't stay at writing men long enough to find that one interesting person to really involve them in any indepth correspondence..
RW to to like action not words..so those types, which are not some anomoly.. but fairly common,, won't generally be meeting anyone from the writing camp.

anyway this isnt some kind of campaign to negate writing..

I just felt it was time to point out there are some  merits to
simply winging it if you have some game...
 One of those is your average RW,with little free time, and a general pessimistic view of the odds.Manywont enter into a dedicated time consuming search of letter writing,,weeding out ,and in depth correspondence
 
Many that you see here, of course would and did..
as thats how the system is kind of set up..
but i'd venture they are the anomoly,and the exception..
when compared to the average RW.

[Jazzyclassy]

I think it is just there are men who do not feel like being a chatterbox -they prefer actions and there are the same type of women who are not into talking and writing for hours - but they prefer actions and deeds

and there are category of people who like to la la and to do things both women and men , their busy timetable is not the case, as a trully la la lover will find any minute to write his/her thoughts natural

I think it can be depending on the structure of their mind , like technical people they usually talk less but in brief can  give you the main aim of their speech while humanitarian people can bla bla bla for ages starting their topic with one theme , ending it with another, well it is natural as conversation is developing and is moving into the other direction,though for them it takes load of words to give the main reason of their speech sometimes

[Gator]

Sorry AJ,

I was trying to pay you a compliment and to show, as you stated, that there are ways other than letter writing campaigns.  Presented like this, all wrapped in a tinted quote box, makes the spelling comment seem harsh.   

A few more points:

-  Many women do not like protracted correspondence because they have done it before, pouring their heart into it, and the man never showed.

-  Life is not easy in the FSU and many women simply do not have the time for it. 

-  Written words represent contrived and deliberate conversation, perhaps even disingenuous.  Spoken words in the middle of a conversation are spontaneous and revealing.  That is why I moved ASAP from letter writing to direct calling.

-  And yes, AJ, you do have "game".  I recall the story 5 years ago of how you went walking with your woman in her city and she expected you to follow her.  She discovered that you are the MAN.  I learned from your story, and the lesson became useful on multiple occasions.  Many of these women not only walk fast, they like being out front, and some expect her lackey to follow and pay the bills.

[ScottinCrimea]

My wife is one of those women AJ talks about.  Even when she was "into me" she still wasn't into writing letters, even though her English is good and she doesn't need translation services.  There would sometimes be a week or more between her letters.  Of course on the phone or over the internet, she always made time to chat and could do so for hours.  If I had guaged her interest on her willingness to write at a certain frequency level I would have been wrong.

[Makkin]

  I totally agree with scott and Ajay. My spellin is okay though.

Makkin

[BillyB]

And yes, AJ, you do have "game".  I recall the story 5 years ago of how you went walking with your woman in her city and she expected you to follow her.  She discovered that you are the MAN.  I learned from your story, and the lesson became useful on multiple occasions.  Many of these women not only walk fast, they like being out front, and some expect her lackey to follow and pay the bills.

5 years ago was before my time on the forums. Tell the story again AJ! For Gator to remember it that far back, it must be good.

I suspect most people, men and women, don't like writing and would rather get to meeting each other. Last week I read the local Craigslist dating site and many women said in their profiles if you can't write more than one line in your letter, don't bother them. It's possible the average man doesn't like to write anymore than the average woman.

Scott, when you determined your lady was into you, you already moved into more advanced forms of communication such as chatting and phone calls for hours. Writing takes a back seat then and thus, is not neccessary. My fiancee and I now may write each other once a month only to communicate what we can't over the phone. With online international romance, a man shouldn't expect a woman to give out her phone number immediately so writing is the initial tool to attract the opposite sex and possibly figure out they're not for you before wasting time meeting them. If a woman doesn't write you and she doesn't let you call her, then it's a safe bet she's not into you.

[SANDRO43]

My spellinG is okay though.

[ScottinCrimea]

BillyB, believe it or not, the only communication my wife and I had during the year before I met her was through letters, so your conclusion is in error.  At that time neither of us was in any great hurry to run off and get married, so letters worked just fine and I think our letters, when they were written, were more well thought out and meaningful.

