Recieveing e-mails.

[ian80au]

Just wondering is it common for people to recieve e-mails out of the blue from Russian ladies? I ask cuz a friend of mine has recieved a few from one. I told her to sling them my way.

By the same token another friend of mine did too tried to persue it only to find out she was a scam artist. He nipped it in the bud and didn't send any money

So has anybody else came across anything similar?

[Ooooops]

So has anybody else came across anything similar?

Sure.   I had a few and I'm a woman myself mind you.       Their names always Elena or Natasha for some reason.   

[diverboy70]

Use common scence! It all depends in in which way she contacted him? Agency/dating site or just out of the blue? How was the letter? Was it long just talking about here or was it a short letter just showing interest? Many factors to concider.

In general I would be very sceptical about recieving letters just out of the blue

[Shadow]

As RW have a lot of trouble finding a man, and they are very desperate, they but 10 million e-mail addresses and send out a contact letter, hoping that the man of her dreams (or at least one looking better than a monkey) will react. 
If that sounds right, I have some nice proposals for you...

[msmoby_ru]

Just wondering is it common for people to recieve e-mails out of the blue from Russian ladies? I ask cuz a friend of mine has recieved a few from one. I told her to sling them my way.

By the same token another friend of mine did too tried to persue it only to find out she was a scam artist. He nipped it in the bud and didn't send any money

So has anybody else came across anything similar?

Hi Ian!

the answer depends on WHERE your friend had a profile - if at all - and how the "lady" ( if she is one!) found him - He may have registered somewhere and supplied his details?!


Many spammers aren't too fussy who they target - often writing to ladies and men !! Unless  your mate is actively looking himself - your advice seems sound about where to file such emails ..

[ian80au]

Hi Ian!

the answer depends on WHERE your friend had a profile - if at all - and how the "lady" ( if she is one!) found him - He may have registered somewhere and supplied his details?!


Many spammers aren't too fussy who they target - often writing to ladies and men !! Unless  your mate is actively looking himself - your advice seems sound about where to file such emails ..

Well one of them (the male friend of mine) was on a Personals site. The other (The female friend of mine) got it out of the blue. I havent seen the e-mails as the one who had posted it on the personals site wouldn't let me read them. The other hasn't shon me yet

[steviej]

Personally, I took the approach that I was only going to deal witih ladies where I initiated the contact, in whatever manner. I decided I would be the "chooser" and the woman the "responder" and take if from there. Now what can be wrong about that? You can get ingored by a lot of women you were attracted to, but I considered that to be a healthy dose of reality. Getting unsolicited emails my be good for your ego (for a while, anyway), but it may not get you any closer to where you are really trying to go. If a woman responds to you with a genuine, personal letter, or whatever, then you know: she's thinks you're attractve at least enough, interesting, and she's (probably) still available.

[msmoby_ru]

Personally, I took the approach that I was only going to deal witih ladies where I initiated the contact, in whatever manner. I decided I would be the "chooser" and the woman the "responder" and take if from there. Now what can be wrong about that?

LOL I had that in my head during my "search", too ..... another "rule" I broke ... !! 

[steviej]

LOL I had that in my head during my "search", too ..... another "rule" I broke ... !! 

You never know how its gonna work out and what opportunities will arise. But having your eyes open will help you see them. What's great for you Mark is you didn't let your preconceptions get in the way of responding to a good opportunity. And being yourself. Its clear you always put the "real man" up front, no misperceptions. That counts for a lot too, IMO. If there was one thing I did well, I was always completely myself, and said all my real feelings, desires and characteristics (at least as well as one can see oneself). I never went "out of character" to try to respond in a way with someone that I thought they would like more. I wanted the women to understand who I really was, adn if she liked that, then we were off to a good start.

[msmoby_ru]

You never know how its gonna work out and what opportunities will arise. But having your eyes open will help you see them. What's great for you Mark is you didn't let your preconceptions get in the way of responding to a good opportunity. And being yourself. Its clear you always put the "real man" up front, no misperceptions. That counts for a lot too, IMO. If there was one thing I did well, I was always completely myself, and said all my real feelings, desires and characteristics (at least as well as one can see oneself). I never went "out of character" to try to respond in a way with someone that I thought they would like more. I wanted the women to understand who I really was, adn if she liked that, then we were off to a good start.

Thanks, Steve! .. but I can't reinforce strongly enough how - despite my experience - living amongst Russian speakiers- having lots of help / advice - it still comes down to common sense and gut feelings..

My profile on Luckylovers.net clearly stated ( don't try to chat with me - write a letter, introduce yourself - I dislike talking with strangers, and  please be able to speak English on the phone ) ... so imagine the scenario..

I'm trying to do my quarterly tax returns - working on a big spreadsheet - and I hear this dong, dong as I type and enter return.. after three minutes I look up and find I am sending my data to a crazy women who has open a chat window in luckylovers.net to say "hello"..

... I am not best pleased and she is wondering about on the numbers in the chat window ) ..

I copy the data back into the correct cells, and THEN asked the lady to "READ my profile - before trying to contact me, again " ....   I shut her off !!

Then after I have completed said form I realise how angry I sounded .. this was THE woman whose profile I had looked at SOoo many times.. but hadn't contacted - because she was 9 years younger - I had set a "limit" of 7 and she was looking to max 45 -I was just 47..  Ah, I thought , "pretty, but really doesn't understand English... I was right about the importance of being able to communicate..."

Hmm "VERY pretty...  am I a fool? ..."

So, I tried to contact her to explain my behaviour - and made matters worse....   I woke up at 4 in the morning and decided  .. "BUGGER iT" ... I'm going to try to make her understand.... I wrote a simple letter - took many drafts... and sent it never expecting to hear from her again ...


When she realised WHAT she'd done "the Belfast Fog" disapated - she understood... and thought it rather funny - she had considered my profile honest - but then decided I was just rude- she thought I didn't like to chat / talk - EVER ...that I was shy.. hence her making the move... I meant  " chat " as in msn/ yahoo messenger...

This "pushy lady" is now my wife... we always laugh at how close we came to be those "passing ships in the night"  ..

Moral - make your rules - set your goals - and then if someone comes along that is outside those "rules" .. be a little flexible..

[steviej]

This "pushy lady" is now my wife... we always laugh at how close we came to be those "passing ships in the night"  ..

Mark, what a story! It is truly amazing. There was something in you that wanted to make things straight with this woman - some force that got you up to write to her and explain and apologize. And there was something in her that was hoping you would. Is it fate, is it destiny? Who can say.

[msmoby_ru]

Mark, what a story! It is truly amazing. There was something in you that wanted to make things straight with this woman - some force that got you up to write to her and explain and apologize. And there was something in her that was hoping you would. Is it fate, is it destiny? Who can say.

Thanks, Steve   

[Shadow]

Well one of them (the male friend of mine) was on a Personals site. The other (The female friend of mine) got it out of the blue. I havent seen the e-mails as the one who had posted it on the personals site wouldn't let me read them. The other hasn't shon me yet

If the friend who was on a personals site did not receive the mail through the personals site but got one that 'saw his profile' it is 99,99% chance of being a scam. If he received it through the site chances are 50%. Just direct them here to the 'scammers' section.