Looking for country girl

[Doll]

Well, it was meant as being somewhat facetious, so I am glad that you understood the joke. However, as one woman noted on one of the RW Russian-language forums (I do read them from time to time), at least half of the women there moved to the United States after a brief courtship to their husbands (i.e. met him for a week or a few then went to the USA on a K-1). 

You ARE serious, Misha. Where did you get this statistics? Just curious.
Or you are joking about it either?
 What about 7.95? Didn't get it.

[Misha]

You ARE serious, Misha. Where did you get this statistics? Just curious.
Or you are joking about it either?
 What about 7.95? Didn't get it.

It was a comment that I read on one of the Russian-language forums for RW living overseas. One of the women noted that at least half of the women on the forum had married met they had met after a whirlwind romance (hence the meeting their one-week-wonder).

As for the $7.95 I am alluding to my education on the Russian-language RW sites as to how to check to see if your fiancee/suitor measured up financially. They recommended http://www.intelius.com/. For the sum of $7.95, I could get a "One Time People Search Report." They do had a sale on now: can get the same info for $2.95. The info they can provide:

COMPLETE REPORT INCLUDES (WHEN AVAILABLE):

    * Statewide Criminal Check
    * Bankruptcies & Liens
    * Address History
    * Neighbors
    * Neighborhood Info
    * Alias Names
    * Sex Offender Check
    * Small Claims & Judgements
    * Relatives & Associates
    * Home Value & Details
    * Satellite & Map Images
    * Much More...

I also learned subtle ways of getting his address: tell him that you want to send him a small souvenir, etc....

Overall, I was very impressed. Very practical advice was being offered as to how to check out a guy to make sure he did not live in a trailer and was not bankrupt

Misha
 

[Doll]

As for the $7.95 I am alluding to my education on the Russian-language RW sites as to how to check to see if your fiancee/suitor measured up financially.

There is nothing wrong in it in my opinion. RW leave the country and need to be secure.

Overall, I was very impressed. Very practical advice was being offered as to how to check out a guy to make sure he did not live in a trailer and was not bankrupt

How about the thousands of recommendation on this forum to check the woman?
Let's be fair.
As for OWS (one woman said) statistics- give me a break!

[Misha]

There is nothing wrong in it in my opinion. RW leave the country and need to be secure.
How about the thousands of recommendation on this forum to check the woman?
Let's be fair.
As for OWS (one woman said) statistics- give me a break!

So, what is your opinion. How many of the women on the Russian-language forums who married an American knew him for an extended period of time?

I agree about there being thousands of posts on how to check a woman. It is fascinating. The men are too often obsessed with knowing whether or not she is a scammer and the women frequently have as a first priority knowing how much their potential husband makes and whether his accounts are accurate Again, a symptom of the underlying problem which is that neither the men nor the women are marrying for love or something approximating it (though the men may mistake lust for love  )

[Doll]

So, what is your opinion. How many of the women on the Russian-language forums who married an American knew him for an extended period of time?

No clue

[Doll]

Everything that I do know is that the amount of RW who married AM after a short period of time exactly equals the amount of AM who married them.
So we are square here.

[Misha]

Everything that I do know is that the amount of RW who married AM after a short period of time exactly equals the amount of AM who married them.
So we are square here.

Согласен! Agreed

[Ooooops]

Anyway, getting back to the questions of Canadian53 - I think it's possible to find a person to spend the rest of you life with, even if you live in the boonies and don' make 1M every month.       I think it's difficult, though, especially if Misha is correct and most of the marriages of WM and R/UW are based on "one week wonder romance"...   

[Doll]

I think it's difficult, though, especially if Misha is correct and most of the marriages of WM and R/UW are based on "one week wonder romance"...   

 
Come on, you know better!

[Misha]

I think it's difficult, though, especially if Misha is correct and most of the marriages of WM and R/UW are based on "one week wonder romance"...   

Well, if you read my posts, you will see that the one week wonder strategy won't really be useful. If you are on a tight budget, you can't rely on flashing a lot of cash and using your 150k salary to woo. Also, a short romance before marriage is likely to raise a lot of flags with Citizenship and Immigration Canada and we don't have "fiancee visas."

[Ooooops]

Come on, you know better!

Well, I do, but it doesn't mean anything...   

[Ooooops]

If you are on a tight budget, you can't rely on flashing a lot of cash and using your 150k salary to woo.

Also, a short romance before marriage is likely to raise a lot of flags with Citizenship and Immigration Canada and we don't have "fiancee visas."

Different bait for different fish.   

Oh yeah, I keep forgetting about particulars of Canadian immigration...    But how Canadians bring foreign wives into Canada then?   Live with them in FSU for a long time first?   