[BillyB]

BillyB, believe it or not, the only communication my wife and I had during the year before I met her was through letters, so your conclusion is in error.  At that time neither of us was in any great hurry to run off and get married, so letters worked just fine and I think our letters, when they were written, were more well thought out and meaningful.

Scott, your first post stated "If I had guaged her interest on her willingness to write at a certain frequency level I would have been wrong." Now you're saying you had no other communication with your wife but through letters for a year and the letters were well thought out and meaningful. I can assure you those meaningful letters and the fact she wrote you for a YEAR, that she was into you. So in fact you did guage her interest based on her persistant nature to write you letters that were very meaningful and that convinced you to visit her.  If she wrote you 2 basic letters for two weeks and stopped writing you anymore, would you still visit her or would you take a hint and move on to a woman that thought enough of you to give you worthy and meaningful correspondence?
 

[ScottinCrimea]

Scott, your first post stated "If I had guaged her interest on her willingness to write at a certain frequency level I would have been wrong." Now you're saying you had no other communication with your wife but through letters for a year and the letters were well thought out and meaningful. I can assure you those meaningful letters and the fact she wrote you for a YEAR, that she was into you. So in fact you did guage her interest based on her persistant nature to write you letters that were very meaningful and that convinced you to visit her.  If she wrote you 2 basic letters for two weeks and stopped writing you anymore, would you still visit her or would you take a hint and move on to a woman that thought enough of you to give you worthy and meaningful correspondence?
 

Reread the part that says, "at a certain frequency level".  You seem to be changing that now to "persistence".  Of course I could gauge her interest later on by the fact that she continued writing, even if it were at a relatively low frequency, but that was much later, after she had sufficient time to demonstrate this persistence. (By the way, she wasn't writing to anyone else).  But that wasn't what we were discussing here.  We were talking about using frequency as a guage.  Don't spin things please.

Remember this quote of yours? "But I'd bet money that if an attractive looking woman sent them a letter, they'd be writing everyday till they catch her. Same same for women catching their man. "

And how much money were you willing to bet?  Or maybe you're saying that my wife and I don't fit into the "attractive" category? 

 

[Makkin]

  Thanks Sandro as I knowed that word was not ritten correctly.

Makkin

[Jumper]

Sorry AJ,

I was trying to pay you a compliment and to show, as you stated, that there are ways other than letter writing campaigns.  Presented like this, all wrapped in a tinted quote box, makes the spelling comment seem harsh.

Gator-not harsh at all!
i took it as you meant it, in a positive way..
no worries!    


it was just a good excuse to open this can of worms for discussion!


billy-
scotts quote-

If I had guaged her interest on her willingness to write at a certain frequency level I would have been wrong.

fits many women, including my wife to a T.

wether it fits Scott's situation exactly, you guys can debate..lol
but it doesnt refute the fact that people are different,
(like jazzy pints out, its just a personality or mentality)
 and i know far more RW that would not write to a man for a year, than those that woiuld.

an extended correspondence campaigne certainly narrows the field,
 in more ways than one.

As far as the incident gator mentioned,taken out of context it would seem childish,
but in general a guy should have some common sense boundries that need not be explained, just acted on, and he should respect himself enough to not only accept ,
but embrace any consequences.

If a man can't respect himself, no interesting woman will.

Women know quite well if they have pushed into behavior,any man shouldn't accept,
and those boundries are even more firm in Russian culture.
(it is the same for men as well,you know when you've crossed that line )

[bgreed]

I would have to say that Lena and I used all methods available.  But letter writting was the most frequent. Even though her English is good she didn't tell me until after we had been corresponding for a year that hour long conversations really tired her out because she was working so hard trying to understand everything I was saying.  Though now days we can get on the phone and talk for hours and it only seems like a few minutes have passed.  Guess her English has improved

[ScottinCrimea]

(it is the same for men as well,you know when you've crossed that line )

Of course I always know when I've crossed that line.  My wife is very good about letting me know.  My problem is not always knowing just where she has drawn that line BEFORE I cross it. (...wishing I had the market on invisible ink in the FSU)

[BillyB]

Reread the part that says, "at a certain frequency level".  You seem to be changing that now to "persistence".  We were talking about using frequency as a guage.  Don't spin things please.

Scott, if it makes you feel better, replace "persistence" with "frequently".  http://www.yourdictionary.com/frequently   Frequently to some people could mean writing letters everyday BUT unless done in repeated cycles over and over a length of time it is not frequent. A person who writes a letter a week for a year does it frequently. A person who writes everyday for a week does not do it frequently. If I eat at a restaurant once a week for the past 6 months, I can tell people I frequent that restaurant. If I ate there 7 days in a row and stopped eating there, I can't tell people I frequent that restaurant.

Most women would get bored with a man within weeks or months writing and your wife did write you MORE "frequently" compared to what other women would do when writing men and you DID successfully gauge her interest in you through her frequent writing. That's nothing to be ashamed about and you seem to downplay the importance writing played in your relationship. If anything, you should be proud that your wife thought enough of you to take a chance and corresponded with you for a year with no phone calls involved. She took a big risk and you two did get married but most women get burned.

Remember this quote of yours? "But I'd bet money that if an attractive looking woman sent them a letter, they'd be writing everyday till they catch her. Same same for women catching their man. "

And how much money were you willing to bet?

A lot of money. For the women who could not possibly write me everyday but still into me would say "Please forgive me that I could not write you everyday because I do not have a computer at home and must go to an internet cafe" or they would just send me their phone number to speed up communication. Depending on certain circumstances, I understood that some women could not write everyday although if they had a choice, money to afford internet, and means to do so(computer at home), they would.

[Hub]

My current FSU lady has pretty good written and spoken English.  However, she has a hard time coming up with a few paragraphs to write me.  And in phone conversations, I have to be the one to keep things going.  But, she actually loves me very much and demonstrates that often when we are together.

Even when we are together, she is often quiet, like when we are at a restaurant, etc.  I point out to her that I am doing most of the talking and she agrees and says she will try to talk more.  But she rarely does.

However, on occasion, she will start telling me some story about her family, friends, work, etc., and she will go on and on forever.

So she is just one of those who have a hard time getting going either with talking or with writting.

It is frustrating, but then I have a child who is basically about the same.

In short, we really can't judge for sure that a lack of writting, and talking on phone means that the person is not into you.  But with little else to go by, it is probably a correct signal most of the time.

[ScottinCrimea]

Scott, if it makes you feel better, replace "persistence" with "frequently".  http://www.yourdictionary.com/frequently   Frequently to some people could mean writing letters everyday BUT unless done in repeated cycles over and over a length of time it is not frequent. A person who writes a letter a week for a year does it frequently. A person who writes everyday for a week does not do it frequently. If I eat at a restaurant once a week for the past 6 months, I can tell people I frequent that restaurant. If I ate there 7 days in a row and stopped eating there, I can't tell people I frequent that restaurant.

Most women would get bored with a man within weeks or months writing and your wife did write you MORE "frequently" compared to what other women would do when writing men and you DID successfully gauge her interest in you through her frequent writing. That's nothing to be ashamed about and you seem to downplay the importance writing played in your relationship. If anything, you should be proud that your wife thought enough of you to take a chance and corresponded with you for a year with no phone calls involved. She took a big risk and you two did get married but most women get burned.



A lot of money. For the women who could not possibly write me everyday but still into me would say "Please forgive me that I could not write you everyday because I do not have a computer at home and must go to an internet cafe" or they would just send me their phone number to speed up communication. Depending on certain circumstances, I understood that some women could not write everyday although if they had a choice, money to afford internet, and means to do so(computer at home), they would.