[Doll]

Kids, why would you label many people with your "one week something" when you don't know for sure or you don't have a clue (like Misha).
As well as "happy and poor" or "150 and loveless"
Come on!
Just sick of stereotypes.

[Misha]

Kids, why would you label many people with your "one week something" when you don't know for sure or you don't have a clue (like Misha).
Just sick of stereotypes.

Well, I have met my share of stereotypes. There were a number of cases of international marriages gone bad before Canada radically reformed its immigration laws. There is one woman that I know who spent a couple of weeks with her ex-husband before marrying him. He wined her and dined her, and from what she tells us, she expected a different life. After a few years this led to a nasty break-up. Then, there is another woman who arrived, expecting to live in a nice house, and ended up living in a trailer. She then left him. Then there is the other woman who came to Canada and was to marry this other fellow. I have no idea what happened, but she eventually dumped him and found herself a younger lover. I believe she filed as a refugee.

All told, pretty much the same story: men and women who married knowing little about each other and ended up stuck in loveless marriages. Some of the men had money, some didn't have enough, but in the end the main problem was that they were not into each other once the novelty had worn off. Makes me really glad that Canada reformed its immigration laws.

[kievstar]

Regarding the comment about 3% of the population being over 150K in USA in income that is 9 million people.  Considering a large amount of people are under 24 years old or retired.  % of people working over 150K is very high  True money does not buy happiness but most women want security and money is a part of that.  Guys look for other things in a woman.


Regarding Buffet, I read his life story and have gone to his yearly speech before.  He does not worry about money.  He likes his coke and reading his financial statements.  That is what he enjoys in life.  He always seems happy.  Probably really happy right now as if your smart you have made a lot of money in past 1 month.

[Misha]

Regarding the comment about 3% of the population being over 150K in USA in income that is 9 million people.  Considering a large amount of people are under 24 years old or retired.  % of people working over 150K is very high  True money does not buy happiness but most women want security and money is a part of that.  Guys look for other things in a woman.

Well, given that men who earn less that 150k get married, presumably some women can be satisfied with a bit less. Yes, some women want "security" but some women also want other things such as to love and be loved.

[Doll]

Misha, I understand the offence  with this 150K but come on- why would you so childishly talk of money vs love?  Very funny and touching.
Leave this 150K alone but a poor life with the lake only won't work unless the women has to work and she will.
 

[Misha]

Misha, I understand the offence  with this 150K but come on- why would you so childishly talk of money vs love?  Very funny and touching.
Leave this 150K alone but a poor life with the lake only won't work unless the women has to work and she will.

Well, it all boils down to the inane conversations such threads generate. What is the minimum salary required. Each person has their bias and then projects it onto others. You have you biases, I have mine. Besides, where exactly did the the OP say it would be a poor life? The words he used are "comfortable life." You are the one who is assuming that it will be a "poor" life As for the woman working, is that necessarily a bad thing? My wife now has a part-time job and is quite happy to have a job. She is bored to tears staying at home.

[groovlstk]

As for the woman working, is that necessarily a bad thing? My wife now has a part-time job and is quite happy to have a job. She is bored to tears staying at home.

My wife made it clear before we started courting that she had her own career and had no intention of being a stay-at-home wallflower. To each his own, but financial security can also be a euphemism for control.

[Misha]

My wife made it clear before we started courting that she had her own career and had no intention of being a stay-at-home wallflower. To each his own, but financial security can also be a euphemism for control.

I agree with you there. I have a close friend, a RW, who has been living in Canada with her husband for the last 12-or-so years. For the first few years she was staying in a farm miles from the nearest neighbor. She was living a less than comfortable life in the first decade. However, in that time she managed to learn English, pass her TOEFL, and study for two years to be accredited as a dentist in Canada. She is now earning a lot more than I will ever make, and a lot more than $150,000 per year. Was this a bad thing? I would say no.

[Ooooops]

I like how conversation flows - money vs love, stay at home wife in the middle of nowhere vs working woman in the city...       Have you seen those guys on the street who have 3 thimbles with a ball underneath of one of them?   And you have to guess which one is it while they shuffle them around?   That's exactly what's happening here.   

[Misha]

Well, my ideals are different. I see a marriage as a partnership, where two adults work together to achieve common goals. I believe a husband should be more than a bank account and a wife more than a pretty face.

[Ooooops]

I believe a husband should be more than a bank account and a wife more than a pretty face.

Did you read anybody here who believes otherwise?   

[Misha]

Did you read anybody here who believes otherwise?   

Well, they won't state it openly, but if you read between the lines, many seem to imply otherwise.

[Ooooops]

Well, they won't state it openly, but if you read between the lines, many seem to imply otherwise.

I think you are riding too much between the lines.     Besides, as Russian proverb goes - it's better to be rich and healthy than poor and sick.