Good Lord, BillyB, is it so important to you to think you are right that you have to spin things so dramatically?  How many dictionaries did you have to search to find one that mentioned "persistently" as a modifier related to "frequently".  Your examples are in error.  A letter once a week for year would only be considered frequent on a relative basis.  Considering this quote from you, once a week for a year wouldn't be frequent for you. "The bottom line is if a woman is into you, she'll do damn near anything you want to please you. So if a woman hates writing and will write only a few letters to a majority of guys but she's writing you everyday, you could be sure she has the hots for you over the rest of the bunch"  A person who writes every day for a week is writing frequently for that week.  If you eat at a restaurant once a week for 6 months you can say, during those six months, that you eat there frequently, but to someone who eats there daily, this would not be considered so frequent. And if you ate there daily for a week, then again, during that week you could say that you ate there frequently.
    You defined "frequency" for purposes of this thread with the following quotes, "...will write only a few letters to a majority of guys but she's writing you everyday, you could be sure she has the hots for you over the rest of the bunch." and "But I'd bet money that if an attractive looking woman sent them a letter, they'd be writing everyday till they catch her. Same same for women catching their man."
     So AJ, myself and others come up with examples where this is not the case and suddenly you're grasping for ways to say that this was what you really meant after all.

This comment makes no sense at all and is completely contradictory, "Most women would get bored with a man within weeks or months writing and your wife did write you MORE "frequently" compared to what other women would do when writing men and you DID successfully gauge her interest in you through her frequent writing."  My wife wrote more frequently than what other women would do?  How could I successfully gauge her interest when you have repeatedly said that the way to gauge this is through frequent writing which by your definition is daily?

"A lot of money. For the women who could not possibly write me everyday but still into me would say "Please forgive me that I could not write you everyday because I do not have a computer at home and must go to an internet cafe" or they would just send me their phone number to speed up communication. Depending on certain circumstances, I understood that some women could not write everyday although if they had a choice, money to afford internet, and means to do so(computer at home), they would"

My wife said none of those things, only that she didn't like to write letters much.  She had a choice and her own computer and she didn't. So your last sentence doesn't seem to be the universal truth you make it out to be.

So when do I get this "lot of money"?  Here was your original bet, ""But I'd bet money that if an attractive looking woman sent them a letter, they'd be writing everyday till they catch her. Same same for women catching their man. "

My wife definitely fits the attractive category and I didn't write to her every day.  My wife says I'm reasonably attactive and she didn't write me every day, yet we still "caught" each other.

By the way, my wife didn't take a "big risk" in corresponding with me for a year.  She wasn't looking for a husband and if things hadn't worked out she would have lost nothing.

PM me for my PayPal account details.

[edited for some spelling and grammatical errors]

[SANDRO43]

as I knowed that word was not ritten correctly.

I'm relieved to see you've reverted to proper Czech spelling .

[Ste]

I'm relieved to see you've reverted to proper Czech spelling .

Reading the label for the toy in a McD's happy meal is quite revealing about slavic languages, if that is what this thread is about, cannae be arsed reading it cos we beat Man Utd yesterday, fück you Glaziers!

Anyway;

Czech is a Slavic lang. but nothing like Russian. in fact Nadia's mate at uni is Czech and they can't understand each other.

Ukrainian, Bulgarian and Macedonian look similar.

Polish is a bit similar.

Belorussian looks the same.

Croatian is well different

Serbian is similar although at this stage I'd had several chicken Mcnuggets.

English and German are the same!


 
 

[BillyB]

By the way, my wife didn't take a "big risk" in corresponding with me for a year.  She wasn't lookking for a husband and if things hadn't worked out she would have lost nothing.

PM me for my Paypay account details.

Your first post here said your wife was "into" you although she didn't write many letters and now you're saying she wasn't looking for a husband and writing you for a year was no loss to her if nothing materialized? Did she or did she not have the hots for you? If she was looking for a husband and since she had her own computer, she may have written to you everyday. The bet is for people who looking for a romantic relationship, not a penpal.   

RW who are looking for marriage will want to get to a computer more often than not to find that man. They'll anxiously sift through their mail and read letters from their favorite/s men first and discard the other letters from not so favorite men. The women will write more thoughtful letters to their favorites and even comment on how pleasant it was to receive their letter in hopes they'll continue to correspond. RW doosn't have to like writing letters but it's a means to an end to get what they want. I didn't like looking for a relationship online but it was a means to an end for what I want. If a person has any meaning to you, you will do what it takes romance them even if it's doing something you don't like such as writing letters.

[SANDRO43]

Czech is a Slavic lang. but nothing like Russian. in fact Nadia's mate at uni is Czech and they can't understand each other.
Ukrainian, Bulgarian and Macedonian look similar.
Polish is a bit similar.
Belorussian looks the same.
Croatian is well different
Serbian is similar although at this stage I'd had several chicken Mcnuggets.

Ste, you forgot one, Slovenian:

Like all Slavic languages, Slovenian traces its roots to the same proto-Slavic group of languages that produced Old Church Slavonic. The earliest known examples of a distinct, written Slovenian dialect are from the Freising manuscripts, known as the Brižinski spomeniki in Slovenian; the consensus estimate of their age is between 972 and 1093 (most likely in the later years of the range). These religious writings are the earliest known occurrence of any Slavic language being written using the Latin script (Carolingian minuscule). Moreover, they are among the oldest surviving manuscripts in any Slavic language.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slovenian_language
 

[ScottinCrimea]

Your first post here said your wife was "into" you although she didn't write many letters and now you're saying she wasn't looking for a husband and writing you for a year was no loss to her if nothing materialized? Did she or did she not have the hots for you? If she was looking for a husband and since she had her own computer, she may have written to you everyday. The bet is for people who looking for a romantic relationship, not a penpal.   

RW who are looking for marriage will want to get to a computer more often than not to find that man. They'll anxiously sift through their mail and read letters from their favorite/s men first and discard the other letters from not so favorite men. The women will write more thoughtful letters to their favorites and even comment on how pleasant it was to receive their letter in hopes they'll continue to correspond. RW doosn't have to like writing letters but it's a means to an end to get what they want. I didn't like looking for a relationship online but it was a means to an end for what I want. If a person has any meaning to you, you will do what it takes romance them even if it's doing something you don't like such as writing letters.

She was definitely into me but I couldn't necessarily say that she had the hots for me. (she definitely does now).

You're hedging on your bet.  There was no qualification for at what point it turned into a romantic relationship.  Even after it became a romantic relationship she still wouldn't write more than once a week, even on those occasions when I did.  Also, the bet was based on either a man or a woman, so even if you choose to disqualify my wife for dubious reasons, I was looking for a romantic relationship so you still have to cough up the dough.

Ste, if there's no darned difference between English and German, how come we can't seem to understand each other?  Maybe I just need more sauerkraut in my diet.  I know when I drink a little vodka my Russian improves dramatically.

[Jumper]

RW who are looking for marriage will want to get to a computer more often than not to find that man. They'll anxiously sift through their mail and read letters from their favorite/s men first and discard the other letters from not so favorite men.

Billy- I agree that many will,,
the whole thread was started just to point out there are plenty that won't.
you paint a picture of RW anxiuosly sifting thru emails.

its a picture that is accurate for some RW,certainly not all.

my wife would have never done that, and did not.
wether i came into her life or not,
 i'm fairly certain she would be in a stable marriage.
She had not shut out the possibilty of marrying locally be any means,
 and like myself ,was simply expanding her dating pool.It was something of interest
,and if she met a man she was crazy about,  it would be something to seriuosly consider,but in her mind , never thought she actually would.
but it wasnt considered something needing to be done,
and so any correspondence attached to it wouldnt have been considered some means to an end.
 Shes not some anomoly, and in fact my guess is that likely more closely represents the average RW,you see one any street there daily,
 than those RW  that will sift thru all those letters anxiuosly..for the right (write) one

That said:
Most guys here arent looking for the average RW,
they are looking for one that has decided to look abroad.
(not a bad choice ,i agree)
and  i agree with you that in this venture , the percentage of RW that delve into looking for a foreign man,, recognize writing is the most common form of meeting and initially interacting.